- Family and Parenting
Lost A True Love, Secret Hopes Of Finding Them On Line?
I Wonder Where You Are.
Will You Still Recognize Me? I Put All My Names.
When you first learned about MySpace(™), Facebook(™), and other social media sites, what was your first goal?
- Reach Out to Famous People?
- Play Games?
- Find Lost Lovers And Friends?
- Fill That "Homesick" Spot In Your Heart?
Social media started with the younger kids and tweens. It was not long before nosy and concerned parents began to do some investigation into these websites where their children spent so much time.
A big lure to the younger generation, was the free and low cost games that could be played with opponents world wide.
It took several years for the parent's generation to become involved as well on sites such as Facebook. As the new Facebook users got older, the first users sort of moved on to other things such as Instagram(™) and Tumbler(™).
Strangers become friends, or sometimes they may be family. Do you have that hunger down in your gut sometimes, feeling homesick, for what you don't even know?
Involvement in social media, is reaching out to others. Can a stranger or strange place fill that void? Will going "back home," be the dream of your expectation? Who do you want to find you?
Grandma's High School Reunion - Class of 1930
The process of evolution in social media outreach and life impacts (Joinson 2008)
The year your grandmother graduated from High School; 1930, the song "Happy Days Are Here Again," by Ben Selvin and the Crooners was the number one hit.
Think of the songs of your youth, or today, which have memories attached to them. Some songs can make me cry, simply because of the memory of a person I loved, who loved the same song.
Parents and educators who started to find social benefits of Facebook, also stumbled onto friends of friends of their older and aging parents, who were often lonely.
It was a natural to get grandma and grandpa connected to family far and wide, on the web. When the elderly started joining the social networking sites, they began to re-connect to long lost loves.
The internet has made a way for many elderly to find a reason to live. Feeling depressed, and burdensome to their families. They long to sit with a lover, listening to "Happy Days Are Here Again," both sharing the same smiles, and memories. Life becomes vital and exciting.
Grandma Wore An Orchid On Her Wrist
Happy Days are Here Again, by Ben Selvin and the Crooners
Foster Children, Homeless, and Refugees
Perhaps those who have had healthy homes, and stable families consider the same things, but I can only speak from my own experience as child who grew up without a stable and loving environment.
There is so much loss when related human beings are separated because of violence or just carelessness. The few possessions of a homeless child, or grown person can take on greater value than is reasonable, but they feel some connection through these things.
How much more, as a person ages, would they want to re-connect with lost love and affection? Is this need to make good human contacts, going to really latch us to some past negligent guardian? Will children who were tossed out like bad garbage, locate loving relatives, who have waited patiently for some word from us?
We hope for love. We need love and acceptance to be really human.
My First Social Media Experiment
The first social media site I messed with was MySpace. There were a lot of fakes and hacks. It was more for connecting with music, and musicians.
Next, for me was Yahoo Answers. The site was smart and fun. I connected with a lot of like-minded people. There were actual famous people who did reach out to commoners, and it was a chance to become an "expert," in such things as pet care, cooking, or dating.
I am now a member of many websites, I have Klout, and am semi-famous on the social media scene.
At first, I kept my Facebook site very secure. The only people who could find me, were invited, then I played games, and started meeting like-minded individuals (or alleged). The division of groups, and games, environmental and conservation groups makes it fairly easy to connect to those who you have a lot in common with.
Yes, I Have Always Hoped We Would Connect
Yes, I Had Always Hoped To Re-Connect With You...
I am running out of time. Recently, I have passed the "discount" age of fifty-five.
On a typical week, I spend forty hours on the computer. There are a few games I am addicted to, there are several handfuls of "friends" I check on daily, and after nine years on-line, and involved in social media; I really hope to reconnect with someone I have loved, and who loves me.
The eternal Cinderella story, even wants to play out on our social medial lives. I have witnessed two facebook friends, hook up, and get married, plenty of break-ups, and we hear stories of how old friends reconnected after the death of their spouses.
Honestly, it is a deep desire to have someone want to reach across time and miles, to communicate, reach out, and hopefully add a happy and fulfilling chapter to the "rest of our lives."
Like hens teeth, the odds of this happening may be monumental, but if this is what you wish for, I hope your dream comes true.
Cited Works From Google Scholar
- Cambridge Journals Online - Ageing & Society - Abstract - Preventing social isolation and loneli
MIMA CATTAN, MARTIN WHITE, JOHN BOND and ALISON LEARMOUTH (2005). Preventing social isolation & loneliness among older people: a systematic review of health promotion interventions. Ageing and Society, 25, pp 41-67. doi:10.1017/S0144686X04002594.
- Looking at, looking up or keeping up with people?
Adam N. Joinson. 2008. Looking at, looking up or keeping up with people?: motives and use of facebook. In Proceedings of the SIGCHI Conference on Human Factors in Computing Systems (CHI '08). ACM, New York, NY, USA, 1027-1036. DOI=10.1145/1357054.135
© 2014 Lori J Latimer