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How to Slow Down and Create More Peace in Your Life

Updated on October 26, 2015

Overscheduling Our Lives

As I have widened my circle of influence this year, I have noticed a trend with people who are overscheduled, heading from one activity to the next, calendar in hand, stressed that they don't have enough time for family, friends, or "me" time. As a society, we are becoming more focused on work because we are worried that we won't have enough money in the future. We spend so much time in the office trying to find our way to a promotion and earn a better paycheck, that we miss out on precious events for our children and selves.

One father I know is watching his children grow up via photo messages sent to his phone while is he working hard to support the family. A mother I know was so busy trying to earn her promotion that she hadn't realized that her children had stopped participating in the sports they used to love. Several friends have talked with me about how they don't get to enjoy the time with their children because they are so tired and stressed when they arrive home from work that they don't have the energy their children deserve. Each of these parents express guilt for how their lives are developing and what they have become. A few asked me my thoughts on how someone changes this in an economy where nearly everyone is worried about whether they will have a job next week.

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How To Create A More Peaceful Life

There are several steps one must take to truly bring in a season of peace. Some will stretch you and some will be a cinch. If you know this is what you want, I challenge you to make a commitment to bringing more peace into your life and changing from a parent whose children know more about your work than they do about you to a parent whose children will forever remember the memories you made with them.

1. Determine Your Priorities. What is important in your life? When you die, what do you want people to remember most about you? If the answer to these questions don't align with the way you are living your life right now, it is time to make a change. Did you say family yet you work until 7 every night, barely getting home in time to do the dinner dishes and kiss the kids goodnight? It is time to change your work schedule or find a new career. Did you say you wanted to be remembered for being honest and loving yet you constantly break promises to your spouse and children and then get upset when they express disappointment? It is time to consider why you are breaking so many commitments and make a change in that area of your life.

2. Commit to Making Those Priorities First In Your Life. No longer allow anyone or anything else to determine your priorities for you. Instead, commit to keeping your priorities in the forefront of your life. If you said God, Family, Friends, then make time for each of those areas of your life. Schedule time for prayer and Bible study. Be at dinner every night and make special plans for activities each weekend. Make time for friends and nights out without the kids.

3. Make Your Commitment Known to Others. Share your commitments and priorities with a close friend who will hold you accountable. Make a chart and keep it on your mirror or refrigerator so you can see how successful you have been each week at keeping your priorities first in your life. When you fail, pick yourself back up and start again.

4. Celebrate Success. When you have had a month of living according to your priorities, celebrate by treating yourself to something you aren't able to do often. It may be a massage or going to a movie. It may be taking the family to an amusement park or going with your spouse for a special night on the town. Whatever it is, relish in your happiness and enjoy that you have made a change in your life. And commit to keep it going!

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Adding More Peace To Your Life

For some people, overscheduling isn't a problem. There are several individuals already living according to their priorities. However, life has become mundane and boring. If you are among these individuals, you need peace to break the monotony of life. Making time for various activities will help you to bring peace into your lives, whether you are married or single.

When you take time to add peaceful activities into your day, you will find your blood pressure start to fall, headaches and heartburn start to subside, and your overall aura start to feel more at ease.

If you are a parent, you may have to schedule these activities into your routine. Pay the babysitter an hour longer, leave work an hour earlier, bring your kids with you and explain to them the point of the activity. If you cannot get away, I suggest starting a "Happy Hour". Have each member of the family put their peaceful activity into a hat, shake it up, and have the person whose birthday is closest to the current date pick an activity from the hat. The entire family then participates in that activity for an hour, but cannot speak to one another while doing so. This can create some great memories despite not being typical "quality" time and teaches children to have inner peace as well. This has worked wonders in my home with a very energetic almost four year old!

Whatever your solution, make time for bringing in activities that will introduce a new calm into your life. Ensure those you live with are committed to helping you and try to enlist them as much as possible in finding peace in their own lives. In the end, you will all be happier, healthier, and live longer lives.

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      B Keith Davidson 5 years ago from Windsor, Ontario

      I am trying to read more hubs, that is my peaceful activity

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      Shell Vera 5 years ago from Connecticut, USA

      This is a good suggestion! I find that any form of reading is good for the soul. You become more knowledgeable while getting to sit still and enjoy seeing the world through someone else's eyes.

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      Taft Love 5 years ago

      I like the hiking suggestions. There is no better way to slow down and enjoy the people and things around you than to step away from normal life. Regular vacations don't seem to provide that needed escape, but hiking and backpacking often do.

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      Shell Vera 5 years ago from Connecticut, USA

      Thanks, Taft. Hiking is one of the best stress relievers and ways to connect with the Lord for me. I love to take a day off work and just escape into the woods. In fact, my coworkers have often teased me for Facebook posts such as "Looking forward to getting lost in the woods today." They wonder how I always know when I am about to get lot! One day I would like to hike the entire Appalachian Trail - I can just imagine how great that would be!

