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Why I Don't Always Comment, Even When I Loved Your Hub

Updated on April 12, 2009

My Quandary

HubPages is a prodigious community. The Hubbers are intelligent, well informed, witty, caring, insightful, astute, judicious, profound...OK, I admit it, I could go on forever this way. Hubbers are just plain magnificent!

I read Hubs much more often than I write. I get lost in my reading of the Hubs, time becomes meaningless, chores are left undone, sleep is deprived (even further than it was). I love to learn, to laugh and to love. And HubPages is here for me to pursue each and every interest I have...even some I never knew I had until I read about them!

Very often I read a Hub that I love...Hubs that make me laugh...Hubs that teach me something I never knew, or give me a greater understanding of something I did know...Hubs that teach life skills...Hubs that just make me feel good. I get to the comment section, and I know what I want to say...but it's already been said...or...everyone else's comments seem so witty, mine seems mundane...or...everyone is so well-informed on the subject, I feel (don't want to admit this!) inadequate.

I know I should leave a comment, but my brain dries up and all I can think of is "Great Hub". I have read in many Hubs that this is an extremely empty comment, so I leave no comment. I know intellectually that this is silly, but I do it anyway. I allow myself to become intimidated by the other comments.

I wear this button when making comments.
I wear this button when making comments.
I know this feeling!
I know this feeling!

This is why, CC, I read Tolden Goad for so long without comment.  When I get to the Hubs with many, many comments my imagination freezes, my brain dries up.  All comments fly away from my mind as Dorothy flew from Kansas in the tornado.  "Work, brain, work," I think to no avail!  I want to leave a comment, but all my stupid, frozen brain can think is "Great Hub". 

I don't know how this happens, I am not usually intimidated easily. One of the most abusive surgeons I ever met told me that he hated working with me because I was so hard to intimidate. (He actually liked working with me for this same reason...just not when he was in a certain mood.)

I do not feel inadequate, incompetent or inapt in my life. I am one of the most competent people I know. I have been a single mom for most of my adult life. I support two children, a cat and a dog. We live in a beautiful home in a good neighborhood. I can change a tire, handle a screwdriver and drill...if it need to be put together or taken apart I can handle it.

Could it be that I respect the opinion of the Hubbers I know more than that of many people I know in my "real" life? I have never known myself to care what others think of me...why now? I think I said it all in my first paragraph...Hubbers are magnificent.

My Questions

So, my questions to all of you all are these: 

  1. Is it better to leave a mundane comment, than no comment at all?  I always make sure I remember to hit the thumbs up, even when I don't comment.
  2. Do others have this problem?

Question #1

Is it better to leave a mundane comment, than no comment at all?

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Question #2

Do others have this problem?

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    • BristolBoy profile image

      BristolBoy 8 years ago from Bristol

      Great hub!

      I often have the same problem as well, and it can be pretty frustrating especially when you have read a really good hub which the author has obviously spent a lot of time producing. I often end up going back to a hub to comment because I read it and am unable to comment straight away, but later think of the right result.

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      David Lim 8 years ago from Singapore

      I guess it's okay to do it occasionally...very occasionally. But I would really try to say something a little more that "Great Hub!"

      Great Hub! :)

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      k@ri 8 years ago from Sunny Southern California

      Hi BristolBoy! Thanks for letting me know I'm not the only one who has this problem! It is very frustrating!

      wandererh, I know I should, I do often leave (what I think are) the most mundane comments :D

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      Cris A 8 years ago from Manila, Philippines

      K@ari

      I think I understand where you're coming from as sometimes I'm faced with the same dilemma. But I think most of us hubbers know the difference between an empty "great hub" comment and a sincere "great hub" comment - it depends on the hubber who made the comment. And if it's from you, I think most hubbers who know you would agree, that you are being sincere - with whatever you have to say :D

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      KCC Big Country 8 years ago from Central Texas

      My biggest frustration comes from not being able to read everything I want to read as quickly as I would like. I find that I miss a lot of hubs and I sometimes feel guilty for not reading and commenting on the hubs of my favorite hubbers. But, I eventually get around to most.

      Probably the best thing you can do for the hubber is to at least leave a 'thumbs up' flag if you liked their work but are unable to comment at the time. By reading it, you gave them a hit and by flagging it you gave them the HP recognition that is incorporated into their overall score.

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      Hawkesdream 8 years ago from Cornwall

      We all ought to have a code for these situations, I know that I have frequently been where you are and I feel silly leaving nothing when I appreciated what I read. Maybe all we could say is ' Hi! ' if thats the case.

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      k@ri 8 years ago from Sunny Southern California

      Cris, Thanks for the words of encouragement! Your hubs are some of the ones I have a hard time commenting on...I've probably read them all, but "Great Hub" just seems so insipid to put after your work. I'll keep trying!

      KCC, I agree it's very frustrating, there is never enough time for me to read everything I want to! I do remember to hit the thumbs up, so it's good to know that helps. I feel like I'm slacking when I don't leave a comment on a great hub! :)

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      marisuewrites 8 years ago from USA

      Here's a hint: Pick out a statement - sentence - phrase, copy it and paste it in the comment section and say why you liked that sentence. You could say "loved this comment!" or "that statement really touched me." see?

      That will mean a lot to the writer. Still, I don't always comment either, but I'm trying to do better on that.

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      Rochelle Frank 8 years ago from California Gold Country

      Yes, I do identify with this VERY much.  One thing though, about leaving any comment, is that someone else sees your comment on the hubtivity and then goes to check out the hub, bringing another viewer to the hub you liked.

