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Let's Be Real, Are You Happy?

Updated on July 8, 2017

Be Happy!

Ask a thousand people if they are happy and you will get the typical “yes” or “I think so” but really, are most people happy? Are you happy? How do you define happiness? Go on the web and put in “define happiness” and so many definitions pop up, this is the one I believed to fit closest to what I believe happiness means; “state of well-being characterized by emotions ranging from contentment to intense joy”

Well, let me tell you my theory, I am a happy person by nature, seriously, since I am a writer, and I like to write about life experiences, most people think I am dark and sad. But I can tell you that I am not.

Actually, I am happy, I love life and I love to live life. I love to hear people tell me stories and their experiences. I love to read and interpret stories too. My father has told me so many stories that I could tell you them over and over again just because I enjoy hearing them so much. I will be honest, some stories bore me to tears, I struggle through it with a happy face but come on people, read the signs, if the person’s eyes are glazed over, they aren’t listening to your stupid story. It’s when the person’s body language is telling you they are interested, leaning into you, nodding their head, etc… these are the good signs to watch for when telling a story.

But I got off track a little, I am a writer and I love hearing about life, love, tough times and good times. I like being over the edge and I like to bring out the hard core stuff to talk or write about. I like the deep heart filled stuff that no one wants to hear about because when those people tell you their deepest darkest secrets they are free. Free of guilt, shame and whatever other emotion they are holding onto. They just gave it to you and now they are free. Believe that is when I write when I become that dark person and write about issues we usually don’t discuss in households.

Again, let me ask you, are you happy? I am happy and I bet you want to know why I am happy, right? Well, if you don’t I am going to tell you anyway! I am happy because I ask God for forgiveness, for my sins (or what I think are sins) and I pray for my family and friends. I am happy because even though I am overweight I love me, that I am friendly, so outgoing, I like to talk and listen to others to talk. I am a good aunt; the best really, could always be a better mother and could even be a better daughter. But over all, I am a solid wife and sister and love to be with all kinds of people. I am happy because I accept who I am and try and work on being better each and every day. If you are not happy, then look within, I mean, look in your soul and mind, then ask yourself, are you happy? Happiness is an emotion that you control, you can be happy if you want to be. Don’t think that having all the materials items makes you happy, it doesn’t. Being a good person, giving to others, time, money, energy, whatever you can give, give for the right reasons. Happiness starts within and that is where you have to look, so take a deep dive into your soul and figure it out.

I am happy but want to continue to learn and improve as a person. I could go on but while I am sitting here writing this hub, I hear my son playing outside, so forgive me, if I leave you hanging but I am going to go play with my son because that makes me happy.



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      Destrie 3 years ago

      That inhsgit would have saved us a lot of effort early on.

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      sherrylou57 6 years ago from Riverside

      Ladybird, I am happy, and I take each day one day at a time and as soon as my feet hit the floor, I give thanks to my Jesus! God bless

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      fucsia 7 years ago

      I am totally agree with you: happy is an emotion that we can control. We can decide, day by day, to be happy And I love these words: "I am happy because I accept who I am and try and work on being better each and every day". This is the key of truly happiness!

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      Ladybird33 7 years ago from Fabulous USA

      easylearningweb, you comment is wonderful and I can't tell you how much I appreciate it! Plus, your comment is true, great book and DVD is perfect! Thanks for reading and commenting!!

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      Amelia Griggs 7 years ago

      Ladybird33 - wonderful hub and very inspirational! I believe happiness is a choice and comes from within. Being grateful about things everyday is a great way to feel good about yourself and life. I like to think of myself as a optimist and I have strong faith in God. I also love "The Secret" which I tell as many people as I can about...great book and DVD. :-)



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      BenjaminB 7 years ago

      Ladybird33 I can say since I stopped the grind of being on the road and living in a semi an average of 330 days a year (for 11 years) that despite being broke as a joke I am finally what I believe to be Happy by spending my days learning the online activity of writing.

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      Ladybird33 7 years ago from Fabulous USA

      epigramman, you sound like you are soulfully happy and that spreads to others. Thank you for such support you give, it's delightful and I just love it! I appreciate you reading my hub!

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      epigramman 7 years ago

      ...why yes I am soulfully happy ..... something about your hubs which makes me feel like a little flower responding to the big bright beautiful sun known as Ladybird!

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      Ladybird33 7 years ago from Fabulous USA

      Eiddwen, wonderful comment and I appreciate it so. I believe that you have to be positive and just enjoy life as it comes. Thank you again for reading and commenting. I do appreciate it!

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      Ladybird33 7 years ago from Fabulous USA

      Neverletitgo, how are you? thanks for reading my hub! Be happy my friend :)

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      Eiddwen 7 years ago from Wales

      I love this hub. I am an optimist and no matter how bad things are and we may have to look a little harder there is always something to make us smile. Thank you so much for sharing this happy hub. Take care Ladybird33.

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      Abdinasir Aden 7 years ago from Minneapolis, MN

      your be happy article made me happy.

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      Ladybird33 8 years ago from Fabulous USA

      To all that has responded, I am very, very grateful. I write better with each hub, thanks to you!

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      Healthyminds 8 years ago

      great hub...I like the way you are thinking...

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      celistina 8 years ago

      It's so uplifting to see someone who is happy and loving life :) I'm happy myself and loving my life to bits. Thanks for spreading the warmth around!

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      withlovearun 8 years ago from Chennai/TamilNadu

      Nice hub Ladybird33, Happiness is the one, which every body enjoys..... Unhappiness is miserable and should be overcomed to good effect.. once again thanks for the hub

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      blondepoet 8 years ago from australia

      When-ever I am not happy I do what-ever I can to be happy, being unhappy is a miserable road.:)

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      msorensson 8 years ago

      Yes, to be happy is what is behind everything that we do or do not do. We know what it feels like. Thank you for this article.



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      Ladybird33 8 years ago from Fabulous USA

      I completely agree with what you are thinking!

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      Feline Prophet 8 years ago

      Just this morning a friend announced on Facebook that she was 'happy'...a short simple statement but it made me think. Is being happy such an unnatural state of being that when we are happy, it makes us want to say it aloud in wonder?