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tips to improve your self esteem

Updated on November 25, 2007

How much do you like yourself? How valuable a person do you think you are? How competent do you think you are? The answers to these questions reflect your self esteem, the value you place on yourself. People who have self-esteem, for example, are going to communicate this throughout their verbal and non-verbal messages. So let's take a look at the various points on how to improve your self-esteem.

Firstly, to learn how to improve your self-esteem, observe the ways which people with have self-esteem phrase their ideas and questions or the way they hold their head and maintain eye contact. Chances are, it's likely to differ greatly from the way the person with low self-esteem would communicate. Similarly, people with different views of themselves will develop and maintain relationships with friends, lovers, and family differently.

Self-esteem is important, it is thought, because success breeds success. When you feel good about yourself - about who you are and what you're capable of doing - you will perform better. When you think like a success, you're more likely to act like a success. When you think you're a failure, you're more likely to act like a failure. Increasing self-esteem will, therefore, help you to function more effectively in school, in interpersonal relationships and in careers.

Here are a few tips on how to increase your self-esteem:

How to Increase Your Self-Esteem Tip #1: Secure affirmation

It's recommended that you remind yourself of your success- that you focus on your good acts; your good deeds; your positive qualities, strengths, and virtues; and your productive and meaningful relationships with friends, loved ones, and relatives. If you talk positively about yourself, you will come to feel more positive about yourself.

How to Increase Your Self-Esteem Tip #2: Seek out nourishing people

Nourishing people are extremely positive. They're optimists and they reward you and make you feel good about yourself. Here too, with time, you'll come to believe these compliments and positive statements; as a result, your self-esteem is likely to rise.

How to Increase Your Self-Esteem Tip #3: Work on projects that will result in success

Some people want to fail, or so it seems. Often, they select projects that will result in failure. Perhaps the projects are too large or too difficult. In any event, they're impossible. A more beneficial strategy is to select projects that will result in success. Each success helps build self-esteem. Each success makes the next success a little easier. This doesn't mean that you shouldn't dream big; only that in some cases you may be tempted to try the impossible and be hurt when you don't succeed.

When a project does fail, recognize that this doesn't mean that you're a failure. Everyone fails somewhere along the line. Failure is something that happens; it's not something inside you. Further, failing once does not mean that you will fail the next time. So put failure in perspective. Don't make it an excuse for not trying again.


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