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New School Year: Refresh and Remind Students How to Recognize a Bully

Updated on September 5, 2019
One common misconception is that bullies are all boys.  Just as parents equip their children with new school supplies at the start of a new school year, they also need to help prepare their children to face and prevent bullies.
One common misconception is that bullies are all boys. Just as parents equip their children with new school supplies at the start of a new school year, they also need to help prepare their children to face and prevent bullies. | Source
Avoid a stormy school year by making sure your child knows how to avoid bullying.
Avoid a stormy school year by making sure your child knows how to avoid bullying. | Source

New school year: parents and students need to remember how to recognize a bully


Just as parents ensure that their children are equipped with new clothes, shoes, and school supplies for the start of the new school year, another measure to consider is a child’s emotional preparedness for the new academic year.

One concern for students is bullying, which takes many forms in emotional, physical, relational and it affects students of all ages. With the emergence and prevalence of teens and tweens using social networking sites and social media, a new set of heightened awareness and precautionary measures should be heeded in addition to the classroom. Some instances of cyberbullying have had devastating effects on students and their families, with some students taking their own lives after being cyberbullied. Cyberbullying is bullying that is done on the Internet and is meant to embarrass and humiliate another student.

Remember bullying is an intent to do harm. Often times there is a misconception about what is actually bullying. The best rule, however, is if a child or student feels bullied, he or she needs to inform a responsible adult who then can handle the situation and assure appropriate measures are taken. It is when the child or student does not inform others that harm, injury to others or worse cases can occur.

Parents can teach their children some safety measures to ensure a smooth year according to child psychologists, school counselors, and conflict mediators. The book Kids Working it Out by Tricia S. Jones and Randy Compton suggests the following tips:

If bullied:

1. Go tell a grown-up or teacher.

2. Look to peers for support.

3. Don’t fight or hit back (this can only get your child in trouble).

4. Make a joke, or use humor to curtail a bully.

5. Don’t respond, this only encourages the bully.

6. Don’t share Internet passwords or give personal information with anyone (this can allow someone to post damaging material or content on one’s social network).

Don’t be an easy victim or bystander:

1. Find a group of friends.

2. Don’t be a loner, have your child sit with a group of other children at lunch or in class – even if they are not your child’s friends. Bullies often prey on students who they see as meek and loners.

3. Tell your student to speak up for him or herself and be assertive.

4. Don't be a bystander. Often students may not be the ones bullied, but they do not report other cases of bullying spotted or have the confidence to report it. Remind them to be good citizens and help stop all cases of bullying.

One misconception is that bullies are all male. Much emotional and relation bullying occurs with females who spread rumors, ignore and isolate their victims passive-aggressively. Bullies are proven to have cunning manipulative abilities and above-average intelligence.

Here are some misconceptions of a bully:

1. They are males.

2. They are insecure.

3. Bullying is a learned behavior.

4. Being bullied makes one a bully.

Many students of various ages say they feel threatened or have been threatened by bullying in various forms and various ages. When asked most of these students, even teenagers did not want to talk about their experience of being bullied.

Schools are doing their part with bullying intervention and educational programs, partnering with parents for support. Parents should check with their child’s local school or school district to see what educational or volunteer opportunities exist.

Sources: Kids Working it Out, by Tricia S. Jones and Randy Compton, by Jossey-Bass

Nicole Nichols-Sanders is a licensed mediator, educator, and communications executive as well as writer and editor in the DFW area.

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    • Pamela99 profile image

      Pamela Oglesby 

      10 months ago from Sunny Florida

      I haven't had school age children for many years and my granddaughter is a 2nd grade teacher. She has had boy actually punching another child. I didn't think 2nd grad could be such a problem, but she had several problem kids in her classroom last year.

      This is a very good article for anyone with school age children. I do have a 4 year old granddaughter also, who is in pre-school. We were visiting and she said something about a girl she wants to be her BFF, but the girl was the BFF of another girl that day. She said maybe next time. I was surprised to here that at her age. Times sure have changed.

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      Gail Sobotkin 

      8 years ago from South Carolina

      Good hub about an important and timely topic. Parents definitely need to discuss this issue with their children in order to help ward off problems and so that their children have a game plan to follow should they witness or be the target of bullies.

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