- Education and Science
Since there is Hope
Our Parents always taught us then as kids to set our standard high and to position ourselves in a way that it will enable us to be better adults but you see what i believe most Parents failed to teach most of us at early stages of our lives is NOT TO COMPARE OURSELVES WITH OTHERS.
Why do you have to compare yourself with others?
It is true that we all exist in this planet and the society automatically dictates how great a person we will be,the society i believe; tells what we will be at a certain stage of our lives, the amount of money we will have, the kind of cars we will own and the quality of education we will have.Therefore, if i am for instance 30years but do not own a car,business,house, not employed then i am a failure. No! this is not true...
The saying goes this way: "Different strokes for different people"...
Every Individual is different so we are all different people,we all come from a different background therefore,we have different ambitions and different ways to pursue our goals. Some of us were born with golden spoons while some of us were born into the adversity stance, some of us might achieve great potentials at tender ages because of the strong foundations we have and it might take some of us quite some time because of the circumstances surrounding our existence. Mind you, there will always be some of us who will be CATCH UPS because, they refuse to accept who they are.
DO NOT COMPARE YOURSELF TO OTHERS.
Some of us always compare ourselves to others, we imagine about other people's accomplishments, how much they own and all they worth but what we sometimes do not even understand is that we are giving our best to ourselves.
Do not get me wrong but honestly, if you have the right foundation but fail to make it because you chose to procrastinate then you need to give yourself the boot but if you are striving and the foundation you have can only take it gradually then do not compare yourself to others because to me;
THERE IS A ALWAYS A PERSON IN MAKING
and that is what i simply call
WORK IN PROGRESS.
Therefore, no matter who you are, black or white, young or old,man or woman,ugly or handsome,tall or short, always smile no matter what stage of life you are at any given moment and understand that comparing yourself to others leads to DEPRESSION.
Frustration and Failure are attributes of self betrayal and you can only betray yourself and who you are the very moment you begin comparing yourself to others.
Sometime in my own life, i began wondering why i have to live and exist without my parents because i lost both of them before i reached 15years while other kids have their parents, this particular feeling which is one form of comparing one's self to others almost destroyed my life but not until i came to understand that every human be you boy or man has a different destiny that i began to appreciate my ability to live without my dear parents.
I learned the basic principal of life as a boy and the importance of appreciating one's own efforts and progress therefore it dawned me on time that what i could not reach when i was 15years was simply on waiting list. Believe me as you are reading this line today that those things you feel you need but could not get or cannot get at this point in time are all in waiting list.
What you failed to get at 15
All you failed to achieve at 25
The house you could not afford at 35
The contract you lost at 40
All of them are attainable and you would attain them no matter what the situation seems to be right now.
My Dad always told me this...
"Do not look at what people have, you don't know how they got it"
You might consider this nothing serious but it is as important as i understood it then because by looking at what others have and wanting to be like them...
You get yourself into what my Dad calls...
"I WANT TO GET IT OVERNIGHT ATTITUDE"
And the moment you ever get yourself to this point, you might become desperate and want to do things to get them by all means-things regrettable at a later stage.
Success is only and will always be one day at a time, everyone to me has a process and every work has a procedure before it is certified FINISHED.
All your desires,goals and aspirations will be fulfilled since there is life. I believe that you are familiar with this proverb?
"WHEN THERE IS LIFE-THERE IS HOPE".
Now simply put it this way to understand why you simply do not have to compare yourself to others.
"SINCE THERE IS HOPE-I AM ALIVE".
What does this mean to you?
To me, what i understood is that it is only a dead person who cannot reach his/her potentials and goals therefore, work towards whatever you desire and always remember not to ever compare yourself with others.
SIMPLY BE WHAT YOU WANT TO BE!