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Chapter 2, How to Survive Accident-Prone Children? How do your Children Survive being Accident-Prone

Updated on October 15, 2016
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Shyron is a retired Customer Service Rep. for Verizon. Colleges attended: Triton, Melrose Park, Illinois and Elgin, in Elgin, Illinois.

My boys

My boys sitting on the kitchen floor
My boys sitting on the kitchen floor | Source
My precious babies
My precious babies | Source

Appendicitis

One late afternoon, I went to the grocery store, leaving my two boys with their father.

I returned home in time to see my four year old lift one end of the couch and then drop it and double over crying, I rushed to him, and picked him up in my arms, thinking he had ruptured himself from lifting the heavy couch. He told me in Sign Language that it hurt. With Brett in my arms I went to the bed room door to check on Wally and found him fast asleep.

I rushed to the kitchen door and told Bill, 'I am taking my baby to the hospital!' All three just sat three, (Brett's father, grandfather with his girlfriend) with a dumbfounded stare.

Soon after I had gone to the store, Bill's father came with his girlfriend.

At the hospital emergency room, they took some test and told me they believed it was his appendix and he was admitted and an IV was started right away which Brett tried to rip out of his hand.

From the hallway, I heard a woman telling someone, "I'm the grandmother why can't I go in? She gave him a pound of candy that is why he has a stomach ache." I hear this woman telling whoever she is talking to.

Is she talking about me? I am thinking. I wasn't there when she came to my home. Why is she telling someone that? Why does she hate me that she would say that? She does not even know me. And why isn't someone telling that woman, it is his appendix? But, they did not allow her in the room. And, I could not leave my baby's side; he would rip the IV out.

They came quickly and gave Brett anesthesia and took him into surgery. Then the doctor came to tell me that Brett would be okay, and they got his appendix out just in time, that it was ready to burst.

While Brett was in recovery, I went home to see about Wally and found a bag of candy under the edge of the couch. Bill said his dad's girlfriend gave it to the boys. I sent Bill with the candy to his dad's place and told him to tell him that I never ever want that woman near my babies again, ever. That was the first and last time I ever saw her.

The saying is, the third time's a charm.

The call that sent chills up and down my spine.

Did you ever get an ominous feeling when a phone rings? That is the feeling I got when the phone rang at my desk. It was the school calling.

By September Brett had recovered nicely from the his operation in March and was placed in a special education class in a main stream school at four years old. One day at recess Brett was hit by a baseball and I was told he had a cut in his eyebrow, and needed to be taken to the ER.

Billy! Brett's father, my husband at that time had kept the car. I had no idea where he was going and when I was unable to find him, Ted, a co-worker was kind enough to take me to Brett's school and then take us to the hospital emergency room and left us there.


Jackie in the Box takes us to the second ER

Brett got stitches in the cut in his eyebrow. Again I tried to locate Bill, without any luck. I called my friend Jackie and she picked us up from the hospital and we went to my babysitter and picked up Wally.

Wally loved Jackie and called her Jackie in the box. He was in the back seat and poped-up behind us standing in the car to talk to her, at the same time Jackie made a sharp turn and Wally lost his balance and fell against the car door lock, which cut the back of his head and we were closer to a different hospital and that is where we took him.

The ER doctor told Wally to lay face down so he could stitch the gash in the back of his head. Wally did as the doctor told him and he did not cry. He was so quiet the doctor thought he passed out, so he said Wally and Wally raised his head and said "what?" Lay back down the doctor told him. The doctor told me "I wish all little kids I see were like Wally."


The third time's a charm?

ChI still could not find Bill, so.. Jackie who had been waiting with us, took us home and we ate supper, I gave the boys their bath and put their pajamas on them.

And the front door burst open and Bill was standing there covered in blood. He mumbled that he thought his jaw was broken. I called my neighbor across the hall, who, came over to stay with the boys while I took Bill to the emergency room. That would be the third emergency room in one day. The saying is, the third time's a charm.

His jaw was not broken; the blood was from a bloody nose. How he got that and why he thought it was broken is for another time another hub.

Family Boating

Boating in Wisconsin on Lake Geneva My husband, me, Brett and Wally
Boating in Wisconsin on Lake Geneva My husband, me, Brett and Wally | Source

Lost at the Gray Hound station

Bill and I were divorced, and all was calm and quiet for a while. Brett had been accepted at the Illinois School For The Deaf in Jacksonville Illinois, a residential school, the same school where Actress Marlee Matlin graduated. I had a babysitter for Wally.

