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Boost Your Emotional Health- How to be Emotionally Healthy

Updated on April 27, 2011

Why do you have to boost your emotional health?

Eastern medicine has respected the close connection between our body, mind and spirit for a thousand years. But it is only quite recently that the Western medicine has shifted its paradigm and has begun to see that our emotional health is directly linked to our physical health.

Daniel Goleman, author of the bestselling book “Emotional Intelligence” says that your emotional health also shapes your ability to succeed “out there.” Your "EQ" is a more accurate predictor of your ability to "succeed" in life than your IQ, a phenomenon he refers to as "emotional literacy."

The Story of the Two Women

Meet Cindy, a fifty five year old woman, single, unmarried is obsessed with eating the right kind of food and cooking it the healthy way. She also makes sure she gets a large amount of exercise, forgoing a ride in the car and walking several kilometers from her home to work and back home.

Then there is Sharon, still in her fifties, also single and unmarried but has a happy disposition. She is not a stickler for eating all the right kinds of food and occasionally indulges in sweets or red meat. As for exercise, she makes sure she joins her group of friends who take nature walks, swimming in the pool in a friend’s house or gardening.

“You can close your eyes to the things you do not want to see, but you cannot close your heart to the things you do not want to feel.”


What do you think showed up in their blood tests results?

When their blood tests arrived, Cindy was surprised to see that her cholesterol was still high. Unhappy with the results, she continued to grumble about her tired body, aching muscles or the red spots which appeared recently on her legs. The next thing she did was to refuse invitation to parties with the intention to control her cholesterol. And she is off to consult an allergy specialist!

Sharon, on the other hand sees her results and beamed with pride. Her results were normal!

This is just a sample of how emotional health affects physical health. I also noted that Sharon had an attitude of gratitude, finding delight in the things that she does and enjoying a close relationship with family and friends. Cindy on the other hand was known to be a complainer about anything and everyone and a loner. She tends to push people away with her negativity.

REFLECTION: Are you like Sharon or Cindy?


1. Name Your Feelings

When asked “how do you feel?” most of us answer, “I’m okay!”

Are you really?

Develop your emotional literacy by being able to identify and express what you are feeling with specific feeling words. Being aware of what you feel is the first step to boost your emotional health. If you know what you feel, you will be empowered to deal with it.

Start with the words “I feel...”; “I feel rejected. I feel hurt. I feel thrilled.”

Here are some samples of feeling words. I encourage you to start expanding your feeling words. Ask yourself "how am I feeling?"

Expand Your Feeling Words Vocabulary: Sample of Feeling Words

Pleasant Feelings
Unpleasant Feelings
At Ease
These are just some of the feeling words. There are more!

“You cannot make yourself feel something you do not feel, but you can make yourself do right in spite of your feelings.”-Pearl S. Buck


2. Accept Your Feelings

If you have been raised to believe that emotions esp. negative ones are wrong, chances are deep inside you will feel guilty for feeling unpleasant emotions. You tend to dislike yourself for feeling that way.

But remember your feelings serve as your guide to where you are right now. Accept and acknowledge your emotions.

Try saying this. “I am feeling infuriated right now but I accept and love myself anyway.” Or “I am feeling discouraged and hopeless right now but I accept and love myself anyway.”

Furthermore, our feelings are human emotional needs expressed. We all have emotional needs which we humans share. What varies is the strength of each need per individual. For instance, a person may need to feel more important or useful; another may need to feel more secure and understood.

By being able to communicate one’s feelings, one is empowered to fulfill an emotional need. This allows us to receive emotional support and understanding just as we in turn can give emotional support and understanding to others. When a person’s natural emotional needs are met, a positive and healthier behavior follows.

Basic Emotional Needs of Humans

listened to
treated fairly

3. Deal with Your Feelings Positively

a. Avoid labeling people and situations.

A better approach would be to say what you feel. Remember you have to be able to distinguish what you think you might be feeling and what you truly feel. You are thinking of what you should be feeling when you start the sentence with “I feel as if, I feel like or I feel that…” Sample statements are, I feel like an idiot or I feel like teaching him a lesson or jumping off a cliff!

