The Hater's Society: A Separate but Equal Society of Haters
Hate means "to dislike intensely or passionately, feel extreme aversion for or extreme hostility toward."
Haters are the most emotionally wounded people of all of society. That is my unprofessional opinion, and I’m sticking to it. They need to hate something in order to feel powerful. There is emptiness inside them, and it shows in demeaning and demoralizing ways. They’re unrepentant because they don’t think their behavior is about hate.
They think their bold, frank talk is just their way of expressing their opinion, and as we all know, everyone is entitled to their own opinion. I’m clearly expressing mine. But if my words were demeaning, demoralizing or inflammatory, you would not see them just as a opinion but more of an attack on my character, my very being.
I know, I know...hate is a strong wrong. But what would you call it? Hate means "to dislike intensely or passionately, feel extreme aversion for or extreme hostility toward." In other words, if I felt that way about you, then I would willfully inflict emotional harm on you by using words to teardown you, publicly humiliate you, offend you to the highest order, or even lie on you. I'm happy to proclaim that I'm not a hater.
If I called you an alcoholic or drunk or addict in public and piled on with demeaning comments about my opinion of you in that state-of-mind, would my words match the definition of hate? It damn sure would not be an expression of love because love nor like for that matter puts down the person you love or like. Simple. I’m not speaking about hurtful words in a fit of anger that has a sting but you recognize where it's coming from and may have even provoked it and you later apologize. No…that’s human nature. Hatred is a mindset, an attitude that is blatantly offensive and unapologetic. Its intent is to mock and ridicule, to squash, to teardown.
So, I think haters should unite as a separate society thereby relieving the rest of us of their negative energy. Wouldn’t that be wonderful? I know it sounds…maybe a little dumb….okay…a lot dumb…and far fetched, but a separate but equal society based on attitude and behavior would be an ideal world for me since I’m a caring, loving, positive, forward thinking person and understand that it’s all about energy.
The Hater’s Society would include people who hate blacks, Hispanics and Latinos, Asians, and gays. You know—your typical racist. It would also include people who hate the government to the point of using violence to express their hatred, people who hate Christians, Jews, Muslims or other religious groups because of their faith, and religious people who hate others for their lack of faith, people who hate peace, hate women, hate men, hate conservatives, hate liberals, hate their past or hate their life. And please let’s not leave out self-haters, they should experience having other people hate on them like they hate on themselves. Maybe, they’ll learn that there’s more to love about themselves than to hate.
This society would even include celebrity haters like Rush Limbaugh, Sean Hannity, Bill O’Reilly, and Glen Beck. We cannot leave out the haters in the so-called Tea Party movement that carried the despicable signs associating President Obama with Hitler or the so-called Birthers who hate Barack Obama for winning the presidency and wants to de-legitimize him.
Since hating is void of light and love and anything good, imagine what it would be like if ALL the haters got together with their hate in toe and had to co-habitate. Let them hang out together all day and prey on one another. Let the haters hate the haters. Let them experience having someone hate on them up close and personal. I can feel the excitement of the possibility of a world without haters. Not going to happen, but a girl can dream.
Putting haters together in one place would be a thousand percent worse than putting seven so-called “bad” girls in a house as in the Oxygen hit, “Bad Girls’ Club.” It would definitely be a much more dramatic depiction of the emotional and mental instability of people who live on hate. I think people would see haters for the unfulfilled, wounded souls they are.