      I'm going back to up yours-- if you will excuse the sound of that phrase.

      It might be a good strategy (for the person whose hub you liked) for you to come back to the hub  the next day to comment., bringing up another batch of new viewers.  I'm the one who forgets the 'up' vote many times-- probably because i don't see any results from that. It may figure into that misterious hubs core algorhythm??? ...who knows?

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      Julianna 8 years ago from SomeWhere Out There

      Great Hub!!!! lololo k@ri we don't care how you leave it, we just love to know when someone is there. We all know you and certainly you are not a spammer. Never ever feel that your comment is worthless, sometimes I have the same problem. I just jump in and leave it. We love you , so leave your comment nobody's comment is ever mundane...:)

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      k@ri 8 years ago from Sunny Southern California

      Hawkesdream, That's a brilliant idea! I will have to think up a code word and I'll post it here or on my profile. I think if we all used the same code, it would start to mean the same as "Great Hub" to people.

      marisue, This is another awesome idea! I will try it out. Thanks!

      Rochelle, That is one of the reasons I like to comment! Going back the next day may work also. Thanks for the comment!

      Thanks AE!!! I really appreciate this thought! I will try to "jump in" and not dwell on it too much. Good advice :D

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      Rochelle Frank 8 years ago from California Gold Country

      We could say "I liked this so much I had to leave this comment in code". ***** *** (great hub)

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      Dottie1 8 years ago from MA, USA

      Great Hub. thumbs up! signed Dorothy!

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      k@ri 8 years ago from Sunny Southern California

      Rochelle, I love this idea and may well start to use it! That way people don't need to know my "code". **** *** (Just practicing) :D

      Dottie, Thanks for stopping by and commenting! I think I am learning something today.

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      rmr 8 years ago from Livonia, MI

      Damn all those witty hubbers who get there first! Happens to me all the time. I don't comment much, these days. It's not for lack of interest, so much as a sudden case of brain fart. And when I post this, I'll probably find that 3 more people commented while I was trying to figure out what to say. Oh well. Great hub, anyway.

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      rmr 8 years ago from Livonia, MI

      Oops. My mistake. 4 people commented while I was typing!

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      Dottie1 8 years ago from MA, USA

      Do you have any more of those buttons?

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      Elena. 8 years ago from Madrid

      Hey, k@ri! Evidently, this hub calls for a comment :-) 

      I leave comments in about 10% or less of all that I read here or elsewhere.  Same as with book reviews, I post a review once in a blue moon, when a book either rocks my socks or pisses me off big time.  I don't feel the need to leave a comment or do a review of everything I read. 

      The advent of instant feedback through the internet sometimes makes me feel a bit prisoner to what I otherwise really love to do, which is reading.  Once upon a time, reading was a private activity and one didn't need to share the thoughts a written piece caused with the author and/or the world, or only very occasionaly. In my opinion, the fact that now instant feedback is possible, and even expected, generates a sort of insincerity in the feedback in many occasions.  So, I eather mean it, or I don't comment.

      Well, for what is worth, and the disclaimer is that this is my opinion only  :-)

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      Frieda Babbley 8 years ago from Saint Louis, MO

      I can't speak for anyone else, but here are my thoughts. My brain sometimes turns to mush, too, for various reasons.

      I sometimes really enjoy a hub and love it and want to write something but there's really nothing to write that doesn't seem mundane. If I feel as though I've done a good amount of commenting on their other pieces or other hubs in general, I thumbs up it. But the person doesn't know I've thumbs upped it. They don't know I've been there, even though I would like them to.

      Sometimes I have nothing to add. And sometimes I need to spend some time processing what I read or go into what it makes me think about. I think it's okay, we all go through these times where even the tips we are given about commenting just don't "Feel" right.

      I think as long as you're balancing your "great points, great hub, nice form" or what ever comments with ones you feel compelled to respond to with a bit more depth, you're doing okay and shouldn't feel bad about it. A thumbs up, even when they don't know who it's from, is actually a great way to love a hub and means a lot in the end. I do it even when I comment. And Chris A. makes a good point on this, that it does depend on who's writing "great hub" based on their track record. So you're "great hub" could have much more meaning to it than another's.

      Sometimes there's so many hubs coming out at once I don't know what to do with myself. I just keep the info in my inbox till I'm ready to tackle them. I feel bad, but there's nothing to be done. So many great writers here! And I don't want to just rush through someone's stuff when they've put so much time and effort into their pieces.

      The feelings you expressed, for me, come and go. I'd go with your gut. It's never wrong if you trust in it.

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      Barbara 8 years ago from Stepping past clutter

      Mundane comment!

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      B.T. Evilpants 8 years ago from Hell, MI

      I also read the Tolden Goad series without saying much. I try to subscribe to the mindset that it's better to remain silent and be thought the fool, than to open my mouth and remove all doubt! Believe me, I excel at removing doubt! But you seem smart and witty to me.I'm sure that your trepidation is unfounded.

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      Ktoo 8 years ago from Atlanta, Georgia, USA

      I feel the same way, but sometimes I'm in such a hurry to comment I forget to thumbs up, and thumbs up is probably more important! But I like getting comments, that lets me know that my words had value in small way. Even if it was just .... great hub! By the way .... thought provoking, well written hub. :)

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      Susan Reid 8 years ago from Where Left is Right, CA

      Hi k@ari! Thanks for being brave enough to admit what many of us obviously feel. I know I do!!!

