Are Women Showing Too Much Cleavage?

Cleavage - Is Less The New More?

Is showing too much cleavage becoming a turn-off to men? This is why I ask. In our local paper, we have a "Sound Off" column, and about once a month or so, there is a complaint about women going around town showing too much cleavage. It will be something to the effect of basically begging women to wear less revealing clothing when they are out in public. Plus, I have watched a couple of talk shows recently that have been about the same subject. So I went to my resident expert (my husband) and asked him his opinion. He said that when he sees a woman showing too much cleavage, it's like getting a half unwrapped present for Christmas. To him, it takes the "mystery" and fun out of things, because he would rather unwrap the package himself, and get a real surprise instead of already knowing what he was getting before he unwrapped it himself. Then I called my 28 year old son, who is married and has two kids, and asked his opinion on the subject. After an uncomfortable pause, while I am sure he was questioning my sanity, he wanted to know why I was asking. I told him the whole story, about the comments in the paper, etc., and then there was another long pause. I actually thought for a minute his cell phone had dropped the call. Finally he said, "Mom, I think the people in Granbury have too much time on their hands". I told him I already knew that, but what was his opinion on the whole thing. Finally, he just sighed and said he really had never given it much thought and really didn't have an opinion. Of course his wife and two daughters were sitting right there, so it was kind of a bad time to ask, I suppose. Oh, well...I tried.

This was a bit of a surprise to me, as I thought most men "enjoyed the view" so to speak, so I guess I haven't been giving men enough credit. Sorry guys, I stand corrected! Of course, there comes a time and an age in a woman's life when the cleavage thing just doesn't cut it anymore, because gravity has taken over. You ladies know what I am talking about, so don't kid yourselves, lol! Anyway, I was wondering what the general consensus was of my readers, and as always, I welcome any and all comments, as I am truly intrigued now. Especially since this has come up time and time again in our local paper as well as on television. Another thing that has been mentioned in the paper, possibly by the same person, are complaints about women wearing high heels that don't know how to correctly walk while wearing them. There is definitely an art to wearing the new sky-high heels, and I don't have it. As a matter of fact, while in a shoe store recently, I tried on a pair of those heels, and my husband took one look and said, "You would probably break those heels in half the first time you tried to wear them". Needless to say, the shoes went back on the rack, and my self esteem was demolished for a couple of days....Such a way with words.

Well, back to the "boobage", or cleavage issue. Is showing less better? Let me know what you think!

27 comments

Ahrbj 3 years ago

In a way, yes. Definitely in the modern days more women have started showing their tits more. But I guess it is really awesome as it is a treat to the eyes. I feel women and girls should show off their tits as much as possible because what's the use of hiding them when it improves your looks and gets attention.

Also cleavage doesn't look good throughout the life so it must be shown when it can be. Always exposing a little part of the breasts looks a lot more sexier than hanging them out almost completely


Summer 4 years ago

I'm a woman in my early 30s.

All my life, until 3 years ago, I thought that I looked ugly. All the years when I thought I looked ugly, I focused on getting a great education. As a result, I have a doctorate degree in engineering and a fantastic job! I also took very good care of myself, ate well and exercised every day.

In the last 3 years, I reached that point of self-actualization. My self-confidence has shot high. I'm not overconfident, but I recognize my strengths.

I made one little change to how I looked - I started getting my hair done. I got my hair cut in a shoulder-length bob with fringes. It is easier to maintain and I look ... well, hot!

Realizing that I have everything I want in life, except a partner and kids (which should not be that hard), I became self-confident. I'm not in competition with other women. I just do what I need to feel happy.

Previously, I would wear jeans and sneakers to work. I would slouch around feeling sorry for myself and feeling ugly.

Now I am self-confident. I wear skirts, dresses, heels, boots, and even menswear inspired suits to work. People recognize my intellect and my beauty. I am seen as a strong and self-confident leader at work. That got me into management and powerful projects.

Yes, I wear short skirts and low cut blouses, but never together. I also never actually show my cleavage or my thighs because I always cover with a cami or tights/stockings. So while my clothes may scream sexy or provocative, you cannot actually see anything. It's hinting that I am self-confident without looking cheap.

