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See The Stranger

Updated on September 4, 2017
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I was a registered nurse for 25+ years. Working mainly in the operating room, I have been everything from staff nurse to DON

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Acknowledgement

I see people every day with dead eyes. There is no light, no hope, no seeing. I hope to cure this problem through the use of acknowledgement.

Acknowledgement in this sense means seeing these strangers, smiling at them and saying hello. To look into their eyes without fear. Acknowledge that they are living human beings that should be treated with dignity and respect.

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See This Person

Have you ever gone into a convenience store and the person behind the counter never looks at you. My theory is this happens because no-one really looks at them. People pay all day, talking on their cell phones, talking with their friends, looking at their watch...but never looking at the person who is helping with their purchase.

There is no acknowledgement, no thank you, and no smile. It is as if that person is just a machine behind the counter. No person, just a glorified ATM machine that has no slots. Even if there is a thank you, it is not given sincerely to the other person...it is perfunctory.

Next time you are in this situation, look the person in the eye, smile sincerely, and say thank you. Often times you will see shock in the other person's eyes. Somebody saw them. They were acknowledged. You will see them stand up a little straighter and your smile will pass through them to the next customer.

Ahhh...A little light in our dark world. A strand of love being passed around.

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Share a Smile

I have made acknowledging people a habit of mine for several years. There are some unexpected benefits. After doing this a few times, even if you are only in that busy store once a week, people start to remember you. They smile when they see you. They perk up.

I acknowledge people I pass on the street and in elevators and waiting on line. I do it most when I see the despair, the self doubt, the loneliness. When people see that you actually see them, when you acknowledge them, they become happier.

Give a smile to that poor mom with the crying child on line at the grocery store. She knows the child is being annoying. Show her you know that children do that. A smile at this time really does help.

You don't have to start a conversation. Most people don't want to talk, they want to be seen. They want to be acknowledged.

How many people are out there that feel crushed by the loneliness, the loss of hope, the feeling that no-one notices them and as such they are not worthy of notice? How many fall to the apathy this must bring? It is our job to help others. A smile is a free gift, but sometimes it is priceless.

Acknowledge one another! Your acknowledgement of another person may be the difference between their life and death. You may be the reason they snap out of their apathy and think, "yes, I can do this another day!"

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Your acknowledgement may give them the strength to go home to their loved ones and share the respect and dignity. Share the happiness. They may realize how much that acknowledgement meant to them and start treating others the same way.

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Acknowledgement is a Free Gift

Acknowledgement is a way of spreading love. Love is grounded in dignity and respect. We need to see each other before we can love each other. We all have our worries, we all have stress.

Love through acknowledgement will help the giver also. We all know it feels good to give someone a gift that they like. Acknowledgement is a free gift that every one likes! You feel better about yourself and less stressed with your life when you give this gift. Your step will have more spring to it, your shoulders will be a little straighter.

We don't always have much to contribute in this world...too little money and too little time are the woes of people all over. Acknowledgement is free, it only takes a second, and you don't have to go anywhere other than where you were already headed.

I fight against this world's despair, hate and apathy using the sword of acknowledgement! Will you join my fight? Will you acknowledge and be acknowledged? Acknowledge and see the truth.

Metta-A Simple Word That Means So Much

© 2009 Kari Poulsen

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      Kari Poulsen 7 years ago from Ohio

      stars439, Thank you very much. GBY :D

      syuryadi helpi, I'm glad you agree. It does make life more meaningful and beautiful. :D

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      syuryadi helpi 7 years ago

      I agree with you. By doing so ,life will be meaningful and beautiful .I like this friendly hub. thank for sharing.I will read some others soon

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      stars439 7 years ago from Louisiana, The Magnolia and Pelican State.

      Very beautiful article. GBY Dear Heart.

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      Kari Poulsen 8 years ago from Ohio

      Haunty, It is amazing. People do like to be seen! :D

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      Haunty 8 years ago from Hungary

      This is so true. And I noticed just the same thing, because my girlfriend never looks at cashiers or people in general, but when she talks to someone she looks them right in the eye. (And she has a mesmerizing look to say the least. :)) She is the best person I know, it's just that we all have certain habits, I think.

      So why I brought this up is that when we're together I always look into peoples' eyes and talk to them, because I kinda feel as if I had to interact with people for both of us. And, k@ri, it's amazing, because cashiers I meet always smile back. :)

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      Kari Poulsen 8 years ago from Ohio

      Neil, We always have something to give and you bring up a good point...we need to not be so hard on ourselves. We need to know that no matter what is happening in our lives, we can and do make others feel worthwhile. We are the change we want to see in the world...and there IS no such thing as a bad day! Unless we choose to think it. :D

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      Neil Sperling 8 years ago from Port Dover Ontario Canada

      Great Hub --- funny - often we think we have nothing to give cause we may be down ourselves. Out of work, money problems, relationship problems --- and yet we can ALWAYS give a word of Praise, Give a Word of Hope, a Smile or a Laugh. We are ALWAYS rich beyond our imagination if we just realize there is no such thing as a bad day if you are above ground.

