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Do Mother's love their first child more deeply than those that follow? Why?

  1. K9keystrokes profile image93
    K9keystrokesposted 6 years ago

    Do Mother's love their first child more deeply than those that follow? Why?

  2. ezeiglerwriter profile image58
    ezeiglerwriterposted 6 years ago

    I have 5 children. My eldest will be 11 in September. While the youngest, a girl, will be one in August. All of my children are vastly different. Each of them have a quality that none of the others do. I love them all differently yet the same. I can not really describe it. I will say that my first pregnancy was so completely different and exciting. While the others had a more "been there, done that" feeling.

  3. brassfield profile image57
    brassfieldposted 6 years ago

    A son is a son, a daughter is forever. Of course that means that your daughter is likely to stay close most of her life, where a son will wander.

  4. Naomi's Banner profile image80
    Naomi's Bannerposted 6 years ago

    I have two sons that I birthed and raised.  I had more time to spend with the first one and consequently we had a great bond.  I went to work after the birth of the second son therfore didn't have as much time to spend with him.  I didn't get as close to him until much later in life.  He actually pulled away and was more to himself than the first one.  They are both very different yet I love them both a lot.  I just love them for different reasons and in different ways.  I can say that I love them both tremendously but we both have very different relationships.

  5. teyeger82 profile image78
    teyeger82posted 6 years ago

    I have two sons from two different marriages.  They both look different and have completely different personalities but I truthfully cannot say that I love one more deeply than the other.  They are both good sons and both have their good qualities as well as some that could be worked on wink but I love them just the same.

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    harpreetsaniakaurposted 6 years ago

    no absolutely not.Every women has a different experience with her each child.Its those different sweet n saulty memories which keeps her each child close to her heart.I am the second daughter yet i am very close to my mom even more than my elder sister just because of some different situations she has to face during my time.

  7. Kiertiana profile image57
    Kiertianaposted 6 years ago

    No. A mother does not love her first more than those that follow. That poem was written before my second child was even thought of. I was going through a hard time with her father and that was the product of it. I love both of my children equally. But as Naomi's Banner said, relationships can be different even though the love felt is equal. Children have different personalities and likes, which naturally makes relationships different. I am closer with my oldest, but that doesn't mean I love her more than my youngest.

  8. your cybersister profile image60
    your cybersisterposted 6 years ago

    I can only speak for myself, but I do not love my first child more deeply than the other two.  I have three sons, all totally different in every way, and I love them equally.  There are different traits and abilities in each of them that make them unique and I would go so far as to say I have a "favorite" to share a certain activity with, but overall they get the same unconditional love.  I can't imagine that most mothers feel any differently.

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    mybabies1stalwaysposted 6 years ago

    I love all 4 of my babies the same. I would die for, give my last penny for, & wish it was me & not them when thei r in pain. Every pregnancy & child is different. U share different experiences & bonds with each one of them. My special bond with my oldest was experiencing everything for the 1st time with. The indepence, & strong person my baby turn out to be. My 2nd special bond would be my high risk pregnancy & being graceful to have. How sweet & funny my baby is. My 3rd especial bond would be being told that my baby had a chance of down syndrome but my mother's intuition knew my baby was perfectly fine. How respectful & kind hearted my baby is. My 4th special bond would be experiencing a c-section for the 1st time. My baby is attached to mommy so I know we r building our bond:).
    Couldn't imagen my life with out either one of them.