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Momma Did You Know? A Moment with Bill Reflection

Updated on December 30, 2014

From the Womb to Your Heart

For nine months you carried the spawn of love inside you. She announced her presence early on, kicking, reaching, battering the protective shield with a force that belied her size. You fantasized, prophesized, chastised and realized during those long, sleepless nights and restless days of discomfort.

Were you ready for parenthood? Did you have what it takes? How will you ever know, ever fully be prepared, for the crushing weight of responsibility once those nine months end and the cold, hard slap of reality comes crashing down upon you? The doubts, the concerns, the recriminations, all valid and all nonsense, for truth only arrives once the afterbirth is washed away and you hold her in your arms.

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INFANCY

Did you know she would be sick? The colic, the measles, the coughs and fevers, all attacking her frail body, all demanding her attention, and all strengthening her for the future. Her miseries are your miseries. Her sleeplessness is your sleeplessness. She holds on tight, this tiny bundle of whimsy, seeking comfort from your arms, nourishment from your breasts, and love from your touch.

She will drive you crazy, momma. There will be days when a straightjacket seems the only logical solution, and there will be nights when salvation will be found in a few stolen moments of semi-consciousness, but just when you think you can’t take it a moment longer, she will smile at you, reach out a tiny hand and touch your face, and your heart will melt for the thousandth time with more to come.

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CHILDHOOD

Did you know about the skinned knees and elbows? Did you know of the unseen dangers lurking in every corner of the house, behind every tree in the yard, and inside every cupboard and cabinet? Her inquisitiveness will be her greatest enemy at that young age. Her desire to test the limits, stretch the un-stretchable, and bumble her way through any obstacle may well be her undoing, but how can a parent protect against natural inclinations?

And that’s really what those first few years are all about….protecting her from harm….and what a thankless and infinite job that is. Don’t turn your head for a moment; don’t avert your eyes or become distracted, because it only takes a couple precious moments for her world, and your world, to come tumbling down.

But then she will smile at you, reach out a tiny hand and touch your face, and your heart will melt once again.

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TEEN

Did you know just how miserable those teen years would be? Surely you remembered your own: the diminished self-esteem, the constant battling with self-doubt, and the river of tears that accompanied each year from thirteen to twenty.

Did you remember how painful that first love could be? Did you recall the hours in front of the mirror, wishing the nose was perfect, hoping the hair would straighten, wondering if beauty would ever camp outside the door? Despite all your proclamations that she is perfect just the way she is, you know few of those words are heard or internalized, for once she leaves home in the morning she is bombarded by standards of perfection….the perfect clothes, the perfect body, the perfect image, and it is all so silly and yet all so real to your daughter.

Did you know she would become willful? Did you know she would consider your opinion practically worthless, and seek comfort in peers and possessions? Could you possibly foresee the day when she refused you, mocked you, and said that she hated you?

But then she will smile at you, reach out her hand and touch your face, and your heart will melt once again.

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ADULT

Did you know she will break hearts….man after man, suitor after suitor, all in search of the perfect one? You’ll want so badly to guide her, counsel her, save her the hours of sleepless nights as she mends her own broken heart, but you won’t, you can’t, because some lessons just have to be learned the hard way, tear after tear, cry after cry, until Mr. Perfect sweeps her off her feet and your worst horror is realized…she leaves home, starts her own home, and the legacy is continued.

Did you know she would struggle with bad bosses, bad neighbors, and just plain bad people? Did you know she would spend decades fighting the good fight, rising one rung at a time up that ladder of life, only to fall time and time again? Did you know that at your age she would have the same struggles that you have had?

Did you know that when your days are numbered, and you are taking your last breath, that she will sit by your side, smile at you, reach out her hand and touch your face, and your heart will melt once again as she says “I love you, Momma?”

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Old Age

Did you know that the day will come when that baby child of yours will hobble where once she ran and danced? Did you know that infirmity will caress her aged body, and pain will be her constant companion?

Did you know that she will struggle with her memory and find it hard, at times, to recall the wonders of her lifetime, and did you know that her child, her lovely child, will sit with her during those final years, and smile at her, and reach out her hand and touch her face, and the melting will happen once again?

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Momma Did You Know?

Did you know all that when you decided to conceive? Did you sense the magnitude of that decision? Were you aware of the pain to come? The miseries, the tears, and the anguish?

