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Updated on March 2, 2017

How Do I Tell My Parents I Am Pregnant?

You have started to feel sick in the morning. You notice that you are late in your menstrual cycle. Now you begin to panic. What if I am pregnant? So many thoughts go through your head.

I wanted to go to college. I am only a teenager. I am not ready for a baby. All these thoughts go round and round until they finally settle on the most scary of all.

How on earth am I going to tell my parents? Quickly followed by, do I keep the baby? and what happens if I don't want to?


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Keep Calm

For the first couple of weeks you will try to keep it to yourself just in case you aren't really pregnant.

In fact you will probably try and ignore it hoping the whole thing will go away. And sometimes it does. It could be a false alarm.

But what if it isn't? This is the time to start taking note of your options. The first thing you mustn't do is panic.

It's a fact that if you start to worry about people's reactions, you will get yourself in such a state that you will make yourself ill.

There are many options you can take that will help you make the best choice for you and your baby. Whether you want to go on with the pregnancy or choose to terminate.

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Talk To Someone

I know its hard. The second I became pregnant the first thought that went through my head was, Oh no, now I have to tell my parents.

And you know what? It was fine, they moaned a little but in the end they loved my son as much as I do.

Of course each and everyone of us is different. You know your parents better than anyone else. If they are kind caring and loving then there won't be anything to worry about.

I understand that the reason why you are scared is not just because they will be shocked, but you feel embarrassed about the whole situation.

You have to remember first and foremost that your parents were young once too. They will understand.

They may get angry to start with, but believe me it won't be anger directed at you. It will be the situation that causes them to act this way. Give it a few minutes and they will calm down, and then they will take over and help you.

If you think that for some reason your parents are not the right people to tell, possibly because you are not close to them, or for other personal reasons then choose another adult to tell first. Let them be the intermediary.

Have you an aunt or uncle? Family friend? Anyone who you trust can be a great help to open the conversation.

If you are still at school choose a nice caring teacher. She or he will want to help.

If you really don't have any adults in your life that you feel will help you, then ask a friends mother to step in and help. They will find the right people to help you.

But just remember. This is the first step you must take before you do anything else. A few angry words are well worth having, compared to months of trying to sort it out on your own.

And don't be surprised if your parents are actually glad you told them. The will be proud of you, and help you as much as you need.

Just remember that mothers are there to protect their children. They love you unconditionally, the only thing you have to worry about is them smothering you with love!

What Do I Say?

Its all very well saying 'Tell your parents'. But what do I say?

Make sure you are not going to be disturbed. Early evening is best after eating your meal and before bedtime. You don't want to be interupted in mid conversation.

Take a deep breath and say the words. Mom I am pregnant or:

Mom, I need to tell you something. I think I am pregnant.

This will be the start of the conversation and all you have to do is answer whatever questions they ask of you.

First step over. Breath a sigh of relief. The worse part is done. Pat yourself on the back. Brave girl.

The one thing you have to remember above all else:

You are not the first to have this happen!

Thousands of girls every year go through the same trauma of telling their parents they are pregnant.

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Pregnancy Testing

By the time you tell your parents, you have probably done a preliminary pregnancy test via a home testing kit.

But to make sure that you are pregnant its a good idea to take another one with your family or friend as witness. It can be a frightening time, and you may have made a mistake with either result.

You can take your first pregnancy test on the first day of your missed period. But its a good idea to do another a couple of weeks later.

You may do these at home, or go to your GP and Family Planning Health clinic.

If your test proves positive then it will be correct. On the other hand if it is negative this may be an indication that it is too early on. Another one should be taken later as stated above.


I Am On My Own, What Should I Do?

If you are completely alone there are various options open to you. Get in touch with your local GP even if you are not registered. They will see you.

Or alternatively go along to your local Family Planning Health clinic. Where you can get advice on how to proceed with your pregnancy and other options.

There is always help out there if you need it. You will also find various options online so you don't have to worry.

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Pregnancy Options.

You will have three options you can take when finding out you are pregnant.