At the end of the day, what counts is what reputation you want to have and how you go about getting and maintaining that reputation.

I want to be seen as a brilliant feminine woman. The detail and attention that goes into my attire, with both sexuality and modesty at the same time, gets the right message across to most men. Some men don't get it, but they would not get it anyway.

The women who work directly with me know that I am genuine and down-to-earth and intelligent. I have shared with them my difficulties at work. They know that I am not perfect and they realize that I recognize that too.

The women who do not know me do tend to be aloof from me. However, that reflects their own insecurities. In fact, I am lesbian. I am not competing against them for their men. And I have the education and intellectual horsepower to beat them even if I looked ugly.


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RTalloni 5 years ago from the short journey

It's always interesting to think about women drawing attention by showing cleavage but then being offended if anyone says anything about it--pro or con.

Women insist on wearing the deep necklines even in the workplace and men are afraid to say anything either way.

Men need to step up to bat for the women and girls in their lives and let them know that they definitely put themselves in danger when they dress provocatively. Women need to listen when their men care enough to do so.

Glad you wrote this hub. Voted up.


Cami secret lover 5 years ago

I agree with your views laura,

nice article.


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Laura Thykeson 5 years ago from Central Texas Author

Benjamin, I agree with you!


Benjamin 5 years ago

In all reality, it should be known that cleavage derived from women many years ago as a seduction to men. Now, with that in mind, if you are married then why are you trying to seduce other men? Some women say that they like to show cleavage to feel sexy. That's fine I guess except I don't get it? Only men who aren't happy with their current wife/girlfriend would be interested. Real men admire their wife and not others. Men do like breasts but that doesn't mean women should be sharing them with everyone. A little respect for yourself and mate would do a lot of wonders.


Ed 6 years ago

I love it when a woman shows a little cleavage. It is erotic. As far as being a spoiler, having a present half open and ruinging the gift, I could not disagree more.

Seeing some boobie lets you know what is inside the shirt. To compare, I wouldn't buy clothes just from a text description of it. I would want to see a picture of it, or a pic of it on a person. That is why catalogs and models exitst.

BUT, there is too much of a good thing. To show some peek-a-boo, to flirt, is pushing it or attractive- based on your personal taste. To let it "all hang out" or to look like your boobs are spilling out of your bra, or you might have a "wardrobe malfunction" any second is just trashy. Skirts and dresses are pretty and sexy, I think mini skirts are trashy. The idea is it's OK to feel good about your body, and if you want to show it off, if that is part of your morals, than ok. Just don't look like a prostitute.


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Michelle Callis 6 years ago from USA

Your husband quoted my thoughts - mystery! So definitely less!


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Laura Thykeson 6 years ago from Central Texas Author

cutepuppypicture,

yes, the buttocks hanging out (plumber crack, haha!) seems to have made a big fashion statement. Sometimes, less being shown is the better. Thanks for stopping by!


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cutepuppypicture 6 years ago

For our age group, showing cleavage is obscene but nowadays young teens show off their buttock line too. Well, how do we explain that? I think it is the change of era...


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Laura Thykeson 6 years ago from Central Texas Author

hollywoodjames,

It seems as though we may be getting closer and closer to doing just that, lol! I'm not a prude by any means, but some people just really need to WEAR CLOTHES, lol!!


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hollywoodjames 6 years ago from USA

Great piece! I'd have to agree with your husband that it's much like unwrapping half a present...so I guess the only solution is to unwrap it completely and go topless!


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Laura Thykeson 6 years ago from Central Texas Author

Bill,

Interesting comment. Thanks for stopping by!


Bill mac leod  6 years ago

got it flog.it is only wide open spaces . don,t stare just glance


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Laura Thykeson 6 years ago from Central Texas Author

Jayne Lancer,

Thank you for your comment! I agree, there is definitely a time and a place for any type of clothing, but some people women just don't ever seem too think there comes a limit to the amount of exposure that finally goes over the line. I realize that many women look very beautiful, and have no problem with the human body, but again, there is a time and a place for all things. (and in my case at least, an AGE where it is no longer good for ANYONE! lol)


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Jayne Lancer 6 years ago from West London, UK

I suppose the questions are How Much is Too Much? and Is what you're wearing appropriate to the occasion?