I suspect you knew.

I suspect you simply didn’t care.

I suspect you, like all the mommas before you, embraced the mystery of it all. I suspect you picked up the die of life, rolled them around in your hand, and tossed them loose, hoping against snake eyes and prepared should they fall.

I suspect you know, should snake eyes fall, that you had the perfect defense. I suspect you knew the secret long before that bundle of magic burst forth, and when she finally had come into this world, you looked into her eyes, held her tiny hand, and whispered the secret to your daughter.

“I love you.”

2014 William D. Holland (aka billybuc)

This essay was inspired by a song called “Mary Did You Know,” my favorite Christmas song. I hope you enjoyed my interpretation. Dedicated to my friend Mary.

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      Bill Holland 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you, Liza. I'm so glad you enjoyed this.

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      Liza Treadwell Esq aka Liza Lugo JD 2 years ago from New York, NY

      Thanks, Bill. This is beautiful. Definitely an ode to the highs and lows of parenting. Bravo!

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      Bill Holland 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Pinoy, I wish that for your children as well. Thank you and bless you always.

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      Shiela Gerona 2 years ago from Philippines

      You cited the joys and sorrows of motherhood. I don't know what tomorrow would bring in my little kids' life but I wish that they would remember my love for them. I wish that they would always wear kindness and humility in their everyday life.

      Good to read your masterpiece!

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      Bill Holland 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you Deb. Life really is quite simple and yet profound.

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      Deb Hirt 2 years ago from Stillwater, OK

      The reflection is profound, yet the simplest story of life. I salute you, for your meaning and interpretation is crystal clear.

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      Bill Holland 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Hermann Hesse indeed. Thank you, Manatita, for the comparison.

      Blessings to you and yes, Bev is great.

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      manatita44 2 years ago from london

      Re-visiting your work. Reads like the song, all right. A 'cool' look at the reality and or vicissitudes of life. Hermann Hesse, yes. Most of us have read this one. A classic!

      Bev sounds great! More peace, Bro.

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      Bill Holland 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Flourish, my dad used to say...."teenagers, you can't shoot 'em, ya gotta love 'em." LOL You know what he was talking about.

      Thank you!

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      FlourishAnyway 2 years ago from USA

      I waxed nostalgic this morning while taking my daughter to school, telling her how proud I was of her. She eye-rolled then slid on her backpack, as she said, "Oh God. See ya at 4." Then she slammed the car door. Teenagers.

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      Bill Holland 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

      They really are, vkwok. I hope your dream comes true one day.

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      Victor W. Kwok 2 years ago from Hawaii

      Children are such blessed miracles, and I hope to have my own one day.

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      Bill Holland 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Anna, luckily and happily, I don't know any parent who thinks otherwise. Thank you and best wishes as you continue on the journey.

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      Anna Haven 2 years ago from Scotland

      I am merely on the first stretch on the circuit and nowhere near the worry of adult children finding their way in the world yet.

      As you so eloquently said - long hours with an incredible amount of energy and patience needed and absolutely worth every second of it.

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      Bill Holland 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you so much, Mike. Happy New Year to you.

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      Bill Holland 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you so much, Jo. I still have my doubts about being a poet, but I'll gladly take the praise. Thank you for sharing the story of your nephew. They do have a way of warming our hearts, don't they?

      blessings always

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      Bill Holland 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Graham, I'm one of those people, but I still have time to appreciate it. Thank you for the visit and Happy New Year to you.

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      Bill Holland 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you Dip Mtra! That sums it up nicely.

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      Mr Archer 2 years ago from Missouri

      Simply beautiful Bill. Beautiful.

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      Jo Alexis-Hagues 2 years ago from Bedfordshire, U.K

      Poetic and very moving. Just before Christmas I visited my little great nephew Gabriel, the poor little mite had bronchiolitis, he was chesty and still rather unwell. I was experiencing a touch of pre-christmas blues, I picked up Gabriel, he looked at me and the most wonderful smile rippled across his beautiful face. Instantly I felt my mood lifted, that smile was more effective than the strongest mood enhanser. Mary knew that the good days would far out-weigh the bad. This was beautifully done and very moving from a hell of a poet. :)

      My best to you.

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      Graham Lee 2 years ago from Lancashire. England.