Just remember, it's better to tell someone early on in your pregnancy as leaving it until later will leave you with less options to choose from.

  • Continue the pregnancy and keep the baby.
  • Continue the pregnancy and place the baby up for adoption.
  • End the pregnancy with a termination.

Your options should be based on family circumstances as well as how you see your future.

  • Will I be able to continue with my future plans if I have the baby?
  • Am I ready to become a mother?
  • What am I hoping to achieve in the next five to ten years?
  • Can I incorporate a baby into my plans?
  • How do I feel about adoption?
  • If I have a termination will I regret it?
  • What does the father of the baby think about the situation?

The babies father should be told and his family consulted too. What does he feel about it?

You should make a time for both families to get together and discuss the options . A baby will affect the whole family not just you. But at the end of the day, it should be your choice over everyone else.

You are the person who is going to have to live with the decision. The Pregnancy Advisory Clinic will be there to help you too. Along with your GP.


So remember, you don't have to do this alone. There are many people out there who are ready and willing to help you.

So take that first step by telling your mom, friend or teacher. And just remember this doesn't have to be a stressful time. With a little patience and help you will find the choice you make will be right for you.

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For more information about teenage pregnancy and getting help click on the links below.


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      Nell Rose 4 years ago from England

      HI Keith, nice to see you, and thanks for reading, nell

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      KDuBarry03 4 years ago

      I've seen shows and read many articles about this touchy subject ever since high school. I'm not against teen pregnancy since it does happen more often than we think. Thank you for sharing a great and informative article, Nell! Definitely sharing this

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      Nell Rose 4 years ago from England

      Hi Ingenira, thanks so much, I do hope so, its such a scary time for teenagers when they find themselves in this predicament, nell

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      Eiddwen 4 years ago from Wales

      A brilliant hub as always Nell;each one so well informed and presented .

      A great big 'Up up and away' here for you my friend.

      Eddy.

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      Ingenira 4 years ago

      Well written, Nell. This hub will surely help many teenage girls, and worried moms.

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      Nell Rose 4 years ago from England

      Hi kitty, yes it does seem to be something thats on the increase or maybe we just hear about it more in the media etc, and no I am sure your daughter will be fine! lol! thanks so much, nell

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      Nicole Canfield 4 years ago from the Ether

      Nell, this is an awesome hub for teenagers in distress because of pregnancy. You're right, it is an increasingly common thing...though I hope it's died out of trending once my daughter is in her teens. Voted up, useful, and awesome.

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      Nell Rose 4 years ago from England

      Hi alocsin, yes of course, back then there was nothing to help young girls when they got pregnant, I am so glad there is much more info out there now, thanks as always, nell

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      Nell Rose 4 years ago from England

      Hi Jackie, yes I know what you mean! lol! these days girls act older, but they look so much younger too, but 21 is about right I think, mind you looking back we were so young!

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      Nell Rose 4 years ago from England

      Hi lyric, thanks so much, yes it can be devastating for families but as long as they all can sit down and work things out amicably hopefully it will turn out fine, glad you liked it and thanks, nell

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      alocsin 4 years ago from Orange County, CA

      I'm glad that this information is available now because I remember how many problems a cousin of mine had when she became a teen mother at 16, in the late 1970s. Voting this Up and Interesting.

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      Jackie Lynnley 4 years ago from The Beautiful South

      It does have to be so hard on young girls. Many think of them as women but we have been there and know better! I was twenty one before my first and that was too young. lol

      Some great advice Nell! ^

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      Richard Ricky Hale 4 years ago from West Virginia

      Nell, awesome article. I can see how this can be hard on someone. This is never easy, but it is important to try and find a way to cope with everything the best that you can. This type of thing can break couples up, even families. Very important tips Nell and another impressive article my dear. Nell, wishing you nothing but the best, take care.

      Voted up, useful, awesome, interesting, and shared.

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      Nell Rose 4 years ago from England

      Thanks tills!