Be simple. Be clear. Say “I feel…(name the feeling)”

  • Label: “You are an insensitive jerk.”
  • Better Approach: “I feel sad and hurt.”
  • Label: “This is stupid and utterly ridiculous!”
  • Better Approach: “I feel frustrated.”
  • Label: “You are a careless driver!”
  • Better Approach: “I feel scared and tense when you drive like that.”

"Really? Gosh, but I feel playful today!"--ripplemaker


b. Take responsibility for your feelings.

Reflect on what is bothering you. Analyze why you are feeling an emotion when certain situations crop up. Look into your childhood, your beliefs and your unmet emotional needs. Consider your own feelings rather than focusing the actions or motives of others. Accepting responsibility helps you release resentment.

  • Label: “You are trying to make me feel rejected, aren’t you?”
  • Better Approach: I feel rejected and hurt.
  • Label: “You seem to want to control me.”
  • Better Approach: “I feel forced and trapped.”
  • Label: “I act stupidly when I am around men.”
  • Better Approach: “I feel unlovable and undesirable.”

The Emotional Guidance Scale by Abraham-Hicks
1. Joy/Appreciation/Empowered/Freedom/Love
2. Passion
3. Enthusiasm/Eagerness/Happiness
4. Positive Expectation/Belief
5. Optimism
6. Hopefulness
7. Contentment
8. Boredom
9. Pessimism
10. Frustration/Irritation/Impatience
11. Overwhelment
12. Disappointment
13. Doubt
14. Worry
15. Blame
16. Discouragement
17. Anger
18. Revenge
19. Hatred/Rage
20. Jealousy
21. Insecurity/Guilt/Unworthiness
22. Fear/Grief/Depression/Despair/Powerlessness

c. Move up the Emotional Guidance Scale one step at a time.

Abraham-Hicks shares about an emotional guidance scale with fear, grief, depression , despair and powerlessness being in the bottom of the scale and joy, appreciation, empowered, freedom and love being on top of the list.

The key is to find where you are in the scale. Your goal is to move up from where you find yourself and trying to think of thoughts that will help you make feel a little better. Shift your thoughts little by little.

Engage in meditation.

Pray or do deep breathing.

Share your feeling with a friend.

Do something to release the negative emotion.

Try to shift.

Don't be seemingly "possessed" by your mood. It’s taking each step, no matter if they are baby steps, until you reach the place of joy, freedom, empowered, love.

4. See situations as opportunities for personal growth.

Feelings can be used to set and achieve goals or make decisions. Our actions and behavior are motivated by feelings. What is important is the knowing that we can choose how we respond to an emotion. This empowers us because we stop being a victim and we feel in control. When we choose to take responsibility for meeting our emotional needs we also feel valued and less trapped or hopeless.

The Best Indicator

An emotionally healthy person is able to deal challenges and problems positively. Are these types of people incapable of being angry or irritated? Of course not. As mentioned above, unpleasant feelings are normal. But emotionally healthy persons are able to acknowledge what they feel, accept it and are empowered to make conscious decisions to respond in a better way.

Which of these is the most appropriate way to deal with anger?

See results

"Knowing that I am loved is the best feeling of all. hehehe"--ripplemaker


The Answer: In studies, respondents have identified talking things over with the offender as the most appropriate way to deal with anger. This form of anger control is more appropriate than holding your anger in or expressing anger outwardly in ways that include physical assault on people or objects.

Want to answer the rest of the Human Emotions Quiz? Click here

In a Nutshell: Let me repeat this important lesson. An emotionally healthy individual is able to respond to her/his feelings in a positive way. The person feels fulfilled, happier and at peace. If you find yourself having a hard time dealing with your emotions, don’t be too hard on yourself. Know that it can be learned. Know that you can move up the Emotional Guidance Scale one step at a time, one experience at a time.

Know yourself! As you get to know yourself more, you increase self-knowledge. Emotional literacy helps an individual live life to the fullest and allows one to be in a happier state of being. I wish you continued joy.

