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What is the one most valuable lesson your parents taught you?

Updated on March 10, 2012
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Before I answer to the question " What is the one most valuable lesson your parents taught you?", I should introduce them.

My father is a mechanical engineer who was his own boss and peon! He was a technical design consultant with office at home. Unlike, many other kids, I had this wonderful opportunity to spend a lot of time with him at home!

My mother was a homemaker and she is this ideal mom anyone can have!

Now my parents have shifted to an ashram in Kerala leaving behind all the materialistic pleasures and in search of the ONE THING that can give you eternal peace.

So coming to answer the question - Do what you want your children to follow is the most valuable lesson they taught me. After all, actions speak louder than words. Hours and hours of preaching or advising will never have this profound effect on children!

Here are a few lessons learned by me from my parents, from their actions:

Mother first:

1. How to manage a household without any hassle: Be it keeping the house clean, managing finance, buying things for the kitchen and the house in general. She was perfect!

2. Kitchen is the best route to enter your man's heart: She is the best cook I have ever met! Cooking and serving delicious food on time is her specialty, I would say!

3. Be efficient: Be it any work you do, be efficient and smart. Managing the entire house as a home maker requires efficiency and she was too good at that.

4. Reduce Wastage: She taught not only me but my entire family not to waste anything - food, electricity, water etc. Buy only what is necessary and do not overload the house with anything extra.

5. Reduce desires as you age: She was a role-model for me to reduce interests in monetary pleasures like jewellery, cosmetics etc as you age.

6. Have dinner together: My mom ensured that we had dinner together and I have many many memories of fun during dinner when we would exchange a lot of things.

7. Mother is the first best friend for a girl: My mom always had ears to all that I had to say. She was open for discussion on anything which made me not hide things to her and also be truthful to her which in turn taught me never to lie.

Father now:

1. Be principled and stand by it: Have certain principles for yourself like honesty, straight forwardness etc and do not leave them even if you are subjected to adverse situations is what my father lived by and I learned them from him

2. Be a good listener: Listeners are very few in this world and being a good listener will make people like you is one of his best policies. He asks interesting questions to people and encourages them to talk thus making people like him for being interested about them

3. Lead a simple life: Do not be extravagant in anything. Simplicity is the one thing that can take a man to great heights!

4. Read a lot of books: Reading books is the best hobby and I learned that from him. He narrated a lot of stories that he read which made me to read a lot too.

5. Money is not everything in life: Life is not all about money making. There are things worth more than that! Do not run behind money is one thing I saw him practice.

6. Spend quality time with kids:

By seeing him spending time with me and my brother, I made it a point to spend quality time with my kids, narrating my experience, sharing thoughts on different things and discussing anything under the sun, once I become a parent.

7. Let the child think:

My dad never forced me into anything when it came to choosing my career. He was just a guiding factor and never the deciding force when it came to taking decisions. he gave me the freedom to think for myself and act accordingly.

I am indeed proud and lucky to have got such parents! And I am just hoping my kids would feel the same about me in the future!

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      Jenny 2 years ago

      At last some rainoialtty in our little debate.

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      Vanessa 2 years ago

      In my experience, rieviecng was always more difficult than giving and the giving often came from a place of feeling I had to make everything okay for others. True, unconditional giving I learned only when I learned how to receive love and this meant I had to allow myself to be vulnerable. What is called love in our society is often not love at all but a set of conditions. If you do this, this and this . then I'll love you. True love has no reasons. Sounds like this was what you were trying to do but the person was unable to go there with you. There was a time I would have been the same.

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      Deepika Arun 3 years ago from Chennai, India

      Harish, thanks a lot! Will convey your kind words to my father as well! :)

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      Harish Mamgain 3 years ago from India

      Deepika, this is a wonderful tribute to your very loving and wise parents. I remained hooked to this beautiful hub till the last word. To reflect on the fantastic traits of our parents and have all respect for them in our heart is a blessing and one should nurture it by all means. I am also a follower of your dad and read some his hubs. He is a great writer.

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      Deepika Arun 5 years ago from Chennai, India

      Hi Your Cousins,

      Thanks for taking the time to read my hub and posting your comment!

      Cheers,

      Deepika

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      Your Cousins 5 years ago from Atlanta, GA

      It's very special that your mom always scheduled time for the family to have dinner together. My family wasn't always able to do that, but as a parent now, I try to make sure that my family eats together as often as possible. Your parents did impart valuable lessons -- and you listened :-) Thanks for sharing.

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      Deepika Arun 5 years ago from Chennai, India

      Thanks Hassan for your wish and also for your time to read my hub:)

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      M.hassan 5 years ago

      adab deepika.i am a muslim girl from ur neighborhood country, Bangladesh.must say, ur childhood really went so good with your lovely parents and so had I. I wish the wish that u have for future (mentioned in the last line)may come true.pray for me the same. Goodluck my friend!

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      Uncle OT 5 years ago

      I've already started to read his hubs - he writes very well. Now I know where you both inherited your story telling abilities. :)

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      Deepika Arun 5 years ago from Chennai, India

      Uncle OT, you might want to ready dad's hubs! The C.V.Rajan above is my dad! :)

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      Uncle OT 5 years ago

      Nothing like this to make parents happy and give them a sense of fulfillment.

      :)

      I was quite happy to see that I've nearly fitted with your father's traits, except perhaps for point 6, I am not sure if I've spent quality time with them.

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      Disillusioned 5 years ago from Kerala, India

      Ah! That's the precise response I was expecting from you!!

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      Deepika Arun 5 years ago from Chennai, India

      Aamava illaya?!

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      Disillusioned 5 years ago from Kerala, India

      Aama ille?!!!

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      Deepika Arun 5 years ago from Chennai, India

      Thanks manni!

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      deepa 5 years ago

      I think this is the best tribute you have given to your parents. Even I am proud of your parents, that is my mama and mami.

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      Deepika Arun 5 years ago from Chennai, India

      Thanks Pranith! :)

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      Pranith Gidijala 5 years ago

      - Inspiring..!!