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Since there is Hope

Updated on January 24, 2011

Our Parents always taught us then as kids to set our standard high and to position ourselves in a way that it will enable us to be better adults but you see what i believe most Parents failed to teach most of us at early stages of our lives is NOT TO COMPARE OURSELVES WITH OTHERS.

Why do you have to compare yourself with others?

It is true that we all exist in this planet and the society automatically dictates how great a person we will be,the society i believe; tells what we will be at a certain stage of our lives, the amount of money we will have, the kind of cars we will own and the quality of education we will have.Therefore, if i am for instance 30years but do not own a car,business,house, not employed then i am a failure. No! this is not true...

The saying goes this way: "Different strokes for different people"...

Every Individual is different so we are all different people,we all come from a different background therefore,we have different ambitions and different ways to pursue our goals. Some of us were born with golden spoons while some of us were born into the adversity stance, some of us might achieve great potentials at tender ages because of the strong foundations we have and it might take some of us quite some time because of the circumstances surrounding our existence. Mind you, there will always be some of us who will be CATCH UPS because, they refuse to accept who they are.


Some of us always compare ourselves to others, we imagine about other people's accomplishments, how much they own and all they worth but what we sometimes do not even understand is that we are giving our best to ourselves.

Do not get me wrong but honestly, if you have the right foundation but fail to make it because you chose to procrastinate then you need to give yourself the boot but if you are striving and the foundation you have can only take it gradually then do not compare yourself to others because to me;


and that is what i simply call


Therefore, no matter who you are, black or white, young or old,man or woman,ugly or handsome,tall or short, always smile no matter what stage of life you are at any given moment and understand that comparing yourself to others leads to DEPRESSION.

Frustration and Failure are attributes of self betrayal and you can only betray yourself and who you are the very moment you begin comparing yourself to others.

Sometime in my own life, i began wondering why i have to live and exist without my parents because i lost both of them before i reached 15years while other kids have their parents, this particular feeling which is one form of comparing one's self to others almost destroyed my life but not until i came to understand that every human be you boy or man has a different destiny that i began to appreciate my ability to live without my dear parents.

I learned the basic principal of life as a boy and the importance of appreciating one's own efforts and progress therefore it dawned me on time that what i could not reach when i was 15years was simply on waiting list. Believe me as you are reading this line today that those things you feel you need but could not get or cannot get at this point in time are all in waiting list.

What you failed to get at 15

All you failed to achieve at 25

The house you could not afford at 35

The contract you lost at 40

All of them are attainable and you would attain them no matter what the situation seems to be right now.

My Dad always told me this...

"Do not look at what people have, you don't know how they got it"

You might consider this nothing serious but it is as important as i understood it then because by looking at what others have and wanting to be like them...

You get yourself into what my Dad calls...


And the moment you ever get yourself to this point, you might become desperate and want to do things to get them by all means-things regrettable at a later stage.

Success is only and will always be one day at a time, everyone to me has a process and every work has a procedure before it is certified FINISHED.

All your desires,goals and aspirations will be fulfilled since there is life. I believe that you are familiar with this proverb?


Now simply put it this way to understand why you simply do not have to compare yourself to others.


What does this mean to you?

To me, what i understood is that it is only a dead person who cannot reach his/her potentials and goals therefore, work towards whatever you desire and always remember not to ever compare yourself with others.



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    • Rossimobis profile imageAUTHOR

      Chibuzo Melvin Mobis 

      7 years ago from Nigeria

      Thanks Thelma for stopping by,appreciated your presence.

    • Thelma Alberts profile image

      Thelma Alberts 

      7 years ago from Germany

      This is a great hub! Voted Up! We do not really have to compare ourselves to the others. If we do, we will not be able to find what we really want to achieve in life. We have to be ourselves and ask ourselves what we are and what we want. Thanks for sharing.

    • Rossimobis profile imageAUTHOR

      Chibuzo Melvin Mobis 

      7 years ago from Nigeria

      Hey! sis glad you came around of course spread the love and thank you so much for your regards.

    • Lady_E profile image


      7 years ago from London, UK

      This is very inspiring. We belittle ourselves when we compare ourselves with others.

      I would love to share this.

