Five Habits That Can Greatly Increase Your Confidence
What is the confidence?
You want to try out new things, but you feel that you are not ready yet?
You imagine doing something you love, but ... you do not know how and where to start?
Do you feel uncertain when you need to do something that you have never done? And why do you delay the beginning for some better times, when you are more comfortable?
If you answer any of these or all of these questions with YES, it is very likely that you have a lack of confidence, and that because of this lack of self-confidence you are hardly starting something new, something that you really want.
Now you may think, "Here, to all my shortcomings, I still have a lack of self-confidence!"
Do not worry, you're not the only one. On the contrary, you are in the majority.
Let's first see what is the confidence.
The simplest definition is that confidence is believing in yourself and your own abilities, believing that you can do something good.
This definition also covers the answer to the question of why so many people have a problem with confidence.
Most people are waiting to "gather" enough confidence and then only to take action. They are waiting to get rid of uncertainty, so that they can carry out the task they set up with ease and error.
It can be preparing some food, dancing, dating or writing text for a blog.
"I'm not ready yet, it's not worth it to start."
"I feel uncertain, it's a sure sign that I have to wait a little longer. Or maybe even a sign that I'm not capable at all. "
Error! Big mistake! Probably the biggest possible mistake you can make!
Confidence is not something we are born with, self confidence is gaining and developing!
If you wait to get "enough" self-confidence, you'll probably wait for whole life.
If we miss the confidence, it is much easier to allow someone to turn us back from following our dream.
It is true that it is useful to be surrounded by positive people, but what really matters is how much we believe in our own abilities to find a personal sense of happiness and success. If we do not believe in ourselves, we are unlikely to achieve our best result. Here are some ways in which you can increase your self-esteem.
Imagine what would happen if you were waiting to gain enough confidence and then start to walk? You'd probably still crawl.
What should you do?
1. Build your confidence
Finding written and visual content with a positive message is one way to build your confidence. If you are considering a positive quote or if you accept a positive message (for example: "I can do everything my mind wants"), you are on the right way to feel more confident.
2. Discard the suspicions of other people
"Haters", or those who doubt us, are usually people with no faith and have little self-confidence when it comes to their ability to succeed.
Rejecting someone else's doubts can be difficult because sometimes these people are closest to us. But, we must be able to reject their negative comments in order to build our own sense of self-confidence.
Hint: Do not share all your wishes and dreams with them at all!
3. Say "no" and stick to it
Have you ever heard a request or an application and you wanted to say "no", but did you say "yes"? The reason why we say "yes" is not as important as the fact that in this way we deny the truth to ourselves. If we do not want to fulfill someone's request, we will not be bad people if we refuse them. In fact, it makes us protectors of our time, money and energy.
4. Dress up to impress yourself
It's said that the suit makes a man. But the truth is that the clothes have a symbolic meaning that is transmitted through our physical appearance. What really matters is whether a piece of clothing means something and how (if at all) can increase your self-esteem and show your sense of self-awareness? If your trainers make you feel like you are in control of your destiny because you are self-employed and working from home, then wear them. But if you prefer dresses, then wear them.
Dressing up and personal expression in this way is a sign of self-confidence. So you can confidently wear your clothes to symbolically mark your sense of self-confidence.
5. Celebrate your previous victories
Do you keep the greeting cards that people have sent you over the years? Read some of them, because there are great chances that these greeting cards tell you the nice things about you. Do you have several favorite achievements that you like to remember? We can build a greater sense of self-confidence by celebrating our past triumphs. This is one way to respect the advantages we have.
The difference between successful and unsuccessful people is that successful people move into a new activity, although they feel insecure and do not have enough confidence, while unsuccessful people are waiting to "gain enough confidence".
Select one activity in which you want to increase your self-esteem,
Divide it into small steps,
In the next month, give out some time each day for that activity,
Remember to notice small shifts,
And work, work, work!