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Let Go: 20 Good Things to Let Go

Updated on January 11, 2013
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When to Let Go

Knowing when to let go is crucial to a healthy and happy life. Here are 3 questions to ask yourself that may reveal that it is time to let go and move forward.

1. Are you unhappy?

If something is making you unhappy, a change may be in order. Signs that you are unhappy may include:

  • you are isolating from friends and family
  • you find yourself watching more television and getting out the house less
  • you feel hopeless and/or disillusioned, as if you were fooled or tricked
  • your performance at work has changed
  • people are asking you if you are unhappy or depressed

2. Are there more cons than pros?

Making a pros and cons chart and being completely honest with yourself can lead to you seeing your true feelings. If you find that the cons out weigh the pros, it may be time for you to make a decision. I remember that someone suggested this to me when I was debating leaving a relationship. I really did not want to leave but when I looked at my own words on paper, I knew what I had to do. I had to let go.

3. Is it worth holding on?

Even with a pros and cons list that seems heavy on the cons, looking at the value of the pros and the long term effects of letting go, may cause you to consider staying still a bit. For example, if you are wanting to let go of smoking cigarettes and you are a newly sober person full of fear and anxiety, you may want to wait. Though the cons of smoking are numerous, letting go at such a time may cause more harm.


20 Things to Let Go

If you are looking to chnage your life and move into a greater sense of contentment, here are 20 good things to get rid of as quickly as you are able.

1. Resentment

2. Desperation

3. Unhealthy relationships

4. Negative self-talk

5. Fear

6. Self-harming behavior

7. Gossiping/criticizing others

8. Manipulating

9. Guilt

10. Procrastination

11. Envy

12. The need to control

13. Looking for validation in others

14. Looking to your job, income or relationship to define you

15. Irresponsible spending habits

16. Any addictions

17. Poor self-care

18. Blaming others for your problems

19. Clutter

20. Unhealthy eating habits

Books on Letting Go

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"Life is a Journey, Not a Destination"

This famous quote by Ralph Waldo Emerson reminds us that life is a process. Therefore, any change takes time. Be patient and kind to yourself and with time, practice and yes, lots of patience, you will be able to let go and move forward. If you find yourself clinging to anything, remember: you did not form these habits over night and you will not get rid of in that time either.

Change comes when we let go


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      Gary R. Smith 5 years ago from the Head to the Heart

      A beautiful hub, well-written and presented.

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      Dianna Mendez 5 years ago

      Voted way up and shared. Your ideas are excellent and will make life successful. I found years ago that letting ago of those petty ideas or sentiments will help you to live better and happier. Blessings.

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      Grace Marguerite Williams 5 years ago from the Greatest City In The World-New York City, New York

      Beautiful way to live, thanks for sharing this, KrystalD.

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      Patricia Scott 5 years ago from sunny Florida

      Letting go is challenging. But o, the after effects are long lasting. Well said!! Sometimes a list like this allows us to take a quick look and decide if in deed we have to address any or all of them.

      Thanks for sharing this. Sending Angels to you and yours this 12th day of our new year. :) ps

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      KrystalD 5 years ago from Los Angeles

      Thanks for reading and commenting Taleb80.

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      Taleb AlDris 5 years ago

      Thanks for sharing this important list. Everyone should find which ones are affecting him/her more, then he should work on them.

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      KrystalD 5 years ago from Los Angeles

      Thanks billybuc :-) AA teaches us so many things.

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      In AA we are told to let go and let God. In other words, life is so much better when you don't carry so much angst inside. Good job with this hub; it's a very important message.