Premarital Sex in Relationships?

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   imaan21posted 13 years ago

   Premarital Sex in Relationships?
   
   I've been with my boyfriend for nine months. We've been long-distance (2 hours apart because of school) for our entire relationship. Four months ago we decided to become intimate. I love him more than I thought I could love and I feel no regret about being with him, but after getting a prescription for birth control and dealing with the stress of keeping the secret from my parents, I'm questioning the consequences of it on my relationship. If you've had premarital sex in a long-term relationship how did it effect your relationship and what is your opinion on it?
   
   

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   nightwork4posted 13 years ago

   personally i wouldn't stay with a woman if she wanted to wait till we were married to have sex. depending on your age, what you look for in a partner and how experienced you are, sex is awesome and it can bring closeness into a relationship.

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   lovelife08posted 13 years ago

   I had sex with 3 of my long-term boyfriends.  Two of those relationships failed (obviously, or there wouldn't be 3).  The first was in high school, I was 17, young, and still very naive and did not know then what I know now.
   
   The second was my first boyfriend in college.  We were together a year.  But we had sex after the first month.  Then after a few months, the sex suddenly stopped because he felt guilty (religion had a major effect on this).  After that, our relationship slowly went downhill until it finally crashed and he and I are no longer in contact and have nothing nice to say about each other.
   
   I am currently with the third, and we too started having sex after the first month.  It has been a year and three months since we've been together and we are expecting a baby this summer.  We have been having some difficulties lately, but we are in the process of working them out and working through them so that we can be a family.
   
   My opinion on the matter is, in the long run, it is better to wait until after you're married.  But, these days, there really is no stopping it, so I cannot judge anyone for choosing not to wait, especially since I chose not to wait, too.  That being said, I also believe that sex CAN be beneficial in a relationship.  It is just a level of intimacy that a couple has to judge for themselves and decide what is right for them.

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