Jacksonville, Illinois is approximately 250 miles south of Chicago. I would drive him to school about once a month and sometimes they had a charter bus that would bring him to a Holiday Inn, parking lot and the parents would pick the kids up there.

One particularly cold and snowy day, I was notified that I would have to pick Brett up at the Gray Hound station in Down Town Chicago. The weather was so bad that cars were sliding into each other, and traffic was snarled up. I was about fifteen minutes late and I thought that surely they would not leave if any of the parents were late. The bus left, I was told by security. In a panic I thought surely they would not leave a child in a bus station by himself.

After searching and searching for some sign of Brett and looking for a phone to call the bus company. I heard "MOM" and there he was by himself, sitting on his suitcase. I told him I was sorry I was late. He signed back to me, "I knew you would be here!"

I reported the bus company to the school the next school day.

The Concussion

Even after nearly biting his tongue off, because of his running, my son Wally continued to run everywhere.

My landlord became my babysitter after his wife passed away, his wife had been my babysitter. George/Landlord called to say that Wally did not come home from school. While I was still on the phone with George, one of my co-workers told me I had a call on the other line. I took the other call, it was the hospital, they told me they had my son needed to do a cat scan, and needed my permission to do it.

When I arrived at the hospital and went into the emergency room, Wally asked how did you know I was here?

I told him that the hospital called me.

All these years later Walter (no longer Wally) and I were reminiscing, I asked Walter how did they know to call me?

He said I haven't got a clue.

What Happened?

Wally said that he ran the shortcut through the park like always and jumped over the park bench and one end was loose and it popped him in the head and that is the last thing he remembered until just before I arrived at the hospital.

The ER nurse told me that someone called the police and told them there was a little boy unconscious in the park and he was brought to the hospital. The cat scan was normal so we went home, it was too late to go back to work.

The following day when I went to work, I went in early to file a claim with my insurance company. I was asked 'this is for Wally? What about Brett?' I told her, he is in school in Jacksonville. I know, but didn't you get the message, The Illinois School for the Deaf called yesterday, collecte and the Receptionist refused the charges, but she told me this morning, Arlene the personnel Manager said.

In a panic, I called the school and spoke with the principal and she told me that everything was fine, Brett had fallen off playground equipment and they thought his arm was broken. Miss Mills said you gave her power of attorney in case of emergency, and she signed for the x-rays, the principal told me.

Thank God, I had given Miss Mills the POA. Brett's arm was not broken but I had to file another insurance claim for the x-rays. But, sometime during this same time frame Brett got the tip of one of his fingers cut off.

You may be thinking, how can this stuff happen? But, it is all true; my time lines may be slightly off but this is factual.

At age 16 Wally wanted to visit my brother here in Texas, once he got here he wanted to stay, and my brother said it would be okay if he wanted to stay with him, under the condition he would finish school. I gave my permission.

I don't know why I thought the accidents would stop.

Chapter 3 coming soon.

I have to gather more information, for More stories

The motorized Dirt Bike

The hand injury - Catalytic converter

Swinging from the Monkey Bars

The Accident

Broken Foot

Not all bumps and bruises lead to sore endings

The Dirt Bike, not motorized

© 2013 Shyron E Shenko

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      Shyron E Shenko 2 years ago from Texas

      Au fait, thank you again for the comment and for sharing.

      I know, winter is almost here and I hate winter. I cannot stand the really cold weather.

      Hope you are well and dry, did the tornado touch down 2 days ago?

      I was going to call you yesterday and got sidetracked.

      Blessings and Hugs

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      C E Clark 2 years ago from North Texas

      Came back to share this again. I like to keep them in order so I don't get mixed up. Almost winter is some places. My sister told me they already had some snow last month. Great time of year with all the winter activities for kids to have accidents and if there are some parents out there who have accident prone children this article may be just what they need to read to feel better knowing they aren't alone.

      Hope all is well. Take care . . .

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      Shyron E Shenko 2 years ago from Texas

      Au fait, thank you for the comments and for sharing this.

      we will have to cut the grass tomorrow, this is the worst year for grass/weeds growing so fast and high. I know predictions are for the hottest day this year.

      Finding a new Mayor for Lake Dallas may not improve the situation at all. I guess we will find out.

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      C E Clark 2 years ago from North Texas

      With kids out of school for summer vacation there are probably some parents out there who would benefit from reading your Trilogy on this subject if only to learn they are not alone. Sharing.

      Hope you are staying cool and getting things caught up so you won't have to be outside when the thermometer hits 100+ starting Monday -- if it will wait that long. Take care . . .

