Who Are You And What Do You Want?

You are Your Own Universe. You are the spiritual being, the life force, the one in charge of your dreams, your goals, your aspirations, your life.  Unfortunately that universe that is you, the energy, the life force often gets put aside in favor of the needs, wants and demands of others. Enforced realities that you have resisted too often take control of not only your life but of You!  You are then not living your own life, you are not working towards the attainment of your dreams, your goals, your needs and your wants.  Instead you are left at best working for others or worse yet, working against others.

In order to have what you really want to be in life, to do what you want to do, and to have what you want to have you must first determine how you want to live your future life. You have to break out of the automated, fixated trance states and those boxes that you operate in so as to step out and take charge of your own life. If you do not create your own life, rest assured someone else will do it for you and you will find yourself with people and things in your life that contribute nothing to your well-being.

In my hub entitled “Are You Paying Attention?” I included two lists; one was to list all your incomplete cycles and the other was to make a list of all that you want to remove from your life. As it is important to do these procedures in sequence you will need to complete the lists from the above mentioned hub before you take this one on.

We all play many different games in life and each game requires that we take on a role to play within the game.  In order to do this we create different identities through which we operate.  The self created, positive identities that we create serve to move us forward to those people, places and things we wish to be closer to as well as to our own dreams and our own goals.  It is the automatic games and the identities that were created by others that you resisted when they were forced upon you that are acted out both unknowingly and resentfully.  These automated, uninspected games that were created by others and the enforced roles you were expected to play within these games are what lend themselves to creating outcomes that are not to your liking, associating with people that you would rather distance yourself from and having your own dreams and goals fade into the background or get buried so deep that you can’t even remember what they were anymore.  These are the games and the identities that operate below your awareness and wreck havoc in your life and your relationships.

You can often find yourself hung up or caught up in small, worthless games that do nothing more than tie up your attention, your energy, your life force in trivial, or meaningless, or pointless, or worse yet abusive exchanges.  You resort to emotional black mail over a toilet seat being up or down; who took the garbage out the last time; who was the last one out of the room and left the light on; and so it goes.  It is these small, uninspected games that put our lives into a downward spiral to the point where the consequences are huge and impactful.  Not only do we harm ourselves, we harm those we profess to love, including our own children.  We feel trapped, we feel like we are going insane, nobody wins and some of us are emotionally scarred for life.

It is important to note that it takes just as much time, energy and attention to play these nasty, trivial, negative games as it does to play great big, positive, worthwhile games.  The thing with automated games is that there are a limited number of them and they produce no worthwhile products or outcomes.  On the other hand there is a vast array of positive worthwhile games to play.  It is a matter of who and what you invest yourself in.  It is therefore of vital importance that you get in charge and take control of yourself and your own life.  It is of vital importance that you assist those who you value and hold dear to get in charge and take control of their own lives.  Heck, it could even be, dare I say it…..FUN!

In order to begin to break out of the robotic, uninspected, negative games it is best to start doing so by making several lists under the headings I am about to share with you. The benefits and results of making these lists is that it gives you, in present time, a clear picture of what you want . As stated in, “Are You Paying Attention?” your vision is the software for your mind. You can change and refine your lists until you have a really good picture and they are ready for you to work on. Putting your wants in writing puts those wants into the physical universe; they are no longer floating about in the ether.  Instead, they are well defined and they have taken on a physical existence as you put pen to paper, or fingers to keyboard. You will have taken your first step in acting upon your own wants .

The first list you will make is a list of what you want in your life. The next step is to make a list of all your blessings, big or small. Once that is complete make a list of all the benefits you have followed by a list of all your assets. (Note: by assets I do not mean just your belongings include your assets as a person.) Next, a list of all your skills and abilities, then list all of your accomplishments. (Note: If you stick on this one get really basic with it – you learned to tie your shoes  – that is an accomplishment.) A list of all your successful actions is the last on the lists of lists.

The lists you will be making then are as follows:

What you want in your life.

Your blessings

Your benefits

Your assets

Your skills and abilities

Your accomplishments

Your successful actions

The process of breaking out of negative cycles, games and identities is an ongoing process.  Once you begin the process it is important to keep going with it.  To stop results in confusion and it betrays your trust in yourself.  Most of us know how it feels to be betrayed by another, it feels just as bad if not worse to betray yourself!