      There seem to be two kinds of hub comments. The kind that relate directly to the hub, and the kind that spawn lives of their own. If I read a hub and enjoy it but then scroll down and find 549 comments above mine, it seems like I'm joining a free-standing conversation. That can be fine/fun unto its own. But that isn't always the same as commenting to the hub author, you know?

      I love Marisue's idea of picking out a line and copying it. For example, this like taught me something cool about you:" I can change a tire, handle a screwdriver and drill...if it need to be put together or taken apart I can handle it."

      Another option is to stop by and simply say, "I gave you a thumbs up." As ktoo points out, voting with your thumbs is also important! MM

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      Laughing Mom 8 years ago

      So, k@ri, since I understand every word you just said, I'll copy and paste a comment and then comment.

      rmr says:60 minutes ago

      Damn all those witty hubbers who get there first! Happens to me all the time. I don't comment much, these days. It's not for lack of interest, so much as a sudden case of brain fart. And when I post this, I'll probably find that 3 more people commented while I was trying to figure out what to say. Oh well. Great hub, anyway.

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      EXACTLY, rmr!!!! Sometimes I spend so much time trying to come up with a decent comment, by the time I manage one and hit 'post', 15 other comments have come in saying what I was trying to, making mine sound so feeble and me so addle-brained.

      Very glad to know it's not just me, k@ri! I will say that most of you that I really know well I have no problems coming up with comments. Maybe it is because I'm more comfortable and less intimidated by you. Great point and great hub!! (Meant in the most sincere manner.)

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      Sheila 8 years ago from The Other Bangor

      Yeah -- BristolBoy, Elena, and MightyMom pretty much said what I would have said (or would have liked to have said, but they phrased it much better than I could have). Instant feedback is, by definition, superficial -- because it's instantaneous. Sometimes I know exactly what I want to say, sometimes I think I'll come back later, when I've thought about it, and sometimes I forget to come back. So, ***** ***. Thanks for writing what obviously many of us have thought about.

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      mamakaren 8 years ago

      Actually, k@ri, I have this problem when I read your hubs! They are always so interesting---insightful---informative that all I can think of is "WOW" or " I want to know more" or "You Go, Girl!!! So thanks for giving me permission!

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      Merle Ann Johnson 8 years ago from NW in the land of the Free

      OH DEAR...oH MY..ALL HAS BEEN SAID AND i AM THE SAME WAY  (oops caps)...sorry...you are very wise to have made this Hub....very thoughtful and see many of us feel the same...sometimes hubs are just too deep for me to comment on...and see all the comments you've received...Good Job my dear...G-Ma :O) Hugs & Peace

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      TheSandman 8 years ago

      Tolden Goad..was that intentional, either way I love it. Also I have the same problem I love the writers I have found and read and read and read, but it's often difficult to know what to say, but at least for now I think just saying great Hub and meaning it, says it all, and is a good thing. Or maybe just a smile, the writer will know what you mean, at least I would, for if I have made you smile that is a good thing.

      And not to be confused with laughing at my stupidity a smile should indicate good hub, nice writing, I learned, I enjoyed etc.

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      Jerilee Wei 8 years ago from United States

      Sometimes I don't comment because I don't have anything relevant to add that perhaps others haven't already said. I always do a thumbs up if I have read all the way through the hub and find it to be good. Some hubs are just so touching that I'm speechless, and in that case I try to remember to come back to them. I thought you brought up some much needed discussion of this topic.

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      Cindy Vine 8 years ago from Cape Town

      If I enjoyed a hub or found it interesting I will always comment on it, as the fact that I put a comment on shows on hubtivity and will direct more people to the hub in question.  If I read a hub that is badly written or boring, I tend to leave no comment as I don't want to hurt someone's feelings with a negative comment.  They've put work into their writing and are proudly putting it out there, so I don't want to be a joy destroyer.  Hey, what is the thumbs up?  Don't even know where it is.  Oh God, I am sometimes so blonde!

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      k@ri 8 years ago from Sunny Southern California

      First I want to shout out a big THANK YOU! to everyone for their comments and support. I guess this was a topic we all needed to talk about, as a few of you point out in your comments. This hub was actually my way of apologizing to all of you who take the time to write such outstanding hubs only to find me without the ability to comment. Well, it just goes to prove...There's no place like HubPages...There's no place like HubPages :D

      rmr, That happens to me all the time! It happens to me when I answer comments also.

      Dottie, One for every day of the week :D

      Elena, Thanks for commenting! :D I understand what you are saying and I think that is an excellent policy.

      Frieda, Thanks for the tips! I guess part of it is that I feel like those really great hubs deserve a comment. I like your advice that if you comment in depth on some and “great hub” others that it balances out. I will take this with me.

      Storytellersrus, I think I’m getting it! :)

      BT, I’m blushing! I also am very adept at removing all doubt!

      Ktoo, Thank you very much! I also enjoy getting comments. I had thought they were more important than the thumbs up, but it looks like I’m wrong. That makes me feel better!

      Mighty Mom, You are also making me blush (oh yes, I do blush easily!) I loved Marisue’s suggestion also. I also love that I can say “thumbs up”. I am really learning a lot about good comment etiquette from everyone. Thanks!

      Laughing Mom, This happens to me all the time also! And that is how I think my comments look…feeble! Thanks for commenting and letting me know I’m not alone in this.

