Aging women. Am I one of those? How to endure and get to terms with an aging body
No, this article isn't going to tell you how you fight the aging process. It is the opposite really. I will tell you what happens when the aging process starts to show on your body and how to learn to live with it! That’s the only way because you can’t possibly buy all those anti aging products to keep up with the aging process. Most of us will not have the time or the economy to do it. There are endless articles on anti aging products and articles about how women can lift different parts of the body and for some reason this seems to be the reality. You are supposed to fight the normal aging process with all means! But I won’t do it. At least not to insanity!
So let’s go! Be prepared for some embarrassing facts but I will try to keep it on the decent side. I will focus on women in this article because that is what I know best. But I will love to read an article about aging men!
It has been obvious for a while now but I have chosen not to deal with it. But I can see that denying facts isn't going to work since it stares me in the face when I look in the mirror!
That person staring back at me in the mirror is in many ways a stranger to me but yet so familiar. As another women said in a comment in my hub "the usual old lady"; I see my mother, myself and my daughter in that mirror. I can even see my grandmother. The person staring back at me is someone who looks like me but yet not! But one thing is clear, it is time I realise that the last remaining glimpses of the former and younger me is slowly fading away!
It is time to learn how to live with that new person, but how do I do that?
To grow old with dignity, what is that? To be honest, right now I can’t see anything dignified about it! It is simply a physical maturity which is far from my self-image. And it is certainly not dignified to aging as women. In our culture women are supposed to look good, be beautiful as if that was our only advantages. We all know that this isn't true but yet it is a fact. You never hear about “the grey temples charm” when it comes to women, do you?
So what happens when aging starts to show? Lets start from the top;
My hair is slowly turning grey, but that is one part of the aging process that I am not willing to accept yet. I refuse to let go of my former natural colour and I have to dye my hair every 5 weeks or so. That is when a grey scalp is beginning to be visible and let’s face it; a hair with a grey stripe at the scalp is one of the ugliest available. It looks untidy and sloppy and only arouses pity no matter how good looking the women are otherwise.
What has happened to them and why? My eyes used to be my pride and there are many men who have praised them, but not lately if I am honest. So, what has happened to them? Many things apparently! The upper eye lids have a slightly red colour? (why is that) and they also have began to sag a little. What is the purpose of that, are we supposed to have a smaller field of view as we age? Are there things we are not supposed to see? The only thing I can imagine is each other since the love of your life also grow older beside you!
The area under the eyes where the skin is more fragile can more easily look swollen and sometimes also have a darker colour. And there is of course the wrinkles that is visible and isn't possible to cover with makeup. Some foundations will only make them more visible so make sure to choose the right one!
The rest of the face is suffering from gravity and as the years go by, the name that I have heard many times in my life that is supposed to describe the face oval on older women; “the hamster pouches” suddenly appears with greater clarity!
And why on Earth are women in my age starting to grow sticky hair on the chin? There must be something wrong with evolution here since hair on the human body is there in order to protect the skin or absorb body liquors. So why do women get hair on their chin? Do women closing up to 50 starts to drool or something or are we a bit more frozen than we where before, or are we maybe turning into men? That is a total mystery to me and since I don’t drool, at least not yet, and have no planes in turning into a man, I amuse myself with picking them one by one!
OMG, watch out, here comes another animal feature; the turkey neck! Suddenly one day it is there! And you can’t pretend otherwise! Live with it or do surgery.
I will simply say one thing about that area- gravity! Sometimes I think Earth’s gravity must be increasing but there is no science that supports that. I suppose the cause more likely is that my body doesn’t have the strength to fight gravity any more. Another strange fact is that the body fat starts to migrate from the décolletage, but where does it go, and why? Since I don’t like to look like a piece of pork ribs I build muscles here to cover for the missing body fat.
Are your self-image coherent with your real age?
Do you fight aging?
Well, I think I will leave this as a hidden area from now on. Suddenly apparently from nowhere fat are starting to gather in this area. Maybe it is here the fat that is missing on other parts can be found! I don’t have the time that it will take to get my six pack back! Let’s move on!
Yes, you have already guessed what will come; gravity! But this one I can easily fight with efficient butt exercise. I refuse to have my butt flat and misplaced further down so my butt is now in better shape than ever and in normal location!
Here is one area that hasn't been affected by aging, not yet anyway! Maybe the skin is a little bit looser and some blood veins are starting to show more prominent.
Yes, the back changes as well and here the skin is starting to get loose and some of the fat from other parts have for some unclear reason gathered here too. Suddenly you can have a bump of skin over the bra and one under! OMG, where did that came from?
Sagging skin here too. Exercise can make up for some of it, but I make sure I don’t use my whole arm when I wave. From now on the more lady- like “queen” wave” is applicable for me. More forceful waving can cause the skin on the underside of the upper arm being placed in tremor! And we don’t want that to happen, do we?
I will now stop there since I am sure you got the picture without me going into more details!
How on Earth am I going to learn to live with my new body and be satisfied with this? But I have to, because there is no way back. Am I vain? Maybe a little, but the big issue is that my self-image isn't coherent with reality!
In my mind I don’t look like that. Sometimes when I see photos of myself I even surprise myself by thinking; who is that old bat? And when I within a second realise it is me I look away fast trying to forget it.
This has to stop, I love myself and I want to get to know the “new” me! I will do that by doing the same as I did when I got a new body as a teenager! I will use the mirror! I will use the mirror frequently, maybe not as much as a teenager, because I have more to do in my life now and haven’t got all that time for myself as a teenager. So, the first thing to do is to purchase full body mirrors! I will make sure there are lots of them on several places in the house so I can throw a glimpse when I pass minding my other daily chores. And the bedroom and the bathroom are going to get many mirrors!
Somehow I am going to get it together by updating my self- image to reality. Although I find aging as a natural process and I also find older ladies beautiful I will continue to fight some aging parts; the one where I think there is something wrong with evolution!
I will try to be an old lady of our time. The question is what kind of an old lady I am going to be?
- The usual old lady - where did she go?
When I was a kid and even in my youth, the usual old lady were everywhere! Any women over 35 years old was an Aunt. But where is she now? She is gone, and instead women in middle life and in past middle age are quite different from before