Breaking Habits--Time Will Tell
There Are Different Ways For Different People
I, of all the people that I know, have had more habits, good and bad. My whole family are addiction prone, for generations. I have done studies, with one of my sons who has accumulated data on our family tree, and as it came together, if proved out that for three or four generations more of our family member had addictions of one kind or another than not.
Does this prove that addiction is genetic, no I do not think so, for some of this could very well be a case of monkey see monkey do. If a person sees and learns to celebrate good fortune by drinking, then when his children have a reason to celebrate, they may just do so by drinking.
Whether or not our habits good and bad are inherited, learned, or something else, people have had problems for many years changing them, or stopping them altogether. People, by nature are creatures of habit. It is embedded deep in our subconscious mind to mimic or learn by doing what you see others doing. Once that is in place, our minds are like computers, repeating learned things. Whether we are aware of it or not, we repeat, repeat, repeat, those things we have learned to do, whether it is for pleasure, for a taste, or something else.
When we see someone yawn, the power of suggestion kicks in and we in turn will yawn. When a smoker sees someone light up or see someone else smoking, they in turn will light up a smoke. It is ingrained in our subconscious mind to do so. It is my theory that our mind holds all the answers to all our earthly and spiritual problems. We must only figure out how to tap into that profound well of answers, to come up with the one that will solve our problem.
How, the question that stumps us
Many scientists have contended that while we sleep our subconscious mind goes to work at solving our problems, and that our dreams are where the answers lie. This may well be the case, but even so, there is the matter of solving those puzzles too, for our dreams are not a book that we can read and then follow the directions.
I contend to go at this from another direction. I was told by my doctor, and have proved in my life that it is so, that there is a way to override those things we have so easily learned, and have allowed to become a habit. It is a way of brainwashing ourselves, for a lack of a better word.
It is by these means that I successfully quit smoking. It is also the same way that I quit drinking, doing heroin, doing cocaine, and several other substances. I have been asked by several hubbers whether or not I am a user of substances. Let me set the record straight right here, for I know it is hard to believe that one can quit doing all of these things. I am living proof that it can be done, and by using our brains, as they were given to us, but to reprogram them so as to make them control our behavior the way we want to behave, not how we are dictated by learned behaviors in our past.
My husband and I decided to quit smoking at the first of the year. In preparation of this during the end of the month of December, we wrote on notebook paper, three times a day the sentence-"I hate the way cigarettes taste."
Fifty times three times a day we wrote this very simple sentence. We did also attempt to slow down, and we did this by when we wanted a smoke we would not light it until we felt the urge to smoke again. We also told ourselves when we felt that urge to smoke that we would, but in a little while.
After one week of telling ourselves we could smoke if we wanted, but later, not lighting the smoke until we felt the urge a second time, and by writing the sentence three times a day fifty times each, we had the habit licked.
How hard is it to quit doing something that tastes horrible to you, or hurts when you do it? I am here to say it isn't hard at all. We have the answers to our own questions, we just have to find the way to tap into them. We are intelligent enough to do anything we set our minds to do, you just have to really want them. These "tricks" to our minds work. It has been seven and a half months, and I won't say that I haven't tried to smoke, but I am going to say that when I did light that smoke, it tasted bad right away, and I put it out. This works, give it a try.