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An Only Child: The Pros and Cons

Updated on May 13, 2013
A single child can be a super-hero or super-heroine!
A single child can be a super-hero or super-heroine! | Source

Are you a single child?

If yes, then being a single child is not an issue at all. Being an only child has got its fair share of blessings. The single children are achievers on their own. They have more liberty and ability to make their decisions. They shine in their careers, family life and all with a crown of glory on their heads!

Reasons for raising a single child

There are various reasons as to why some parents choose to raise a single child:

  • Economical reasons
  1. The parents want to lead a more stress-free life by raising only one child.
  2. If the parents belong to either middle class or less and could not afford a high-standard lifestyle, they prefer raising the single child.
  3. In some countries like China, which introduced the one-child policy, parents decide to follow this policy for their welfare's sake
  • Health reasons
  1. If one or both parents have health issues and feel that it is difficult to raise one more child, they opt for raising only one child.
  2. If one or both the parents, especially the mothers, if faced with serious physical problems and are advised by doctors not to have more children.
  • Personal reasons
  1. If the child is afflicted with some serious problem and the parents decide to devote most of their time taking care of their only child.
  2. In rare cases, the parents or siblings unfortunately die and as a result, the child becomes the single child in that case.
  3. In few cases, when the parents divorce and thus the child becomes the single child in that case.

A single child can be carefree and happy!
A single child can be carefree and happy! | Source

The list of pros of being an only child

Being an only child can be considered a boon. The single child has many advantages as stated below:

  • Gets all the freedom and independence sans siblings.
  • Enjoys the undivided love and attention from parents
  • Has no sibling rivalry
  • Leads a more comfortable life and indulge in the luxuries of life.
  • Is more mature, intelligent and confident.
  • Is more creative, well-read and well-behaved due to single child focused parenting

"A bored child"
"A bored child" | Source

The list of cons of being the only child

While the single child enjoys the advantages, there are also certain things the single child may not experience. The list of things that a single child craves for :

  • Having a sibling for company
  • Leading a non-secluded social life
  • More relief from overprotective and controlling parents
  • Someone to confide in or share personal secrets with.

Single Child Syndrome

This type of syndrome relates to the particular behaviour-pattern, environment and norms applied to the single child. The single children are subjected to several myths. In China, this is termed as Little Emperor syndrome.

Disclamer

  • I stated the instances cited below only to conform to the sub-topic of this hub.
  • I am not defending the notion of the single child.
  • In fact, there is hardly any difference between the single child and those with siblings when it comes to behaviour, success-story and attitude towards life.

Myths about the single child

Many articles, psychological researches and people have made some observations about several so-called cons of the single child. Many assumed that the single child tends to be anti-social, likely to get involved in illegal activities and have far more negative personality traits than those with siblings. Regarding the concept of the single child, I want to cite some well-known personalities as examples mentioned below to debunk such myths.

Queen Victoria
Queen Victoria | Source

Illustrations to debunk the myths surrounding the single child

  • The single child is often said to be over-pampered, self-indulgent and arrogant.

Parents spend all the time taking special care of their only child and hence the child is used to getting what he or she wants. This is true in some cases but not all.

Queen Victoria was the only child of her parents. During her childhood, Victoria was under the complete control of her over-ambitious mother and Lord Conroy, her mother's power-hungry comptroller. She was quite an obedient daughter though she disliked her mother's scheming plans for the throne. Victoria also disliked public appearances and preferred privacy. This had shown her as a person unconscious of her lineage. When she became queen, she kept her distance from her mother till her mother had a change of heart and nature. While growing up in a controlled household surrounded by status-seeking people, Victoria remained unperturbed by all these. Her steady mind and diplomatic character were her key traits which epitomized her as Britain's longest reigning monarch till date.


Mahatma Gandhi
Mahatma Gandhi | Source
  • According to several sources concerning criminality, it is stated that the single child is more likely to get involved in crimes.

This is not true in all cases. Several single children are the patrons of peace, righteousness and justice.

Remember that Mahatma Gandhi, the legendary Indian freedom-fighter, was the single child of his parents. He proved to be extremely determined and dedicated which resulted in the ultimate achievement of freedom for India.

He was a respectable and thoughtful citizen. He did several social services such as helping the underprivileged people, taking part in freedom endeavours, protecting people from harsh realities and helped his friends through the difficult times. He was most willing to perform any good deed that came in his way and strongly disapproved social injustice.

Note: He had 3 half-siblings through his father's other wives.


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Elvis Presley
Elvis Presley | Source
  • The single child likes to be alone and has difficulty in making friends

In reality, many single children love to make friends and lead a very active social life.

Elvis Presley, the flamboyant "King of Rock and Roll" was also the only child of his parents. He was very popular among his innumerable fans as well as his many friends not only because of his exceptional singing talent but also his endearing and helpful nature. His friends included his group-bands, musicians and some acquaintances. He had often encouraged his friends to be successful in their careers. In spite of his dizzy super-stardom, Elvis's acceptance of his friends and being a constant pillar of support to them showed Elvis's side as a broad-minded and good-natured person.

Note: Elvis had a twin brother who was still-born, resulting in Elvis as the only child in the Presley household.


Buddha
Buddha | Source
  • The single child is not much into sharing.

Sharing is not only about giving materialistic things to one's friends or relatives but also about one's thoughts, concerns and feelings for others - sharing is caring. In reality, the single child is most willing to work for the welfare of others.

Gautama Buddha, the widely-worshipped saint who founded Buddhism, was the only child of his parents. He was born a prince, yet destined to be a world famous spiritual teacher. He discarded his princely life for the mission of ultimate truth. As a result, he was enlightened. He gained a massive following and taught them the goodness in life. He shared his concern for the needy, helped many to follow the right path and continued to share his teachings worldwide.

Myths Versus Reality of the single child

 
Myths
Reality
1.
The single child is spoiled, selfish and conceited
The single child is mature, understanding and caring
2.
The single child often gets involved in wrong-doings and grow up to be criminals
The single child grows up to be a responsible and considerate citizen
3.
The single child is often lonely
The single child loves to make friends
4.
The single child is very much less inclined to sharing
The single child is willing to work for the welfare of others
Condeleezza Rice
Condeleezza Rice | Source

Some famous personalities who are single children

Here is the list of personalities who became famous due to their independent thinking, complete focus in their careers and sheer ability to succeed on their own.

  • Condoleezza Rice

She was a successful American politician and secretary of State. Her impressive academic achievements and long political career earned her a well-deserved position as the most powerful woman in the world twice by Forbes magazine.