      Teresa, Thanks for your input! That is exactly what goes through my mind when I read the comments that are what I was going to say (did that statement make sense?) :D Thanks for the **** *** comment!

      mamakaren, You have my permission, if I can have your permission when you write something! Thanks for visiting!

      G-Ma, Thanks for stopping by! I never expected such support. Wise is not what inspired this hub…it was more of an apology to all the hubs I read and don’t comment on! I feel bad when someone writes something great and I can’t even think of a comment!

      Sandman, A smile is an excellent idea! And “Great Hub” works for me also.

      Jerilee, I am often left speechless myself, people write such exquisite hubs here! Thanks for the relevant comment :)

      Cindy, I agree, if I don’t like a hub I don’t comment. I am not such an expert that I can adequately critique others! My mother always said, “if you can’t say something nice, don’t say anything at all”. The thumbs up is found after the hub, right before the comments. It show a printer, Share it, then Rate it: green up/orange down. You can also flag the hub here.

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      Cindy Vine 8 years ago from Cape Town

      Thanks K@ri. If we comment do we thumbs up or do we do both or just one OMIGOD, I need more coffee, am confuddling myself!

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      k@ri 8 years ago from Sunny Southern California

      Cindy, When I like a hub, I thumb up and hopefully comment! (which I think I will be able to do more often now!) It seems the thumbs up work more for our HP scores, while comments supply instant feedback. I sure learned a lot today!

      I never would have imagined I would go to PetSmart and come back to so many comments! What a wonderful surprise!

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      C. C. Riter 8 years ago

      k2ri, i love ya girl. Using me for this. hahaha well, it was five weeks worth of work and from what I heard a good read. din't know you were the silent type till ya let me know. that's endearing to me. and I have to laugh at sandman's rsponse to Tolden Goad as he has no idea wht the hell you wee referring to. hahaha

      I have the same problem too, here I am now with how many comments ahead of me, but I have to just tell you my honest thoughts here. Don't worry about it dear. next time yer on one of my hubs and don't know what to say, well just tell me what a great turd I just dropped. Good hub my dear

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      mayhmong 8 years ago from North Carolina

      Now I don't feel so guilty for not leaving any comment! I feel just the same way as you are, when the hub already has way too many comments. I wanted to share my opinion, but feel as if I'm copying and pasting what everyone else is saying? I still give it a thumbs up. And what do you mean Tolden Goad? LOL Didn't think I read it did ya?

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      Rochelle Frank 8 years ago from California Gold Country

      You may also notice that the new 'thumbs up' and 'thumbs down" Now only says 'up' or 'down'. I think this is a good change since the thumbs gesture can mean different things in different cultures.

      Wow, k@ri, this may turn out to be the longest comment thread ever. ****

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      Feline Prophet 8 years ago from India

      You're not alone k@ri! Sometimes I stare at a hub, my mind a complete blank even if I have enjoyed it. And then because I feel honour bound to leave a comment, I leave one...which is so lame I might as well have not said anything! :P

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      Cindy Vine 8 years ago from Cape Town

      okay, so I'll start to hit that up button now!

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      Shalini Kagal 8 years ago from India

      Great hub k@ri!! :D

      No honestly, I empathise - it's so tough sometimes because you're the 50th person reading the hub and everything you want to say has been said! But I still like to see the people whose opinion I value come by - even if it is to say 'Great hub' :)

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      Silver Freak 8 years ago from The state of confusion

      YAY!!!! I'm not the only one!!!!! I feel so validated! I've had too much coffee!!!!!

      Seriously, if I can't think what to say, I thumbs up it, if I can think what to say I try to type it then thumbs up.

      So far, I haven't given anything you've written a thumbs down, so I'd say you're doing well. Good job!

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      k@ri 8 years ago from Sunny Southern California

      CC, You were the first to catch me out! And it all was a very good read! I couldn't let him leave us without saying goodbye...even though I don't think I ever really said hello :) I think in the future I will have an easier time commenting. Thanks!

      May, You can use the code Teresa thought of, also! Glad you got to read Tolden Goad, it would have been a shame to miss. I'm glad you stopped by!

      Rochelle, It's funny, when I looked it up for Cindy, I noticed it didn't say "thumb" and thought that I must have had a faulty memory. Thanks for clearing that up! This is certainly the most comments I've gotten :D

      Feline Prophet, I know exactly how you feel! The good news is that according to the poll I took most people still appreciate the comment (even if we don't like it)!

      Cindy, Glad to help!

      Shalini, I feel the same. I happy to know that they have been there, read it and liked it enough to comment!

      Silver Freak, This hub has been wonderful, in that I realize that I'm not alone in this problem. BTW--all of your hubs are thumbs up with me :D

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      C. C. Riter 8 years ago

      See there my girl, we loooove you.

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      jjrubio 8 years ago

      We don't care what the comments say as long as its not spam or threats from a psycho...whether someone agrees with our hubs or whether they love it..We enjoy knowing that people have read them and what they think about it....Even if all you say is GOOD HUB its all good...=)

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      Tom Koecke 8 years ago from Tacoma, Washington

      Wow! So many comments in such a short time!

      I, too, don't comment on all the hubs I've enjoyed, and for many of the reasons you cited. I owe you some comments, though, so I'll start paying you back.

      This hub is insightful and eloquent. Plus, we get to know you a little bit more as a bonus! You are an excellent writer. I look forward to reading (and commenting on) more of your work!

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      C. C. Riter 8 years ago

      jj, get your rest now!

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      k@ri 8 years ago from Sunny Southern California

      CC, I love you all also!