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      Nell Rose 4 years ago from England

      Hi tills, yes it does sound very much like me, my family weren't so much religious but very old fashioned, everything in its place etc, and of course like you they ended up worshipping my son! lol! I would love to have carried on to be a counselor just have to find another night school to finish off the course, thanks so much, nell

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      Mary Craig 4 years ago from New York

      Oh Nell....we have more in common than we realize. I was 19, out of school and fortunately engaged but then I was also pregnant. My parents (and I) were devout Catholics and I was terrified of telling them. A close friend who happened to be a nun, kept urging me to tell them until I finally did. There were tears and there was disappointment but they supported me from the get go and loved my first born as much or more than any other grandparents. You have made me think back with this hub....but...you have also made such good points and given such sound advice. Effer is right, you should be a counselor. Don't give it up yet Nell...you can still do it!

      Voted up, useful, awesome, and interesting and shared with my followers.

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      Nell Rose 4 years ago from England

      I can imagine! I had one son but that was hard enough, but I loved every minute of it! lol! I think there's time for adults and kid time too, and my son used to not only make me laugh when he was little, he embarrassed me so many times too, deliberately! haha!

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      Abigayle Malchow 4 years ago from Ripon Wisconsin

      My favorite time of day really isn't when I go to classes with people at least legally an adult...19 year olds lol..but when my 10 year old Autistic son gets home because the stuff he says makes me laugh the most and I need that healthy dose of laughter everyday to get me going for one more since being a single mother of four wears you out

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      Nell Rose 4 years ago from England

      Hi abby, lol! I remember it well when my son was small, I loved talking to him but lack of adult conversation did get a much! mind you he was a lovely baby and made me laugh so much sometimes! kids have a great sense of humor!

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      Abigayle Malchow 4 years ago from Ripon Wisconsin

      Thanks for giving me something interesting to read and some intelligent coversation as I have three boys under the age of 13 so its I want..I need..and I don't want to all day long lol

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      Nell Rose 4 years ago from England

      Hi abby, thats a great idea! whatever is out there to help him should be tried if he is interested in it, good luck and thanks for coming back, nell

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      Abigayle Malchow 4 years ago from Ripon Wisconsin

      I have in regards to the specialists for everything under the son except the therapies like this...I have taken him to play therapy and he did well there. He is doing well so hasn't needed that for six months...but I found out last year that every specials class he only went to music and art. He is really talented artistically too...thinking I might have to see whats available.

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      Nell Rose 4 years ago from England

      Hi carter, thanks so much, I just tried to get into the mind of a young scared teen, looking back at my own life its not so hard to do. Admittedly I was a bit older, but I had only been going out with the guy for a couple of months so it was still pretty scary! lol! thanks again, nell

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      Nell Rose 4 years ago from England

      Hi abby, to be honest I don't think the age group changes much, even back in the 80s it was the same thing, its very rare for a kid of 14 to get pregnant, but the ratio probably stays stable over the years, but I may be wrong.

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      Mary 4 years ago from Cronulla NSW

      Loved this Nell, such an insightful look at the thoughts of a young girl facing an unplanned pregnancy...a warm and sensitive approach is exactly what's needed in such a scary & often overwhelming situation...

      lot's of votes & sharing...

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      Abigayle Malchow 4 years ago from Ripon Wisconsin

      Does anyone know the youngest girls are getting pregnant? What the average age is for kids to start having sex? I think it was 17 for boys having sex for the first time and 15 for girls when I was in high school but that was late 90s...just curious as I have a 13 year old son lol

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      Nell Rose 4 years ago from England

      Thanks christopher, yes I agree it does happen a lot these days, but I am sure it was the same back when we were teens too, somethings never change, thanks for reading as always, nell

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      Nell Rose 4 years ago from England

      Hi richard, thanks as always, sometimes kids don't have a choice in their homes or learn from their parents, and as parents we should point them in the right direction, but as we know in the real world some kids have to learn the hard way, I have seen so many broken homes etc that its not always the kids fault, thanks again, nell

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      Nell Rose 4 years ago from England

