I have a son who is in the first grade and the teacher complains he does not wan

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   gskyleadgenposted 13 years ago

   I have a son who is in the first grade and the teacher complains he does not want to read or...
   
   write ,he just cries or goes out of the room to see his sister in a nearby room at school ,should I take him out of school and enroll back to grade 1 next year?

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   akirchnerposted 13 years ago

   Tough question - we held back one of our children because the teachers thought he was 'immature' in some ways but as it turns out, he was quite brilliant.  It could be that he is either not stimulated enough by what is being taught (or there is a problem with the teacher/student personality mix) - or he may be further ahead than what is being taught. 
   
   I would suggest trying to test out reading and writing at home and see if you get the same response - if he is worried about reading or writing in the home setting, there could be a learning 'variability' (I like that better than disability). 
   
   We also found that our daughter in kindergarten of all things had a total aversion to one particular teacher's 'style' - it was just a fluke.  I tended to think my daughter was being 'immature' but then when the school actually fired her and a bunch of other parents came forward to express their problems, it turned out it wasn't my daughter at all! 
   
   As you can see, there are many reasons why a child has a hard time in school - there are many more than I mentioned.  Just some things to look at in considering what is best for your boy....good luck!  Parenting is a full time job!

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   LuisEGonzalezposted 13 years ago

   Try reading at home but make it a game; use short reading age- appropriate readings and offer a token reward, Pretend that your son reads better than you. This should help you gauge if your son just doesn't like to read,lacks motivation or if there is a teacher-pupil chemistry fault. Discuss your findings with a school counselor.

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   letstalkabouteducposted 8 years ago

   How did he do in kindergarten? Is he young for the grade? A lot of kids are being diagnosed with learning problems these days because the schools are expected to teach more academics at younger ages, and some kids are simply not ready for this. There's absolutely nothing wrong with them. They're normal. People who know little about child development are making decisions about the curriculum. They don't understand how young children learn best -- kinesthetically, hands-on, in small groups. That's why so many outstanding long-time kindergarten teachers are quitting. They refuse to teach to young children in ways they know are harmful to them -- long periods sitting still, too many paper-pencil tasks, standardized testing, reading groups, not enough time to learn through playing and exploring. Trust your instincts and I know you will do what's right for your son!

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