      Hi Bill. Tip top. Your message is so true. Unfortunately so many of us miss this fact throughout our lives, only realising it in later life when it may be to late. Well done .

      Graham.

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      Dip Mtra 2 years ago from World Citizen

      Nice writing Bill. The journey of life in a single page.

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      Bill Holland 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Jaye, if I made you cry, then my work as a writer is done. :) Thank you for your kind words. They mean a great deal to me.

      bill

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      Jaye Denman 2 years ago from Deep South, USA

      Bill, this one's so beautiful it made me cry, but everything you wrote is true...as we mommas (and papas) know. We would certainly do it again.

      Voted Up, Awesome and Beautiful/Shared

      Jaye

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      Bill Holland 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you Genna! I'm so happy the mothers out there could relate and find beauty in this. Timeless? I hope so! Happy New Year to you, kind lady.

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      Bill Holland 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you Alicia, and Happy New Year to you.

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      Genna East 2 years ago from Massachusetts, USA

      Ohhh, I loved this, Bill. Especially the teen years: Those 18-24 months when you are no longer are an intelligent, sentient person in their eyes, and that this intelligence is somehow magically restored when this teen reaches the age of 19 or 20. And like the song says, how many times did you ask, “why can’t they be like we were…perfect in every way?” Or, “if you want them to do anything, just say, ‘no’.” When my son was born, I looked down at him and thought, “I know you and I don’t know…but I would throw myself in front of a train for you.” And this love never ends. Little did we know. Beautiful, timeless article, Bill. Voted up and much more, and shared. Happy New Year! :-)

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      Linda Crampton 2 years ago from British Columbia, Canada

      This is a very lovely piece of writing, Bill. I sure it will be especially meaningful to many mothers! Happy New Year and best wishes for 2015.

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      Bill Holland 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Linda, you have been blessed, and I'm sure your children would say the same thing. Thank you and Happy New Year.

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      Bill Holland 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you so much, Maj! I wanted to pay tribute to all mothers, and from the reaction I guess I succeeded. Happy New Year to you as well.

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      Linda Bilyeu 2 years ago from Orlando, FL

      Yes, I did know. I was fully aware of the ups and downs of mommyhood since I was an aunt for the first time at 8 years old. But all I wanted was to be a mom and then a grandmom...I am blessed. It's been quite a ride! All the best for 2015! :)

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      travmaj 2 years ago from australia

      Just perfect Bill, a lifetime of love, patience, understanding. The tough times watching them walk away with their own dreams - knowing/hoping they will succeed and knowing, whatever, you'll still be there. And they know it too. Best wishes for 2015 - Maj

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      Bill Holland 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you Mary. That may be the highest praise you could give me for this essay. Happy New Year dear friend.

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      Mary Craig 2 years ago from New York

      My favorite Christmas song as well. It is such a moving song in the true spirit of Christmas and motherhood!

      Yes, Momma knows but Momma loves and shares that love sometimes doing it over and over again. The love overcomes the pain and the fear Momma faces daily. If I didn't know better, after reading this I would think you were a mother!

      Voted up, awesome, beautiful, and interesting.

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      Bill Holland 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Iris, thank you dear friend. Losing two in a couple months is hard. Hang in there, stiff upper lip....you have done a good job, Iris. There is no doubt of that. :)

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      Bill Holland 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you Maria! I think we can all relate to this piece. That was my wish.

      Happy New Year dear friend.

      love,

      bill

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      Bill Holland 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you John! Coming from you that is high praise indeed, and I am grateful. Happy New Year, my friend.

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      Bill Holland 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Venkatachari M, thank you for the high praise. You have made this writer very happy.

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      Cristen Iris 2 years ago from Boise, Idaho

      This is, simply put, beautiful. You spoke right to this mamma's heart. Both of my children will leave Boise in a few short months, off to pursue their dreams. I am so proud and so excited for them. I know that every scrape and bruise I nursed and that they recovered from will strengthen and empower them in their adult lives. And I sincerely hope that as they grow old and infirm that they bare scar of other incidents and accidents because those are the things that remind us that we stretched ourselves, found our boundaries and exceeded them, and that we really and truly lived. You summed up parenthood perfectly. And I have always loved that song. Voted up, beautiful, etc., etc.

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      Maria Jordan 2 years ago from Jeffersonville PA

      Dedicated to beautiful Mary but universal to all mothers for sure...I thought of my own sweet Momma with misty eyes as I read this one.