      Hi diane, In an ideal world this wouldn't happen, but sadly sometimes its out of the teens control, and at that age they really are not sure about these things, broken families, a girl running away from home these are the facts that do happen, hopefully this will help anyone who has to go through this, thanks as always, nell

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      Nell Rose 4 years ago from England

      Hi abby, yes me too, I was still a kid at that age, but sadly sometimes these things do happen. It would be great if all children could have a childhood that they deserve, but sadly sometimes things happen, thanks again, nell

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      Abigayle Malchow 4 years ago from Ripon Wisconsin

      WOW that is so YOUNG...I know times have changed but I was playing with barbie dolls until I was 12! At 13 I got to holding hands and a peck on the lips...they are growing up way to fast, I wish I still was that young playing with dolls

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      G. Diane Nelson Trotter 4 years ago from Fontana

      I was act the doctor's office yesterday. A lady was there with her 13/14 year old daughter and her 3-week old newborn. They left the office. The 13/14 year old returned with the newborn. By their interaction, it was very obvious that this was her baby. 13/14 year-old should NOT "mess around."

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      Rich 4 years ago from Kentucky

      Nell, you know how desperately I need to make a joke, but with the seriousness of the subject, I'm going to restrain myself, just for you. This is really a lot of good information for today's youth. I'm glad I'm no longer in that category. Great job!

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      Christopher Antony Meade 4 years ago from Gillingham Kent. United Kingdom

      Some good sound advice here Nell for a situation that is very common nowadays.

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      Nell Rose 4 years ago from England

      Hi Docmo, Thank you so much, I remember that fear even though it was years ago, so if it helps just one girl then its been worth writing, thank you again, nell

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      Mohan Kumar 4 years ago from UK

      Nell: this is such a n important piece of work and done so sensitively and approachably. I'm going to give out the links to my medical learners to read. You have really touched the hearts here with your calm, considered approach to such a life changing situation. Well done!

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      Nell Rose 4 years ago from England

      Thanks so much abby for telling your story, I am sure it will be so helpful to other readers.

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      Nell Rose 4 years ago from England

      Hi Funom, thanks for reading, and glad you liked it, thanks!

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      Nell Rose 4 years ago from England

      Hi ImKarn, thanks so much for reading, yes each and every case is different, I got pregnant back in the late 70s, it was fine really after I told my parents, but I was shaking like an earthquake! thanks again, nell

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      Abigayle Malchow 4 years ago from Ripon Wisconsin

      I am not against an abortion in the slightest if they think that is best for them, and they have support thats wonderful...I do believe its our right to choose. My issue is a parent trying to force her own belief down my throat and kicked me out because I refused to do it because that was a moral choice, a religious one for some...something I would have had to livve with and wouldn't have been able to do emotionally at that age. I am glad that your friend inkarna had that support...that is great. WE chose to keep our son, and my kids legal father chose never to know...so we will never know I don't think and I am glad we chose what we did...I think the point I was tryint to show and hopefully teenagers would understand through it...is what happens if you don't seek support first. If things go haywire. Sometimes it feels like the end of the world and in the end it can work out. Kind of a flip of the coin from the hub.

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      Funom Theophilus Makama 4 years ago from Europe

      Woow so informing and engaging. This hub is fantastic with elaborate views to note. I definitely will vote it up and thanks a lot for the share.

      To Abbykorinnelee..... What a story.... I am indeed happy to know you overcame all the hurdles and now a stronger and more fulfilled mother.

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      Karen Silverman 4 years ago

      loved this Nell...

      i'm not going to get into the gory details, and - it didn't happen to me - but - it happened to someone very close to me back in the 70's (perhaps i missed it, but - i didn't notice a time frame here...)

      to say she was a mess is an understatement, but, in the end - she told her parents and they helped her find a doctor to have an abortion..

      she went on in life to be very productive..looks after her elderly parents now - and never had children..

      to each their own, eh..

      i don't know about her, but - i often wonder...