By: Michelle Simtoco


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    • bumblehub profile image


      7 years ago from Philippines

      sometimes i didn't to control my emotion but thanks to you these some of tips will help me up.

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      7 years ago from Sharon Hill, Pennsylvania


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      Vespa Woolf 

      7 years ago from Peru, South America

      These are great reminders on our feelings. They do, after all, make us human. EQ is an interesting measure of the way we deal with life. I especially like what you said about labeling how we feel instead of how we should feel and accepting our feelings. Thank you! Voted up and useful!

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      Barry Rutherford 

      7 years ago from Queensland Australia

      Great topic. Why did it take me so long to trip over this? Thanks Ripplemaker. I love you too!

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      7 years ago from Tumkur

      A well-worked hub.That is evident from the discussion it has created.Good collection of points, cogent arrangement.Gives convincing explanation about the method to be followed to come out of emotional stress.Useful one!

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      Carolyn Sands 

      7 years ago from Hollywood Florida

      Emotional heath is very important. It will have a lot to say about the way we live our lives and the way we feel about ourselves and others.

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      Woody Marx 

      7 years ago from Ontario, Canada

      I feel more emotionally healthy from just reading your Hub!

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      7 years ago from Tuckerton, NJ

      Geez! You covered everything! I agreed on everything you wrote in this hub, as in e v e r y t h i n g ! Seriously, asides from faith in God and prayers, one of the ways that put my doldrums away was working on being emotionally healthy. I am glad you hubbed this out. Great job and I voted up and clicked everything!

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      7 years ago from Pittsburgh PA

      This is a great article! I'm glad I read it as I've lately been feeling a little down emotionally. Maybe some of these tips will help me out.

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      Ben Zoltak 

      7 years ago from Lake Mills, Jefferson County, Wisconsin USA

      Great title, I read it and thought, now this I gotta read! Now that I have I have to say Ripplemaker, wow, thanks! I am going to share this with my daughter and wife. This one really hit home, and it was fun to see your photos too. I voted this one up on everything! Which I rarely do.

      As a visual artist (and writer of course) I find that the social/emotional intelligence aspect is the real key to success and behind most artist's adversity problems. The classic examples are Van Gogh versus Picasso, both wildly, vividly intelligent, creative artists, but Picasso enjoyed success because of his good emotional/social health. Poor Van Gogh, God bless him, just couldn't get along well with others and suffered a short miserable life because of it.

      I would love to see you address the artists dilemma with respect to this topic, we need it! If you do, please let me know.

      Lots of love from Wisconsin!


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      Megan Coxe 

      7 years ago from somewhere between here and there

      Very nice overview! I have to say the comparison between the two women is very useful, and is something that I think most people in the US don't see. I like to think of it as the holistic health approach versus, well, I'm not quite sure what I would call the attitude here, but not as healthy!

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      7 years ago from Turkey

      A really great hub! Emotional health is important for everybody. Thanks a lot for your brilliant sharing!

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      Ania L 

      7 years ago from United Kingdom

      Ecellent writing, I totally agree with all you said here especially that I love to indulge myself with chocolate ;) And guess what my cholesterol level is low :D

      Thank you for this hub!

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      interest topic 

      7 years ago from Firestone Park, Los Angeles, California

      Hello, i found your hubs an interesting one. You know, it includes with human emotions and needs to be properly stable if possible. Well, as a human being, we are not perfect. WE have some weaknesses that we cannot handle it in a nice way but most important among of it is that we are learning and embracing the process to be good and positive in everything. I enjoyed reading your post and I found it helpful. You know, I have some people that I have learned to hated because of gossip. On that reason, I find ways to don't see for those persons. I thought it was the answer but I was wrong of it. In fact, it makes me to feel guilty that I have done something and feeling of painful inside. It is hard for me to talk with them but still I am hoping that time will come that we could talk and discuss for it. thank you for a great hub that you have shared. this is really a helpful one!

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      Kitty Fields 

      8 years ago from Summerland

      Voted up and useful. Very wonderful portrayal of the basic emotional needs of humans and how we can identify and address our feelings.