What I really don't understand, is why so many women don't understand the 'one or the other' rule. If you want to show more cleavage, then show less leg, and vice versa. Sexy, but decent.

Enjoyed reading!


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Laura Thykeson 6 years ago from Central Texas Author

Isabelle22,

I agree, sometimes it's just over the top, in my opinion. When I was much much younger, I didn't always feel that way. Now, I try to dress more appropriately, for my age, without being too "stuffy" or matronly. Oddly enough, I always take my husband with me when shopping for clothes-he has excellent taste, and has really helped me get out of a rut fashion-wise. He is one of the rare men that doesn't mind going clothes shopping with me! He has also helped me discover colors that I never would have worn in the past. Thanks for your input!

Laura T


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Isabelle22 6 years ago from Somewhere on the coastline

A little cleavage is really nice leaves something to the imagination. Fashion just keeps getting crazier and crazier some girls may as well be wearing no top at all, it's all there right in the face, way too much.


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Laura Thykeson 6 years ago from Central Texas Author

I just figured out my responses to all of your comments weren't showing up, until I switched computers! I definitely don't want you all to think I have been ignoring you...It has been very interesting to read all of your comments, lol! I went through the less is best thing when much younger, but now, I believe that the more I cover up, the better off EVERYONE will be!, LOL

Laura T


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fastfreta 6 years ago from Southern California

I tend to agree with your husband, but of course I'm a woman myself, and don't like to look at other women's bodies. Anyway, very good hub.


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heart4theword 6 years ago from hub

What is really off the wall, is when women where low cut dresses and tops to church...of all places. When a comment is mentioned...the women says "God gave me the money to buy this dress, or God told me to wear this dress!" The Bible teaches us that we are not to cause a man or another women's husband to lust after us. I know people that dress this way and go to church, and now there teenage daughters are dressing this way. The girls don't know any different, and little do they know...they think they look good, but they don't. They would be so much more attractive and classy looking if they would cover up more. Men like a challenge, they don't like to look at a girl or women who is advertising what they have. (Unless they only want one thing, and of course that would not be a lasting relationship.)


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Kimberly Bunch 7 years ago from EAST WENATCHEE

Great Advice! Here's a good one too: http://hubpages.com/hub/fashionsmarts


Frank 7 years ago

I go shopping with my wife and we find it difficult to find tops which are not designed to show the boobs. when i see a pair being flaunted I just think very nice, but she should keep them reserved for her partner!


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Dona Rosa 7 years ago from Tennessee

Less is more. Cover it up, gals ;)


mrslisae 7 years ago

My husband said the same thing yours did..He refers to it as a half wrapped gift and finds it distasteful..Though his views on leather are complete opposite and though today is our 12th year of marriage. He's yet to get me into leather pants lol.


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Anath 7 years ago

I do like to show off. The only time when I cover up my cleavage is when I am wearing a mini skirt because I think it is just too much, too slutty. But I do like to wear deep cut revealling tops, it makes me feel very feminine plus I do enjoy the looks I attract. I do admit that it is a turn on and an ego boost when a man bumps into a lamp post or trips down because he is looking at me!


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pageantgirl31413 7 years ago from England

As a woman (well getting there...22 years old), I do not think that women should show us so much clevage...among other things as well. Girls/women that do that say it's because they have self-esteem but I think it's more along the lines of wanting to be accepted and in this day and age, when sex is leading everything, including our TV shows, they think that's the best way to fit in. It takes real self confidence to dress up classy and walk around with your head held high. Hey, that's how I landing the husband I did! Women really need to start caring about themselves instead of trying to sell their bodies to be liked.

As for the high heels, I totally agree. It took me months to learn to walk in those (for beauty pageants) and it drives me nuts when I see women that can't. What's even worse is those females that wear fancy high heels with shorts and a t-shirt.

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