I saw a few episodes of this show in 2010, which got me thinking about this fantasy society of haters. On the television show, the so-called “bad girls” who are used to inflicting their venomous behavior on unsuspecting mild mannered girls are made to live together for several weeks. Their internal wounds are on full display for the world to see and what you see are broken spirits with a loss of compassion and empathy, even for themselves. You see shallowness and superficiality trying to cover up great insecurity. There is a never-ending battle for power (energy) in the “Bad Girls’” house. But in a place where each girl has an ego the size of Texas and has allowed hatred of some form to overrun her mind but more tragically enter her heart, there’s no energy to be found. Since anger and rudeness are energy sappers, these “bad girls” refuel by making positive people feel afraid. Once you enter the realm of fear, you lose your energy to whatever it was that made you feel afraid. They use excessive alcohol to anesthetize the pain in their heart; instead, it engages the war in their mind between emotions and intellect. The word hate rolls off their tongue as freely as saliva. “I hate Amber!” “I hate Natalie!” I hate! I hate! They hate every doggone thing, and they said it with such intensity and heartfelt passion. But you say…they’re still young and will learn later on…they have time. Maybe so or maybe not. Is hatred more acceptable when you’re younger than when you’re older? If so, what is the cut-off age before it becomes unacceptable?
This show idea should be attempted on haters. Maybe then they will realize the error of their ways, like the obnoxious company owner who had a near death experience and in the after-life, he encountered people hating on him just like he hated on his employees.
A true story: a man who ran his corporation like a dictator had a near-death experience after suffering a heart attack. His employees described him as the boss from hell. Instead of compliments, he gave them constant criticism. His expectations were extremely high and the pay was extremely low. His employees literally thought he hated them, which made productivity and retention low.
The man said that he entered into some realm of the after-life where he found himself lying on his back looking up at a black sky and his body trembling with fear. He said that he was desperately afraid and wanted to leave this place because he could sense intense anger and danger where he was. He said he suddenly became overcome by loud voices espousing to him the same sort of demeaning and demoralizing language that he had used on his employees. He said the voices sounded like they were coming from a mob of people hovering over him. He tried to get up and run away but his body felt paralyzed. The voices became more demanding, menacing, and threatening, as he described it.
The man doubted the existence of God. He was not an atheist but rather an agnostic. Since he was wealthy and didn’t need to pray for “things”, he had not experienced a need to call on God. The man said that he became so afraid of the voices that he cried out, “Oh God, please help me! Help me God!” He could not put a time on how long it took, but he said after he screamed for God to help him, a large golden cage surrounded by a “bright beautiful light” appeared out of nowhere. He said the voices stopped immediately and he no longer felt afraid or anxious but rather calm and peaceful. The door to the golden cage opened and he was mystically lifted and placed into the cage and then whisked away. The next thing he remembered was waking up in intensive care.
The man said his life took on a different meaning after the experience. He became a very humble man. He sought out people to tell him more about God, and he went around the Country telling of his experience. He raised his employees’ salaries by 30%. He demanded that they all take a vacation each year. He built a daycare inside the company to accommodate his employees who were parents. He started a bonus program to encourage productivity. He called his employees into a meeting and thanked them for their hard work and apologized with tears in his eyes for the way that he had treated them, and he even wrote a letter to employees who had resigned or was fired and apologized to them. By his own admission, he learned to treat people the way he wanted to be treated (,which was with dignity and respect,) and to be more open and accepting.
That is my hope for the Haters' Society that they would see the reflection of their own hate in others who hate, people who get up in the morning and go to bed at night hating somebody or something. Maybe at the end of each day, we should all examine how we communicated with others during the day. Did the words you communicated matched the definition of hate or acceptance, compassion, empathy or tolerance. If the latter, you will sleep well and if not, you will toss and turn and wake up angry because hate do not rest.
So non-haters, peaceful loving people, let us not sacrifice our energy by engaging the haters or turning on them. Instead, let us hope the haters have a life-altering experience that will bring them from the dark side of hatred over to the bright side of acceptance and tolerance.
Stop hating! Check yourself, and then correct yourself.
Copyright © 2010 Shar'Ron Maxx Mahaffey
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Let the haters hate the haters.
Since hating is void of light and love and anything good, imagine what it would be like if all the haters got together with their hate in toe and had to cohabitate. Let them hang out together all day and prey on one another. Let the haters hate the haters. Let them experience having someone hate on them up close and personal. I wonder if they would still think it’s just someone expressing an “opinion” or expressing hatred.