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      8 years ago from JABALPUR

      great hub....problem handling and passing by through emotions are very carefully demonstrated

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      8 years ago

      Very informative hub. I learned a lot.

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      Thelma Alberts 

      8 years ago from Germany and Philippines

      What a great Hub! I enjoyed reading this article as it is true what you are writing here. We should always be positive in handling our emotions to live our life in good health. Thanks for sharing.

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      8 years ago

      This was a very good hub! How we handle problems is so important! We can't always control what happens to us, or around us, but we can control how we choose to handle it.

      God bless,


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      Cindy A Johnson 

      8 years ago from Sevierville, TN

      I really enjoyed this hub. What you've pointed out is so true. I struggle every day in trying to be more positive but I'm working on it! Thanks for the great info.

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      8 years ago

      I liked this hub. Being unhealthy emotionally can certainly transcend over to being unhealthy physically. Too much stress will kill you. :)

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      Lita C. Malicdem 

      8 years ago from Philippines

      It's not too late for me to improve my personality on the aspect of emotional literacy. This is a very useful guide. One who is emotionally healthy is surrounded by people with equally good vibes. It's fun to be with people who support good healthy relations and this can only be done if one is emotionally stable. Thank you!

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      8 years ago from California

      Excellent write-up on this extraordinarily important topic, ripplemaker. Great info and resources; I'll bookmark this.

      Best, G

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      8 years ago


      I did not have time to read your entire hub yet, but I will come back later. I skimmed through it and I agree that emotional and physical health go hand in hand. I have a friend who is from your city, living out here in the desert of Nevada.

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      rorshak sobchak 

      8 years ago

      Hey I really liked your write up, thank you

      rorshak sobchak

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      Darlene Yager 

      8 years ago from Michigan

      Great hub! I have always felt that feelings and emotional well being keeps you young and healthy. I love that touch of humor you added to this piece.

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      8 years ago

      thanks Michelle for such a wonderful hubs.. seeing your photographs helps to reduce bad emotion by 50%, reading your hubs reduces another 50%.. all bad emotion is gone now :)

      have a blessed day!

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      8 years ago from North York, Canada

      Great hub! This is an important subject that's sadly overlooked. Kids, in particular, should be taught to be responsible for their emotions. If we're taught that at an early age, it will save us a lot of grief and pain. Loved the video--very concise and to the point.

      Thanks for sharing.

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      8 years ago from Cambodia

      You always have Great Hubs, Thanks ...and useful

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      Neil Sperling 

      8 years ago from Port Dover Ontario Canada

      Good HUB ---- Loving yourself WHOLE is the answer, isn't it?

      Thumbs up.... as for your internal vote - talking with yourself as YOU are the person that allowed the event to make you angry. :-)

      Thanks for a good hub..... a topic I enjoy!

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      8 years ago from USA

      Great tips! I grew up in a negative environment and for a long time couldn't identify with describing my emotions. As I grew older, I was afraid to let myself be happy, because I felt that something bad would overrule the good. Now, I am to a point that I work through my emotions with writing and music.

      Thanks for sharing these helpful tips...voted up!

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      8 years ago from Nigeria

      Wow, another interesting package from ripplemaker which am bookmarking because i was well informed on how to boost my emotional health after reading from you,cheers great and intelligent writer.

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      8 years ago

      You have an awesome Hubpage thanks for sharing it with all of us on HupPages...Have a Blessed day!

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      Michelle Simtoco 

      8 years ago from Cebu, Philippines

      Thank you all for your lovely comments.

      MellyMoo, thank you for adding that bit of information here. Yes, there are other factors to consider which affect one aspect and the other. Much appreciated!.

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      8 years ago from Australia

      All of what you have written is so true and I have learnt alot of this also over the years. I would just like to bring mental illness into this aswell by letting you know that when I have been in a state of depression, I have been unable to change the way I am thinking. The clinical depression has happened when I have been taking great care of my diet, going to the gym, thinking positive etc etc. So yes, your attitude creates your health. It so definitely does however there are some physical illnesses that cause a chemical imbalance within the body, including the brain, that then change our thoughts and indeed our personalities, sometimes temporarily and sometimes permanently. I thought it was important to note this.

