The Troubled Family

A young beautiful woman eloped when she was just fifteen years old.

She planned to marry her lover, the man she had fallen in love with at the age of fifteen.

The couple had five children together and lived happily in those given years. She did marry the love of her life.

The marriage did not last for a long period.

Life in the Troubled Family got worse each day.

After the sudden death of her husband, the woman became lonely and distraught. She wanted more from her young life though did not know how and what to do to accomplish her needs.

Being alone and away from her family and since she elope adventure she had not been back to visit her family.

The children also needed her but as time went by, she became withdrawn from her children. Leaving her children unattended and with the oldest child to take care of the siblings was a difficult task.

A few years later the oldest child got himself a job that opened the way for all the members of the family. The woman then quit her job and took care of her younger children.

She battled for years, paying the bills, and having to provide one salary was tough. The problem started when she ran away from home thinking she could have a good life.

After two of her children got married, they decided to live in the same home, and could not afford to buy their own.

Living independently as other married couples do was not possible with these couples.

Too many people were living in such a small space and making sure all had a plate of food was hard to figure out.

This woman needed more food in her home and went daily to her rich sister to borrow her basic needs, off-course her sister gave her whatever was required.

From one sister to another, she pleaded to have something from them to get her household going from day to day after.

The other problem with this family was there was no parental control.

Discipline and respect for each other did not matter in this family household. Each day they squabble about every little conversation. The lights and water bills were not paid on time.

That caused the disconnection of both water and electricity. It happened frequently. Other members of the family did not visit as often.

The poverty-stricken family had become withdrawn from most of the other close family members.

She often left her home visited friends and got acquainted with several men. Meeting the different men did not make her problems vanish.

She spent many hours away from home to get rid of those continuous complaints. The issues were too much to cope with and that made her feel so unhappy for such a long time.

A family with many problems, financially, emotionally, physically and psychologically. Mentally the one son showed his part in many abusive ways.

He tried to hit his mother and she did not retaliate in any way. The family was going downhill from the time of her husband's death and she had no reins over her family.

As her kids grew older, they were disrespectful toward her.

A single parent she has been from the birth of her kids and she could not stand up to her children with authority. The woman's soft voice did not show any authority.

The problems worsened and other family members stopped visiting the broken-up family.

Only one son has a day job while the other three sons and two daughters are married and failed to help.

He worked and did not marry because he could not make a life of his own. The situation left him with no opportunity to live his life independently.

Without proper parental control, everything fell apart in this family. It was sad to visit this family each time they tried to get up from their bad spot.

Something caused them to fall right back down.

They could not live in any other way except in poverty. A dysfunctional family without the support of other family members made it even more difficult to show progress.

The one and only sister who helped did continue but that was not enough to hold the dysfunctional family together. They needed more than just food on the table. The woman grew old and sad.

Her stressful life caused her constant chest pains. The woman had a responsibility to her grandchildren and one of her grandsons is an ADHD child.

It was another one of her greater responsibilities. Taking care of the child was part of her stressful life which added more weight to her shoulders.

Her chest pains increased daily. The old woman lost interest in her appearance and looked most neglected.

Her soft-spoken voice showed her humbleness but that was all it showed to her family.

They took more of her energy and left her helpless and feeling motionless.

There was no control over her kids from day one and raising five children alone showed effort.

No respect, no communication, love, or attention, the lack of time spent together, and the not-so-happy moments left her disappointed and disheartened.

There was no support from any of the family members. Those who helped were not involved in her personal life.

They knew her problems began when she ran away from home and she knew her mistakes at that time seemed right.

''If only she listened to her parents maybe the situation would have been different.''

At nearly sixty years old this woman was beyond it. Her life just went by with problems and hardships.

The days got tougher and tougher. One morning she got up and had breakfast with her youngest son and she had a row.

It was about who would inherit their home; it was another family problem to resolve. She rushed out of her home and walked down the street hurriedly to get to her daughter's home 500 meters down the road.

At that moment she left behind her medication for the Angina pains that she constantly experienced in her chest.

When she reached her daughter's home, she had by then had enough of her problematic life. Before she got into a conversation with her daughter.

She had chest pain from that stressful moment experienced back home, and her life left her soul in her granddaughter's arms. It was most shocking for her daughter to see her mother in that way.

It was too late for medical treatment. A family who could not have it in their hearts to work together and help to make the life of their mother easy.

They had faced more unhappy moments than happy moments. The only son who worked and provided for his mother, while the rest did not care, had felt the loss of his mother most difficult to adhere to.

The Troubled Family had no idea of how to calm down in stressful situations and grow closer as a family.

There are no perfect families!

Dysfunctional families have lots to cope with and sadly the situation does not get any better for most broken-up families.

In this case, there was not much effort and time to make it right. The battle continued and no peace for the rest of the family.