The sculpture of Hans Christian Andersen
The sculpture of Hans Christian Andersen | Source
  • Hans Christian Andersen

Many of you knew him to be one of the world's most renowned writers. Though he led a lonely life, that did not stop him from penning several fairy-tales which are still much-loved for generations.

Note: Hans had a half-sister, with whom he refused to have contact for a very long time.



Kareem Abdul Jabbar
Kareem Abdul Jabbar | Source
  • Kareem Abdul Jabbar

This former American basketball player is considered as one of the greatest NBA players of all times. In addition, he is an occasional film actor, noted author, basketball coach and currently U.S cultural ambassador, all rolled up into a versatile professional.

Issac Newton
Issac Newton | Source
  • Issac Newton

This illustrious scientist discovered universal gravitation and three laws of motion. Being an expert in many fields such as physics, mathematics, astronomy, natural philosophy, alchemy and theology established him as one of the greatest scientists ever.



James Lovell
James Lovell | Source
  • James "Jim" Lovell

This famed former NASA astronaut and commander of the Apollo 13 mission's deep resoluteness carried him through his space trips, thus making him the first person to fly in space four times. He gained many trophies and honors as well as being chosen among the top ten astronauts in history.

David Copperfield
David Copperfield | Source
  • David Copperfield

This magician and storyteller charmed the world with his incredible tricks and ability to cure physically-disabled people through his charitable foundations titled Project Magic. His countless feats and laurels won him the title as the most successful magician in history by Forbes magazine.

Franklin D. Roosevelt
Franklin D. Roosevelt | Source
  • Franklin D. Roosevelt

This former president of the United States was responsible for pulling America out of depression, using his keen intelligence and strategic planning. His groundbreaking efforts and his everlasting impact on people led to scholars rating him as one of the top 3 presidents of the United States of America.

Self-portrait of Leonardo da Vinci
Self-portrait of Leonardo da Vinci | Source
  • Leonardo da Vinci

This multi-talented personality is considered as one of the few exceptional icons of the Renaissance. Apart from being a famous painter, his varied skills in several other fields such as sculpture, architecture, anatomy, engineering, cartography and many more to name, thus making many declare him as one of the rare geniuses ever lived.

The portrait of Queen Elizabeth 1 by Nicholas Hilliard
The portrait of Queen Elizabeth 1 by Nicholas Hilliard | Source
  • Queen Elizabeth 1

This red-haired monarch had the entire country of England at her feet due to her tolerance, caution and being a patron of arts that gave birth to one of the most glorious eras in the world - the Elizabethan era.

Note: Elizabeth had 2 half-siblings, Mary and Edward IV. She was not close to both of her half-siblings and succeeded them to the throne after their untimely deaths.

Barbra Streisand
Barbra Streisand | Source
  • Barbra Streisand

This celebrity is one of the fewest entertainers armed with 2 Oscar awards and many Grammy awards. Her unique dual talents of singing and acting placed her in the well-deserved list of the most successful entertainers of all times.

Note: She has a half-sister.


These renowned personalities, with their individualistic mindset, self-introspection and deep-seated devotion to their careers had created an impact worldwide.


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Distinction between single child and child with siblings

 
Single child
Child with siblings
1
Individualistic thinking
Team building
2
Focused parenting
Diversified parenting
3
Self-introspection
Influences
4
Craves for a sibling
Sometimes wishes to be the single child
5
Fixed Leadership and management
Flexible leadership and management
6
First hand learning in social interaction
Already acquired social interaction after the arrival of siblings

Suggestions for the parents of a single child

The parents of a single child will have some benefits, financially and emotionally. However they should know that they make the most of it by following the suggestions mentioned below:

  • Be a good friend to your only child
  • Spend a considerable amount of time with your child
  • Learn to give your child some space
  • In case your child complains about the lack of siblings, explain to your child positively that the cousins and close friends are the siblings themselves
  • Encourage your child to join the school groups or clubs, hang out with friends and meet cousins often
  • Assure that your child is not over-indulged.
  • Learn to balance the discipline and attention in your child
  • Impart the good values and morals in your child
  • Teach your child to be positive and see the bright side of life
  • Ensure that your child is always happy.


Suggestions for the single child

  • Develop your circle of good friends
  • Involve yourself in social endeavours and charity events
  • Take part in sports and creative activities
  • Be assertive and confident
  • Be happy with what you have


Being an only child myself

Yes, I am a single child of my parents. My parents had made their decision to raise only one child due to some reasons and stuck firmly to it. In spite of being the only child in the house, my parents ensured that I have always been very happy and leading a comfortable life. When I was a child, I wished that I had a brother or sister. Now, I realized that I am blessed with many wonderful things in life. I have learnt to be happy with what I have and never grumble about what I don't have. I say that I am a happy-go-lucky person with loving parents, affectionate cousins and some genuinely caring friends. What more could I ask for?

Copyrights © 2012 by Ishwaryaa Dhandapani


Want to know the reasons? Then visit my hubs as mentioned below:

1. How do you know that he is indeed Prince Charming?

2. How I evolved into the person that I am today because of my mother!


A special thanks to silverstararrow for asking a question that inspired this hub.


For more information, visit the following

About the famous single children, visit the following:

About the concept of single child, visit the following in Wikipedia

  • only child
  • one child-policy
  • Little Emperor Syndrome



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    Alecia Murphy 4 years ago from Wilmington, North Carolina

    I wrote a similar hub as well about being an only child and I agree with your thoughts. It is hard sometimes thinking that when my parents get older, I'll bear most of the responsibility of making tough decisions. However, I feel like being an only child has allowed me to experience things that people with siblings don't always get to do. I have no regrets but I'm glad I have good perspective now that I'm older. Great hub!

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    Tammy 4 years ago from North Carolina

    This is some great information. My three year old has 4 half siblings on both sides but they are much older than she is. She is basically an only child in most ways. She is different than my other children who are now grown. My three sons were really competivie with each other. My little one isn't competive at all and is really sensitive when other children do something unfriendly in public. I could see many of the traits you mentioned.

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    Mahaveer Sanglikar 4 years ago from Pune, India

    Great research and analysis, what an excellent hub you have written. Voted up and shared with followers.

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    Shampa Sadhya 4 years ago from NEW DELHI, INDIA

    Voted up and awesome!

    You have done an excellent job. I liked it very much. Thanks for sharing. I am sharing and and pinning it too.

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    Nithya Venkat 4 years ago from Dubai

    You have sated your point and supported it with great examples. An interesting read well presented. Great hub. Voted up.