      This is great advice given in a gentle, never-judgmental manner. Your son is lucky to have you - and of course his grandparents adore him!

      life is strange...all we can do is live it the best we can and not judge the other...

      excellent hub...sharing..

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      Nell Rose 4 years ago from England

      Hi abby, what an amazing story. The one thing that shines through is your strength of character the whole way through. I was amazed to see what you went through, and how you determinedly gritted your teeth and did it your way, and not only that your attitude to other youngsters today, totally different from your parents, I am so glad you liked this, I did try not to be be judgemental purely because morals have nothing to do with how scared a teen will be. We all make mistakes, and we forget that adults look at teens and say, well she should have known better. its a sad thing that adults forget what its like being a teenage girl or boy. They have'nt got the knowledge or street wise that we have as we get older, I just wish some parents would remember that. Hopefully even if this helps just one teen pregnancy then its been worthwhile writing it, thanks so much, nell

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      Nell Rose 4 years ago from England

      Thanks tammy, I just tried to see if from the girls perspective, by getting into 'her' mind I just remembered how it felt to be young pregnant and scared, thanks nell

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      Nell Rose 4 years ago from England

      Thanks so much Ruby, always glad to see you, nell

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      Abigayle Malchow 4 years ago from Ripon Wisconsin

      I was technically a teenage mother and I wish I had had this kind of information for I was scared and only 19 years old living at home. I took home pregnancy tests, took a friend from high school with me to Planned Parenthood and received a positive test. I dropped the paper in the driveway of my house in which my step-father found it and told my mother. She started screaming at me I was a slut and probably didn't know who the father was...I screamed through tears it was my boyfriends or the guy that raped me...she screamed I was a lier because I hadn't told her and I didn't go to the cops. Truth was I didn't have anything I could really tell the cops, had told no one because I was going to try and forget it and now I was pregnant and didn't know what the hell to do. She tried to force abortion on me and I was against it for myself and couldn't morally do it because the baby wasn't asked to be a product of possible rape and I was going to be kicked out at six months pregnant with nowhere to go. What do you do than? I got paperwork for adoption but the possible father wouldn't sign it just in case it was his and so we got married so I wouldn't have to live on the streets with no where to go and a newborn. I was given military insurance, had a place to live and luckily we had two other kids and lived happily for the most part for almost nine years before I divorced him. I have three kids with him and that child is now 13 and knows what the circumstances were and he is okay with it because I was honest. I almost lost him at four months pregnant due to the unnecessary stress of what my parents put me through.

      Many teenagers are like me...scared, lost, confused, alone, morals or values conflict with the parent, younger even than I was. I watched my 17 year old sister go through the same thing...no family to help her or support her and living with her abusive boyfriend from lack of choices. We didn't know about government assistance. We lived in Los Angeles County where it was so expensive we didn't know what we would do. I had to even quit my job because it was high risk, I got my car taken away because it was them that were going to have to make the payments, I didn't even have a ride to and from work when I did work because my parents wouldn't help me even with borrowing a car or giving me a ride. I either walked through bad areas at night, alone and pregnant, single and a white female, and a target written on my back or my boss gave me a ride. He even had to buy me food for dinner that is how bad it was.

      It is great to see that instead of sending out messages to these teenage mothers about what a mistake they made, or how different in a bad way their life will be, you have given them some hope and some guidance through different things to do that will help them. Maybe my parents would have reacted differently if I had done things differently. However, even though my life was harder, and I am single and in my thirties raising my four kids and just now finishing college...living at home with my father who is the only one that tried to offer support...my life is wonderful. I am a young mother to my first teenager and I am not a boy...but we are close, have open communication, I relate better to all the teenagers and his friends than most of the parents, I have been there to listen to other kids talk about sex, drugs, other kids, bullies, etc and have actually curbed a lot of them from making bad choices they were going to make. They trust and listen to me one because I am honest with them of the things I went through and what I did but also because I am so much younger and understand. The generation gap isn't so wide. I am definitely not advocating young parenting. Waiting is always best for I am probably a much better and responsible parent to my five year old than I was to my teenager at five years old; no I know I am. But its not the end of the world and good things can come from it but I did grow up fast and had to make it on my own with no one there to help or support or love me through it. I was forced to get married to someone I barely knew. I was forced to confront an issue like rape under undesirable circumstances that by the way, they really still don't believe happened and I gave up trying to tell them my side of the whole decesion making process of how I handled it.

