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How to Make Small Talk with Anyone
Small talk can be Jaw Breaking or Nerve-wrecking
Small Talk is easy if you choose to get out of your shell
During my childhood years my shyness kept me from talking to anyone.
I knew or the visitors we had over for meals remember feeling very shy to talk to people.
My dad often invited a few co-workers over to our home.
Friends often came by on weekends and my mother would prepare great meals for everyone.
The women would chat to my mother while she cooked and the men would have good laughs with my dad.
Everyone except me looked forward to meeting these people visiting us.
Couples would come by and enjoy the day with drinks and meals and good conversations while i could not bare to be around people for a long period.
I did not like being around people, I was always shy, and my dad would call me many times to come out to the living room to greet our visitors.
I took forever to get out of my room just to say, ''hello,'' was such an issue for me.
My room was my cover up place to be at.
Talking to people and making simple conversations was my biggest obstacle. I did not know how to start a conversation.
Now when I look at how I have become it so hard to believe that my new life has really changed me around.
I gained confidence and feel so good to mingle with people.
I was not outspoken person.
How can I be confident and outspoken?
Interesting isn't it?
My parents often praised me with great comments but my shyness lived with me for a long time.
I was never sure of what to say or when to say it.
I feared the silence I developed over time and had to get away from that being.
Small talk for me was like lifting a load of baggage and that was my biggest fear of how would I get over it.
At functions I would be silent and watch everyone else having a good time.
While I sat there and thought of how to get out there and do the same. A simple introduction would make me hide away.
I have been to a few job interviews and may be my nervousness caused me not to get those jobs. On each interview I would be nervous, and was not sure of how to approach the answers with great confidence.
I did not have much time dating. When I did go on a date even that did not go as well. My small talk was always stunned and I always felt so speechless.
People have their own conversation skills and not everyone behaves in the same way.
I felt like an introvert and communication with strangers didn't go well by myself.
All I could think of was when will that moment be over.
The small talks can be so simple and yet for me it felt so difficult.
How can you find small talk easy and with anyone?
A great way to start small is to try find what you have in common before you get to bigger talks.
When meeting a person for the first time , it is normal to feel like you don't have anything to say, but don't turn them off.
A quick ‘‘hello,’’ and a brief conversation about the weather can make you feel good, and from there you can keep talking with great concern.
Someone has to get going with conversation standing there and looking at each other or around you in silence is not going to keep you together.
You can keep the conversations flowing freely and naturally.
Don't get uptight and look around to leave . If you do that then this situation will be an ongoing performance.
Be able to listen to what the other person has to say and communicate with a free mind.
If you pick out the conversations and show interest in what the person has mentioned, you are getting somewhere.
You will notice if the other person is feeling uncomfortable while talking to you. Their body language shows you such attention. Focus on what is approachable.
Change the conversation and make amends.
Some people enjoy simple conversations about families or careers. Topics of debate can be argumentative, you don't want to go there and dig up some debate that would ruin your small talk.
Be sensible, talk about gardening, children or about your hair.
The small talk requires eye contact and engaging in conversation truly with proper focus to keep that conversation going and interesting, is a way to go ahead.
Sometimes nonverbal communications shows you great interest in small talk.
Don't throw a tantrum and snap at the individual. Avoid misjudgment, and don't rush into conclusions. Also, don't get your mind overworked to make a point.
Open up and be confident with yourself. When you learn more about the other person you know what to talk about.
Sometimes argumentative topics can be a successful way to reach the other in good talks.
Strangers can open your mind to new avenues and valuable talks.
It is an enjoyable experience to meet new people.
Conversations become interesting when you make it.
Learn about the new culture of the stranger and slowly become friends with a broadened communication of the subject.
Know what is going on around the world and you can have something to talk about.
The main problem about small talk, is you got to know when to open your mouth to be conversational. Don't interrupt or be talkative to the point where the person gets annoyed with you.
Pouring out what you have on mind won't always impress that stranger and that can drive you away very fast.
Always share simple and easy conversations. Don't share any important information basic conversations are better than giving away our bank balance or other personal information to a stranger. You should know better.
A little bit of small talk each time allows you for more conversation each time you meet up.
You can come out with a new conversation daily, like talk about what you did for the day, your planned schedules, and of how you spent your day.
This can be a helpful way to get to know more people.
Keep in mind that people don't always agree with your every word.
It is not always easy to strengthen your social skills with a stranger. You can feel out of place and alone.
Some people enjoy talking to others and others find it hard to get out of their shells
You won't always want to share secrets with strangers but easy talks can be made with a great mind.
Don't over step boundaries and feel secure when you speak to people.
Respect each other’s secret and personal information and talk with a smile. Once you get to know that person they won't be a stranger to you. Maybe, a good your friendship can be.
Some people can ask a lot of questions, and some people can be most silent. The quick chats opens your heart and mind to new experiences.
I learned that after marriage and my shyness vanished after meeting many people I gained my self- confidence and moved on.
When I watched others go on and on in their conversations, I felt alone and distant from them. My new life gave to me. A way to open up and now I am most pleased with the way I handle my communication skills.
I make small talk with friendly people easily and it is a helpful way to manage my daily time. Small talk is easy for me and very interesting with the different people I meet on a daily basis.
I used to be concerned to talk to people, to start a simple conversation it was like a huge issue for me. Once I realized this is my life and no one is going to make it any better, I took full control of my life.
If I don't do anything for me then who would?
My courage grew back fast and allowed me to speak up. Whenever I felt like it and since then I have gained more confidence in myself.
The best starter conversations are as follows:
''It is a lovely sunny day.''
''How are you.''
''I have a great start to the day...''
''I have lots to do today.''
''I am going out for the day...''
''I like warm weather.''
''I have a new blender,..''
''I am taking my dog for a walk...''
''I spend time cleaning all day....''
''I like traveling...''
''I like eating chocolates...''
Compliment someone on their good deed, or on their cooking. Take conversations from there it can make a difference to you for small talk.
Be yourself and stop hiding and turning others away. social life is the best way to feel good about yourself.
There comes a time when you feel that you can do it, and you got to try to feel this way. If you don’t try you will never know.
People make mistakes all the time and the good thing about mistakes you can learn from it in the same way you can learn from small talks.
If you smile and meet different people you can catch their surprises and feel surprised yourself.
A good sense of humor makes many friends.
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