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Father and Son Relationships II
In part I, we discussed “the father” perspective of the relationship. Here we carry on with “the son” perspective.
As we see in a Father and Son relationship as time moves on, the responsibility and core curve shifts towards the son.
A son to a father is a child born to make him proud. His achievements become his fathers and so are the accolades he receives. The father does a lot for his son, in many ways and as a consequence of human nature, he expects. These are not just mere expectations; they have an entirely different aspect.
He expects him to surpass his success
Every father’s biggest dream is to see his son go past himself in the walks of life. It may not be the same stream as his dad’s, he should surpass the standards in the decisions he makes for himself.
He expects him to stay in touch with him
Love of a father for his son is limitless. When adulthood arrives and the son moves outside into the world his father is scared for him. The son should not forget his old man after at any point in his life. Whether near or far away, he should remain in touch with him. A simple phone call can do the magic.
He expects him in times of utter need and despair
There are delicate times in an old man’s life when he expects his son to step in and help. As a son one should understand and be aware of such moments and be there in the time of need. Ignorance from a son can be seriously saddening for the father as he relies on him from mind and heart.
Expectation to move the family forward responsibly
Every father wants the name of his family to remain for long. He confides in his son to maintain the longevity of the family and be responsible for it after a certain age. The happiest moments for a father come when his lad says “Pa! Leave it to me… I will take care of it.”
The father expects his son to appreciate the bond between them and wishes the warmth to remain for eternity. The son carries the name of his father forward.
There is no material or proprietary expectation of a father from his son who must understand his role in taking care of his dad as he becomes a young man and his father grows old.
A father son relationship is very delicate and intriguing. The first half is nurtured by the father and the second half by the son.
Both of these people are two faces of a coin. The coin requires both of these faces to be rendered genuine. The relationship of these two revolves around responsibilities, love, care and warmth. The father lights the lamp for his son and in time the son carries the lamp forward for him.
As said by Marlon Brando in superman
“ the son becomes the father and the father becomes the son”