    • Rossimobis profile imageAUTHOR

      Chibuzo Melvin Mobis 

      7 years ago from Nigeria

      Thanks Mickey,really appreciate your presence here and obviously,what you said is nothing but a simple truth which most find hard to believe,see or rather understand...

      ...A M WERNER,even a sick dog far better than a dead Lion,thanks for shading this light.

      munirahmadmughal,we all share the same belief and i appreciate this verse you left for us...peace.

      fucsia...i believe you just concluded the hub,thanks for coming over.

    • fucsia profile image


      7 years ago

      Very good Hub! We must live, we must commit to live intensely, despite everything.

      But maybe sometimes compare with others can be a stimulus, a push to improve ourselves, a way to know better our desires, our talents. In other words, I do not think that compare with others is wrong, but can be wrong our throught about others. When we are free from jealousy, envy, fear, anything can be a source of growth. And of hope!

    • munirahmadmughal profile image


      7 years ago from Lahore, Pakistan.

      "Since there is Hoperossimobis"

      The hub is rich in information, good for education and true being based on self experience.

      The guidance in the Holy Qur'an is:

      “O ye who believe! eat not up your property among yourselves In vanities: but let there be amongst you traffic and trade by mutual good-will: nor kill (or destroy) yourselves: for Verily Allah hath been to you Most Merciful!

      If any do that In rancour and injustice,- soon shall we cast them into the Fire: and easy it is for Allah.

      If ye (but) eschew the Most heinous of the things which ye are forbidden to do, we shall expel out of you all the evil In you, and admit you to a gate of great honour.

      And In no wise covet those things In which Allah hath bestowed His gifts more freely on some of you than on others: to men is allotted what They earn, and to women what They earn: but ask Allah of His bounty. for Allah hath full knowledge of all things.

      To (benefit) every one, we have appointed shares and heirs to property left by parents and relatives. to those, also, to whom your right hand was pledged, give their due portion. for truly Allah is witness to all things.

      Men are the protectors and maintainers of women, because Allah has given the one more (strength) than the other, and because They support them from their means. Therefore the righteous women are devoutly obedient, and guard In (the husband's) absence what Allah would have them guard. As to those women on whose part ye fear disloyalty and ill-conduct, admonish them (first), (Next), refuse to share their beds, (and last) beat them (lightly); but if They return to obedience, seek not against them means (of annoyance): for Allah is Most High, great (above you all).

      If ye fear a breach between them twain, appoint (two) arbiters, one from His family, and the other from hers; if They wish for Peace, Allah will cause their reconciliation: for Allah hath full knowledge, and is acquainted with all things.

      Serve Allah, and join not any partners with him; and do good- to parents, kinsfolk, orphans, those In need, neighbours who are near, neighbours who are strangers, the companion by your side, the wayfarer (ye meet), and what your right hands possess: for Allah loveth not the arrogant, the vainglorious;-

      (Nor) those who are niggardly or enjoin niggardliness on others, or hide the bounties which Allah hath bestowed on them; for we have prepared, for those who resist Faith, a punishment that steeps them In contempt;-

      Not those who spend of their substance, to be seen of men, but have no Faith In Allah and the Last Day: if any take the evil one for their intimate, what a dreadful intimate He is!

      And what burden were it on them if They had Faith In Allah and In the Last Day, and They spent out of what Allah hath given them for sustenance? for Allah hath full knowledge of them.

      Allah is never unjust In the least degree: if there is any good (done), He doubleth it, and giveth from His own presence a great reward.

      How then if we brought from Each people a witness, and we brought Thee As a witness against these people!

      On that Day those who reject Faith and disobey the apostle will wish that the earth were made one with them: but never will They hide a single fact from Allah.

      [4: 29 to 42]”

      May God bless all.

    • A M Werner profile image

      Allen Werner 

      7 years ago from West Allis

      Amen! Scripturally - A living dog is better than a dead lion. Our lives are never finished or reach a state of conclusion until we are planted in the ground. Until then, hope is the only thing that can motivate us and keep us positive no matter how much we have accomplished and achieved. There will always be someone who has more and has done more and received more. If we continually compare, we will always have foes. Peace

    • Micky Dee profile image

      Micky Dee 

      7 years ago

      God bless Rossi. There is more of a need for a man to dig a ditch than for a man to twitter his nothings. Bless you Brother!


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