      Loved it...so inspirational. Happy new years', dear Bill Love, Maria

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      John Hansen 2 years ago from Queensland Australia

      A beautiful article about motherhood and womanhood in general . A wonderfully touching write Bill.

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      Venkatachari M 2 years ago from Hyderabad, India

      It's great!!! Awesome hub. You have done it so mesmerisingly. It's a great tribute to womanhood. I find no words to express my feelings.

      Thanks for presenting such a great work. Voted up and awesome and beautiful. I will share it on facebook and G+ also.

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      Bill Holland 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Michael my friend, as always, a very insightful and meaningful comment. Thank you for taking the time to read my work and leave your views.

      Good night to you, and Happy New Year to you and your family.

      blessings always

      bill

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      Michael-Milec 2 years ago

      What a perfect roll-call for all married men as well for the fathers to be. Sounds weird though, however a question " were you ready for parenthood" lead me to rediscover the role of a man during those stages of life and love, as all needed support assigned to him by the Creator back there in the Garden.

      Voted up and interesting, very useful.

      Good night my friend .

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      Bill Holland 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Mary, thank you....thank you! As the mother of four daughters, you deserve this piece. I'll dedicate it to you. :)

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      Bill Holland 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you very much, Dora. I'm just giving back to the mothers who have meant so much to me.

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      Mary Hyatt 2 years ago from Florida

      As the Mother of four daughters, I can really relate to this beautiful piece you wrote. No, I didn't know, but if I had I still would have done it all over again! My children have made my life complete.

      I can't begin to tell you how much your thoughts and words are appreciated.

      Voted UP, etc.

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      Dora Weithers 2 years ago from The Caribbean

      Yes, I thoroughly enjoyed your interpretation. All mommas, young and old, can benefit from these reflections. Voted Up!

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      Bill Holland 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you Pop...I appreciate your kind words. Happy New Year to you my rabble-rousing friend.

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      Bill Holland 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

      I'm glad to hear that, beta...thank you for sharing that.

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      Bill Holland 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you, Ann! I think we all need to experience some successes this coming year....a little pat on the head from the writing gods would be nice.

      And a very Happy New Year to you!

      bill

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      Bill Holland 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you for your thoughts, Martie. You always leave me with something to think about, and I appreciate that. Happy New Year to you, my friend.

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      breakfastpop 2 years ago

      I knew and I would do it all over again. This piece was beyond beautiful. Happy New Year Billy.... Voted up, awesome, and beautiful.

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      beta5909 2 years ago

      You're welcome billybuc. But it was your writing that touched my heart and made me want to take a chance, in a new setting, and share a feeling I had on my heart; you see someone close to me died recently and you hit a spot that needed release. I thank you. Your messages inspire.

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      Ann Carr 2 years ago from SW England

      Me too! I wish you everything you wish for yourself for 2015 and beyond. Here's to us and to all the hubbers we support and who support us.

      Happy New Year, bill!

      Ann

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      Martie Coetser 2 years ago from South Africa

      Experience taught me over and over again that I know and even understand many things without having the slightest idea what the reality of it will be and feel like. Living with the consequences of our actions is not at all the same than foreseeing and/or expecting it. But yes, LOVE gives us the power to handle all the ups and downs as they come, and eventually love also helps us to come to terms with the bad and treasure the good.

      Very thought-provoking hub especially at this time of the year. Thank you, Bill :)

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      Bill Holland 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Ann, thank you! How do I know? No clue! Empathy is a wonderful thing, even when it magically appears from zero experience.

      Blessings to you as 2014 fades from view. 2015 is going to be an extraordinary and brilliant year for us both. I feel it.

      bill

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      Bill Holland 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you so much, DDE!

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      Ann Carr 2 years ago from SW England

      How do you know how to get into a mother's heart so well?! This is guaranteed to make any mother cry. The cycle of life is so well portrayed within the cycle of your words. Beautiful! Absolutely beautiful.

      I was thinking of my little girl as I read, of her little girl and her teenager, of my mother and down through me, daughter and granddaughter.

      The joys and pains are inevitable and still life goes on and life is wonderful. Your use of the refrain is compelling.

      Truly wonderful, bill.

      Ann

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      Devika Primić 2 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      Great words from you and with such care. Happy Holidays!

