What should be the "house rules" when a 15 y.o. boy has his 14 year old girl fri

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  1. pb3131 profile image65
    pb3131posted 7 years ago

    What should be the "house rules" when a 15 y.o. boy has his 14 year old girl friend over to hang out

    They aren't GF-BF but there is definitely some sexual tension here. Should the doors stay open? Should I respect their privacy? Should I put out a bowl of assorted condoms? Help

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  2. davenmidtown profile image89
    davenmidtownposted 7 years ago

    maybe you should talk to him without accusing.  Have the talk about sex and responsibility.   Children seem so much more grown up then when I was a teenage.  I think the rules of the house should be set by you.  If you are comfortable with them being alone in a bedroom... then let them close the door.  I think teenagers find a way if sex is what they are after.  I think it is just important that you take the opportunity to make him a responsible young man.

  3. Just Ask Susan profile image89
    Just Ask Susanposted 7 years ago

    I have 3 sons and my rules were always:

    No girls are allowed in your bedroom
    No girls over while myself or your father is not at home

    This always worked in our house.
    Good Luck Parenting can be tough at times smile

  4. Ddraigcoch profile image79
    Ddraigcochposted 7 years ago

    I am quite liberal but not stupid. My mother had a great defence for this, my 4 year old brother and 6 year old sister. She would send them in to my room every ten minutes. What she did not realize was I was far too scared to try anything whilst she was in the house.
    That is not when you need to worry. They could behave whilst you are there and go out and have sex in the closest woods or field.
    I would take a two pronged approach. Go in heavy with the consequences of what will happen if they disrespect your house with underage sex, but also give them a condom. There will be others who say this is contradictory messages, but I do not think so. I think it is portraying a message of " I am not happy about underage sex, but it would be worse if a baby got caught up in this". I would end it with a " by the way, if I catch you, you will be allowed no friends in my house what so ever!".
    Teenagers will be teenagers, but that doesn't mean adults have to stop being adults. I had so much respect for my mother, I could not even have sex when my husband and I were house sitting and looking after my younger siblings for a weekend. It just felt wrong and weird.

  5. lockgirl profile image61
    lockgirlposted 7 years ago

    I agree no girls in the bedroom , no girls over without adult supervision. Sit your son down and talk to him about sex .

  6. Jonesy0311 profile image60
    Jonesy0311posted 7 years ago

    Anyone under your roof deserves no privacy unless they are a paying tenant. The right to privacy doesn't apply to juveniles in the care of their guardians. The door should definitely remain open. Hell, I would take it off the hinges and put it in the garage. Unless you have an open discourse with your kid on sexuality, placing out a bowl of condoms may be the wrong way to get on topic. However, at some point, I would explain that sex is natural, but should be practiced safely. I would recommend putting the condoms somewhere, like a drawer, and make sure he knows where to find them. I'd rather have my kid practicing sex safely under my roof than groping around in the backseat at a park with a rubber he bought from a gas station dispenser.

  7. alphagirl profile image81
    alphagirlposted 7 years ago

    OMG! That 3 letter word is just moments from a kiss if you shut the doors. Have you had the father-son talk about being responsible,etc. Leave the doors, MAKE them sit in the family room if they go to bedroom or basement, be sure all lights are on.

  8. seicheprey profile image62
    seichepreyposted 7 years ago

    Throw her out.  They shouldn't be in the house together.  Sit him down and have the most disgusting and painful talk about sex possible, and bring pictures of what stds can do to someone.  Maybe that'll cool the sexual tension.

 
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