Anyone feel real comfort from traveling down memory lane?

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  1. StaceytheWanderer profile image77
    StaceytheWandererposted 2 years ago

    Anyone feel real comfort from traveling down memory lane?

    My father passed in 99'. And today I watched home videos with him in them for the first time since he passed.
    I was riddled with excitement and anticipation knowing my mother found them. Then I was in teary eyed shock and happiness when I saw him. Now I feel so sad and empty.
    I can't bring myself to visit his grave. Anyone else feel this way about their departed loved ones?

    Forgive my blurry picture. I took a video of it playing on my tv then took a screenshot of it on my phone. But this is my dad and I swimming in lake Winnipesaukee.

  2. ThyScribbler profile image60
    ThyScribblerposted 2 years ago

    Yes I understand. This year both my grandparents died 2 months apart. I cried a bit for my grandmother, but didn't even have time for my grandfather (I was in the bath just about to go to school when my mum told me, still went to school that day). If I properly sat down now and started thinking about all the things I miss about them I would start crying, but I haven't done that since their death.

    If your memory lane is related with something sad, then it's normal that it doesn't provide any comfort. However, that said, going down memory lane hardly ever provides comfort for me. The other day with my family we were watching videos of when we were babies, and I am sad to say it literally did not make me feel anything. It just made me feel like 'it's over, let's forget about it, who cares, etc' I'm not really sure why.

    But yes I understand what you mean and for this reason I prefer not to think of the past too much.

  3. nochance profile image90
    nochanceposted 2 years ago

    You have to remind yourself of the good moments and celebrate those experiences.

  4. tamarawilhite profile image91
    tamarawilhiteposted 2 years ago

    To paraphrase the Game of Thrones series, nothing makes memory sweeter than the imminence of death.
    You mentally then appreciate the time you were alive and wish you were there, when life was better and not threatened.
    Or you go back to that time mentally and emotionally, remembering when they were alive. This can bring comfort to say life was good with them, but it is bad if it becomes a source of nagging guilt.


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