4 No-Fuss Life Questions To Ponder
Life can be a roller coaster of ups and downs. There are various challenges in life but how you react to them will be the difference maker. You can’t win at everything; you’ll encounter challenges that put you in fear, worry and doubts. These are called life questions that puzzle the best minds.
But there are various questions and statements that are universal to everyone as long as they are living. You have stated them several times in your life. You are familiar with them and mostly come up when things seem to be going bad or not according to plan.
They are racing in your mind and what happens is this negative self-talk arises or comes up. This statements and questions will be part of this self-talk for instance am not good enough to do that task. This will lead you to not even trying that task and you’ll become depressed and unmotivated.
According to the National Science Foundation the average person has 12000 to 60000 thoughts per day. Of those, 80% are negative and 95% are exactly the same repetitive thoughts as the day before and about 80% negative.
Life seems like a never ending struggle that deserves your best to conquer it. You are where you are today because of the decision you make. Most of these questions will require you to take some form of action or make a decision. The right decision will bring the right results.
Let’s get to it then and explore the questions on life that you’ll ponder with in life;
- The Vulnerable What if?
According to Cambridge Dictionary on what if? This is a question about what is could happen or what could have happened in a particular situation if something was or had been different.
It has regret written all over it. Probably the most known statement and used by people who feel know they should have made a better decision or taken that action.
What if you travelled? What if you took that job? What if you started that business?
You don’t need this to plague your mind everyday of your life, you should be afraid of the regret and years later thinking what if.
- 2. The You’re afraid or I am afraid!
Congratulations you are a human being, fear is part of life and if you are afraid, you are about to do something ballsy or beyond your comfort zone.
Studies have shown that one of the most effective ways to overcome a fear is to be continually exposed to it. Through constant exposure, the brain’s tolerance for the fear increases dramatically according to National Geographic.
Fear can be great in terms of helping you when threatened like from a wild beast. Fear is bad if it’s a limitation on you.
You are afraid so you better do that you fear, that where the success and growth is. These life questions are just part of being human but can suck the life out of you.
The University of British Columbia psychologist Stanley Rachman, a leading expert on fear, has studied people in the world’s most dangerous professions, from bomb defusers to paratrooper. He has concluded that courage is misunderstood when it’s defined as complete fearlessness. Ranchman makes the case courage is not the absence of fear, but the decision to go forward in spite of it.
Brave people aren’t merely numb to danger or discomfort; they feel and acknowledge fear, and just refuse to allow it to dominate their behaviour according to The Atlantic Monthly.
- 3. The deceiving Am I good enough?
Are you good enough plagues everyone; you are self-conscious about yourself? This stems from your self-belief, self-doubt has the big effect of making you think and believe that you aren’t enough.
You think that you need something extra to fill some void but you have to realise that you are already good enough.
According to psychotherapist Ali Miller, the not good enough feeling isn’t a feeling at all, it’s a thought. The source of this thought is usually our inner critic.
The source of our inner critic might be critical caregivers or teachers or our competitive society. Even though the inner critic can be cruel, it actually doesn’t have ill intentions. In fact, your inner critic is trying to protect you.
So when it’s telling us we aren’t good enough, it’s often trying to motivate us so that we survive. But this backfires. Instead of feeling motivated, we feel exhausted (because we’re being attacked by our own minds).
Even worse, this can lead to low self-esteem, shame, isolation, depression, anxiety, addiction, insomnia, eating disorders and relationship issues. One of the most widely known and sometimes demoralising life questions. If you have a negative answer to this question most people get into a state of low confidence.
- 4. The Disastrous Why?
Challenges are part of life but it can be overwhelming to most people including you. You feel that you didn’t deserve this and a little bit of blame game arises.
You’ll most probably ask yourself, why me? Why did this happen to me? Why is God or life unfair to me? These life questions mostly arise when people feel unworthy.
If you continue to entertain such thoughts, the most probable thing you’ll do is just give up but you forget that it’s just temporary not permanent. Things and your plans never quite go as you had wanted, you feel unmotivated and giving up is the only thing you can think of.
Why your plans failed or didn’t go according to plan is the big question here. But what you got to realise is that you can’t find all the answers to some of this questions. All you can try to do is to push on and have self-belief that you are going to overcome whatever happening.
Conclusion
Take the ride that is life and you’ll be a changed person by the time the ride is over. You have probably and most likely already faced some of these statements, they make you feel unworthy.
But some can be motivating such as what if, the fear of regrets will make you take that step that you are avoiding.
Life is like a wild horse, you won’t tame it overnight; it will take time and effort. You will feel like giving up most of the time but you have already come this far why stop now. Life can be tamed.
Do you know of any other life questions that I haven’t mentioned?
If so then do share and tell in the comments section below. Also share this with your friends and family, sharing is caring.
-Michael Kamenya