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      8 years ago

      What the great hub this is useful.

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      Marie Hurt 

      8 years ago from New Orleans, LA

      This is so awesome and inspiring. Love your way of thinking.

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      8 years ago

      who great hub. You have a really great carisma about you. Keep up the great work.

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      Maree Michael Martin 

      8 years ago from Northwest Washington on an Island

      congratulations. Great hub!

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      Marie McKeown 

      8 years ago from Ireland

      Congrats on your win - very well deserved. This is a very helpful and informative hub, in very non-judegemental language. Thanks!

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      Purple Perl 

      8 years ago from Bangalore,India

      A very well presented hub as always from you ripplemaker. I loved going thru' this one.Congrats too!

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      8 years ago from Other Side of the Sun

      Great hub Ripplemaker - anxiety and stress are the great maladies of our time and have a very bad effect on our physical health. Any attempts people make to lighten up and enjoy themselves can only be good

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      8 years ago from USA

      Very good Hub! BTW I click #3(poll) because that's what I want to do even though sometimes I would prefer to punch the pillow and cry.

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      Michelle Simtoco 

      8 years ago from Cebu, Philippines

      jpcmc, it's so all starts with being able to identify and name what you are feeling. Thanks for affirming this.

      momsponge, I am so glad you like this hub! Thanks!

      Tamila, that is so nice to hear. This is a wonderful topic to discuss and share to the world. Keep up your writing too!

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      Tamila Roberts 

      8 years ago from Canada

      Hello! Very nice Hub, Love how everything is so detailed and clear. I'm discussing about similar subjects on my hub as well. Nice Read Thank You :)

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      Patty Sierra 

      8 years ago

      I really like this hub! I definitely feel whole health is feeling great emotionally and physically. Great hub!

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      JP Carlos 

      8 years ago from Quezon CIty, Phlippines

      Awesome advice. I particularly find value in naming your feeling. I remember back when I used to teach in the special class of UP FLCD to help students discover how to verbalize their emotions. It starts with identifying what they feel.

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      Michelle Simtoco 

      8 years ago from Cebu, Philippines

      Hi Gal, nice to hear from you! Yes, I know this truth so well as I experienced sickness years ago due to self negavitity! Thanks for rating this up! Love and blessings to you!

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      Susan Hazelton 

      8 years ago from Sunny Florida

      ripplemaker, wonderful motivating article. A positive outlook is so important to our physical health. Rated up and awesome.

    • ripplemaker profile imageAUTHOR

      Michelle Simtoco 

      8 years ago from Cebu, Philippines

      prasetio, thanks!

      Pamela, glad you loved this hub. :)

      I appreciate you both dropping by to leave a comment. I feel grateful! :)

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      Pamela Oglesby 

      8 years ago from Sunny Florida

      This is a fantastic hub. I know stress is a major risk factor for all disease. I love the way you spelled out alternative ways of expressing negative feelings and all the ways to deal with stress and emotional issues. Voted/rated awesome.

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      8 years ago from malang-indonesia

      Wow... this was really great article. I learn much from you. Thanks for writing this and share with us. You have beautiful presentation. Well done, my friend. Rated up!


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      Michelle Simtoco 

      8 years ago from Cebu, Philippines

      WannaB Writer, oooh thank you for sharing what you are feeling. May I suggest this, close your eyes, put your hands on your chest where your heart is. Inhale and exhale deeply and slowly..and then say this, "Even if I am feeling insecure or unworthy or guilty, I know I am doing the best I can to learn and I am getting better and better everyday!" Hope this helps. Love and blessings to you.

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      Barbara Radisavljevic 

      8 years ago from Templeton, CA

      Congratulations on your win. This is just what I needed today as I work through betrayal from my SEO company that leaves me at #21 on your scale today. I suspect getting a good night's sleep will help. I know what I am feeling and I've been here for a while as I feel I'm attempting things I don't know how to do and that the learning curve will take forever. Voted up and useful.