      JJ, Thanks! I agree completely! Nothing makes me happier than to know someone has read and enjoyed what I've written!

      Tom, You owe me nothing, you did all the work writing and I had all the fun reading! :D Thank you for your kind words! (you made me blush, I seem to be doing that a lot today!)

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      k@ri 8 years ago from Sunny Southern California

      CC, If jj gets to rest, so do I! I will see you all tomorrow, maybe before work (if I can get up), but definitely after!

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      jjrubio 8 years ago

      C.C. I am resting....cuddled up in my leopard comforter next to the computer. Resting and reading all these wonderful hubs....thanks for caring!! =)

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      C. C. Riter 8 years ago

      Oooo, new pic, I like, yipper I do. oh my be still my heart.

      cindy, I just found your toons down there, mive 'em up dear

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      jjrubio 8 years ago

      thank you!!

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      Tom Rubenoff 8 years ago from United States

      Hmmm, what should I say? I don't want to sound stupid or anything. Then again, it doesn't seem to stop anybody else! Oh, well.

      GREAT HUB!

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      k@ri 8 years ago from Sunny Southern California

      Hi Tom! Thanks for stopping by and commenting! I think I'm learning...there are no stupid comments if you really enjoyed the hub. :D

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      Pest 8 years ago from A Couch, Lake Odessa, MI

      Never had a problem sounding stupid as Tom has pointed out!  LOL.  I will post anything.  Simply because I would want people that read my junk to post anything.  Many, many times I post to simply "bump" a Hub that I really enjoyed.  "Fan Duty" is what my favorite critic calls it.

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      ReuVera 8 years ago from USA

      I know….been there, done this. When I started with Hubpages it was like diving into new waters. Like fits of drinking for alcoholics. You just can’t stop.

      Reading comments are sometimes not less interesting than reading the hub itself.

      k@ri wrote “I get lost in my reading of the Hubs, time becomes meaningless, chores are left undone, sleep is deprived (even further than it was).”

      This is one of the reasons why I visit Hubpages less and less. Virtual world is great but I love real life much and much more. Another reason is I don’t know if I really fit here. I don’t write as much as I would like and I don’t read as much as I would like (see reason # 1).

      I myself don’t have many comments for my writings, so I think that probably what I write is not really needed here, but I still write from time to time just for myself…

      I don’t comment on forums, because if people are entitled to their opinions and my opinion is different, they just start to tear me apart and trash me without mercy and I don’t like it (I am pretty sensitive in life and virtually as well). That’s why I stopped even visiting forums.

      I think it is OKAY to leave just a couple of words for comments, just to let a writer know that you took time to read the hub. And, of course, not to forget to mark it “UP” if you liked it!

      By the way, really, “thumb up” means different in different cultures, as Rochelle pointed it. For instance, in Israel when little children are mad at each other, they show to each other a “thumb up” (with the matching facial expression- glance from under the brows and a lower lip protruding).

      By the way #2- Great hub, k@ri

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      Jewels 8 years ago from Australia

      You did us all a service writing this hub. We can now make an sop (standard operating proceedure). Would rather say great hub and know you visited than not say anything at all. Now I know what to do at brain mush intervals.

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      Joanna McKenna 8 years ago from Central Oklahoma

      I agree with Jewels. Nice to know I'm not the only one who doesn't leave a comment after reading a truly great hub. Would be nice if there was a third button in addition to "Up" and "Down". A button that automatically adds a comment like "[Name of hubber] says "Great hub but I can't think of anything to add that others haven't said said'." That way you know who the Blank Brainers are and that they would've left their own comment if they could've come up with one.

      Or....*at the very very VERY least*....a widget that shows who gave you a Thumbs Up but didn't leave a comment for all the reasons you and others mention! I *hate* not knowing who the ThumbsUppers are! I'd rather this be in Hubtivity than who fanned who. Who's getting ThumbsUps is a much better recommendation, especially when a hubber goes on a FanSpamming binge.

      Anyway, a TRULY GREAT HUB, K@ri!

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      RKHenry 8 years ago from Neighborhood museum in Somewhere, USA

      Good hub fellow hubber.

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      mulberry1 8 years ago

      Yes, I sometimes have this problem, but because I know how much I love getting comments, I try really hard to say something even if it's the "great hub!" kinds of thing. What the heck, at least it's words of encouragement and a way showing the writer that people HAVE indeed noticed their work!

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      k@ri 8 years ago from Sunny Southern California

      Pest, I've never seen a stupid comment from you and the stuff you post is nowhere near junk! I've seen you bump hubs before, that's a great idea. I really like the term "Fan Duty"...it is exactly what I feel I was neglecting by not commenting. I read all your hubs, and you can be sure I will comment from now on! You write "**** ****"! (that's the code Rochelle thought up) :D

      ReuVera, Thanks for stopping by! I'm not ready to join the real world again quite yet...spend quite enough time there at the moment! (Went to work about 8 am and just got home a little bit ago, about 845 pm) :) All the comments have cured my thinking that I can't leave a "Great Hub" type comment. I know I love seeing any comment on my hubs. I love the picture you gave me of two scowling children, lower lips out, facing each other with their thumbs up. You are right...very different meaning! LOL

      Jewels, Took a weight off my mind, I have way to many of those "brain mush" times. Realizing that people would prefer to see something, other than nothing makes me feel as if I can do my "Fan Duty" with greater regularity!

      JamaGenee, I think that's a great idea! I would rather know who is giving thumbs up and where than who is fanning whom. Who do we see to submit this idea?! Thanks for commenting!