      The Mayor of Lake Dallas has resigned, so maybe that situation will improve.

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      Shyron E Shenko 2 years ago from Texas

      Au fait, thank you for the comments, up votes and for sharing.

      My cousin still did not find a job, unemployment ran out and too young for SS/MC/MCA and that will probably be gone by the time she is old enough.

      I don't know about Walmart's pay but I don't think they give enough hours to qualify for any kind of employment insurance.

      We hope all is well with you also.

      Blessings and Hugs my dear friend

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      C E Clark 2 years ago from North Texas

      Here is a helpful article for mothers who wonder how they will get through the week because their children (probably mostly sons) persist in doing adventurous things that don't always work out well.

      Voting this up and sharing it.

      I think of your cousin every once in a while and wonder how she's doing. No one is doing all that well regarding employment. While there are oodles of jobs it seems, they all pay 7.25 an hour. Everything is going up. Food prices at Walmart went up last week, some by as much as 1.00! 7.25 won't pay the bills even if one gets 40 hours.

      Have heard Walmart is going to pay or is already paying their workers in some places $15 per hour, but I've also read employers who are paying well are also cutting back on hours worked.

      Hope all is well with you guys. Take care . . . blessings . .

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      Shyron E Shenko 3 years ago from Texas

      Peg, thank you for your comments, compliments. You are truly appreciated.

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      Peg Cole 3 years ago from Dallas, Texas

      You certainly had your hands full with these boys. Wow, I admire your stamina and cool head in the face of an emergency situation. Amazing story.

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      Shyron E Shenko 3 years ago from Texas

      Au fait, none of the children I know appreciate what their parents did for them. Not even after they become parents themselves?

      I think I do too, and yes the times are so different now.

      Thank you for the votes up, AUI, pinning to AH and sharing.

      I know that I appreciate you.

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      Shyron E Shenko 3 years ago from Texas

      Jaye, I hope you daughter is not like my son, he is still having accidents. his last one was last month, when he had to have the muscles re-attached on the left arm. The first time was the right one.

      Did you take pictures of your daughter? Did you write a story about what happened to her? That would be so interesting.

      My grandmother use to say when they are little they are on you toes and when they are big they are on your heart.

      Thank you so much Jaye for the comments and thumbs up.

      I do appreciate you!

      Shyron

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      Jaye Denman 3 years ago from Deep South, USA

      Bless your heart, Shyron. You had a tough time getting those boys grown.

      Well, I had two sons and one daughter, and they all had their share of childhood accidents, some of them pretty unusual. (Perhaps they inherited some of their mom's tendency toward freak accidents--who knows?)

      However, it was my daughter who climbed onto something too high and unstable to hold her at the age of five and fell, hitting her face on metal.

      The two black eyes with bruising and swelling across the top part of her face lasted through the remainder of the summer and hadn't completely faded by her first day at school. In those days, there wasn't as much likelihood of being accused of child abuse, but I still cringed when she accompanied me anywhere in public, imagining what people thought about her injuries. Even though she wore large sunglasses, the bruises were visible around the edges.

      So...like mothers do, I worried about each of my children all through their growing-up years (and still do though they're middleaged). Then I worried about my grandchildren as they grew up (and still do, although they're adults). Now I'm worrying about the next generation, the great-grands, hoping none of them get hurt in accidents or suffer from a serious illness.

      When one decides to become a parent, the worrying begins....and never ends.

      Voted Up++

      Jaye

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      C E Clark 3 years ago from North Texas

      I think you must be a strong person to get through all of this. I know there are worse things than what you describe here, but you didn't know it at the time and so it must have been an awful worry wondering how each event would turn out and then what would be next. Are you tired? I would be. I am. But for different reasons. I hope your children appreciate all you did for them. Do children ever really appreciate a parent's sacrifices even after they have become parents themselves? I think I do, but children and times are so different now . . .

      Voted up, AUI, pinned to AH and shared.

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      Shyron E Shenko 3 years ago from Texas

      Thank you Vandynegl, I really appreciate your reading and commenting.

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      vandynegl 3 years ago from Ohio Valley

      Wow! I'm exhausted reading these! Thank you again, for sharing! You put up with a lot, but are a great mom for doing so!

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      Shyron E Shenko 4 years ago from Texas

      Thanks for you comment Au fait and voting this up, AI and sharing. This is really appreciated.

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      C E Clark 4 years ago from North Texas

      What a time you had! Glad Walter got through it all and hope he's mellowed out a little with the accidents. Voting this up and IA. Going to share it again too. Hope you're having a good week . . .