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      Michelle Simtoco 

      8 years ago from Cebu, Philippines

      anglnwu and JustAsk Susan, thanks so much for being here and for the well wishes! I feel happy! :)

      marcoujor, the test was awesome right? Made me learn new things too! Thanks for the feedback...I value your excitement! :)

      HennieN, yes the things we learn must be applied in our the time we need it and when we are ready for it. :)

      Scozzo_Scotty, yes please it's time to name what you are feeling, acknowledge it and then let it go, release it. Forgive yourself too. I appreciate you sharing your story. I hope life will be better for you. Love and blessings. :)

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      8 years ago

      I'm the kinda guy that wont share feelings... I just cant without feeling demoralised. Before now i have never really taken notice to the negative emotions i feel about the past, but reading this Hub has made me want to try.

      Im currently feeling very guilty and ashamed for what i did a few years ago to someone very important to me i cannot let it go. I cannot explain why i made the decisions i did or why at the time it didnt effect my everyday life like it does now. This is just a little cry out for help and advice.

      Some days im fine, other days im not, it could be a song that plays randomly that reminds me of her or reading her name somewhere, it triggers a huge amount of negative energy i cannot control. Which ultimately plays on each decision i make for that day...

      It has been like this for a good while now, i can see now how i have drifted into an emotional mess.

      - Always tired, wanting to do nothing.

      - Not intrested in socialising.

      Your comment earlier, "if it's not addressed sooner or later it blows up in one's face!" i think this is exactly whats happening and now want to face each and every emotion i get before it controls my life.

      Because of your Hub the first thing im going to do is pull my greatest friend out of the herd and tell him everything im currently feeling.

      Thankyou for your advice!

      Brilliant read and great Hub!


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      8 years ago from South Africa

      Brilliant hub. Can only have a positive impact on our lives if we do as instructed above.

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      Maria Jordan 

      8 years ago from Jeffersonville PA

      ripplemaker~~ I was thrilled to see that you won so I wanted to check out your article...

      very interesting subject matter/ well researched/ I took the test-- learned some things... thank you very much!!

      Voted UP, USEFUL & AWESOME!

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      Susan Zutautas 

      8 years ago from Ontario, Canada

      Fantastic hub and congrats on a well deserved win!

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      8 years ago

      Wonderful hub. Congrats on your win.

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      Michelle Simtoco 

      8 years ago from Cebu, Philippines

      Hello, hello...thanks for dropping by! :)

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      Hello, hello, 

      8 years ago from London, UK

      A fascinating subject and a well worded hub. Thank you.

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      Michelle Simtoco 

      8 years ago from Cebu, Philippines

      Dayzeebee, I can hear your laughter and singing all the way to my room LOL Thank you for the constant support and encouragement! Sis, I was surprised and ecstatic! I celebrate these feelings with joy! I accept this joy! Yipppeeee! It feels good to celebrate feelings instead of suppressing them all the time! LOL Love and blessings always!

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      Michelle Simtoco 

      8 years ago from Cebu, Philippines

      John, thanks!

      Miss Atlanta, I enjoyed reading your comment. When your feelings are messed up, it can be a tough time indeed. :)

      fucsia, what you say is true. :)

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      8 years ago from Cebu, Philippines

      Proud of you sis! Great content, dynamic layout, amusing photos, complimenting graphics, and relevant video! Your victory is not a surprise. You have always made sure to work on things the best you can and it has literally -- paid off. hahaha now on to winning more awards yipeedeedoodah yipeedeedaay....

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      8 years ago

      I very like your page. Our emotions are our voice, they should be known, respected and then managed.

      Thank you for this interesting Hub.

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      Miss Lil' Atlanta 

      8 years ago from Atlanta, GA

      This is a really awesome blog ripplemaker, and it's so true to.

      I think that it's good for people to study and have some extra knowledge and how to's for dealing with their emotions. Sometimes we just get so caught up with all the stresses of everyday life that we forget to take our emotions seriously. I mean, we’re emotional beings, when our emotions are messed up, our lives can follow in our emotion’s footsteps and become pretty whack too.