      Thanks RK! Always good to have you stop by! :)

      mulberry, Thanks for coming by! I agree, I love to see comments (good comments more than bad) and know that someone is reading what I wrote! I think now I will be posting many more comments than in the past.

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      Joanna McKenna 8 years ago from Central Oklahoma

      There's a forum for submitting ideas to improve HP. Feel free to submit this one as your own!

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      k@ri 8 years ago from Sunny Southern California

      Jama, I'll go find it! Thanks :))

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      mayhmong 8 years ago from North Carolina

      I didn't know that there was a series of Tolden Goad?! LOL I thought you misspelled it. -_- Anyways, I need your opinion on which hub to write about on the Extreme Hub Makeover forum please!

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      k@ri 8 years ago from Sunny Southern California

      May, I thought you had read it, I'm sorry! I'll go take a look, then I have to go to sleep. I need to be in work at 630am tomorrow!

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      mayhmong 8 years ago from North Carolina

      Better get some rest girl! You need more than 6 hours of sleep?!...the same goes for me too! LOL

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      Iphigenia 8 years ago

      k@ri - well done for voicing this issue - I often have this problem and, to be honest, try to limit myself to commmenting on 5 hubs a day; Time is another real issue. The ideas that others have had about copy-pasting a phrase and/or having some sort of code are great ideas. I also think it's OK to say simply how much you enjoyed the read and that you are going to flag the hub up. I always flag up hubs that i read - even those that i do not comment upon.

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      Hawkesdream 8 years ago from Cornwall

      Tried to add a smiley so that won't work

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      Amanda Severn 8 years ago from UK

      k@ri, I read many more hubs than I write, and I try to leave comments on as many as possible, but time is not always on my side. Sometimes I come back and comment a few hours, (or even days) later. I'm constantly amazed at how prolific some hubbers are, not just with their hubs, but also with their comments. I would love to read quicker, and also to write with the fluid ease and grace that so many hubbers seem to manage so effortlessly, but perhaps by the time I've been here another year or so I'll have cracked it! (Well, you never know!.....)

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      LelahKimball 8 years ago from USA

      I frequently read without commenting--a shameless amount. I become extremely intimidated when there is a long line of comments. Most of what I write isn't nearly as nice as the other comments. And I'm intimidated if my comment will be at the beginning.

      I'm a little hypocritical there, because I LOVE any and all comments that come to me. You were the first person who ever gave me a comment, and it meant the world to me even if it was only "Good advice! Thanks for sharing"

      I do Thumbs Up though. Does that redeem me?

      See, even this comment is dumb since most everything I have to say has been thoroughly covered.

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      k@ri 8 years ago from Sunny Southern California

      May, You too! And here I am again tonight, up too late already :D

      Iphigenia, I flag them also. I do love the great ideas everyone has been giving me! I will be putting them to good use :) Thanks for stopping by!

      Hawkesdream, Too bad, a smiley's a great idea!

      Amanda, I know what you mean. I would love to write with the ease I see displayed here...and to come up with all the witty comments!

      Lelah, You comment has touched me more than all the rest! You have shown me how important it is to comment, even if it is pretty mundane. :D I do NOT, repeat do NOT think your comment is dumb...It is a wonderful comment for me!

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      gr8archer45 8 years ago from Pakistan

      I just love this hub kari, I feel you have brought out in the open hidden thoughts of many hubbers myself included. However I feel that a small token of appreciation does move the writer & provide him/ her with motivation to write more or feel simply happy :)

       When I read the title of your hub, it magnetize me to read it at once & I did expect a long list of comments as well. Anyways in short GREAT HUB my dear hubber!

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      Andromeda10 8 years ago from Chicago

      Yes, if all the good comments are taken I will do a "thumbs up" and a google click on a hub I like. Although it is anonymous, I am still thanking them for their time and effort.

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      LelahKimball 8 years ago from USA

      Google click... Good idea! I had never thought of that. The importance of comments--and reading others commentes.

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      k@ri 8 years ago from Sunny Southern California

      gr8archer, I absolutely agree with your comment, "I feel that a small token of appreciation does move the writer & provide him/ her with motivation to write more or feel simply happy." I know I feel that way. I'm really happy that you liked this. Thanks for stopping by and commenting!

      Andromeda, I always would thumbs up also, but now I will be leaving more comments. Seems that others feel the same as I and like to see them, even if they don't say much. Tell me, how do you "Google click"?

      Lelah, Sounds like a good idea...now if only someone tells me what it is :D

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      Enelle Lamb 8 years ago from Canada's 'California'

      This is my mundane comment...excellent hub! Thanks for sharing...I do have the same challenge, but even though others have left much wittier comments, even a simple 'thank you' or 'great idea' is heartening to read. With that said...gotta go...brain dried up! LOL

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      k@ri 8 years ago from Sunny Southern California

      Enelle, Thanks for stopping by! I have discovered that most people feel the same as I do, every comment is a joy and a blessing! Knowing people are reading, and enjoying what I've written, encourages me to write more. Each comment is special in it's own way and appreciated very much. People have given me so many great ideas to use when my brain freezes, that hopefully I will be able to leave a better comment than just "great hub". However, I also have learned that even if it is "great hub" it is still appreciated.

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      Anna Marie Bowman 8 years ago from Florida

      There have been a lot of times where I have no idea what to write. Every once in a while, I skip reading all the comments, so I can write what I feel, and don't get caught up in all the back and forth of the comments. Sometimes, after reading all the comments, I completely forget what I wanted to say. This is a great hub! I can see that there are a lot of people, besides me, that can relate to it!

