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The Plight of Indian Children
You gave birth to a little child, you brought it up with a lot of love and care, and you protected it from the world. You gave him or her, the strength to face the world, the strength to endure difficulties and a lot of support. Yet, you wouldn’t let them alone. You wouldn’t let them take any decision. You will influence, manipulate, blackmail and make him or her yield to you. If you do none of the above, then you are too strict and the poor kid has no say at all.
Very few parents are truly open with their children. Otherwise, they are suppressed and frustrated. Is this why you gave birth? Did you want him or her to be completely frustrated and suppressed? Don’t you care for their happiness?
You were a victim to society and its norms but the child is not unaware of these norms. You say that everything you do is for his or her, own good but your darling little baby is unhappy. You say you have seen more life than him or her. You yourself were suppressed and never allowed to speak your mind. You are doing the same thing to them.
What matters more to you than their happiness? You went through so much pain for his or her happiness. Why are you snatching it away now when the child has grown up? You fear for their safety but you yourself have given him or her, the strength and the smartness to face the world. Yet, you don’t trust yourself? And if you didn’t trust your own self, then what right do you have to bring another life into this world?
What do you gain out of mentally torturing them? When you yell at them, when you abuse them, when you hit them, when you threaten them, you scar them. They grow up with these scars. If you don’t have the sense to explain something to someone with logic and reason, why do you take responsibility?
You don’t let the children decide what to become in life and who to marry when you can’t even explain the simplest of things without violence. Why do you have the right to decide everything about their life?
P.S – This does not apply to everyone.