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    Aman Thakur 4 years ago from India

    This is really an awesome hub. Before reading this hub I too have the notion that having a single child is not a wise decision. But after reading your hub I really changed my thinking that it entirely depends on the upbringing of a child irrespective of whether he is single or not?

    Voted up and shared!!!!1

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    Ishwaryaa Dhandapani 4 years ago from Chennai, India

    @ Alecia Murphy: Hi, I read and commented on your hub. Your hub is very insightful & well-written! Thank you for the read, for your encouraging comment and sharing your words of wisdom. Take care

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    Ishwaryaa Dhandapani 4 years ago from Chennai, India

    @ tammyswallow: Hi, thank you for the visit, for your encouraging comment and sharing your interesting insights about your little daughter and sons. Both the only child and child with siblings have pros and cons yet they have to ensure that the pros outweigh the cons. Take care

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    Ishwaryaa Dhandapani 4 years ago from Chennai, India

    @ jainismus: Thank you for the read and for your encouraging comments. Take care

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    Ishwaryaa Dhandapani 4 years ago from Chennai, India

    @ shampa sadhya: Hi, thank you for the visit and your comments always encourage me. Take care

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    Ishwaryaa Dhandapani 4 years ago from Chennai, India

    @ Vellur: Hi, thank you for the visit and for your encouraging comments. Take care

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    Linda Bilyeu 4 years ago from Orlando, FL

    Outstanding hub Ish. I'm sure many only children could relate to your article. I'm also sure many parents who are debating about how many children to have would also benefit. Well done!

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    Stacy Harris 4 years ago from Hemet, Ca

    I am not a single child... for awhile there I was the baby of the family. Then one day my parents found out they were going to have another one and I bumped into middle child position. Overall, when it comes to children, I think the determining factor has more to do with how they are raised and life in general. Interesting hub - thanks for sharing. I never knew that Elvis had a twin still-born!

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    Mohan Kumar 4 years ago from UK

    This is an utterly comprehensive discourse on all things- single child related. I love the debunking of the myths with examples and narratives as well as the listing of many popular 'single' children. Love the whole content here, Ishwaryaa, very well done. (Scored 80% on the quiz!)

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    Liz Elias 4 years ago from Oakley, CA

    Hmmm....I fit into the "lonely only" classification. I always longed for a sibling, but apparently I was an only as my parents had some difficulty concieving. Next, I was raised as "miniature adult," due to the great disparity in age between my parents (my dad was 25 years older than my mom--first and only marriage for both)! My local cousins from my dad's side of the family were my mother's age; their kids were infants when I was between 8 and 12, and though they were "local," they were not near enough that we visited more than a few times a year at family gatherings. I did not grow up with them. My cousins on my mom's side, who were about my age, were 3,000 miles away in Massachusetts! I saw them a few times while I was growing up--we were little more than distant acquaintances.

    I always wished for a sibling, but was not given the real reason why I did not have one until I had kids of my own--my dad's Victorian-era upbrining deemed that a child should "not know about such things."

    I was a card-carrying member of the "out-crowd" all the way through school--I did not fit with my peer group, relating much better to adults. My dad refused to have a TV, so I was 'out of the loop' on what everyone else was talking about...I was a reader, and read beyond my grade level...so I took flak for knowing (and using) so-called "big words" in grade school. I was not spoiled or indulged--but man, was I ever over-protected! My dad was to paranoid that "something" might happen to "his baby" that they had such trouble having...that (for example), I was not alllowed to have a bike until I was 12--for fear that, "..some drunk might drive up on the sidewalk and hit you." By that time, the kids on my block were giving up their bikes as toys of childhood...(it did not occur to me until many years later that I could have said to my dad, "Really? I don't have to be riding a bike for a drunk to drive onto the sidewalk!"

    As a result, I was a loner; a virtual social retard, and withdrew into my books. I was painfully shy, and that is how I came to learn to express myself via the written word. I've read all this stuff about how "onlies are achievers"...but that is only if they are encouraged to expand. I was taught to be fearful of failure; fearful of injury; fearful of stepping outside the lines. I was given strong roots and no wings, so I find myself at thea ripe old age of 64, as an "adult child" still waiting to discover "what I want to be when I grow up."

    Voted up and interesting....but I sure don't fit "the norm!" ;-)

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    Nell Rose 4 years ago from England

    What a great well detailed hub! I never realised so many famous people were a single child. I only had one child, my son, and he was quite introverted, but as a teen he developed into an extrovert and had many friends, I don't know if he would have been different with a sibling, it's a good question, nell

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    Ishwaryaa Dhandapani 4 years ago from Chennai, India

    @ amanthkr01: Welcome to HubPages! Both the single child and child with siblings have the pros and cons and it is better for both that the pros outweigh the cons. It is up to parents to bring up their children, either single or more. Thank you for the read and for your insightful views. Take care

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    Ishwaryaa Dhandapani 4 years ago from Chennai, India

    @ Sunshine625: Hi, anything in life in this world have the pros and cons, including single child and child with siblings. It is up to parents and children to ensure that the pros outweigh the cons and lead life, confidently and happily. Thank you for the visit and sharing your engaging views. Take care

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    Ishwaryaa Dhandapani 4 years ago from Chennai, India

    @ barbergirl28: Hi, thank you for the read, for your encouraging comment and sharing your engaging story. You are right about how children are raised in life being the determining factor. As for Elvis, I found out this piece of unknown information in Wikipedia while researching for this hub. Take care

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    Ishwaryaa Dhandapani 4 years ago from Chennai, India

    @ Docmo: Hi, thank you for the visit and for your encouraging comments. In fact, there is hardly any difference between both the single child and child with siblings when it comes to behaviour-pattern, environment, growing-up, success and attitude towards life in general. About your score - well-done! You are indeed a knowledgeable person and this is clearly visible through your comprehensive hubs. Take care

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    IAmForbidden 4 years ago from Neverland - where children never grow up.

    Hmm.. so well written hub. i have younger siblings..i wanted a big family though. interesting ideas i have read here.

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    Tricia1000 4 years ago from South Africa

    I am currently raising a single child which is my choice. Thank you for sharing this hub with very interesting and inspiring information.