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      k@ri 8 years ago from Sunny Southern California

      Anna Marie, I sometimes skip the comments for the same reason. Many people have left me great ideas on how to overcome the brain freeze I experience, and I think it has been helping. I still leave very mundane comments, but at least I leave them :D Thanks for stopping by!

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      Becki Rizzuti 8 years ago from Indiana, USA

      I usually try to comment, whether it's on hubpages or on a blog. I own a forum and I try to respond to all forum topics as well, because it keeps things going. I started doing this more as a way to get my link out there than anything else. But if you're going to get approved, you have to leave a comment that is *worth something*.

      It's not always easy. Sometimes I see something that I love and I want to comment, but I think "what can I add to that?" Saying "great post" or "great hub" is meaningless. Hopefully the author knows that it is great based on the ranking that it is receiving or based on the number of readers he or she has gained.

      That being said, encouragement *rocks*. I love being encouraged by readers. I've gotten some strange comments (like the one about how my Jesus hub was really funny?), but it helps just to know that there is somebody reading and somebody intersted in the material you are providing!

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      k@ri 8 years ago from Sunny Southern California

      Everyday Miracles, Yes, encouragement *rocks*! And I've learned that "great hub" is just that, a way to let people know you read what they wrote and you liked it. Thanks for commenting!

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      Dink96 8 years ago from Phoenix, AZ

      Ha! I am seriously thinking of giving up altogether b/c comments to my blogs have dried up and must be blowing out on the desert floor somewhere! GREAT BLOG!!! Keep 'em comin, honey!

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      blondepoet 8 years ago from australia

      If you felt like saying great hub, I would just do it, bugger what anyone else thinks,seriously, if that is all that comes to mind for you. Just the fact that people know you have taken the time to drop by, is enough. We love ya.xox

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      goldentoad 8 years ago from Free and running....

      To be honest I try to read pretty much all of the people I am a fan of, but there are a couple of cheater fans, I won't say their name who publish like ten articles a day on different subjects, I will never comment on theirs. Another reason I won't comment is that the hub is extremely personal and I don't think I can say anything that hasn't been said already, so it would seem insincere, and the other reason is that its a very informative hub, and I don't want to chance ruin it with my comments. Final reason, is that I miss the hub. But thats not the case with this one, I just wanted to see if I could be the last one to comment.

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      k@ri 8 years ago from Sunny Southern California

      Dink, I am going straightforth to comment!

      blondepoet, It started as an apology, I felt bad for not doing as Pest said "my fan duty" I now find that people are like me, they like the encouragement even if it is "great hub"! Thanks for coming by, love your too!

      GT, I can see you do, and you do a great job. I don't know where you get the energy or the time...but you do an excellent job! I often have that problem...the hub is extremely sensitive and I don't know what to say...do you think people will think it OK to say "I don't know what to say"? If you really want to be the last to comment, come back and tell me...I can take the comments off!

      GT, aren't you king? (Don't tell Cris or Pest!) :D

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      goldentoad 8 years ago from Free and running....

      Naw you don't have to erase it, I'll just come back again, and you don't have to tell them, they aleady know

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      mayhmong 8 years ago from North Carolina

      I know, tehehe

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      sharrie69 8 years ago from Trinidad (an island in the Caribbean)

      I was going to write Great Hub but everyone else beat me to it. :-)

      I say leave a comment even if it only does say 'great hub' because it is nice to know you've connected with someone out there through your writing.

      I'm pretty new out here but am already starting to feel 'part of the family' through all the great comments and encouragement from other hubbers. Don't ever be afraid to say what you feel.

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      issues veritas 8 years ago

      K@ri

      Now I understand about comments, but I don't understand about a click or two on a poll.

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      k@ri 8 years ago from Sunny Southern California

      sharrie, You deserve all the great comments! I'm glad you are having fun here. You have a ton of talent :D Thanks for stopping by!

      Issues, I'm with you, I don't understand a click or two on a poll...

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      trish1048 8 years ago

      Wow!  I had to stop reading!  A kazillion comments K@ri!  Great job!

      I work very hard at commenting, meaning, when I read something I like, I will give it a thumbs up, and leave a sincere comment.  When, in some cases, all has been said, I'll simply say I agree with the comments thus far.  One trick that works for me is, even if I don't totally agree with something, I'll pick out what did work for me and comment on that.  Just looking for the positive.

      I have read many hubs/forum threads where the commenters get into extremely heated, confrontational discussions/debates, and I tend to stay away from those.  On the rare occasion that I do comment, even then, I try to shed a different angle to the discussion.  I'm not into name-calling, bashing and all that other garbage.  Often in those situations, my comment is ignored, and they just continue on in their 'need to be right'.

      So, thanks for a wonderful hub!  :)

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      k@ri 8 years ago from Sunny Southern California

      trish, Thanks! I know what you mean about the side discussions/debates...I sometimes leave my comment in the middle of them (it looks very out of place, oh well :D) I am not into the name calling, etc. either. I like that you pick out a positive you can focus on to comment. Very good idea! Thanks for stopping by!

