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Teaching Your Child To Deal With Bullying

Updated on August 6, 2015
Boy alone may be a target for bullying
Boy alone may be a target for bullying

A new school year has just begun, and as a parent you most likely did your best preparing your child for this event. You may have given your son or daughter a little motivational speech about facing up to the challenges of education. And on that first day you watch with pride as your precious jewel leaves for school decked out in a new outfit, in the latest style, new backpack, new shoes, laptop, cell phone, the works. But have you given thought to another type of challenge your child may have to face? The challenge of bullying?

According to statistics, bullying among teens and children is on the rise. 58 percent of children admit to being bullied at some time in school and the American Justice Department statistics show that 1 in every 4 adolescents will face some form of bullying. The rise in these numbers is supposedly due to bullying on the internet, either by cell phone or computer, called cyber bullying.

Helping your child deal with face-to-face bullying

1. First of all, as parents you should foster the type of relationship with your children that encourages them to come to you with any problem. According to statistics, well over 50 percent of young people do not tell their parents when they are bullied.

2. Instill assertiveness in your children by telling them to say 'no' to the bully's demands, or simply walk away.

3. Instruct children to report bullying to the teachers.

4. Help your child avoid being a target of bullying by improving his/her body language. The child who makes good eye contact, walks with his head up and shoulders back, takes long strides exudes confidence and shows he is not afraid. Even if he is, practicing these things will help improve his self-confidence.

5. Tell your child to use common sense by avoiding certain places where bullying is likely to occur - lonely parts of the playground and certain locker areas, for example.

6. Have a support system. The child who surrounds himself/herself with a group of trusted friends is less likely to be approached by a bully.

7. If all else fails, report the bully to the law enforcement authorities. Some states have laws against bullying, but even if your state doesn't, your local police may be able to help.

Helping your child deal with cyber bullying

Some parents think it's an invasion of their child's privacy to check their children's room and their belongings. This has proved to be a grave error on the part of some parents, as recent events have shown. Your child's computer and your child's cell phone - which you purchased and you pay for - should never be off limits to you. Your child should know that you can check his accounts at any time and that you are only doing it for his safety.

When cyber bullying occurs, save and print the message so you have documented proof. Block the sender, close your child's e-mail's account or change her cell phone number. If the bullying continues, you can report it to the school. If the bullying is threatening or sexual in nature, you should report it to law enforcement authorities immediately. Parents can also go a step further and contact the sender's cell phone or e-mail provider and the sender can lose his/her account.

Bullying, whether face-to-face, or over the internet is a serious offence which can cause serious trauma to a child or young person. Some children suffer from depression and/or even commit suicide as a result of being bullied. Parents, talk to your children at the end of the day. If your child, who was always cheerful and active suddenly retreats into himself, does not want to go to school or is failing in his classes, you need to find out what's wrong. If your child won't confide in you, then you should seek professional help.




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      Nell Rose 5 years ago from England

      Hi, this is a great guide to teaching your child how to avoid bullying. I was bullied badly at school and what most people don't seem to realise is that it does influence you as an adult. My life would have been different if I had not been bullied. When a child leaves school it still carries those horrible feelings with them, and can make them choose the wrong path in life, rated up! cheers nell

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      Angela Joseph 5 years ago from Florida

      Thank you so much, Nell Rose. I agree, bullying can affect the way a child sees himself for the rest of his life.

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      elija_god 5 years ago from Abuja, Nigeria

      Great hub! I love it.

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      Ishwaryaa Dhandapani 5 years ago from Chennai, India

      Excellent advice for several parents of school going children! Very useful hub! Vote up.

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      My Minds Eye53 5 years ago from Tennessee

      How do you get away from a bully when he lives in your house with you?

      Bullies pick on the quiet, reserved kids, kids who just want to remain in the background and do their work. Bullies perceive these kids as weak. I never figured out how to stop it. In fourth grade I had a teacher who was a bully. Her favorites got away with everything, while the rest of us suffered everyday.

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      Angela Joseph 5 years ago from Florida

      @elija_god @ishwaryaa22 Thank you both for your comments. @MyMinds Eye53 Your question is a very troubling one. I know a lot of kids are bullied at home and they may be too scared to tell anyone. Hopefully, someone will see the signs and reach out to these kids.

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      Susan Haze 4 years ago from Sunny Florida

      Unfortunately bulling is coomon these days. It's bad enough that children are involved in itg but when adults start bullying it's outrageous. Bullying in any form is unacceptable. Wonderful article full of useful tips.

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      Julianna Smith 4 years ago

      I see that these bullying cases have been growing rampantly in schools of different states today. As parents, we need to keep an eye on our kids' situation in school so as to avoid bullies to just get on them. As a parent, I am so concerned that my 9-year old son might be a prey of this bullies who just can't simply stop. Yet luckily, I read an article about like an on-star for phone that has been working perfectly for me and my son. With just a click of a button, he gets conference with an emergency response agent, a list of people in his so called-safety network, and can even get escalated to the nearest 911 if he is in a critical emergency. Check it here: http://www.SafeKidZone.com/

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      Angela Joseph 4 years ago from Florida

      @KoffeeKlatchGals I agree, parents should not be the bullies. They should be setting the right example for their children.

      @Julianna Smith Thank you so much for that link. I checked it out and it sounds like something every school-age child should have. I'm sure you feel better knowing that your child has a device that can protect him not just from bullies but from criminals. And the price is reasonable. Thanks again!

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      Mona Sabalones Gonzalez 2 years ago from Philippines

      I think this is the best advice I have ever read about bullying. I remember in the past, it was considered "manly" for a boy not to squeal on bullies. But the whole concept of bullying is that there is a bigger child picking on a smaller one. A bully doesn't fight fair, so telling school authorities, telling your parents, and getting your own pack will even the score and scare the bully. Well done.

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      Angela Joseph 2 years ago from Florida

      Thanks, Mona! Nowadays it's crucial that the child inform his parents and/or teachers that he is being bullied. His life may depend on it.

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