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      BERNARD LEVINE 5 years ago from RUIMSIG, SOUTH AFRICA

      SECRETS OF LIFE By BERNARD LEVINE

      Look for the beauty

      in everything you see.

      Walk in peace

      showing kindness

      everywhere.

      The secrets of success

      are motivation

      and dedication

      Happiness is

      what you make happen

      for yourself.

      Caring is

      going to the ends of the world

      for a stranger.

      Be useful with your life.

      Whatever you are doing

      put your whole

      being into it 100%

      Loving is

      pleasing your loved one everyday

      in a 1000 different ways.

      Control your mind

      you are its master

      Be in control.

      Live your life

      without hurting or

      destroying.

      Believe in yourself.

      Have respect for yourself.

      Walk through life

      always with a song.

      © Bernard Levine

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      Shell Vera 5 years ago from Connecticut, USA

      Very beautiful poem, Bernard! Thank you for sharing!

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      KrystalD 5 years ago from Los Angeles

      Sharing this and bookmarking for myself! The world we live in is very busy but this hub is a reminder that we choose our own lifestyles! Thank you :)

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      Shell Vera 5 years ago from Connecticut, USA

      Thanks Krystal! I am happy that it is helpful for you. I find that life is so much better when we take time to enjoy living instead of rushing from task to task!

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      Anahi Pari-di-Monriva 5 years ago from Massachusetts

      Congratulations on your Hubnuggets nomination! I truly enjoyed your Hub because it made me reflect on my life, and on the peaceful moments in my life in particular. A few years back, I had instituted "car-free Sundays" for my family; it was a top-down decision but it was well-worth it for both of us! We walk to church (20 minutes one way), then head back home. If we need to go to the library (also a 20 minute walk from home) we go by foot. The same goes for the supermarket, etc. It is so nice to be able to catch up with my daughter in a no-pressure (after all, I'm not secretly rumbling about all the things left undone that need to get done, etc etc if I'm walking!) environment; we both also get exercise and that's always a plus!

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      Shell Vera 5 years ago from Connecticut, USA

      Thank you! I am humbled to be chosen...what an honor!! I hope we all take time this year to slow down and add peace to our lives!

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      Elsie Nelson 5 years ago from Pacific Northwest, USA

      Congrats on the nomination and it's definitely well-deserved. I know what you mean about people who over-schedule, I stopped doing that a while back. I theorize some people do this to AVOID the silence, to avoid thinking, really. It could be a way to distract oneself from looking at an unsatisfactory life. I say that because I have friends who do this. It's just easier to stay busy, never have down time and ignore what's really going on.

      Anyhoo, sorry for my tangent. You have a winner here, I voted for you... so good luck!

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      Shell Vera 5 years ago from Connecticut, USA

      First, thank you for the vote! I totally agree with you wordscribe. I know when I was addicted to busyness it was because I was avoiding dealing with emotions, situations in my life, and really sitting back and looking at who I was and what I wanted in life versus where I was. However, since I stopped running from it, learned to enjoy sitting and staring out a window, listening to the rain fall, and sitting quietly and letting my mind be blank for a little bit, I have enjoyed life so much more, have made decisions that are truly changing the course of my life and the legacy I leave for my descendants, and have learned to appreciate true beauty and inspiration around me! Thank you again for your encouragement!

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      jeyaramd 5 years ago from Mississauga, Ontario

      We are guilty to some extent of not being fully there for people whom we love. If time was not an object; we would dedicate so much time. However, with work and our responsibilities its hard to find time. The advice you provided was very helpful. We definitely can benefit from your suggestion of how to find peace, including meditation, and listening to music. These are my favorites as well. This is such an exceptional hub. Thank you so very much. Congrats on your nomination.

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      Michelle Simtoco 5 years ago from Cebu, Philippines

      And everything starts with the choice to have all of this... :) I did and life has been wonderfully blissful! Thank you for sharing these tips.

      Congratulations on your Hubnuggets nomination. To those who would like to vote for this hub, this way please: http://redelf.hubpages.com/hubnuggets6/hub/The-Adv...

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      Shell Vera 5 years ago from Connecticut, USA

      Thank you for the great comments and congrats! I appreciate them. I have found my life much happier, more peaceful, and significantly less stressful since I have implemented these changes. My hope is to help the world one person at a time by providing helpful information that will allow us to all live happier, more peaceful, and less stressful lives! Thank you for the great comments!

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      KrystalD 5 years ago from Los Angeles

      Congrats on your hubnugget! A well deserved win :)

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      Shell Vera 5 years ago from Connecticut, USA

      Thank you Krystal! Wow! I am so excited and so honored. I look forward to writing many more hubs and hopefully inspiring many people.

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      kat11 5 years ago from Illinois

      Congrats on a great hub really liked the relaxing videos voted up.