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    Ishwaryaa Dhandapani 4 years ago from Chennai, India

    @ DzyMsLizzy: Wow! What a long and interesting story, Madam! :-) We should accept the fact that we are single children and we are blessed with many good things. We should be happy with what we have and never complain about what we don't have. We should look at the positive side of life. You are a big achiever and did extremely well on HubPages :-) Thank you very much for the read, for your encouraging comment and sharing your engaging story. Take care

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    Peggy Woods 4 years ago from Houston, Texas

    Very interesting hub and I enjoyed reading about all of the examples of people that you gave who were reared as an only child. I am married to an only child. He may have had siblings if his dad had not died one day after returning home from WW2. His mother never remarried. I can truthfully say that he is a fine, generous, intelligent and caring man. I am fortunate to be celebrating our 42nd wedding anniversary in a couple of months from now with him. Up votes and sharing.

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    Liz Elias 4 years ago from Oakley, CA

    Thanks for your encouraging reply. Mind you, I got many positives from my upbringing...working in the garage beside my dad as a "grease monkey" while he tinkered with the car, gave me the knowledge that will forever keep me from being cheated by a dishonest mechanic; many happy hours learning photography and darkroom skills as he developed the photos he'd taken...I sure did not mean for that 'rant' to come off sounding like a complaint. I just don't fit the "statistics" of the "normal" only child. Cheers and all the best to you. :-)

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    Ishwaryaa Dhandapani 4 years ago from Chennai, India

    @ Nell Rose: Hi, thank you for the visit and for your encouraging comment. Nice to hear that your son is very positive and social. In reality, many single children love making friends and your son is one of them. You are a very good mother! Once again, thank you for sharing your story. Take care

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    Vinaya Ghimire 4 years ago from Nepal

    I'm lucky to have brother and sisters. When I was a child, my brother and sisters were my playmates. Ans now they are my mentors and supporter.

    I have some relatives who lost their only child and are now living in abject pain threshold.

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    Ishwaryaa Dhandapani 4 years ago from Chennai, India

    @ unknown spy: Hi, thank you for the read and for your encouraging comments. Take care

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    Ishwaryaa Dhandapani 4 years ago from Chennai, India

    @ Tricia1000: Thank you for the read and for your encouraging comment and also thank you for sharing your brief telling that you raised your single child. Take care

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    Marites Mabugat-Simbajon 4 years ago from Toronto, Ontario

    This is very useful. I will pass this on. My brother has one child (for now maybe), it will also be a good read for him. Thanks ishwaryaa!

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    Ishwaryaa Dhandapani 4 years ago from Chennai, India

    @ Peggy W: Hi, nice to know that your hubby is a single child like me and he is a complete gentleman. You told me before about your impending 42nd wedding anniversary which is indeed very beautiful! :-) Wishes you & your hubby many more years of happiness and togetherness. Thank you for the visit and for your encouraging comments. Take care

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    Ishwaryaa Dhandapani 4 years ago from Chennai, India

    @ DzyMsLizzy: Hi, good to see you again. Nice to know that your pros of being the only child far outweighed your cons and you are blessed with a wonderful father. Even I am blessed with a wonderful father, though he is bit too concerned about me at times but this is quite common in fathers of girls, whom they lovingly considered their dearest daughters. When I have the time, I come over and read your hubs. All the best to you! Happy Hubbing! Take care :-)

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    Nicole S Hanson 4 years ago from Minnesota

    I was far from being an only child. Sometimes i was thankful, other days i wished i was an only child! lol Very nice hub here.

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    alipuckett 4 years ago

    I'm an only child, and I think this is a very acurate, thoughtful, and well researched article. Many of the points you make about only child personalities I find to be true of myself. Nice hub! I especially like the list of famous only children. Very interesting!

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    Ishwaryaa Dhandapani 4 years ago from Chennai, India

    @ Vinaya Ghimire: Hi, thank you for the visit and read. Nice to hear that you are happy and close to your siblings. I am very sorry about your relatives. Sometimes, fate can be unpredictable and inevitable! Take care

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    Ishwaryaa Dhandapani 4 years ago from Chennai, India

    @ coffeegginmyrice: Hi, thank you for the visit and for your encouraging comment. It is nice of you to share this with your brother. Take care

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    Ishwaryaa Dhandapani 4 years ago from Chennai, India

    @ Nicole S: Hi, having siblings have both the pros and cons. Hope that in your case, the pros far outweighed the cons. Being a child myself, my case have both the pros and cons yet I see the positive side of life now. Thank you for the read and for your encouraging comment. Take care

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    Ishwaryaa Dhandapani 4 years ago from Chennai, India

    @ alipuckett: Thank you for the read and for your insightful & encouraging comments. Nice to know that you are a very positive person. Take care

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    Brett Caulton 4 years ago from Thailand

    Not what I expected, extremely well researched and balanced ... Nicely done. It was an interesting read, amazing how almost anything is used to form stereotypes eh lol.

    Voted up, awesome and shared.

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    alocsin 4 years ago from Orange County, CA

    As annoying as it was sometimes to have sibling, I'm glad I grew up with them. They were a source of fun in childhood and a source of support now that I'm an adult. Voting this Up and Interesting.

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    Rajan Singh Jolly 4 years ago from From Mumbai, presently in Jalandhar,INDIA.

    Wow! Ishwaryaa, this is one detailed hub with fine supportive examples. I'd always thought that a single child missed out on a lot of things because of the absence of a sibling but that myth has been shattered by your terrific reasoning.

    Congratulations for turning in a great hub. Voted up and out. Sharing it too.

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    Lightshare 4 years ago

    Thank yu Ishwaryaa for sharing a great information. I think the single child can't have the brotherhood and the habit of sharing.

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    Ishwaryaa Dhandapani 4 years ago from Chennai, India

    @ Brett.Tesol: Hi, good to see you. Thank you for the visit and for your engaging comments. Take care

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    Shanaaya Taneez 4 years ago from Mauritius

    True :) beautifully explained

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    Ruchira 4 years ago from United States

    Beautiful hub, ishwaryaa. I agree on all your pros and cons. My kid is the only child and he sure does miss a sibling sometimes but, then he has transformed me as his elder sis and fights with me...In short, I play a dual role...a mom and an elder sis to him. Sometimes, gets frustrating 'cause dunno which role he wants me to be...lol

    He sure is not comfortable in sharing his toys that's the downside of the only sibling. Other than that...we are happy :)

    voted up as interesting, useful. Sharing it across!

    Once again Happy Birthday girl...rock this year girl :)

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    Jeannie InABottle 4 years ago from Baltimore, MD

    I am an only child and I still find it to be difficult. Now that I am older and my parents need more assistance, I am the only daughter they have to rely on. It can be very difficult at times. Ah, to be in your 30s and still long for a sibling! Great hub and voted up!