      Thanks K@ri

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      Kari Poulsen 8 years ago from Ohio

      Luke, That is a wonderful story! If anyone wants to read a truly wonderful gift go to the above link...It sent shivers down my spine! :D

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      Kari Poulsen 8 years ago from Ohio

      Luke, Thanks and I am flattered I can be an inspiration! You have done wonderful since that first time I read you. I love your poems and I am going to read your story! :D

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      L. Andrew Marr 8 years ago

      Kari dear,

      This reminds me of a great story which I shall now post as a hub. Thank you for the inspiration. You are truly one of a kind.

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      Kari Poulsen 8 years ago from Ohio

      Feline Prophet, Happiness is often found in the little things! :)

      Gin, I think it becomes more important every day.

      Thanks Shalini, We need to share with each other and let others know they exist. :D

      tony, It's all about personal connections. Making contact and giving. Thanks for being here! :D

      deepestwisdom, It is very important to today's world to connect. We are becoming much to disjointed. Keep making the effort! Thanks! :)

      badcompany, Glad you enjoyed the hub. Don't change, keep at it and change others!

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      deepestwisdom 8 years ago from England

      Sometimes it becomes hard to acknowledge people, simply because we get used to passing people by and never realising they're even there. I certainly agree with this though. When I go out of my way to acknowledge others and make the effort, it hopefully makes them feel better and it certainly helps me feel better.

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      tony0724 8 years ago from san diego calif

      k@ri In a world that Is growing more lonely fearful and Isolated It Is good to be reminded that In spite of all the technological advances we have made , there Is not nor will there ever be a replacement for making a connection with another human being on whatever level that may be ! Thank you for reminding me to keep doing my part .

      Luv ya your pal Tony

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      Shalini Kagal 8 years ago from India

      What a lovely thought - acknowledgement being like a strand of love being passed around! The world needs more k@ris!! :)

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      Gin Delloway 8 years ago

      Great hub, k@ri! It's so important to be attentive and kind to each other in modern world. Thanks for reminding us about it!

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      Feline Prophet 8 years ago

      Thank you k@ri for reminding us that it's the little things that matter. :)

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      Kari Poulsen 8 years ago from Ohio

      lxxy, you cannot know how much I believe in this...time is slipping away and we are letting it. My weapon is acknowledgement...what is every one else's? And it is more than courteous...It is letting them know you like them, they are important...they matter...You know what I mean it is all over your hubs! We need to start seeing each other again...we are all human...we have the same needs. We are all "worthy" but we need to treat each other that way.

      I was at the store today. I said excuse me to one of the clerks stocking the shelves. He looked at me with surprise...is this not a common occurrence?

      I picked out my eggs and turned to leave, thanking him...he told me to take a different package...one with a better expiration date. He explained he was just rotating stock, but felt I should have the new ones...Big mish mosh and he felt it. I told you I am done hiding :D

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      lxxy 8 years ago from Beneath, Between, Beyond

      I agree!

      Acknowledgement..letting others know you're not just there to use them. We are all worthy of being courteous to each other...when we get rid of our fears, we often make new friends.

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      Kari Poulsen 8 years ago from Ohio

      Violet, No less than I am glad to be your fan. You also have a wonderful spirit and bring out my best. I believe in the inherent goodness of mankind, although I know some who do not fit into that picture. I believe and I refuse to give up that belief. That is my choice. Thank you for this! :D

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      VioletSun 8 years ago from Oregon/ Name: Marie

      Kari: I am so glad, I am your fan, you have such a beautiful spirit, you bring out the best in me when I read some of your hubs. It touches me to read hubs like these, because it keeps my faith in the inherent goodness of mankind. Thank you for inspiring me!

      And yes, a smile, acknowledgement, can do wonders!

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      Kari Poulsen 8 years ago from Ohio

      Misha, LOL, I didn't mean that...just teasing you. :D I'm glad to hear you are getting to go visit! Have a very, very good time! Make sure you tell us all about it when you get back! :D

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      Misha 8 years ago from DC Area

      LOL Absolutely, I did not mean to imply you have to go to bed. :D

      Sorry I was not active with a new music lately, just been too busy with our family trip to Russia and such. :)

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      Kari Poulsen 8 years ago from Ohio

      Hi Misha! Thanks for that! I want to be...don't always succeed. Insomnia...heck, it's Saturday night! I can still be up...no work tomorrow. :D

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      Misha 8 years ago from DC Area

      You are such a nice person Kari. :)

      Having insomnia? ;)

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      Kari Poulsen 8 years ago from Ohio

      James, Thank you for doing this! It is so important to "see" each other. I want everyone to start. I want a good world and this is how we start. :D

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      James A Watkins 8 years ago from Chicago

      A beautiful concept! I do exercise this every day and it works. Eye contact and a kind word is so important. This is a great Hub and I appreciate it very much.