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      Bill Holland 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Jamie, thank you very much. Every once in a while I can still deliver. :) Happy New Year to you and your family.

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      Bill Holland 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Kindred, seriously, thank you. I have felt, of late, like I was losing my touch. Your comment helped me greatly.

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      Bill Holland 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Sis, that sobbing is music to this writer's ears. Thank you dear friend.

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      Bill Holland 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you, beta, for sharing those thoughts. I love how you described it.

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      Bill Holland 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Michael, I thank you sir. I really appreciate your kind words. Happy New Year to you and yours.

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      Bill Holland 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you, Linda, and I would agree with you. There is a special bond with motherhood....and I'm so happy I was able to capture that bond to your satisfaction.

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      Jamie Lee Hamann 2 years ago from Reno NV

      This is incredibly beautiful, honest, and sincere. Well done Bill, a work of art straight from your heart. Jamie

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      Linda Crist 2 years ago from Central Virginia

      WOW!!!!!! Just WOW!!!!!!! My new favorite!!!!!! You captured something magical in this one Kindred. Loved it!!!!!

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      Paula 2 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York

      Oh my goodness........sobbing.

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      beta5909 2 years ago

      What momma knew is that her daughter was "her" child and she cherished every smile and coo and yearned with all she knew, to soothe the cries and groans. The love she knew went straight from her heart and soul into her kisses, hugs and twinkling stares.

      Oh momma knew to enjoy each moment, and capture what was once the unknown. The pain that followed in long and short spurts, was part of that love bond that she had established.

      Yes she knew. No she didn't, when it hurt to much.

      Love was all she wanted and she got it in between the pings of pain in her heart.

      Thank you Billybuc for the reminder.

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      cleaner3 2 years ago from Pueblo, Colorado

      Awesome Bill... A great memory brought to the fore, of my own mother.. now at the end of another year...

      You are still the best Bill... have a great year in 2015.. all the best to you and your family..

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      Linda Lum 2 years ago from Washington State, USA

      I know that fathers love their children, but believe there is a special bond with mother and child. Many heartaches, sorrows, yearnings, grief but none stronger than the moments of joy. Would I do it again--in a heartbeat! Thank you for sharing your inspiration from a hymn that I truly love.

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      Bill Holland 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you Jackie! I don't think mothers get the credit they deserve, but I, for one, am most grateful.

      Blessings my friend, and Happy New Year to you and yours.

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      Bill Holland 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you Marlene. Beautiful is what I was shooting for. :) Happy New Year my friend.

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      Bill Holland 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

      PS, it is the gift that keeps on giving. God bless you mothers!

      blessings and hugs coming at you, and a whole bunch of thanks.

      bill

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      Jackie Lynnley 2 years ago from The Beautiful South

      I thought of "Mary did you know?" all the way down until you said it! One of my favorites too and I even did a hub and poem on it once.

      Absolute truth that many do not know or realize all you bring up until it happens. Sincere thoughts that can also make us smile from memories of it all. Great write as always. ^+

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      Marlene Bertrand 2 years ago from Northern California, USA

      I love this. It's absolutely beautiful.

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      Patricia Scott 2 years ago from sunny Florida

      I suspect sbe would not care as you said. No matter. We love them through the sick and the well, the happy and the sad, and the good and the bad. And that gift was passed to us from our Mommas. Voted up and share. G+

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      Bill Holland 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Ruby, I'm smiling because you are smiling. Thank you so much, dear friend, and Happy New Year to you.

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      Bill Holland 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Eric, God bless you for home schooling, but what in the world were you thinking????????? LOL Happy New Year, buddy.

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      Ruby Jean Fuller 2 years ago from Southern Illinois

      My heart melted with this wonderful piece of superb writing. Can you tell that I loved it? Smiling..

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      Eric Dierker 2 years ago from Spring Valley, CA. U.S.A.

      Wonderful hub. I am wondering about it all as we are struggling with letters this morning and holding the pencil straight. What was I thinking -- home schooling?

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      Bill Holland 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you so much, Eddy. I was hoping mothers could relate to my words. I appreciate it, dear friend.

      bill

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      Bill Holland 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you Zulma. Being a single parent helped me with perspective. Happy New Year my friend.

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      Eiddwen 2 years ago from Wales

      What a gem and yes I love your interpretation.

