Where Hope Becomes Reality


The Beginning

My wife's story is a story I would not wish on anyone. She suffered terrible abuse at the hands of those that were supposed to love and protect her. Years later, the emotional bleeding has stopped, but the scars still linger. Jesus Christ has healed her, but she will never forget. Many of you may know first hand what I am talking about.

Abuse shatters the lives of thousands each day. Children live in fear. Families are torn apart. Some pay with their lives. Suicide among teenagers is on the rise. Abuse is not the only culprit tearing down our society.

Divorce is epidemic destroying the most basic of institutions. Lives are forever ruined as supposed love turns to bitterness and hate. Innocent children and in-laws are caught in the crossfire and the destruction continues. Much needed security is taken away and replaced with skepticism and cynicism.Trust is no longer an option.

Drug use has taken over our towns and cities regardless of how small or large. Country villages simply are not immune to the plague of drugs. Lives are self-destroyed even if death is not the result. Brains are wasted and the body suffers the ravages of sin that is allowed to run rampant.

Where Hope Becomes Reality

My wife is no exception. Healing was available to her just as it is to every individual. Please do not feel that you are alone. There are people that want to love you. There are people that do care. My wife is one of them. There is probably no one better able to understand the hurts of an individual than one who has gone through it themselves. Not only is help available, but so is the love, care, compassion, and empathy that we all need.

It seems that when emotional trauma hits. We tend to feel alone. Our self-worth suffers as it begins to pull us down. We feel engulfed in a whirlpool of pressure and confusion. It may seem like the end is near. It may seem like there is no use in trying anymore. Hold on. Hold on to hope.Your difficulties may seem real. They may be real - but so is hope. Hold on and reach out.


With all that my wife has been through and with her desire to help others who are suffering, God has directed her into the field of Biblical Counseling. Dr. Deborah has studied at Northeast Baptist Institute and holds degrees in counseling from Light University and Centre Region Baptist College. She is board certified through the International Board of Christian Counseling (IBCC) and has participated as a member of the American Association of Christian Counselors (AACC). She stands ready to help in any way she can.

A few years back she opened her office and later added an online office - HeartFelt Christian Ministries (HCM). She wants to reach out to you or anyone you may know that needs a helping hand. Through the month of December, she is offering free counseling through her website at www.heartfeltchristianministries.weebly.com.

Feel free to share this information with your pastor and church. As they go to the website to sign up for counseling using the chat bar, let them know to mention that they heard about the free counseling through HubPages. Our prayers are with you, and may our God be with you.

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lambservant 4 years ago from Pacific Northwest

I love your dear wife since the first time you shared about her, Mrs. Lifegate. God bless her for her willingness to speak into others' lives with the healing she has received.

I was abused as a child and went through many years of horrible suffering when the memories came back in 2001. Although I have healed a great deal, I am not able to help people in depth without being triggered. If I hear other's stories too often or in too much detail I kind of fall apart. However, at this point, I can tell others about what has helped me in my recovery and that recovery is possible. I will say a prayer for your life. She is a beautiful woman. I love the photo. The bright colors she is wearing reflect her radiant and joyful heart. I so respect her ministry to others. She has overcome so much. Giver her a hug for me.

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lifegate 4 years ago from Pleasant Gap, PA Author


Abuse seems to be the norm rather than the exception. I fared pretty well growing up, and it's hard for me to relate to those who have suffered abuse. It takes someone who has been through it to relate to those who are going through it. I have all confidence that God is using you and will use you in the lives of others even as he continues to heal you in the present. I have to admit that is one of my favorite pics of my wife. She is special. Thanks for the visit.

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Michele Travis 4 years ago from U.S.A. Ohio

Many people have been harmed or abused as a child or even as an adult. Feeling alone or as though they should be alone. Thank you and your wife for creating this website and sharing it here on hubpages.

God bless you.

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Cherry4 4 years ago from New York

Abuse is like a forbidden topic. Many times on fb I write about it and although I get a lot of comments on other topics when it came to abuse it was like fb would shut down. I could feel the deep hurt inside, some reading with fear and some still ashamed as though it is their fault but I thank God for his for all mankind because abuse has been and still is in the homes of many.

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lifegate 4 years ago from Pleasant Gap, PA Author


You're quite welcome. I hope it may be useful to many.

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lifegate 4 years ago from Pleasant Gap, PA Author


Yes, I know what you mean. Jesus, as our example suffered the worst kind of abuse, and I'm very appreciative of that fact. By His stripes we are healed. Thanks for checking in.

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Jackie Lynnley 4 years ago from The Beautiful South

Your wife is doing a wonderful thing. God bless you both and I will indeed pass this on.

