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Life for Stay at Home Mothers
Making the decision to leave the workplace and become a stay at home mom is not always an easy decision. It is also a decision that does not always have to be made right away. If you are deciding to become a stay at home mom just make sure that the decision is what will be best for both you and your family.
Should I leave the workplace?
Most new mothers struggle with the decision of whether or not they should return to work. Returning to work after your baby is born is a decision that is for you and your partner to make because you know what is best for your family. Do not let anyone make you feel bad about either route you decide to take because there is no right or wrong answer!
If you can not financially afford to leave work right now to be a stay at home mother do not get discourage because you can make the decision later on when your financial situation is more stable. I did not become a full-time stay at home mother until my last child was born because we were not able to afford me being off of work until then.
Are you a stay at home mother?
A Day in the Life of a Stay at Home Mother
Being a stay at home mother is not always fun and games, although many people outside of the home really believe that to be true. It is a lot of work staying home full-time to raise your children. You will be with your children 24 hours a day, 7 days a week, and 365 days a year and believe me it is equivalent to 25+ jobs of one regular working person.
All of your time at home is devoted to raising your children and running your household. This can be quite a task especially when you have more than one child. But even though it is a lot of work it is a very rewarding experience!
A typical day for me consists of getting the kids up, feeding them breakfast, refereeing them during their hourly arguments, and playing, and that is just in the morning hours. Then comes lunch, picking up a trail of toys, doing laundry, going shopping, making dinner, going to sports activities, and so on. Then as the day winds down I have to get everyone washed up, help pick up toys, make them a bedtime snack, send them up to brush their teeth, and finally tuck them into bed. Once all the kids are sleeping I then finish up all my chores that I didn't get to accomplish during the day. Finally bed for me and then we wake up and do it all over again. I would not trade it for anything in the world though!
Stay at Home Mothers and Socialization
Although the benefits out weigh the negatives there are still a few that can affect most stay at home mothers. A major one is the lack of socialization with other adults. Because you are home taking care of your children all day it is sometimes hard to find time to get out to spend time with other adults. Even though you are surround by people who love you it can still feel very lonely especially when your child is young and not much for conversation. But don't let this discourage you because you can join different activities with your child and it can benefit both of you by giving you outside socialization and interaction with other people and children.
As you children grow and make friends of their own you can also find yourself making new friends with their parents. This is especially helpful because it can give you a support group of other people who know how you are feeling at different times.
Duties of a Stay at Home Mother
When you are a stay at home mother you become a:
- personal chef
- laundry service
- plus many more...
But being home with your child and giving them the proper care and attention is the greatest job in the world and I wouldn't have it any other way! So if you ask me, if you can financially afford to stay home with your child, I would tell you to do it in a heartbeat!!