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Father and Son Relationships II

Updated on January 13, 2012

In part I, we discussed “the father” perspective of the relationship. Here we carry on with “the son” perspective.

As we see in a Father and Son relationship as time moves on, the responsibility and core curve shifts towards the son.

A son to a father is a child born to make him proud. His achievements become his fathers and so are the accolades he receives. The father does a lot for his son, in many ways and as a consequence of human nature, he expects. These are not just mere expectations; they have an entirely different aspect.

He expects him to surpass his success

Every father’s biggest dream is to see his son go past himself in the walks of life. It may not be the same stream as his dad’s, he should surpass the standards in the decisions he makes for himself.

He expects him to stay in touch with him

Love of a father for his son is limitless. When adulthood arrives and the son moves outside into the world his father is scared for him. The son should not forget his old man after at any point in his life. Whether near or far away, he should remain in touch with him. A simple phone call can do the magic.

He expects him in times of utter need and despair

There are delicate times in an old man’s life when he expects his son to step in and help. As a son one should understand and be aware of such moments and be there in the time of need. Ignorance from a son can be seriously saddening for the father as he relies on him from mind and heart.

Expectation to move the family forward responsibly

Every father wants the name of his family to remain for long. He confides in his son to maintain the longevity of the family and be responsible for it after a certain age. The happiest moments for a father come when his lad says “Pa! Leave it to me… I will take care of it.”

The father expects his son to appreciate the bond between them and wishes the warmth to remain for eternity. The son carries the name of his father forward.

There is no material or proprietary expectation of a father from his son who must understand his role in taking care of his dad as he becomes a young man and his father grows old.

A father son relationship is very delicate and intriguing. The first half is nurtured by the father and the second half by the son.

Both of these people are two faces of a coin. The coin requires both of these faces to be rendered genuine. The relationship of these two revolves around responsibilities, love, care and warmth. The father lights the lamp for his son and in time the son carries the lamp forward for him.

As said by Marlon Brando in superman

“ the son becomes the father and the father becomes the son”


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      Jessee R 5 years ago from Gurgaon, India

      I can relate to your comment pooja! I have also not been close to my dad in terms of openness.. Our Traditional Indian cultures sometimes make us suffer such things.. but yet.. we know that they love us.. and I am sure you will stand for him in need,,,

      Great to hear about the bond between you and your mother... In my case too.. she is my best friend...knows every single thing about me..

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      Thank you for visiting

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      Jessee R 5 years ago from Gurgaon, India

      WOnderful to hear that Lot! Your dad must be proud of you !!

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      Jessee R 5 years ago from Gurgaon, India

      Hi Sush! I know... but being a child of wonderful parents, we should be mindful of our duties and love towards them.. isn't it :)

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      Jessee R 5 years ago from Gurgaon, India

      Thanks Shampa! It is very important indeed

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      Jessee R 5 years ago from Gurgaon, India

      Thanks Ishwaryaa! Sons should indeed be mindful of their duties towards their parents... In this modern world of nuclear families.. people tend to forget their parents and that seems utterly cruel to me

      Thank you for your kindness

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      poojasd7 5 years ago from India

      I have never been close to my dad and not having a brother, I can not relate quite literally to this hub. But, yes I can certainly relate to it with respect to mom and her daughter's relationship.

      Frankly, this hub has inspired me to write on my mom and my relationship with her. :-)

      Last but not the least, this hub triggers and brings forth that unexplained feeling of bond between a parent and his/her child. Loved it!

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      Lot Rillera 5 years ago from Philippines

      nice hub Rahul. I myself is a daddy's girl. I love my dad so much. I never argue with him because I know what He did for us is for our own sake. voted up and awesome.

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      Sushmita 5 years ago from Kolkata, India

      Not being a son, I cannot really feel it...like you. But can understand. You have chosen a wonderful subject Rahul. Very close to my heart too. Voted up , beautiful and sharing.

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      Shampa Sadhya 5 years ago from NEW DELHI, INDIA

      Voted up and beautiful!

      You have presented the son's perspective very nicely. It is a must for all the children to understand their parents after a certain age. Well written hub.

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      Ishwaryaa Dhandapani 5 years ago from Chennai, India

      A beautifully-written and sensible sequel to your engaging hub of the same name, this time, the "son" perspective. Sons should be grateful for what their fathers had done to them throughout their life and it is high time they repay by taking good care of their fathers in later life. Well-done, Rahul!

      Thanks for SHARING. Useful & Awesome. Voted up & Socially Shared

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      Jessee R 5 years ago from Gurgaon, India

      No Worries Musa Bhai... ! Chillax and smile :)

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      empire mike 5 years ago from empire, colorado

      sorry man - i meant "believing you ARE already on the right path"

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      Jessee R 5 years ago from Gurgaon, India

      No mike... I think very sincerely of your words and feel I am on the right path.... for me the right path is making efforts and not scramble for results and appreciating what good I see...

      Thanks Mike

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      empire mike 5 years ago from empire, colorado

      i said what i said believing that you are not already on the right path? do you believe otherwise?

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      Jessee R 5 years ago from Gurgaon, India

      Mike! You are absolutely correct! Your guidance is much needed and requested for and by me! I will need my Musa Bhai to assist me....

      Thank you

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      empire mike 5 years ago from empire, colorado

      ps: i believe that humility, not to be confused with self-deprecation, is a vital key to obtaining wisdom... and that too is a rare commodity found in any generation, but most likely more so in my country than in any other.

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      empire mike 5 years ago from empire, colorado

      there are always people more talented and wiser than all of us. however, at my age one discovers that wisdom is not an acquisition of entitlement based upon age, but must be learned and earned. there are many older adults whose wisdom has not increased since they were teenagers, and thankfully, some 22 year olds who have the wisdom of prophets. as far as respect is concerned, it too must be deserved- not given frivolously. surely you will only become more talented, wiser, and even more respected as you grow in years, but only if that is the path you choose. stay on that path, my friend.

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      Jessee R 5 years ago from Gurgaon, India

      Hi there Mike.. my Musa Bhai! I am 22 years old! And that is my real latest avatar....

      I am humbled by your kindness... I do not deserve such words of respect... You and some others are much more talented and hold much more wisdom than me

      Thank you for your kindness!!

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      empire mike 5 years ago from empire, colorado

      rahul, may i ask how old you are? your wisdom seems much more mature than the age reflected in your avatar. i enjoyed, with envy, both of your portrayals of ideal father/son relationships. i hope you have been fortunate enough to have enjoyed them by experience. very nice, my friend.

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      Jessee R 5 years ago from Gurgaon, India

      Words of wisdom Sir! Thanks for the kind feedback!

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      Rajan Singh Jolly 5 years ago from From Mumbai, presently in Jalandhar,INDIA.

      Well said, Rahul. The father and then the son sort of complete the full circle. And to maintain it the son has to do his share of work. Unfortunately, it's here that many sons falter. The circle breaks and everything goes haywire.

      I loved the way you approached both sides of the same coin. And I sincerely hope sons realize that the son of today is the father of tommorrow.

      Up all the way.

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      Namrata Sharan 5 years ago

      very true.its important that both father and son should understand each other.

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      Jessee R 5 years ago from Gurgaon, India

      thank you shalini..

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      shalini sharan 5 years ago from Delhi

      well said, every son should understand the needs of his father and should sipport him