      You have captured the essence perfectly and I guess the hardest lesson of all to learn is that we cannot solve all of their problems ; there are many that they have to live through and learn to solve themselves.

      Truly beautiful and one to read and re read.

      Eddy.

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      Zulma Burgos-Dudgeon 2 years ago from United Kingdom

      Amazing. It's so rare to hear these words of understanding coming from a male voice. You really have looked at life from both sides now.

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      Bill Holland 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Sha, I actually agree with you. I am having a harder time being a parent now, with my son thirty, than I did as a single parent when he was twelve. Go figure!

      Thanks for sharing those thoughts and for your kind words.

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      Bill Holland 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

      DJ, it is my pleasure. If you enjoyed this then I've done my job, and that makes me happy.

      I remember all too well staying up late so I could strangle my son. LOL

      Thank you dear friend.

      bill

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      Rachael O'Halloran 2 years ago from United States

      Yes, I think Mothers "know" but wait to see if things comes to pass. The Dr. Spock and other baby books were nice novelties to read, but we didn't have the "by-the-book" type of children!

      We raised 5 children via SOP and we wouldn't have had it any other way. Each child was different and each had their own uniqueness. In the process, our children learned certain lessons that were also lessons learned for us as a couple. Looking back on it and knowing what was to come (good and bad), I would do it all over again.

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      Shauna L Bowling 2 years ago from Central Florida

      Bill, "Mary Did You Know?" is my favorite Christmas song, too. It brings tears to my eyes every time I hear it.

      This essay is beautiful. As I was reading it, I thought of my own experience as a mother. I also thought of what I've put on my mom over the years. I think parenting becomes more difficult as our children grow into adults. It's hard to watch them make mistakes. It's hard to see their heartache. It's hard to see them being mistreated. But then those moments of tremendous strength arise and mama's heart swells with pride.

      Very moving piece, my friend.

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      DJ Anderson 2 years ago

      One of my favorite songs, as well, Bill.

      You captured the essence of every mother's concerns. Most of us worry about our children long after they have become adults. I remember doing time, sitting on the front porch with our dog, waiting for car lights to come down the street. I prayed that God would bring him home safely, because I wanted to strangle the life out of him for keeping me up passed his curfew. Trace Adkins wrote and recorded, "Then They Do".

      It is a "must listen" to, type of song.

      Bill this is a beautiful tribute to mothers everywhere. Thank you for taking the time to understand mothers.

      DJ.

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      Bill Holland 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

      I love it, Larry. Toss out the books and wing it. I've been flying by the seat of my pants for decades, and I'm still functioning. :) Thanks my friend and Happy New Year.

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      Bill Holland 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Oh Carol, I love that idea. Who do I have to talk to to get that implemented? My goodness, the mistakes I could have avoided, and the joy I could have experienced.

      Thanks for bringing a smile to my face, and Happy New Year.

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      larry kitzmann 2 years ago

      As always my friend another beautiful and amazing piece of writing. My wife has her degrees in early childhood development and education, I have mine in education/social work. So yes we knew what the books said then our pediatrician said to us you really don't believe all that stuff do you. Out went the books in came some common sense lots of tears/laughs/joys/heartaches to this day. Wouldn't trade any of it. Have a great new and prosperous year my friend.

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      carol stanley 2 years ago from Arizona

      I loved this and your interpretation radiated just what life is all about. The cycle of life is very fleeting and sometimes I wish we could start backwards and work our way down to 20 and stop. And a wonderful New Year to you and all.

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      Bill Holland 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you Nell. I suspected that was the answer to the question. :) Happy New Year dear friend.

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      Nell Rose 2 years ago from England

      So very true Bill, and yes we mothers think of all these things before the baby arrives, and yes we don't care, we just want to see and hug, care and love, Have a wonderful New Year! nell

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      Bill Holland 2 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Thank you Janine. I think it is appropriate, and predictable, that you are the first to comment on this one. I know how much you love those girls of yours, and what a great mother you are.

      Happy Tuesday dear friend.

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      Janine Huldie 2 years ago from New York, New York

      Aww, this was quite beautiful and you are right as a mother myself I knew how crazy it would all be but didn't care and still don't, because I just adore my girls as they are mine and love them to pieces - they are mine always! Thanks Bill for sharing and wishing you a great day ahead now.