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Don't Be Scared to Ask For Help

Updated on November 24, 2019
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Yenaros is an observant intellectual driven to better understand today's society in order to create peace and awareness.


Asking For Help Strengthens You

There are essential rules for growing up and becoming an independent human being. I know that EVERYONE DREAMS OF A DAY when they can take care of themselves and not have to worry about bills, debt, or people breathing down their necks when it comes to money and their financial situation. EVERYONE DREAMS OF A DAY where they understand everything, they don't have to ask anyone or feel like they're stupid because of something that they just don't know. EVERYONE DREAMS OF A DAY where they don't get lost and have to rely on someone else to get them out of a situation, whether that pertains to location, decisions, or lifestyles. EVERYONE HAS A DREAM.

To obtain something or achieve something in life by yourself is never the easiest thing to do. At times, it seems very near impossible. At times, you feel like you need help, but you're shy. YOU'RE SCARED OF THE REACTION YOU MIGHT GET or the things that someone will say to you or about you depending on what you ask of them. It's not always what you want to do, I get that. But, DON'T BE AFRAID TO ASK SOMEONE FOR HELP IF YOU NEED SOMETHING.

IT'S NOT A SIGN OF WEAKNESS or that you're not capable of taking care of yourself. Asking for help is actually one of the biggest strengths we have. It assists us in overcoming our obstacles and to understand who is there for us when we need them to be. EVERYONE RELIES ON SOMEONE IN THIS WORLD OR OUT OF THIS WORLD TO BECOME SUCCESSFUL.

I've been there before, in the exact position that so many people find themselves in today. You find yourself getting stuck at some point. You want to ask someone to help you out, but there's always something that stops you from doing that. There's always that little voice in your subconscious that doesn't want you to feel embarrassed and doesn't want you to explain your situation or your “business” to someone else. YOU'RE SCARED THAT THEY WILL JUDGE YOU for being in a situation like that, that they'll speak down upon you for being in such a low spot, that they'll think you're weak. That little voice stops you from thinking of the positives of asking for help. It only focuses on what can go wrong.

A lot of the times, that little voice in your head can be the determiner for you achieving your dreams and having nothing but positive energy and vibes. But, there are also times where that little voice needs to shut up because it's doing more harm than good by giving you anxiety about whatever it is going on with you.

Are there people who will judge you for asking for assistance? SURE. I'm not sugarcoating this at all. Everyone judges someone at some point or another when it comes to their lifestyle, choices, independency, and dependency. That much is a fact, I wouldn't lie to you. However, it's also true that everyone goes through something in life. They don't have to tell everyone they know for us all to feel good about ourselves. WE AS HUMANS GO THROUGH TRIALS AND TRIBULATIONS ALL THE TIME, there's no stopping that. But, what can stop you from moving forward is continually putting off trying to get someone to help you. WE CAN ONLY BEAR SO MUCH ON OUR OWN BEFORE WE COMPLETELY BREAK DOWN.


You're Not Alone

I've seen people break down around me time after time after time. It hurts me immensely because I sit down and wonder how the situation could have been different had that person had a support system along the way. It shouldn't take you reaching your lowest point to finally sit down and come to the conclusion that you need help.

Think of your situation like the structure of the human body. Take your spine for example. It is the central core, the central bone that allows you to have full-body motion, movement, and flexibility. It is the determining factor of whether you can walk or whether you can't. Without your spine, you are immobile. However, does the spine work alone? No, it doesn't. There are numerous bones supporting it. It can't act alone, and you can't either. NO ONE IS CAPABLE OF DOING EVERYTHING IN THEIR LIFE BY THEMSELVES. It simply is not possible.

Many people you know are willing to help you if you need it. They're not going to shoo you away and embarrass you because they think you're vulnerable. They will be there for you and help in any way that they possibly can. Even if they aren't able to provide exactly what you need, their effort and their words to you based on the situation will determine if they really care about you or feel like you're just there.

Also, don't look at certain people differently if they are not able to help. SOME MAY BE IN THE SAME POSITION THAT YOU'RE IN. Remember, this is a two-way street. Everyone is not comfortable sharing their business with you because they are not sure that you care. The same applies to all of us.

The bottom line is that if you wait and wait, pushing yourself into a worse spot over time, you're only hurting yourself. When we get buried in the dirt, we can't get out on our own. WE NEED HELP. Don't be afraid to ask for it because you essentially have nothing to lose on your end.

This content is accurate and true to the best of the author’s knowledge and is not meant to substitute for formal and individualized advice from a qualified professional.

© 2019 Yenaros


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