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BrokenHeartEight (how to mend a broken heart)

Updated on July 26, 2013

FOCUS ON YOUR GOOD POINTS

It's too easy to forget about your good points at a time like this because you assume that you just have a whole load of bad points...which is why your relationship has ended. Why would you even be thinking about good points?

You have many good points...great points...excellent points...but it's very easy to forget about your strengths when you've been ripped apart by negative feelings of loss and abandonment...after being discarded by a loved one. You have to lose these feelings of insecurity because your romance probably isn't over because of any bad points you might have. There could be all manner of reasons why your ex has changed emotions. Their own circumstances might well have changed. Perhaps it just wasn't right for them personally and there's no point in carrying on blindly when both parties aren't gaining something from the experience. Stop taking things so personally...give yourself a boost by thinking about your good points...and then get on with your life.

Let's get on with it...come on...chop chop.

Get that journal out...open it to a fresh white unblemished page...and make a list of your good points. Take as long as you wish to build it up...make the list as long as you can...and then add some more. Just keep adding. Big points...little points...they all count. Focus on all the aspects of your life that you can be proud of. Remember the times when people have complimented you. Think of your achievements. Consider the times when you turned near-disaster into surefire-success. Record your physical attributes, your talents, your past happinesses, your triumphs and add the fantastic friends that you have to that list. The good people you've linked with are all part of your positive profile. Like attracts like...so be sure that if you have some wonderful friends you must be pretty much on the verge of wonderful yourself.

Don't hold back...nobody's going to see this list...and if they do...stuff it...this is about you taking control of your life and being happy again. Aptly enough...being able to take control of your life is yet another one of your bright shiny good points.

Don't limit yourself...even if you have to buy new exercise books to accomodate your rampaging skills list and even if you have to replace ink-drained pens along the way.

Fill that paper...drain that ballpoint pen....improve your self-esteem.

AFFIRMATIONS

I AM VERY PROUD OF MY ACHIEVEMENTS NOW

I CHERISH THE GOOD POINTS THAT MAKE ME WHO I AM

MY LIFE IS POWERFUL AND MY SKILLS ARE IMMENSE

I TAKE PLEASURE IN REMEMBERING THE TRIUMPHS IN MY LIFE

EVERY DAY I KEEP THE POSITIVE IN MIND

I CONSTANTLY STRIVE TO MAKE GOOD OF MY TALENTS

I AM HAPPY AND PROUD AND I HAVE LOTS MORE TO GIVE

EACH DAY PRESENTS ME WITH NEW OPPORTUNITIES

I AM EXTREMELY HAPPY TODAY

I AIM FOR THE FUTURE AND I NEVER SAY DIE

AFFIRMATION SONG

I AM STRONG AND I AM THANKFUL

FOR ALL THE GOOD THINGS IN MY SOUL

EVERY DAY I'M GETTING CLOSER

TO ALL THE GREAT POINTS IN MY GOAL

I WILL ALWAYS FIND THE ANSWER

TO ALL THE QUESTIONS OF THE DAY

I AM BLESSED WITH TRUE AMBITION

I WILL ALWAYS FIND MY WAY

EMPOWERING QUESTIONS

HOW CAN I ADD POWER TO ALL THAT I DO NOW

WHAT CAN I DO TO COME OUT ON TOP

HOW CAN I MAKE MY PERSISTENCE REALLY COUNT

WHAT ARE SOME GREAT THINGS THAT RUN THROUGH MY LIFE

HOW CAN I IMPROVE ON TODAY'S GOOD POINTS

WHAT CAN I DO TO KEEP STRIDING FORWARD

HOW CAN I GET THE BEST OUT OF EVERY SITUATION

WHAT CAN I DO TO TURN ALL THAT I DO INTO A WIN

WHERE ELSE CAN I LOOK TO LEARN NEW SKILLS

WHAT MORE CAN I DO TO HELP OTHER PEOPLE

NOTE FROM ANDY (AUTHOR)

IF YOU LIKE THIS ARTICLE OR FOUND IT USEFUL OR ENTERTAINING IN ANY WAY WOULD YOU PLEASE SHARE IT FOR OTHERS TO SEE...AND PLEASE MAKE A COMMENT BELOW TO LET ME KNOW WHAT YOU THINK OF IT....GOOD OR BAD


I would love to hear your thoughts on this article...so if you have any opinions to offer...or experiences or examples to share...please put them in the 'comments ' section below.


Perhaps you have your own story to tell ?

What do you think ?

How do you feel ?

What is your opinion ?

Are you working on something similar ?


I will respond to all comments and I look forward to hearing from you


Thank You


Andy



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