Finding Your Own Happy
When You Feel Down, Don't Stay Down
Feeling down in the dumps? It is easy to start to feel down and stay down, especially when everyone is busy and no one is around to pull you out of your own funk.
Whatever has got you down, it is important to recognize the need to pull yourself back up so you don’t fall into a lingering doldrum that prevents you from getting out into the world and doing your thing. Of course, if you have clinical depression there is little that you probably can do without getting professional help. Serious conditions of depression require serious care and are not the same as feeling a little down. If you or someone you know has serious depression, it is best to seek the advice of a profession. If you are just feeling a little down or unhappy, you can do a few things on your own to help start to create a little ray of happiness in your life.
Relying on other people to make you happy can be a set up for failure. People have their own lives to lead and probably aren’t all consumed with making you happy or even know what to do to make you happy. Nor is it anyone else’s full-time job to make someone else happy. We all have to find our own inner-happiness at some point to make the most out of life.
Tips for Cheering Yourself Up
- Celebrate each and every accomplishment. The happiest people pump themselves up all the time. Don’t just focus on your failures or anything that might be going wrong in your life. If you pass a test or accomplish a task, you have permission to feel good. Pat yourself on the back. Tell others how happy you are about your accomplishments.
- Do stuff just for you. Develop a hobby that makes you happy like writing, jigsaw puzzles, or whatever captures you interest. Having interests keeps you from always depending on others to make you happy. You become so focused on your hobby that you don’t have time to wait for someone to come around and make you happy or focus on what someone else is or is not doing to please you. You are creating your own happy.
- Do something nice for someone you care about. Doing stuff for others or even volunteering can help you feel happy. Taking care of someone else’s needs can make you feel 100% better about yourself and your life. Doing for others can help keep your own life and problems in perspective and help you appreciate what you have.
- Find some joy in the day to day. Remember what makes you feel happy and live in that moment. If playing with your pet makes you feel happy, than be with you pet and allow yourself to be in that moment happy doing and free of worry.
The most important key to happiness is giving yourself permission to feel happy. For so long, I felt guilty for some reason about expressing or allowing myself to experience happiness ~ as if it somehow means that I am not taking my responsibilities seriously or that I will fail in life because I allowed myself a moment of happiness. I had to teach myself that no matter what is going on in my life that I deserve and am allowed some happiness. Yes, that perfect mate and that perfect job will indeed probably make you happier. However, being happier right now will attract more happiness and make you open to experiencing all the joys of life.