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      Ruth Clark 5 years ago from Arkansas, USA

      I don't believe in coincidence. I believe that everything happens for a reason and it was no accident that I read your hub today. Even though I start my day with Bible reading, prayer and meditation, and quiet time, I have been under tremendous stress from outside forces - things I can't control. There is some footwork I need to do, but I won't change the outcome. This hub has helped me to put things back into the proper perspective. Thank you for writing it.

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      Shell Vera 5 years ago from Connecticut, USA

      Thank you Kat11. RuthClark3, I like to call those "Godincidences"...divinely planned activities that fall into place at the perfect time. I am happy to be a part of your day and have been a part of His master plan to help you put things into perspective. I am not sure what your stress is, but maybe the scriptures I share in "Handling Tough Times: Are You Like Job or Judas?" will help. Thank you for visiting! And hang in there...sometimes it isn't the outcome that needs to change but our focal point.

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      Dora Isaac Weithers 5 years ago from The Caribbean

      Sound counsel and well presented. Thanks and congratulations on your hub nugget nomination.

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      Shell Vera 5 years ago from Connecticut, USA

      Thank you, Ms. Dora. :)

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      jeyaramd 5 years ago from Mississauga, Ontario

      I just love the sound of rain. Awesome video and advice. Nature creates the best compositions. Beautiful and soothing. I feel like I am transcended to heaven on earth. Thank you.

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      jeyaramd 5 years ago from Mississauga, Ontario

      I just love the sound of rain. Awesome video and advice. Nature creates the best compositions. Beautiful and soothing. I feel like I am transcended to heaven on earth. Thank you.

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      Shell Vera 5 years ago from Connecticut, USA

      I too greatly enjoy nature! I am happy you enjoyed the hub and the videos. The rain was my favorite! Very relaxing.

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      JR Krishna 5 years ago from India

      I remember reading about the practice of two minute meditation(looking inside yourself listening to your breath) on a busy day in between works.

      Your hub gives some practical tips on how to bring peace in daily life

      Great read!

      Thanks for SHARING:)

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      Shell Vera 5 years ago from Connecticut, USA

      Thank you for your comments, Thumbi. I used to lead a very stressful life and found I needed to take moments to just be in peace. I meditate often and find it very calming and renewing.

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      Bill Holland 5 years ago from Olympia, WA

      Shell, you are speaking my language with this hub! Making priorities a commitment is one of my themes and I love that you are on the same page. My best to you and your family! Great hub!

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      Shell Vera 5 years ago from Connecticut, USA

      Thank you Billy! I have made it my priority over the past four months and life is wonderful! Thanks for reading!

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      Ugly Honest 5 years ago from Within the New York/DC Megalopolis

      So simple .. yet so wise ... Like most I know this stuff but don't take the time to really do it ... Thank You for providing this "interesting" & "useful" guide .... up and away ..... Godspeed !!!

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      Shell Vera 5 years ago from Connecticut, USA

      Ugly Honest, with such a handle I must visit your profile next to see the reason behind the choice. Very catchy, that's for sure. Thank you for your comment. I have to admit, I have been out of practice so leaving this comment was great of you because I am reminded to take my own suggestions! Off for a photo walk to regain some peace within my own life, which has become a bit too technological and busy lately.

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      Bev 5 years ago from Wales

      I work at home and home-school my kids... we chose this way because freedom (from stress) is important to us. Less money but more life. Great hub with really good suggestions.

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      Shell Vera 5 years ago from Connecticut, USA

      Great point about the money! In the end, that's not what measures our children's live or impact on the world!

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      BERNARD LEVINE 5 years ago from RUIMSIG, SOUTH AFRICA

      THE SPARKLE OF LIFE By BERNARD LEVINE

      Bring more joy into your life

      Take time for yourself to do the things you love

      Experience the joy of making something beautiful

      Follow your dreams.

      If your heart is longing to live life for what is true and real

      If you would like to feel a deep inner fulfillment with absolute truth within

      The quality of a richer life is in the stillness of your soul.

      Open your heart to the sounds of nature’s music

      Be grateful for all the good in life

      Make someone feel especially loved today

      Feel the holiness of God.

      Connect with what is truly important in this life

      Let your heart draw its strength and joy from God

      Like a tiny seed it bids the response of your whole heart

      to receive you, complete you and give you purpose and meaning.

      Create a new life for yourself

      Walk with gratitude

      Become a network of love and restore your life wholly

      Live in harmony with the universe

      With God all things are possible

      Cherish your life.

      ©Bernard Levine

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      Shell Vera 5 years ago from Connecticut, USA

      Beautiful poem, Bernard. Thank you for sharing this with us. You have summarized it beautifully using poetry.

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      Shasta Matova 4 years ago from USA

      This is great advice for adding peace to your life, and for following your dreams. It is very well presented, and provides motivation and tips on how to accomplish them. Voted up and shared.

      P.S. Thanks for your comment about me on Funon's hub. That was very touching.

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      Shell Vera 4 years ago from Connecticut, USA

      Thank you! I appreciate the support. And my pleasure about the comment; it is true!

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