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14 Things to Stop Doing When You Get Angry

Updated on May 26, 2011

"He who angers you, conquers you." - Elizabeth Kenny

When you stop exhibiting these 14 behaviors you can resolve your anger without hurting others or stressing yourself:

1. Stop speaking. Silence is the number one behavior to practice when you are angry. Silence shows you are in control of your anger.

2. Stop staying angry. If your anger is stronger than five on a scale of one to ten, leave the situation until you or the other person is back in control. Focus on something else.

3. Stop staring. Break off eye contact with the other person. Staring inflames your anger. Look at the floor, the ceiling, or anywhere else.

4. Stop interrupting. This is directly connected to staying silent.

5. Stop cursing. Profanity only increases the tension.

6. Stop threatening.

7. Stop name calling.

8. Stop yelling.

9. Stop pointing.

10. Stop sarcasm and mocking. These behaviors can be hurtful and humiliating.

11. Stop throwing things.

12. Stop any non-affectionate touching. Do not touch, hold or push anyone else while you are angry.

13. Stop sighing. Non-verbal behavior includes sighing, chuckling, or rolling your eyes, and can also hurt or humiliate another person.

14. Stop criticizing. It is not your role to point out what others are doing wrong.

It is not always easy to manage your anger but it is not impossible. Stop these fourteen behaviors and stay in control. It soon becomes a habit.

Anger is the only thing to put off until tomorrow. - old Slovakian proverb

© Copyright BJ Rakow 2011. All rights reserved.   Author, "Much of What You Know about Job Search Just Ain't So"


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    • drbj profile imageAUTHOR

      drbj and sherry 

      5 years ago from south Florida

      So happy to know, Patricia, that you have conquered any former anger issues. As you grew older, you grew wiser. Anger is most hurtful for those who display it. And as you point out, there are so many other larger, more important issues to be concerned about.

      You are so right. The other stuff just isn't that important any more. Thank you for the sharing and the pinning, m'dear. Hope all is well with you.

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      Patricia Scott 

      5 years ago from sunny Florida

      Good afternoon drbj

      At one point in my life I had anger issues. And actually did not take much to set me off. However LIFE happened to me and so many things fell into place that learned there was no time to be wasted on anger.

      Things that used to really set me off just are not of significance any longer.

      What makes me angry now are the bigger issues: why can't we fix someone who is sick; why can't all of the little children be fed; why can't we stop abuse...any kind? And all of those huge issues.

      The other stuff just does not seem to matter.

      Thank you for sharing this. I am pinning it. Angels are on the way ps

    • drbj profile imageAUTHOR

      drbj and sherry 

      8 years ago from south Florida

      Hello, charvi. If you are at the point where you realize you may need to talk to a professional about managing your anger, then that is a positive sign. Please find an experienced therapist in your area who specializes in anger management. You can be helped. Good luck.

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      8 years ago

      i get angry very frequently which is not in my nature. i suddenly get irritated for no reason and pick up something and blame my parents for it. i am not able to help myself not get angry. i throw things and yell. and when my parents ignore i yell even more. i can't take it if i'm being ignored. i am worried i need a psychological treatment. i don't understand my mental state. i don't understand what is wrong with myself and what i'm going through is horrible. please help me


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