Narcissistic Mother can combine the smear campaign with fake concern to appear to be verbalizing maternal concern rather than spreading vicious gossip about her own child.
The terminal illness and death of a parent can become even more stressful and overwhelming with a narcissistic mother, based on personal experience.
Narcissistic mothers often use the silent treatment to control, punish, test boundaries, and avoid responsibilities and issues.
How to recognize whether you or a loved one have been cast in the role of scapegoat.
A narcissistic mother may use the maneuver of playing the victim while vilifying true victims to conceal her abuse and inflict abuse by proxy all in one manipulative scenario.
Remain compassionate and empathetic to true victims, but begin making a point of noticing when someone is attempting to emotionally manipulate you by attempting to induce pity or guilt.
Narcissistic maneuvers are discussed, including gaslighting, scapegoating, playing the victim while vilifying true victims, smear campaigns, and the silent treatment, in order to facilitate the sons and daughters in their ability to recognize, name, and articulate their experiences.
Societal taboos, unresolved anger, and flying monkeys may complicate the scapegoat's grief for his or her narcissistic personality disordered mother.
Gaslighting is an insidious form of abuse causing the victim to doubt their own perceptions, judgment and memories. It is the invalidation of another human being, which can include rewriting history.
This is an article of validation and information for the sons and daughters of narcissistic parents, fathers and mothers, with survival tips for the scapegoated child/ren for the holiday season.
Do narcissist mothers apologize? What are the elements of a sincere apology? What's a non-apology? Should I demand an apology? What about deathbed apologies?