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    Jenna Pope 4 years ago from Southern California

    What a beautiful Hub!!! True. I was an only child until I was 22. I could relate. Voted up.

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    Paula 4 years ago from Beautiful Upstate New York

    We can conjure up a list of pros and cons for just about anything....don't you think? I must say that the argument FOR the benefits of only children is very very strong. I was very pleased to learn that my eldest son and wife will have only their one precious daughter.....she is only 3, but all seems to be going quite well for them. This decision is a private and personal one for all couples.

    You have done a wonderful job with this hub, explaining the pros and cons. UP++

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    Renee 4 years ago

    Very well-researched and written, considering that you are a happy only child, you were able to present both sides equally. My son is an only child but being a close-knit family, he grew up with cousins. Made sure he learned to share with his cousins because I was also scared he would grow up a bit selfish...but then I realized everything boils down to how you rear your child, whether an only child or with siblings. At one point in his life he asked for a brother but when it was explained to him why I could not have more, he thought of others ways like asking from somebody else (lol). Now he is 14 years old, active in school and sports, loving and affectionate, a happy teenager, and knows that he is loved. Again, I would have to say it is all up to the parents. Tweeted, voted up and across. Good job!

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    Dianna Mendez 4 years ago

    I have an only child. He always asked for a brother or sister until he was about 10 and then he realized how blessed he actually was. Great share and lots of great facts on the only child.

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    Ishwaryaa Dhandapani 4 years ago from Chennai, India

    @ alocsin: Thank you for the visit and sharing your nice story about your siblings. Good to hear that in this case your pros far outweighed the cons and you are now happy and shared a close bond with your siblings. Take care

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    Ishwaryaa Dhandapani 4 years ago from Chennai, India

    @ rajan jolly: Hi, thank you for the read and for your encouraging comments. Anything in life will have its pros and cons and it is up to the person to ensure that pros far outweigh the cons. Take care

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    Renee 4 years ago

    I know that I left a pretty long comment here but I don't know what happened but I don't see it now. It's kinda hard writing about it again but it was actually to praise you in the well-balanced hub you did, despite the fact that you are an only child, you were able to treat the two sides equally. I also mentioned that I also have an only son and I believe that he is a happy boy, knows that he is well-loved but well-mannered and discipline. There was a point that he also asked for a brother but because he has several cousins living near us, it wasn't much a problem. I also mentioned that whether an only or with siblings, a child will grow up with what he has been taught and what he has observed being practiced at home. Good job, voted up and tweeted!

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    Ishwaryaa Dhandapani 4 years ago from Chennai, India

    @ Marie-Renee: I offer my apologises. Your first comment is already there. I want to reply to each and every comment left by my fellow-hubber-friends, including yours, slowly and so as to respond properly.Just now I read your comment. It is indeed wonderful to know that your son is a happy-go-lucky teenager and he is surrounded by loving people, including you! Thank you for the read, for your encouraging comments and sharing your nice story about how you successfully raised your beloved son. Take care

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    Ishwaryaa Dhandapani 4 years ago from Chennai, India

    Oh! Very very sorry! I beg your pardon! I have many comments and I take time to respond to each of them. I usually respond after few hours, as I am working and I am in another part of the globe, hence the timings differ. If you felt that this is inconvenience, I once again offer my apologizes. Happy hubbing. Take care

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    Renee 4 years ago

    @ ishwaryaa22, That's okay. I was also busy working so when I made the comment I did not realize or should I say I forgot that it was going to be moderated by the author. And I assumed that I made the mistake, which I usually do...forgetting to post the comment after it has been written.

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    Madeleine Salin 4 years ago from Finland

    I have three older siblings and always wanted to have younger siblings. One of my sisters has only one child. I don't really know many families with only one child. Where I come from families are big. This hub gave me a new perspective on things. Thank you for sharing. :)

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    Tracy Lynn Conway 4 years ago from Virginia, USA

    You have done a great job here it is very interesting and thorough. I have read that single children are more often successful in their careers but have more relationship issues than children that were raised with siblings.

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    KDuBarry03 4 years ago

    Being an only child is never a negative thing. Not gonna lie, it can get really annoying having siblings totally different from you! LOL

    I have to say, Ishwaryaa, you always impress me with your well informed and well organized articles. Voted up and sharing!

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    Elisa Yeboah 4 years ago from Columbus, OH

    I have only 1 child for a few of the reasons you stated above. For me it's great to give my son 100% of my attention. Luckily he has a bunch of cousins to give him the type of interaction that builds great social skills. He plays well with others and is always willing to share. This was an interesting article. Thanks for the good read.

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    Ishwaryaa Dhandapani 4 years ago from Chennai, India

    @ Ruchira: Hi, thank you for the visit & for your insightful comments & above all, your sweet story about your son. Even when I was a child, I refused to share food with my cousins and as I grew up, I love sharing anything with my friends & cousins. Also thank you for the birthday wishes, my fellow-hubber-friend. Take care

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    Ishwaryaa Dhandapani 4 years ago from Chennai, India

    @ jeannieinabottle: Hi, being an only child may be difficult at times but not all the time! Our parents raised us, their single children, with extra love and care, and it is high time we repay them by giving them more love and care. Thank you for the visit, for your encouraging comment and sharing about yourself. Take care

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    Ishwaryaa Dhandapani 4 years ago from Chennai, India

    @ Jenna Pope: Hi, thank you for the read, encouraging comment and sharing about yourself. Take care

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    Ishwaryaa Dhandapani 4 years ago from Chennai, India

    @ fpherj48: Hi, thank you for the visit, for your encouraging comment and sharing your wisdom and about your beloved family. Take care

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    Ishwaryaa Dhandapani 4 years ago from Chennai, India

    @ teaches12345: Thank you for the read & for your encouraging comments. Nice to know that your son is very positive and happy! Many single children will gradually realize when they grow older. Take care

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    Ishwaryaa Dhandapani 4 years ago from Chennai, India

    @ Marie-Renee: No problem at all! As many of us, hubbers, are very busy that at times we make mistakes - it's natural. Thank you for your concern. Happy Hubbing. Take care

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    @ Made: Thank you for the read, for your insightful comment and sharing about your beloved family. Take care

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    kelleyward 4 years ago

    This is a fantastic hub full of research and information. I'm always intrigued by birth order research etc. You did a fantastic job with the pros and cons and tables here. I'm bookmarking this one for the future. Voted up across except funny and shared socially on my facebook page. Take care, Kelley

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    Ishwaryaa Dhandapani 4 years ago from Chennai, India