Putting haters together in one place would be a thousand percent worse than putting seven so-called “bad” girls in a house as in the Oxygen hit, “Bad Girls’ Club.” It would definitely be a much more dramatic depiction of the emotional and mental instability of people who live on hate. I think people would see haters for the unfulfilled, wounded souls they are.
The so-called “bad girls”, who are used to inflicting their venomous behavior on unsuspecting mild mannered girls, are made to live together for several weeks. Their internal wounds are on full display for the world to see and what you see are broken spirits with a loss of compassion and empathy, even for themselves. You see shallowness and superficiality trying to cover up great insecurity. There is a never-ending battle for power (energy) in the “Bad Girls’” house. But in a place where each girl has an ego the size of Texas and has allowed hatred of some form to overrun her mind but more tragically enter her heart, there’s no energy to be found.
Since anger and rudeness are energy sappers, these “bad girls” refuel by making positive people feel afraid. Once you enter the realm of fear, you lose your energy to whatever it was that made you feel afraid. They use excessive alcohol to anesthetize the pain in their heart; instead, it engages the war in their mind between emotions and intellect. The word hate rolls off their tongue as freely as saliva. “I hate Amber!” “I hate Natalie!” I hate! I hate! They hate every doggone thing, and they shout it with such intensity and heartfelt passion. But you say…they’re still young and will learn later on…they have time. Maybe so or maybe not. Is hatred more acceptable when you’re younger than when you’re older? If so, what is the cut-off age before it becomes unacceptable?
This show idea should be attempted on haters. Maybe then they will realize the error of their ways, like the obnoxious company owner who had a near death experience and in the after-life, he encountered people hating on him just like he hated on his employees.
Stop hating! Check yourself, and then correct yourself.
A true story: a man who ran his corporation like a dictator had a near-death experience after suffering a heart attack. His employees described him as the boss from hell. Instead of compliments, he gave them constant criticism. His expectations were extremely high and the pay was extremely low. His employees literally thought he hated them, which made productivity and retention low.
The man said that he entered into some realm of the after-life where he found himself lying on his back looking up at a black sky and his body trembling with fear. He said that he was desperately afraid and wanted to leave this place because he could sense intense anger and danger where he was. He said he suddenly became overcome by loud voices espousing to him the same sort of demeaning and demoralizing language that he had used on his employees. He said the voices sounded like they were coming from a mob of people hovering over him. He tried to get up and run away but his body felt paralyzed. The voices became more demanding, menacing, and threatening, as he described it.
The man doubted the existence of God. He was not an atheist but rather an agnostic. Since he was wealthy and didn’t need to pray for “things”, he had not experienced a need to call on God. The man said that he became so afraid of the voices that he cried out, “Oh God, please help me! Help me God!” He could not put a time on how long it took, but he said after he screamed for God to help him, a large golden cage surrounded by a “bright beautiful light” appeared out of nowhere. He said the voices stopped immediately and he no longer felt afraid or anxious but rather calm and peaceful. The door to the golden cage opened and he was mystically lifted and placed into the cage and then whisked away. The next thing he remembered was waking up in intensive care.
The man said his life took on a different meaning after the experience. He became a very humble man. He sought out people to tell him more about God, and he went around the Country telling of his experience. He raised his employees’ salaries by 30%. He demanded that they all take a vacation each year. He built a daycare inside the company to accommodate his employees who were parents. He started a bonus program to encourage productivity. He called his employees into a meeting and thanked them for their hard work and apologized with tears in his eyes for the way that he had treated them, and he even wrote a letter to employees who had resigned or was fired and apologized to them. By his own admission, he learned to treat people the way he wanted to be treated (,which was with dignity and respect,) and to be more open and accepting.
That is my hope for the Haters' Society that they would see the reflection of their own hate in others who hate, people who get up in the morning and go to bed at night hating somebody or something.
So non-haters, peaceful loving people, let us not sacrifice our energy by engaging the haters or turning on them. Instead, let us hope the haters have a life-altering experience that will bring them from the dark side of hatred over to the bright side of acceptance.
Stop hating! Check yourself, and then correct yourself.
Copyright © 2010 Shar'Ron Maxx Mahaffey
