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10 Things You Should Never Do in Hard Times

Updated on July 11, 2017

At some point in your life we have all encountered some hard times in life. Your hard times may include hard financial times, a relationship, your marriage, children, career, a loved one who is sick , being diagnosed with a disease, a crisis or a very stressful situation. I have learned through hard times what works and what not to do, to gain peace, hope and strength in hard seasons of my life. Here are some things you should avoid doing to pull through the tough times and not be succumb by them.


1. NEVER FOCUS ON THE PROBLEMS ALL THE TIME

You should acknowledge your problems, but if you focus on all your adversities and hard times 90% of the time and nothing else, chances are you might be more anxious, fearful, discouraged, more hopeless and a lot more emotions. You do not want to place focus on your problems all day and all night, in your conversations, in your thoughts. Instead talk about something else, that is uplifting and do things to shift your focus from problems to something else, a hobby or activity that interests you. You can take a walk, ride your bike, exercise, paint, blog, watch a movie, read encouraging books and articles, volunteer, help someone in need, etc.

2. DENY WHAT’S GOING ON

Although times are tough, do not deny the facts of the problem itself or the myriad of emotions that is going on. You may tell yourself nothing is wrong and you tell everyone that you are fine and continue doing your same routine everyday. You may believe that it is best to ignore and avoid the actual problems, what is going on the inside, what you are feeling, but at times we need to acknowledge what is going on, let yourselves get angry, sad, grieve, cry.

3. NEVER KEEP EVERYTHING BOTTLED UP

If you keep everything bottled up inside believing you can handle everything on your own, it can become somewhat heavy overtime. During difficult times, it is best to talk and open up because you will better understand yourself, any fears that are there, any concerns and receive valuable advice from others who have been through times like what you are facing.

4. NEVER GIVE UP

Do not give up hope and believe this is how life will be like forever. Acknowledge that things are difficult, painful, but always believe that you will overcome it and get through them one day at time.

5. NEVER SURROUND YOURSELF WITH PEOPLE WHO POISON YOUR SPIRIT

You certainly do not want to be around people who are negative, take away your hope, strength, judgmental, critical, and do not sincerely care about what is going on in your life. Choose to be with those who are positive, those who will you help and build strength in you.

6. NEVER WITHDRAW FROM PEOPLE ALL TOGETHER

As stated in step 5, you should stay away from toxic people, but during hard times you should not be alone or want to handle things on your own. There are possibly other reasons you withdraw from people, it can be because you are ashamed of your situation, fearful of people’s opinion, depressed, feel guilty. Isolation from others does not help us or the situation we are in. You need to look for genuine people who can offer support and be encouragement during hard times. This can be friends and loved ones who have gone through similar circumstances, a support group, church group, prayer group, pastor, counselor, who will be there for you, listen to you and offer help.

7. NEVER BE PASSIVE

Passivity is just waiting for something to happen and not stepping up and seeing what can be done. You need to list and evaluate the problem, take action when necessary, make a list of possible solutions, make choices, talk to people, make phone calls, go places and do what you can to bring a resolution to your problem.

8. NEVER BLAME YOURSELF, OTHERS AND GOD

You might have created the problem, but a cycle of blaming yourself will not help you through it, just take responsibility for it and recognize the lesson that needs to be learned. from it. Blaming others for your problem shows a lack of ability to deal with what is occurring. Stop pointing fingers to others. Get rid of any anger towards others and work towards fixing the problems.

9. NEVER LISTEN AND DWELL ON NEGATIVE THOUGHTS

Learn to recognize negative thoughts about yourself, your situation. Choose to tear down the negativity and dwell on the positive. Read quotes to keep you thinking positive during tough times. Look for and think on the good things daily. This simple exercise can cause our eyes to look for the good things no matter how small they are, and express thankfulness for what you have. It can be a sunny day, sunset, great memories, things that will make you laugh or smile.

10. NEVER CONSUME EXCESSIVE ALCOHOL, DRUGS OR ANY SUBSTANCE

You certainly do not want to turn to something that gives you a temporary fix and create a problem on top of the hard times you are facing. This include Drugs from illegal drugs, prescription drugs, over the counter drugs and its frequent use. Choose to take care of your body and health the right way. Choose the proper means, right individuals to help in tough times to bring the encouragement, hope and strength.

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      Janellegems 3 years ago from United States

      Thanks so much Kate. I appreciate you stopping by and reading my hub.

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      Kate McBride 3 years ago from Donegal Ireland

      This hub is full of insight and wisdom as well as being very practical. Looking forward to reading more from you Janellegems.Voted up and useful :-)

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      Janellegems 3 years ago from United States

      Absolutely, howtobeasucess. I totally agree. It's the only way to continue during those hard seasons of life. Thanks for reading my hub.

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      How to be a Success 3 years ago from The Land of Hope

      So true.. during hard times,, you should NEVER GIVE UP... ^_^ I had been in a lot of problems and all i did was to continue my life. All is well if you simply continue living and believing..

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      Janellegems 3 years ago from United States

      I definitely hope so. Thank you teaches12345 for your comment. I always appreciate your input.

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      Dianna Mendez 3 years ago

      Excellent advice for those who may be facing dark times in their life. Your points will help people to make a good decision.

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      Janellegems 3 years ago from United States

      It definitely is. Thanks Efficient Admin.

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      Janellegems 3 years ago from United States

      Thank you MsDora for your comment always. It is always appreciated.

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      Efficient Admin 3 years ago from Charlotte, NC

      Great advice - it's always better to keep a positive attitude and a lot of prayer has helped me. Very useful information, voted up.

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      Janellegems 3 years ago from United States

      Thank you DDE You are absolutely right, having positive thoughts and a positive attitude to see pass the present tough times does make a difference and helps us move forward and look ahead of better things. This also helped me.

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      Janellegems 3 years ago from United States

      Thanks swilliams for reading my hub and your encouraging comment.

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      Dora Weithers 3 years ago from The Caribbean

      Very good advice, Janelle. We all could use these. Number seven is challenge, but altogether you give us great tools to get through the hard times.

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      Devika Primić 3 years ago from Dubrovnik, Croatia

      During my hard times all I could think of was positive thoughts and let myself be confident about another part of my life that I knew would make pass the hard time with ease. A very helpful hub.

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      Emunah La Paz 3 years ago from Arizona

      Great Article! I love the words of affirmations. Voted up Very useful and beautiful! Thanks!