    @ elisayeboah: Welcome to HubPages! Thank you for the read, for your insightful comments and sharing positively about your beloved son. Good to know that your son led an active social and happy life. Take care

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    Ishwaryaa Dhandapani 4 years ago from Chennai, India

    @ Tracy Lynn Conway: Hi, it is interesting to hear from you that single children have more relationship issues than children with siblings. It may be true in some to most cases but not all, for example Queen Victoria, being the single child herself, had a successful marriage with Prince Albert. Thank you for the read and for your engaging comments. Take care

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    Ishwaryaa Dhandapani 4 years ago from Chennai, India

    @ KDuBarry03: Hi, nothing is negative in life. He Ha. Like you, my cousin-sister once said that she found it annoying having a younger brother and now they shared a smooth relationship. Thank you for the visit & your comments always encourage me. Your hubs are intelligently-written & informative! Take care

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    shruti sheshadri 4 years ago from Bangalore, India

    great hub ishwaryaa! I really hadn't given a thought to the pros and cons of being a single child! It is making me think now :)

    Great topic, wonderful wriing , voted up :)

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    Ishwaryaa Dhandapani 4 years ago from Chennai, India

    @ kelleyward: Hi, thank you for the visit & for your insightful views. I remembered reading one of your hubs based on birth order research and it was indeed very well-researched! Take care

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    @ shruti sheshadri: Thank you for the read and for your encouraging comments. Take care

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    Radhika Sreekanth 4 years ago from Mumbai,India

    These pros and cons really deserve great appreciation. I have a sister who is 9 years elder to me. After she got married, I was almost treated as a single child for a long time in my house. Now we both have got only one child and the reasons for that clearly stated in your hub.

    Voted up as useful and interesting. Thanks for sharing.

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    @ radhikasree: Hi, thank you for the visit and for your encouraging comments. Also thank you very much for sharing about yourself and your beloved family. Take care

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    Michelle Liew 4 years ago from Singapore

    Wow...I didn't know that Elvis had a twin and was the only child too! I felt this way for 6 years until my brother came along. I now have another problem...being the eldest child! LOL! But whatever circumstances we face, we should look at them positively. Great write!

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    Ishwaryaa Dhandapani 4 years ago from Chennai, India

    @ midget38: Hi, thank you for the visit & for your engaging comments. Nice to know that you have a brother. Yes, you are right that we should be positive irrespective of circumstances. Take care

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    TeachableMoments 4 years ago from California

    Great hub. I am raising an only child and loving every minute. I treasure our life together and I wouldn't change a thing. All families are unique, if you have one child or five, but the important thing is to appreciate what you have. Thanks for a very interesting hub.

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    @ TeachableMoments: Welcome to HubPages! Thank you not only for the read & for your encouraging comments but also sharing about raising your only child and your wise words. Take care

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    Yvonne Spence 4 years ago from UK

    Very interesting hub. I was number 2 of 4 so have never known life without siblings, but do know many only children, and how they are varies like everyone else, so I think your myth-debunking is very valid!

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    Ishwaryaa Dhandapani 4 years ago from Chennai, India

    @ Melovy: Hi, thank you for the visit and sharing your engaging views. Interesting to hear that you are the 2nd among your siblings. Take care

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    Janine Huldie 4 years ago from New York, New York

    This was an awesome read about being a single child. My mom was a single child, because my grandmother indeed did have trouble conceiving and even had to have a surgery performed on her uterus to conceive, which back in the 1940s was almost unheard of. I must say mom is totally the anything but selfish and always puts others before her own needs, so you are right about the myths of an only single child being just that. Have of course voted, shared and tweeted too!!

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    Glimmer Twin Fan 4 years ago

    So glad Janine Huldie shared this. Interesting hub! My daughter is an only child and my husband and I are always amazed at how social she is compared us. We realize it is because she enjoys that socialization. I also appreciate the myth-debunking and would also add that while many think that parents of only children are overbearing and overprotecting, many of them are not. In fact I would say that some try hard not to be overbearing precisely because of this myth. Whatever the case, my only child is a happy well adjusted kid. Great hub!

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    Rema T V 4 years ago from Chennai, India

    Great hub Ish. Great effort put into this shows clearly. Socially shared. Cheers, Rema.

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    Mary Hyatt 4 years ago from Florida

    Wow! You really did a lot of research on this Hub. Very interesting about being an only child. I was an older child, and I think I grew up very normal, thanks to my parents.

    I voted this UP, etc.

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    nanderson500 4 years ago from Seattle, WA

    This is a very interesting hub. I'm not an only child but i still found this fascinating. Voted up and interesting.

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    Ishwaryaa Dhandapani 4 years ago from Chennai, India

    @ Janine Huldie: Hi, thank you not only for the visit & for your encouraging comments but also sharing about your beloved mother and grandmother. I see that you are who you are today because of your mother! Take care

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    @ remaniki: Hi, thank you for the visit and read. Your comments always encourage me. Take care

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    Laura Irwin 4 years ago from The Great Northwest

    I'm a Psych graduate and i learned the opposite- that only and oldest children were most likely to be successful. Many presidents are only or oldest too.

    i had health problems after my first was born but I went ahead and had another child recently. I never cared about being an only child until I became an adult- all decisions about my parents as they age are up to me, I have no sibling to have occasional talks with, etc. I wanted my daughter to have a sibling- she now has a baby brother and I couldn't be happier.

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    Ishwaryaa Dhandapani 4 years ago from Chennai, India

    @ Glimmer Twin Fan: Hi, thank you not only for the visit & for your encouraging comments but also sharing about your beloved daughter. Nice to know that your daughter is very happy & well-adjusted. Your views about parents are completely right and I totally agree with you. Janine is very kind. Take care

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    Ishwaryaa Dhandapani 4 years ago from Chennai, India

    @ mary615: Hi, thank you not only for the visit & for your very encouraging comments but also sharing about yourself and your parents. Take care

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    Ishwaryaa Dhandapani 4 years ago from Chennai, India

    @ nanderson500: Thank you for the read & for your encouraging comments. Happy hubbing. Take care

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    Ishwaryaa Dhandapani 4 years ago from Chennai, India

    @ izettl: Thank you for the read & for your engaging insights. Nice to know that your daughter now has a baby brother. It is entirely up to parents in making their own decisions of how many children to raise. Happy hubbing. Take care

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    KDuBarry03 4 years ago

    Coming back for a second read. Absolutely love this hub, Ishwaryaa! As I said in my last comment, nothing should be viewed as a negative: everything can be turned into a positive :)

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    @ KDuBarry03: Hi, nice to get the second visit and read from you. Your comments are always encouraging. Happy hubbing! Take care

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    Rich 4 years ago from Kentucky

    I, too, was an only child until after my mother's death and two step siblings entered the picture. My parents only had one, as I'm sure yours and those famous only children listed did, because our parents got it right the first time, and anything else would have been a disappointment! lol Great Hub!