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      Shyron E Shenko 4 years ago from Texas

      Aunt Jimi, thank you for your votes up, comments and sharing my true story of my accident-prone children.

      Au fait did tell me about her husband's brother impaling himself, that sounds like my husband who impaled himself (Countdown to a Miracle) on a metal fence post. I am glad for your sake that you had and Au fait have daughters, but even with all the accidents, I would rather have sons.

      I will talk to you soon, stay well.

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      Aunt Jimi 4 years ago from The reddest of the Red states!

      I'm so glad I had only one girl child! Au fait and I were talking the other day about how her husband told her she didn't want a boy before her daughter was born. He was the youngest of 3 boys and it sounds like his oldest brother wasn't so different from your Wally. Did she tell you how that boy jumped out of a second story window onto a pipe sticking up about 4 feet or so and impaled himself? I know girls can sometimes be a handful too, but usually it's boys (and grown up boys we call men) who do the crazy things.

      I sure hope things leveled out after Wally grew up and got married, etc.

      Voted up and all across. Sharing with my followers.

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      Shyron E Shenko 4 years ago from Texas

      Thank you Davika (DDE) It never occured to me that all these things happened to me until I started to write them down and like I said to my friend Au fait, I thought it would be 1, maybe 2 chapters, now I think it could be 4 or 5.

      Thank you for your kind words also.

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      Shyron E Shenko 4 years ago from Texas

      Thank you Au fait, for sharing this again, it is appreciated.

      I hope that no one has this many accidents, and the worst is yet to come. I did not when I started writing this it would be one chapter, maybe two, now I think there maybe 4 or 5.

      I am proud to call you my friend also.

      I hope all is well with you, I hope you have an uneventful day at work.

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      Devika Primić 4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Chapter 2, How to Survive Accident-Prone Children? How do your Children Survive being Accident-Prone I looked forward to this chapter such a courageous person and being able to cope with such challenged journey, you are strong person inside and out to be able to go through so much and even write about it I take my hat off to you and I wish you best of luck.

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      C E Clark 4 years ago from North Texas

      Want to share this again with my followers. I hope everyone reads this and thinks about it on one of those days when things aren't going to well. If nothing else it can help people to realize that 'stuff' happens to everyone sometimes, and no one is immune. This article can help people realize too, that things could be a lot worse.

      Agree with Longtimemother -- it takes a strong person to get through things like you have written about. Sounds like you inherited some of your mother's toughness and that's good. I admire you both and I'm proud to call you friend.

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      Shyron E Shenko 4 years ago from Texas

      Thank you LongTimeMother, for your comment and compliment. I appreciate you stopping by.

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      Shyron E Shenko 4 years ago from Texas

      Thank you Nell for you comment, up votes and sharing, I really appreciate you my friend.

      Shy

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      Shyron E Shenko 4 years ago from Texas

      Thank you Nell for you comment, up votes and sharing, I really appreciate you my friend.

      Shy

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      LongTimeMother 4 years ago from Australia

      Oh, Shyron. What a woman you must be, coping with all those events. I admire your strength. :)

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      Nell Rose 4 years ago from England

      Hi Shyron, what a day! I always say its like juggling eggs, you put one down for a moment and the next second the other one nearly cracks! fascinating read, voted and shared! nell

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      Shyron E Shenko 4 years ago from Texas

      Thank you Au fait, for you for reading, commenting, up-votes, pinning and sharing.

      I don't know about which is easier, I only had the two boys, no girls to compare. But I would think, if you have a boy, you worry about that little boy, and if you have a little girl, you worry about all the little boys.

      Again, thank you for all that you do and most of all for your friendship. As Maureen says you are a treasure.

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      C E Clark 4 years ago from North Texas

      What a time you had all in that one day!

      My late husband said girls are easier to raise than boys -- he was one of 3 boys in his family. He said boys are always doing things like you have described above. I know one of his brothers decided he could fly and jumped from a second story balcony on their house to the ground -- trouble is, he forgot to think about where he would land and impaled himself on a 4' steel rod sticking up out of the round. Luck was with him and somehow no important organs were damaged -- he even fathered 2 children after he grew up.

      Voted up, interesting, and awesome! Pinned to my 'Children' board and will share!

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      CraftytotheCore 4 years ago

      I find your stories so fascinating. I can relate a lot. It's amazing what we go through. I am also divorced and was a single mother for some time. I don't know how I got through everything before meeting my current husband.