Safely Meet Someone from the Internet

GENERAL MEETING

With technology connecting us now more than ever we have found business to be easily done over conversing through the web. Most have found no problem with ebaying, craigslisting and using the classified ads online.Even though it's become a cut and dry transaction that no one thinks twice about, it still comes with its dangers.

Keep Info to a Minimum

You don’t to have display all your info to the outside world. In fact all you need to do is give them some pictures of the items you're selling and give your audience the details about what’s for sell and be done with it. If you don’t feel comfortable with leaving your phone number simply tell your potential buyers to contact you by email and let that be that. Once they contact you by email and they seem interested then you have the choice of telling them to contact you by phone or keep things as they are and let them continue to correspond with you by email.

The Product

Before the buyer comes to your home to pick up the item, make sure the product has all it's pieces with it. This is just a precautionary step to avoid having the buyer come into your home if you have to go back inside to get a piece that was forgotten. It safeguards against having anything happening to you. It also prevents anything from happening to your other belongings in your home plus it doesn't give them a clue to what else you have of value as well.

Meeting

Eventually, you will have to meet the lucky buyer. That entails them coming to your home. If you live in an apartment this can be easily handled. You don’t have to give the buyer your exact door number. Tell them the main address of the complex and have them meet you in the vicinity of your apartment. Let them know that you will stand out in order for them to know where exactly to meet you. As they get nearer, have them give you a call so you will be ready to wait for them. If possible, have the object they are purchasing sitting out in plain sight for them to get. It's easy to feel like this form of meeting is cold and unfriendly but it is to ensure you conceal where you reside. Who wouldn't love to invite someone in and offer them a cup of coffee? These days you have to caution on the safe side.

Coming Inside

This may be a circumstance when you own a home or if the product is inside and too heavy to bring out. This means that the buyer has to come directly to your place of residence or inside. Still meet them out in the open at the curb, preferably at a time when your other neighbors are home, so someone can see that you have someone new with you. For caution sake, have your line of defense nearby such as mase, a taser or even a hammer. This is not to said to make humanity out to be filled with murderers and thieves but you should be cautious in such situations. After all you are inviting someone you don't know into your home. The place where you lay your head at night and feel safe. When the exchange is complete and nothing happened, no harm was done and you just made a successful, harmless transaction.

DATING

Dating these days can be very hard. An alternative easily has become online dating. With services like eHarmony and Match.com people are finding it accessible to get out there and date. Even with anticipating finding their soul mate, trust is an early part of the game. With meeting any stranger, precautions should be taken.

Get to Know Each Other

In this world of wanting everything up to the second, dating online or meeting anyone from the internet for that matter, should be given some time and patience. Take the time to talk with your new interest. Find out who they are as a person. You don’t have to find out how they feel about the meaning of life but you can get to know them and make sure they are someone that you want to share your time with. Give about 3-4 months of “getting to know you” time just to get a feel for them. Also make sure that time includes phone time. You can't possibly get to know someone just by their online personality. Computers can't give you voice inflections, tones or a personable touch like a phone can.

Meet In a Group

The official date is set of your meeting and your soon about to meet. It’s no biggie if you decide to meet your special friend with a friend of your own. Unfortunately in the world we live in trust has become a very sketchy topic among meeting new people. Most situations are harmless but you have to have a sense of reality about the situation. Have a friend that is willing to hang out with you and the one you’re meeting. And if the one you’re meeting has a hesitation about you there's nothing wrong with them bringing someone along too. They might feel the same as you, so you can’t blame them for asking you if they can bring someone along with them too. If you find that you can't bring your trusty sidekick with you, make sure that you still meet in a public place and not alone. That also goes for meeting them at their home. Don't chance it, meet them where there will be lots of people. It's up to you how the two of you part from each other but until you get to know them better you should leave separately from where the two of you met as well. One night of chit chat doesn't mean you know them.

Tell Others Your Whereabouts

This should be nothing you have to think twice about. Letting someone know where you are, even if you tote a friend along with you, is a good idea. Though you are an adult and it may seem childish, do it. You never know what situations may arise. The last thing you want is for something to happen and no one knows where you are. You might find you need your friend’s help before, during or after your date. It’s always better safe....you know the rest.

Stay On Guard

Don’t throw up a total brick wall on your date. It’s okay to let your hair down a little bit but keep a certain amount of caution about yourself. Don’t forget you still don’t know this person. Limit your drinking to a comfortable limit. Just enough to have a little fun but also enough where you’re not totally out of it and don’t know what’s going on around you. Also, if you feel this person doesn't seem how they were during your "getting to know you" period over the internet, pay attention to your senses. Don't chalk it all up to the fact that may be nervous. They could have a totally different personality than what they displayed to you just to lure you in. If you feel comfortable, tote a taser or mace with you for an added feeling of security. Hopefully none of these measures will have to be taken but safety is always key.

Handle Date with Care

Though this list seems to be directed towards more of a female audience, it is also something that men need to take heed of as well. Also, if you are going on a blind date with a woman remember that you can be intimidating with your size alone. Try to make her feel at ease and that she is with someone that she can trust. You know you are but it’s your job to make her feel she can.

Meeting someone through the internet is nothing new. The dangers that surround it however have become a little bit more concerning. Always keep in mind that no matter how long you deal with someone that you meet over the internet they are still a stranger until you get to know them better. With any situation meet them in a public place, notify a friend about where you're going along with the person's name of whom you're going with and keep protection nearby. You have to think of yourself and your safety first. In either of these situations you are what's most valuable.

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Alecia Murphy 3 years ago from Wilmington, North Carolina

Great tips! I haven't met anyone off of the internet for any purpose but I know it can be done safely. Unfortunately some people get someone with wrong motives and end up dead or hurt. The internet does a lot for uniting people but it also is very scary at times.


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NiaG 3 years ago from Louisville, KY Author

Hey Alicia! I've done some craigslisting and way back in the day did some dating online. Sometimes you feel it's the luck of the draw when you meet people. Fortunately I've had no problems and I'm sure it's like that way with most everyone but there are some bad cases I'm sure. All you can do is try to be as safe as possible.


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kerlund74 2 years ago from Sweden

Relevant and great information. This is a matter that concerns many people. You never know who you meat and it is worth some caution.

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