      I love reading these kinds of hubs that focus on subjects that are psychologically based; it's such an interesting topic, and you executed it so well.

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      John Sarkis 

      8 years ago from Los Angeles, CA

      Congrats ripplemaker!

      Your article is very detailed - an essay really...job well done.

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      Michelle Simtoco 

      8 years ago from Cebu, Philippines

      Peggy, thank you so much! Your presence here is much appreciated. Blessings! :)

      SweetiePie, thank you for pointing that out! I like that perspective too! :)

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      8 years ago from Southern California, USA

      Very positive and good advice. Rather than focus on just the negative feelings, you explain how people can use these to re-tweak their view point.

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      Peggy Woods 

      8 years ago from Houston, Texas

      You worked hard on this hub and it shows. Very good advice given and enjoyed your humorous photos to go along with it. Congrats on your win. Well deserved! :)))

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      Michelle Simtoco 

      8 years ago from Cebu, Philippines

      shogan, the best way is to acknowledge it and then let go. Suppressing it doesn't work. Really! It may for a little while but if it's not addressed sooner or later it blows up in one's face! Thanks so much for dropping by and sharing your thoughtful comments. I feel happy!

      Blissfulwriter, I love Deepak Chopra too!

      Mrs. Menagerie, thank you for sharing! I feel wonderful! (still wanting to skip with joy! heheheh)

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      Michelle Simtoco 

      8 years ago from Cebu, Philippines

      akirchner, you are the bearer of good news! I didn't know I won!!! Wwwhhhheeee...first time! I jumped for joy after the news! And my brother thought I was going nuts! tee hee LOL Thanks!

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      Mrs. Menagerie 

      8 years ago from The Zoo

      Wow! No wonder you won, this is just really great stuff. I will share it with others in my life who will enjoy it as well. I like your photos too!

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      8 years ago

      I like the Deepak video.

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      8 years ago from New England

      I particularly like the idea that one's feelings are a guide. We all do tend to push down negative emotions when we probably shouldn't (then again, some people should suppress them more! ;)).

      Good hub, ripplemaker...thanks.

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      Audrey Kirchner 

      8 years ago from Washington

      Great hub, Ripplemaker and congrats on your well deserved win!!

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      Michelle Simtoco 

      8 years ago from Cebu, Philippines

      Simone, I feel your positive energy radiating in your work, in your words and in your photos too! You are a living testimony of one who is emotionally healthy and enjoying living to the fullest! I am blessed to connect with you. :)

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      Michelle Simtoco 

      8 years ago from Cebu, Philippines

      chspublish, your comment made smile. To be able to write clearly, I recognize I am clearer about this topic too. Yay! I feel great knowing this truth. I deeply thank you. Have a superb day to you! :)

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      Michelle Simtoco 

      8 years ago from Cebu, Philippines

      Hi Sis Dottie! To be rated awesome, beautiful, useful and funny all at once??? Wow, I feel ecstatic!!! Thank you, thank you! Feelings do serve as my guide. When I woke up this morning, I was really feeling good! I feel wonderful! I share this joyful feelings with you sis! Love and blessings to you! :)

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      Michelle Simtoco 

      8 years ago from Cebu, Philippines

      heart4theword, oh this is so wonderful to know! Thank you for your affirmation and for bookmarking this hub! :)

      Wooded, thanks for bookmarking this hub. You can do it! Just take one day at a time, one moment at a time. And if you can't hold it in, don't hate yourself. Tomorrow try again. In time it gets better. Love sent your way! :)

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      Simone Haruko Smith 

      8 years ago from San Francisco

      Fabulous advice, as always ripplemaker! Ever since I took a lot of the things you've discussed in this Hub to heart, my life has been significantly better- and more fun, productive, and prosperous! Voted up :D

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      8 years ago from Ireland

      Voting up emotional literacy on all levels. Thanks for writing on this subject so clearly.

