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How to not be a grumpy old woman (or man!)

Updated on June 16, 2013

Woman + Cat + Garbage Can = Trouble

Although I'm certainly not a grumpy old woman (and I don't plan to be one anytime soon), I feel that I have encountered my share of them and often feel rather dim-witted or downhearted afterward.

What can make old women grumpy?:

  • Ill health or pain
  • Loss of ability/function
  • Grief or loneliness
  • Boredom... or business
  • Dissatisfaction with one's appearance
  • Lack of sleep
  • Lack of resources
  • Jealousy
  • Helplessness

There are a lot of things that can make women unhappy, and thus grumpy. Hell, I guess women can be grumpy for no apparent reason, although there may be one or more or of these reasons on the back burner. Any of these things might make a woman irritable, impatient, and plain grumpy.

With some reasons listed above, we can think about how to work with them to help women with their grumpiness.

  • Find something positive - So your joints hurt, your hair isn't blond anymore, and you're old. You're alive, though, and there are still so many things to try to experience in the world. Hopefully you have a friend, food to eat, sunrises... and if you don't, then perhaps you can refer to some of the tips below. This might be easier said than done...
  • Exercise! The benefits of exercise are endless. You can improve your general health, lose weight, get a great start to the morning, prevent the onset of diseases, and more! You can find a workout buddy and go out in the morning for a great start to the day.
  • Eat good foods - Don't think that because you're old that you can eat whatever you want. You still need to maintain your health. Look at Jack Lalanne! He's 92 but he looks amazing because he drinks juice all the time. But you can let food be an indulgence every once in a while. Make it a date and go out for a good meal. Try a new restaurant or a kind of food that you're unfamiliar with.
  • Take care of yourself - You can look great at any age... if you think you deserve it. Don't neglect your looks. Use moisturizers. Stay fit. Go shopping for new clothes.
  • Keep in contact with people - Give your grandkid a call. Ask your kids to visit often. Be friendly to the mailpeople you see. Smile and talk with the people you do business with, even the bagboy at the grocery store. Don't have any family around? Join a senior center, fitness club, book groups, anything with other people. Maybe you can hire a friendly caregiver to keep you company and teach you some things. You might even want to get a pet!
  • Try something different - Look into adult classes and try something you never thought you'd do. Take salsa classes, make jewelry... go skydiving! Travel and see places you've read about. Maybe you can try a new style of clothing. Don't exclude yourself from the riches that the world has to offer.
  • Keep busy - Bored? There are so many things to do, even within the comfort of your own home. You can read a book, start an online business, or learn a new language. Away from home, there are a wealth of things to try (see above).
  • Prioritize - Too much to do? Think about what you need to do and then what you want to do. Life is good, so spend it doing the things that you're passionate about.
  • Seek help - Maybe you can't get over the loss of your spouse. You don't have as much money as you want or need. Either way, there are many professionals available to assist you, whether you need help with healthcare, finances, psychology, or other aspects of life.
  • Try to see that people often have good intentions - I feel sometimes that older women will get short with me when I try to do good things for them. Yeah, so I'm not the smartest or the most able person, but I'm doing my best, and I just want you to know that.
  • Remember that you're not too old for anything - Never let your age hold you back from anything that you want to do. There are people everywhere of almost any age who have done crazy and amazing things. Keep an open mind.


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      4 years ago

      My grandpa is grouchy

    • glassvisage profile imageAUTHOR


      6 years ago from Northern California

      They did thankfully!

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      6 years ago

      I hope someone took the cat out before the trash truck came around.

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      Justin W Price 

      6 years ago from Juneau, Alaska

      I'm not a parent, never will bea nd already get annoyed by noisyl meddling kids. I'm only 31. I'm embracing and looking forward to my grumpy old manness :-)

      Nice hub!

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      8 years ago

      will link to my hub about a grumpy old man

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      Barbara Bethard 

      8 years ago from Tucson, Az

      some hubs you are just meant to read and I needed this one!! great hub...and I think I will take your advice from now on...not on GOW allthough that is in there as well but on the bad remark//// you left it there but said nothing...I am going to do that from now on!! thank you and great appreciation and love to you as well as rochelle...isn't she the best!!

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      Clive Fagan 

      10 years ago from South Africa

      Hi glasvisage. what you have said applies equally to Grumpy Old Men. Great hub.

      It really boils down to counting your blessings and looking on the bright side. always try to see the glass as half full rather than half empty.

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      Michelle Simtoco 

      10 years ago from Cebu, Philippines

      HI glassvisage, I agree with the things you wrote. There are so many things we can do to keep from growing into grumpy old ladies. And we have to start now. As MM said, I too agree that boredom is one of the reasons why people get grumpy, and losing meaning and purpose in life--that just amplifies it. So this irritation just erupts when you least expect it. Have a great day ahead of you! :)

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      MM Del Rosario 

      10 years ago from NSW, Australia

      Hi Glassvisage

      thanks for answering my request i got the idea from a show TV called Grumpy Old women and I thought I will request a hub and see what other people think.... you have outlined a lot of things that have been featured in that show.....

      Well done and I agree that Boredom is one of the reason why women/men gets grumpy.....

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      10 years ago from The Great Pacific Northwest

      Nice read. I find many friends and associates are waiting for someone or something to make them happy. Life truly is what you make it, why wait?

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      10 years ago


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      Rochelle Frank 

      10 years ago from California Gold Country

      You are not getting it, Donna. (Besides, I don't believe you. :-) )

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      Donna Campbell Smith 

      10 years ago from Central North Carolina


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      10 years ago from India

      Nice Hub. Even though everyone is aware of most of these tips but we just ignore them.

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      10 years ago from MA, USA

      Great hub with great tips. According to the video, we get grumpy because we are just too busy, not enough time in a day! Life is 1 big game of beat the clock and a massive race against time! Sound familiar?!!!

    • glassvisage profile imageAUTHOR


      10 years ago from Northern California

      Haha! Thanks you guys :)

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      Rochelle Frank 

      10 years ago from California Gold Country

      All good advice.

      However, I am trying to imagine how the GOW in the photo would TAKE some of this advice-- especially the suggestion about trying skydiving and salsa dancing. :-)

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      10 years ago from Arizona

      I agree with Aya. This advice is great for anybody! I'll have to refer to this hub next time I get grumpy :) Thanks!

    • glassvisage profile imageAUTHOR


      10 years ago from Northern California

      You're right, Aya! It can be for any sex, and I thought about that. I'm just answering a request that specified women :)

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      Aya Katz 

      10 years ago from The Ozarks

      Okay. The advice is good, but it's good for anyone of whatever age and either sex. So the question is: Why single out grumpy old women? What about grumpy old men? Or grumpy teenagers? Or even grumpy babies?

      Some people seem to be born with a more irritable personality. Just watch newborns in a nursery!


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