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    Mary Hyatt 4 years ago from Florida

    I just read my earlier comment. I meant to say I grew up an only child, but I typed "an older child". Must have been a senior moment. I'm sharing this, Pinning and Tweeting.

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    @ rcrumple: Hi, thank you not only for the visit and for your engaging insights but also sharing about yourself and your family. Happy Hubbing. Take care

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    Ishwaryaa Dhandapani 4 years ago from Chennai, India

    @ mary615: Hi! It is always an honor to get the visits from you! Thank you so much. Happy Hubbing! Take care

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    Girish puri 4 years ago from NCR , INDIA

    I agree to your view points, good suggestions and it appears you did lots of research on this topic or you are the only child...lol. voted way up.

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    crissytsu 4 years ago from Texas

    I was raised as an only child because my siblings were 18, 19, & 20 when I was born and had their own children that were my age and a couple of yrs older even but they didn't live with us...Other than constantly complaining that I had no one to play with, it wasn't bad...it used to irritate me whenever I was at a friend's house and we weren't allowed to do something because a younger sibling couldn't do it too--only children don't have to worry about that kind of stuff. Over the years from hanging out with friends who had siblings in the house, I'm glad I didn't have to worry abt all that comes with it.

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    @ crissytsu: Welcome to HubPages! Thank you not only for the read but also sharing your life story. Happy hubbing. Take care

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    vespawoolf 4 years ago from Peru, South America

    This is a fascinating psychological study of single children. There are many good reasons, of course, why some parents opt to have only one child. There are a lot of myths and people will often say parents should always have a second child. But I know many well-adjusted and successful only children, just as you've mentioned in this article. Well-written and very interesting. Thanks so much!

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    Ishwaryaa Dhandapani 4 years ago from Chennai, India

    @ vespawoolf: Hi, thank you for the visit & sharing your very engaging insights. Even I have heard that parents are often told by others to have a second child. It is entirely up to parents to make decisions on their own concerning the number of children that they are able to raise. Once again thank you. Take care

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    iguidenetwork 4 years ago from Austin, TX

    In these times, parents find it practical to have only one child, especially for economic reasons. Parents with single child and single children will really relate to this. I hope you would write another profile about "second" children, "middle" kids, and the baby of the family in the future. I am interested to know more about them. Great hub, voted up and interesting. :)

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    @ iguidenetwork: Hi, thank you for the visit & for your very encouraging feedback. Happy hubbing! Take care

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    QudsiaP1 4 years ago

    Good points nicely highlighted, well done. :)

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    @ QudsiaP1: Hi, nice to see you again. Thank you for the visit & for your very encouraging comment. Happy hubbing! Take care

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    Kimberly Vaughn 4 years ago from Midwest

    Awesome hub ishwaryaa22! My child is an only and it seems to work for him and us. I loved the myths versus reality section.

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    @ Kimberly Vaughn: Thank you not only for the read and encouraging comment but also sharing briefly about your child. Happy Christmas to you & your family!

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    Joana e Bruno 4 years ago from Algarve, Portugal

    Hello, ishwaryaa, this is an interesting view, I have a sister and I think that's awesome, but my husband is an only child and he thinks that is awesome also and he often says that he would not have liked to have a sibling, so... I think that how the child develops much more depends on who he/she is and the way the parents act, than actually having a sibling or not... Although I must confess I love the confort of having a sister... Voted up and useful (especially to tear down some myths) and sharing! Have a great day!

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    @ algarview: Hi, thank you not only for the visit and encouraging comments but also sharing about yourself and your husband and wise insights. Take care

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    Michelle Liew 4 years ago from Singapore

    I think, as long as your family environment is a good one, being an only child or not makes absolutely no difference and life is wonderful anyway! A wonderful hub by a wonderful writer, and I had to come in and share.

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    @ midget38: Hi, thank you not only for the second visit and read but also for your engaging insights! I am indeed honored. Happy hubbing! Take care

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    Devika Primić 4 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

    I have an only child and we are good friends with him, and he is raised with love and respect, a well-discipline dchild too. You have mentioned valuable points here.

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    @ DDE: Thank you not only for the read & encouraging comments but also sharing about your good relationship with your son.

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    shin_rocka04 4 years ago from Maryland

    While I wouldn't say I was an only child, I had two older sisters that for the most part did not live with me. One who lived with us shortly (she was a teenager when I was born). The other was pretty much graduating high school and off to college). From like 6 and up, I kind of felt like an only child in the home front. It definitely had its advantages and disadvantages, but I made a lot of friends. It balanced out ;). Voted up.

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    @ shin_rocka04: Thank you not only for the read & encouraging comment but also sharing about yourself. Good to know that it turned out well at your end. Happy Hubbing!

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    lindacee 4 years ago from Arizona

    I am an only child and I thoroughly enjoyed for informative Hub! It is funny, even now, when I tell people I am an only child, they almost seem apologetic. I wouldn't have traded my upbringing for the world! Thanks for shedding light our lives, strengths and personalities. :)

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    @ lindacee: Hi, thank you not only for the visit & encouraging comments but also sharing about yourself and wise insights. Happy Hubbing! Take care

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    Babytech 4 years ago

    I was the only child, too, and I understand everything you wrote. As a little girl, I wanted a little brother or little sister, to take care of, to play with. I think I would have been a good sister.

    For 12 years, I was the only child in the (extended) family. Then, my cousin was born and, being all very close, I consider him as my brother. For 12 years I was the only grandchild and I had all the attention, care and support of my grandparents.

    My parents were quite strict, so if I had a small brother, for sure I would have had more responsibilities and less time for play, less independence :)

    But, now I realize how good it would be to have a brother. My parents are aging and would be of great help a brother to help me take care of them. Then, I think about the moment when they will die. I will not have the support of someone who I understand exactly, to help me with the funeral, to help me over that moment, my own flesh and blood.

    Yes, being the only child in the family has disadvantages when you're small. But I think there are many advantages, once you grow.

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    @ Babytech: Welcome to HubPages! Thank you not only for the read but also sharing your detailed and engaging insights. I agree with your views. Happy Hubbing!