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      trish1048 8 years ago

      You're welcome. Yes, I agree, when I go back to check on comments, whether in the forums or on hubs, that mine is like a piece of flotsam just floating by that never gets noticed. :)

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      k@ri 8 years ago from Sunny Southern California

      trish, a piece of flotsam...yes, I know that feeling exactly, LOL! :D

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      trish1048 8 years ago

      Perhaps if I left my comment in all caps it would have gotten noticed, but probably not, because I wouldn't have been arguing. My guess it's all about who shouts the longest and loudest :)

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      k@ri 8 years ago from Sunny Southern California

      It may have worked, LOL!

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      SEM Pro 8 years ago from North America

      Wonderful hub k@ri As a confident person - please know that I'd value your comments on any of my hubs. I do believe there's an ability to support and encourage, or disuade with constructive criticism no matter what personal opinion we have on the subject itself. Bottom line is that if we support each other, we'll improve HubPages for the worldwide audience, and thus our comments are of true value for everyone. Even if someone else has expressed what we feel - why not simply add an agreement? Comments are great and I commend you on inspiring all of us to leave one for you :)

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      k@ri 8 years ago from Sunny Southern California

      SEM Pro, This hub was a public apology because I felt I wasn't doing my "fan duty" in leaving comments even though I felt the hub was very good. After reading everyone's comments, I have begun leaving more comments on other's hubs. I still feel at times that the comments I leave are extremely mundane, but I leave them anyway. Thanks for your comment! :)

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      goldentoad 8 years ago from Free and running....

      Yep, I'm doing it. The thing about is that most hubs, even mine will go unnoticed, read, because of the volume.

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      k@ri 8 years ago from Sunny Southern California

      golden, I agree...I am overloaded, I will have hubs to read for every dry spell for the next two years! However, I really don't think yours would go unread, I doubt if I am the only one who checks for new treasure. I usually check my e-mail, but I've taken to just going to peoples profiles to check...toooo many e-mails!

      There are a few people I check on often to see if they have anything new...You, Chris, Teresa, to name a few...I will miss your writing if you don't post it.

      I understand your decision, and I will respect that, but that doesn't mean I have to like it! I, personally, will really miss them and will count the days.

      If you really aren't going to post any, will you write that book!!! :D Hugs!

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      goldentoad 8 years ago from Free and running....

      You are the only one who reads my stuff, even if you don't always comment! No one will miss my stuff because there is way too much coming in to think about it, and maybe the lack of "good hubs" will provide a deeper appreciation for those people like Chris and Teresa. Unfortunately, I think no matter who you are, the work will get buried and my stuff aside, I am bothered I can't read those hubs I look forward to because I don't know where they're at. So yes, in the meantime, I will write my most shocking work, and save it for a book. 

      hugs!

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      k@ri 8 years ago from Sunny Southern California

      I guess I'll have to go into a month of withdrawal! :(

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      Ellandriel 8 years ago from Portugal

      My thumbs up is yours...

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      k@ri 8 years ago from Sunny Southern California

      Thanks Ellandriel! (Glad you didn't phrase that to say "My thumbs up yours) (Sorry, I couldn't resist!) :D

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      Army Infantry Mom 7 years ago

      For me personaly,.."Great Hub" is awesome. I know then someone read it and actually liked it. What I don't like is if someone says Great Hub and not really mean it. When theirs no comments and I know people has been bye, then I know I need to work on improving something. I think this hub you wrote opened a great conversation,...and that's a hard thing to do sometimes. Props to you,..HOOAH !!!!!!

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      k@ri 7 years ago from Sunny Southern California

      Army Infantry Mom, I felt bad because I don't leave as many comments as I should. Just rating the hub up, doesn't let anyone know you've been there or that you liked it. They cannot see that part. The people on HubPages are very supportive and this was my apology! Personally, I still love "Great Hub"!

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      trooper22 7 years ago from Chicago

      As my fan base has increased I find that I am spending more time reading than hubbing. I do not want to neglect those that support me, so I try to get to as many as I can, and like you Kari. I at least give them a thumbs up.

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      k@ri 7 years ago from Sunny Southern California

      trooper, I so understand, it is hard to find time for everything I want to do! Thanks for the comment :D

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      Gaz2k9 7 years ago from United Kingdom

      GreatHub!

      No seriously I know exactly where your coming from. If I intend to leave a comment I will do it before I have read the others comments. This way I dont get worried that my comments are samey or less interesting. Once ive hit submit what will be will be.Just in case I forgot to mention, Great hub :-)

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      k@ri 7 years ago from Sunny Southern California

      Gaz, That is what I do now, also. I find it works better for me. Thanks, and I'm glad you liked it! :D

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      Catlyn 6 years ago from Somewhere in the OC

      2 Thumbs up!

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      suny51 6 years ago

      No comment.

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      bayoulady 6 years ago from Northern Louisiana,USA

      So.....thanks for sharing. As you see, it is a common dilema.

      As a new hubber, I am looking down the barrel of the same problem. I may be following too many hubbers, because by the time I read and comment, I have little time to write (....and here I am finding more writers that I want to follow! I just can't help myself!)

      I am impressed with the well written insightful hubs. If I read a hub I like, I will check out more hubs by that writer , and their profile. If that clicks, I follow them. I am not bothered if they don't follow me, though I would be pleased if they do.

      As for comments, just to know that somebody out there has read my piece is gratifying. So "great hub" is A-okay with me!

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      k@ri 6 years ago from Sunny Southern California

      Catlyn, Thanks! :D

      suny51, My feelings exactly. ;D

      bayoulady, I understand how you feel. There are soooo many talented and interesting people here! I have learned that people appreciate a comment...even if it's just the old stand-by of "great hub". Thanks!

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