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      8 years ago from MA, USA

      You remind us here that 'your feelings serve as your guide'. Too often we ignore or run from our feelings or are just too busy to pay attention to them. But to me this is where the mistake lies. We must pay attention if we want to be lifted to a higher state of well being. Thank you Michelle, we all need to be reminded of this! You're the best! Rated up awesome, beautiful, useful and funny.:)

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      8 years ago

      Awesome hub! I am bookmarking this one. I have serious issues with holding things in. This is a great resource, I need all the help I can get - Thanks!

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      8 years ago from hub

      This is an awesome hub! So well put together:) I have taken classes on this, and it was good review for me:) The simple charts are much appreciated! Bookmarking this hub:)

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      Michelle Simtoco 

      8 years ago from Cebu, Philippines

      capncrunch, you are not alone :) Many of us have difficulty being in touch with our emotions because we are just not used to it. Have a wonderful journey to your emotional health :)

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      Michelle Simtoco 

      8 years ago from Cebu, Philippines

      Earth Angel, your spirit radiates with joy and love. It is wonderful to be visited by you. Happy Easter too! I am glad you liked this hub! :)

      LuxmiH, glad to have you over! And to feel good with me! :)

      Gypsy Jane, ooh I can imagine what that must be like adjusting. Glad this helped you. Hope you feel better and better everyday. God bless...

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      8 years ago from New Orleans

      Hello ripplemaker,

      Oh how I can use all the help I can get in this area! Thank you for sharing this hub with us. I usually hold back feelings too much but have been working very intensly on these emotions for months now. It's an ongoing practice to put into place.

      I feel that Eastern medicine is better in many ways. I have even seeked out doctors who may practice this form and once thought I found a person in my area only to find that it was far from the case! I too, am happy to find that Eastern medicine is making it to modern medicine. It is long overdue! Very Good Hub!!!

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      Gypsy Jane 

      8 years ago from Florida

      Thanks Ripplemaker for this encouraging article. I've been struggling with feelings of "cabin fever" and "culture shock" since moving to Costa Rica to start a new life. I haven't been liking myself too much for feeling so down. Your article was definitely what I needed at this time!

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      Luxmih Eve-Lyn Forbes 

      8 years ago from Fort Pierce, Florida

      This is a refreshing with practical suggestions to gently tickle the emotions along the feel good lines. Very useful! Thanks!

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      Earth Angel 

      8 years ago

      Blessings, Good Morning and Happy Easter Ripplemaker Michelle,

      What a delightful Hub! It puts a big smile on my face just reading it! You did a magnificent job laying it out with lots of research and personal photos! Rated up all the way!!

      You are the BEST! Thank you so very much for being YOU!

      Blessings always, EarthAngel!

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      Michelle Simtoco 

      8 years ago from Cebu, Philippines

      thehemu, that's so sweet of you. :) Thanks for dropping by and for intending to share this hub!

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      Michelle Simtoco 

      8 years ago from Cebu, Philippines

      Marie, your inputs and sharing are always welcomed and much appreciated! :) I love how you put these into practice. I know this subject only too well as I was very poor in handling my emotions which caused a lot of illnesses. Even now I am still detoxifying the toxic emotions which have I accumulated since childhood! As for Dr. Hawkins, can you imagine that huh? Amazing testimony indeed!

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      8 years ago from New Delhi, India

      That's great Ripplemaker, i am bookmarking this, so that i can show it to my sweetie pie. thnaks for sharing such great hub.

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      8 years ago from Oregon/ Name: Marie

      Michelle, You have touched on a very important subject about emotions and health and you did a very thorough job on how to express them in a constructive way. I find it's important to not vent or react defensively because we are not feeling good, it damages relationships, best to learn as you suggested to communicate in a constructive and wise way. When I don't feel very good emotionally, I tell my s/o, I don't feel good today, so he lets me be, and the mood dissipates. He does the same on occasion.

      I could go on and on here, hehe, but can't resist sharing again, that Dr. David R Hawkins cured himself of over 22 diseases, even corrected his vision by addressing the emotional component and beliefs... He is living proof the mind, emotions and spirituality work in concert.

      Rated up!


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