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    tattuwurn 4 years ago

    It depends... some are happy with being an only child, some are unhappy with it and wish or a brother or sister.

    No matter if you're a single child or a child with siblings, it's the way your parents raise you that makes you what you will become. :)

    Thanks for posting, up and interesting. :)

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    @ tattuwurm: Thank you not only for the read & encouraging comment but also sharing your wise insights. Happy Hubbing!

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    Linda Bilyeu 4 years ago from Orlando, FL

    Hi Ish, I hope you are doing well :)

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    @ Sunshine625: Hi madam, I am doing well. I am very busy with my pre-wedding preparations. Hope life is great for you & your family. Happy Hubbing! Take care

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    Linda Bilyeu 4 years ago from Orlando, FL

    Enjoy! You'll be a beautiful bride.

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    Ishwaryaa Dhandapani 4 years ago from Chennai, India

    Oh madam thank you so much for your kind wishes & compliment. God bless you!

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    Oh madam thank you so much for your kind wishes & compliment. God bless you!

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    FlourishAnyway 4 years ago from USA

    Voted up and awesome. Lovely to see a nice, well-balanced hub on only children. My husband and I have one child due to my health issues (MS). We tried to adopt but the health stereotype was a barrier. We are very happy with our daughter, a bright, sensitive, funny, active girl who is wise beyond her years. Although she has always begged for siblings, she has a large extended family to lean on and the benefit of world travel that would not otherwise be possible if we had additional children. I do worry about how she will handle our eventual deaths but try not to ponder it too much.

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    Elizabeth Parker 4 years ago from Las Vegas, NV

    This is really interesting to me because I never gave the topic any thought. I'm the youngest of five kids, so I've always had a lot of people around me. I never looked at it from an only child's perspective..

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    @ FlourishAnyway: Welcome to HubPages! Thank you not only for the read and encouraging comments but also sharing about you and your family. Good to know that your daughter is happy and is blessed with caring people around her. Happy Hubbing!

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    Kevin Peter 4 years ago from Global Citizen

    The pros and cons are explained well. It's a very satisfactory hub. The information provided can help in growing up children in a better way. Thanks for sharing these useful information.

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    Ishwaryaa Dhandapani 4 years ago from Chennai, India

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    artandbrain 4 years ago from United States

    Excellent hub! I grew up an only child, so I can identify with this article. In my college counseling strategies class, we learned about how birth order affects personality. Some studies show that first borns tend to be smarter and more responsible while the youngest child is often the risk taker. The middle child is usually more independent, while us only children are often the perfectionists. Thanks for sharing!

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    @ artandbrain: Thank you not only for the read & encouraging comments but also sharing your interesting insights and knowledge. Happy Hubbing!

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    Toy Tasting 4 years ago from Mumbai

    Hey Ishwaryaa, this is such a beautifully explained hub. I completely agree with your reasoning. Voted up and Sharing.

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    @ Toytasting: Welcome to HubPages! Thank you for the read & very encouraging comments as well as agreeing with my reasoning. Happy Hubbing!

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    C E Clark 4 years ago from North Texas

    I do not believe an only child has to turn out self-centered and pompous. I think how parents bring that child up makes all the difference. My own daughter is an only. Today she works with special needs children just like I do. She has been volunteering since she was only 11 years old and it was her idea, not mine. I realize all only children don't always turn out well, but neither do all children with siblings and some of the children with siblings can be pretty self-centered too.

    Interesting and thought provoking. Well written. Voted up and interesting. Will share.

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    Nell Rose 4 years ago from England

    This was fascinating, and yes I do agree that sometimes a single child can get into trouble, my friends son did that. my son was a single child and he went the other way, loads of friends all the time around the house, everywhere I went I tripped over one! lol! and he turned out fine. Your famous list above shows that to be a single child can mean higher intelligence and a steady purpose in what they want to do in life, great hub!

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    brownella 4 years ago from New England

    Interesting hub. I am the youngest of five girls but there is quite an age gap (I was a surprise) so I experience a bit of both worlds. I agree with a lot of your points though I think more of child's temperament comes from the style and consistency of the parents than birth order.

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    Ishwaryaa Dhandapani 4 years ago from Chennai, India

    @ Au fait: Hi, thank you not only for the visit & encouraging comments but also sharing about your dear daughter and your wise insights. Happy Hubbing! Take care

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    @ Nell Rose: Hi, thank you not only for the second visit & encouraging comments but also sharing about your dear son. Good to know that your son is very happy. Happy Hubbing! Take care

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    Dolores Monet 3 years ago from East Coast, United States

    I imagine you had a wonderful time researching this one, being an only child. Wonderfully done (Voted up and shared!) I know several people with only one child. In each case, childbirth was difficult. After I had my third, the nurses said they would see me again. I said no way, this is #3! The nurses said that when women have an easy birth, they are totally fine with another!

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    Ishwaryaa Dhandapani 3 years ago from Chennai, India

    @ Dolores Monet: Hi, thank you not only for the visit & encouraging comments but also sharing your engaging experience and memories. Happy Hubbing! Take care

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    marion langley 3 years ago from The Study

    I enjoyed reading this. The writing was clear, the information was well organized, the quiz was fun, the table established support, and the pictures were thought provoking. There are, as you have illustrated, many good reasons to have only one child. However, I had a professor once say something profound along the lines that some people in more desperate places have a great number of children expecting that some will not make it. If you pour all your life into one and a drink driver takes it out you are without the comfort of the siblings.

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    Ishwaryaa Dhandapani 3 years ago from Chennai, India

    @ marion langley: Welcome to HubPages! Thank you not only for the read & very encouraging comments but also sharing your engaging views. Happy Hubbing!

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    Indian Chef 3 years ago from New Delhi India

    With hugh population in India, single child are in fashion. Even though I know at least three people who stopped at 1 child to give all their love to only one, I know all carve for attention and other children would take advantage of them for being their friends like take away their video games (PS2) and things like that. But I really liked reading your Hub and it is not only very well written but also very well researched. Voting it up and twitting.

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    Ishwaryaa Dhandapani 3 years ago from Chennai, India

    @ Indian Chef: Hi, thank you not only for the visit & encouraging comments but also sharing your profound insights and real-life experiences. Happy Hubbing! Take care

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    liamhubpages 2 years ago

    I am not an only child, but from my perspective it is better to have siblings to rely on and trust them rather than being an only child.

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    Ishwaryaa Dhandapani 2 years ago from Chennai, India

    Thank you for the read & sharing your views.

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