      My mom is closest to the one grandchild she wanted me so badly to get rid of but she still says I shouldn't have had him. I don't think that we should confront this with kids this way. If they can't go to their parents they def should go to any trusted adult. I think this hub is amazing for the content itself and the fact you thought to address it this way. I respect you for that choice. I hope you don't mind me adding in why because of my personal experience myself.

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      Tammy 4 years ago from North Carolina

      This is an excellent hub tailored to a very scared teenager. Excellent job and wonderful sensitivity on this topic.

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      Ruby Jean Fuller 4 years ago from Southern Illinois

      Nell, That's what i love about your articles, nothing is off limits, you give excellent advice. Thank's for being you. Cheers my friend..

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      Nell Rose 4 years ago from England

      Hi diane, lol! effer is Paula, she just loves the name effer!

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      G. Diane Nelson Trotter 4 years ago from Fontana

      Wow Nell! I saw "effer" and wondered where are we going with this. :-)

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      Nell Rose 4 years ago from England

      Hi effer, yes I totally agree, I am sure most of their parents are secretly excited! I did do psychology for over four years, and was going to be a counselor but things go in the way, but I could go back to it, thanks as always, nell

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      Nell Rose 4 years ago from England

      Hi diane, that's great! it is so important to make sure the kids have an education before they leave school or college. They have many years to have children, but sometimes accidents do happen, so I hope this helped, thanks again for reading, nell

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      Nell Rose 4 years ago from England

      Hi carol, thanks so much, and I am glad you liked it, nell

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      Nell Rose 4 years ago from England

      Thanks teaches, I did try and put myself in the same situation, it was slightly different as I was 18 at the time, but it was still scary, thanks so much, nell

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      Dianna Mendez 4 years ago

      This is an issue many teens and their parents face today. I like your straight talk on the issue and the sharing of how to face the pregnancy with positive choices. This will help many to move forward with hope.

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      carol stanley 4 years ago from Arizona

      Though I have boys this was never a problem...well not exactly..YOu handled this very delicate and difficult situation very well with some very sound advice and solutions. Great Hub..Voted UP.

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      G. Diane Nelson Trotter 4 years ago from Fontana

      Nell, some of my students tell me I remind them of their grandparents. I tell the pregnant ones, "Don't invite me to the shower. I pay taxes so I'm already contributing." I let them know that they are in school to learn and they will have the rest of their lives to think about sex. My talks are working a little. For three years in a row I had 3 to 4 pregnant girls in my performing arts class. For the past two years I have had none! Today a mom brought her daughter in and told me how everyone wants to look at her sonograms. She had one with her. I didn't ask to see it.

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      Paula 4 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York

      What a wonderfully loving and gentle way you describe ...the things a young girl will think and question and her varying emotions at a time like this. You would make a fabulous counselor for young women to talk with and discover all options and feel much better and safer during her pregnancy. You have your own personal experience to guide you. Parents are usually shocked first and then I believe secretly happy and excited. babies are a precious gift, no matter when they choose to be!!............UP+++

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      Nell Rose 4 years ago from England

      Hi Janine, thanks so much, yes I remember it well, I was terrified! lol! so I told my brother first, then he told my aunt and then my mother, all in the space of about ten minutes! and of course after the first initial, what? it was fine! thanks for the share etc, nell

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      Janine Huldie 4 years ago from New York, New York

      Nell, this is such an important and timely issue, so first off great article telling young girls how to handle thinking they may be pregnant. Second, sharing your own situation was brave and so very wonderful. Glad everything turned out alright for you in the end. Great article and have of course voted and shared all over!!