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lifegate 4 years ago from Pleasant Gap, PA Author

Thanks Jackie,

I've watched her work with people and she amazes me. I believe God has great things in store for her as well as for those she comes in contact with. Thanks for making the stop.

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cristina327 4 years ago from Manila

Great and lovely hub. What a great encouragement. Only in turning to God for our emotional pain we can receive healing. God is the greatest healer of emotional pains. Thank you for sharing this wonderful testimony. Remain blessed always.

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lifegate 4 years ago from Pleasant Gap, PA Author

Thanks for stopping by Cristina. Truly god is the answer to all of our problems whether they be emotional or more of a spiritual nature. He alone deserves our praise and worship.

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tim kenner 4 years ago from Greater Orange County

Such a beautiful way to transform pain and sorrow into love and help others through Christian counseling, having the understand of her life experiences really gives for a common ground and sets the foundation for a really powerful ministry of healing in the name and nature of Christ, peace be with you and your family.

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lifegate 4 years ago from Pleasant Gap, PA Author

Thank you, Tim!

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Rolly A Chabot 4 years ago from Alberta Canada

Hi Lifegate... hugs to you and your beautiful wife for what you both are doing. Life is a beautiful thing after healing is found...

I have reposted this on Facebook... excellent especially at this time of year as Christmas can be a lonely time for many.

Hugs and Blessings from Canada

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lifegate 4 years ago from Pleasant Gap, PA Author

Greetings from your neighbor to the south. Thanks for the repost and for your kind comment. Don't know if I'll be doing any more on HP before the holiday so may I wish you a very Merry Christmas now. Hoping it is a time of love, joy, and peace for you and yours as we remember the Saviour's birth.

Hugs from the USA

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skye2day 4 years ago from Rocky Mountains

lifegate, Brother!! You and your wife are so precious!! God is so awesome how He has used our worse suffering for His purpose and Glory. He can put us back together again. Your Mrs. is a beautiful woman!! I will truly pass on the information. I honor you both for giving freely your time for the Kingdom of God. May Mrs. abound in her works for Christ, In his glorious name.

Merry Christmas lifegates!! Your sista in Christ Jesus, Skye

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Rolly A Chabot 4 years ago from Alberta Canada

Amen Sky... Amen ... love you Sista

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lifegate 4 years ago from Pleasant Gap, PA Author


God truly is awesome. That sums it up. It's amazing how He chooses to work and He accomplishes the things that He wants accomplished in our lives. We all have a story so might we share it with everyone we can for the glory of the Lord! Merry Christmas to you as well and keep on serving Him in the New Year. Bless you, Sista.

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shofarcall 4 years ago

Thank you for this witness to the Glory of our Lord Jesus. And for sharing of your beautiful wife's pain in her past. That is the amazing thing though.....life is full of hurts, struggles and yes, abuse. Which one of us has got away unscathed? BUT once we come to Jesus, surrender our lives to Him, are crucified with Him and returned to a life which is eternal in Him, our old man is dead and our God turns all that has taken place before to good!! As He has done and is doing in your wife and in each and every one of us. Praise Him for His wondrous works!! God Bless you both, and it is so good to know that there is a service such as this online. Amen.

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lifegate 4 years ago from Pleasant Gap, PA Author

Yes Shofarcall, God is able to make all things new. I believe that quite often God uses the struggles in our lives to reach out to others who are having the same struggles. At least in my wife's case that's what happened. Glad you stopped by. You're always welcome here!

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Tamarajo 4 years ago from Southern Minnesota

That's our God how He can make misery a ministry. The Lord has healed me of much too. He is sooo Good. Just can't rave enough about how He does that.

Thanks for sharing your wife's inspiring story and testimony and God bless her as she counsels those to His love and restoration.

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lifegate 4 years ago from Pleasant Gap, PA Author


I love the praise you give to our God. And I like the line, " . . . He can make misery a ministry." I'll have to remember that one. The new year's coming so keep by the stuff. Have a great New Year!! :)

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Sparklea 3 years ago from Upstate New York

lifegate:a beautiful bittersweet hub, thank you for sharing. God is surely using your wife to become better instead of bitter...and her circumstances are being used by God to help and encourage others.

I am so thrilled to see Christians on Hub Pages. Your profile is terrific, and I can feel genuine sincerity with the words that you write.

God bless you real good. THANK YOU! Voted up, useful and beautiful.

Sparklea :)

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lifegate 3 years ago from Pleasant Gap, PA Author


Thanks for stopping by and for the encouragement. I like what you say about better or bitter. Life's trials will take us in one of the two directions. Better is always better. May God bless you in all you do.

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