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Quick, Easy and Fast Tips on How You Can Become and Feel More Confident, Today!

Updated on January 24, 2013

Ten top tips to feel more confident now!

Confidence is a quality both admired and envied. Feared and revered, if you've got it you want to keep hold of it, very tightly with both hands. If you haven't you want to be able to acquire some and fast. It seems some people are just born emanating confidence, and shine like a beacon, while others just can't seem to muster an ounce of the stuff.

However there are a few simple yet effective techniques, you can do right now to gain confidence instantly. Here are ten of the best, try them out for size.

1. Even if you don't feel confident, act like you do.

Did you know that most people who appear confident, don't actually really feel that way? Many famous actors, musicians and stand-up comics will tell you how incredibly nervous they feel before they go on stage to perform. Just the thought that there are hundreds, sometimes thousands, sometimes hundreds of thousands of people waiting to watch them, leaves them doubting weather they can face going out there at all, even if they have done it a million times before.

So they put on a front or adopt an alter ego to cope with their crisis of confidence. This is a trick that many very successful people use to great effect and you can do it too. Believe me no one will know you are not feeling as confidant as you look and In no time at all you will have thought yourself confidant.

2. Play your own internal confidence soundtrack.

Think of a song that you love, a song that every time you hear it makes you want to sing along to it at the top of your voice and dance around completely uninhibited. Now play it in your mind, loud from beginning to end. Now how do you feel?

Hopefully you became so distracted and engrossed with your song you've forgotten about how under confident you were feeling and now actually feel pretty good. My internal soundtrack usually starts Whitney Houston singing 'I'm every woman' It's a fun tune, with empowering lyrics and I love the sound of her great voice.

This exercise is especially good if you're feeling a little vulnerable when out and about. Think of as many song's as you can that make you feel great, add them all to your internal confidence soundtrack and play them anytime you like.

3. Do something, without thinking about it.

Procrastination is the great confidence killer, if you think about something for too long, you can think yourself right out of it. Whereas spontaneity is liberating and a confidence feeder. Do something completely different today, no matter how big or small and most importantly of all don't contemplate it for to long. Just go with your instincts and have fun.

4. Write an asset list.

Write a list of all the things that are good about you and everything you have ever achieved in your life so far. It does not matter if it seems trivial or insignificant, weather it was something you did yesterday or years ago. Anything you have ever won and all your great personality traits, if you are you a great cook or gardener, put that down too. Write it all down, don't miss a single thing out and make the list as long as you possibly can.

When you are done read it back to yourself in your head, then again out loud. Keep this list somewhere safe and add to it whenever you think of something new. This list is for you to take care of and to read as little or as often as you like. Your asset list gives you all the reasons you will ever need to feel confident.

5. Sell yourself, without selling yourself out.

Image is important only so far as it is a reflection of self. Dress for yourself, don't waste your precious time hiding behind the person you think you should be, because being the person you really are is much more important, will make you a lot happier and ultimately increase your confidence. If you don't like what you see when you look in the mirror, ask yourself why? Have you not read your asset list! Maybe it's because the person you see is not a true reflection of the person you really are and want to be. Don't be afraid of who you are and remember that beauty comes from within.

6. Treat yourself.

Do something for yourself today, knowing that you deserve it. Society expects so much of people in the world today that you can wind up feeling guilty for all the thing's that you haven't done or should be doing. Why? Have a good think about your average day and everything that you normally do. I bet it's a lot and at times pretty stressful too. Indulge yourself and feel confident in the fact that you really do deserve it.

7. Speak up and have passion.

Enthusiasm is contagious and just by speaking up, you will find people really start to pay attention to what you have to say. This will dramatically increase your confidence because you will start to realise that your opinion counts, people care about what you think and respond better to how you feel. This will in turn enable you to feel validated and more confident the next time you engage with people in conversation. Don't be afraid to talk about what you feel passionate about in fact I recommend it, people would much rather hear about your interests then another forgettable session of small talk.

8. Have conviction because you know what you stand for.

No one knows you like you know yourself and only you know what you want. By showing conviction and standing solid to what you truly believe will you gain real confidence. Embrace what makes you who you are and what your about. Don't be afraid to be different and stand out from the crowd.

9. Stop caring about what every one else thinks.

The majority of confidence issues stems from the perception that you should be or act as you feel is expected of you. The truth is that people generally expect a lot less of you then you expect of yourself. Most people judge or belittle others to satisfy their own inadequacies and lack of confidence because they feel threatened or jealous. If you are on the receiving end of a detrimental act or word, find confidence in the fact that they have a more severe confidence issue then you, as they are having to try to lessen your confidence, to enable theirs to seem greater.

10. Wear a smile.

The biggest most sincere smile you can muster, people will automatically warm to you. You become more approachable and smiling makes you feel great too.

Real confidence is not being boastful or showing off, it is about being quietly confident and happy with who you are. I have done and still do these exercises myself, I know that they work and I hope they are as useful to you as they have been for me.

Confidence breeds happiness.

By gaining confidence in turn will breed happiness, they seem to be invariably linked and let's face it who doesn't want to be happy?

Gaining confidence and feeling happier within yourself is easier to achieve then you might first imagine.

It's all about making the small step's to big changes, by using these simple techniques you will be well on your way to a more confident you and quickly!


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      bhollu mann 3 years ago


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      wrenfrost56 7 years ago from U.K.

      Thank-you very much Ben Zoltak, very much enjoy your work also. :)

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      Ben Zoltak 7 years ago from Lake Mills, Jefferson County, Wisconsin USA

      Hey wrenfrost great energetic and insightful article. These are all great words of advice and I try to follow them whenever I can. Can't say enough about getting active to avoid procrastination. I like the 'soundtrack' idea too, I've been doing that for years, who knew!

      So I saw your post on the artists/painters thread/forum, where's your painter article? Would love to hear your philosophy or lack of philosophy.

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      wrenfrost56 8 years ago from U.K.

      Thank-you for your comment itcoll, I hope you found it useful.

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      itcoll 8 years ago

      "Even if you don't feel confident, pretend that you do."

      hee hee.of course.this is the way i do when i feel depressed.great to see these tips.keep it up :D

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      wrenfrost56 8 years ago from U.K.

      Thank-you for your comment Solomon, you have given me something to think about in the future when writing these kind of hubs.

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      solomon 8 years ago

      l will appreciate more if it try to bincorpprates the how to do lists

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      wrenfrost56 8 years ago from U.K.

      Thank-you for your comments, I am glad you liked my hub. Stay true and be confident!

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      prettydarkhorse 8 years ago from US

      hi, confidence is all, and if it shows you can go along way! and yes smile is so important too!

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      prasetio30 8 years ago from malang-indonesia

      I agree with you. Confident is always need in many activity. we have self confident by following our heart. life without confident become empty. no energy for life and we don't have strong power for our selves. great hub. I like it. thanks for share.

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      netadept 8 years ago from Northern California

      I am a firm believer in positive thinking and this goes right along with that. You have a good writing style too, nicely done.

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      wrenfrost56 8 years ago from U.K.

      Thank-you I hope you found it helpful.

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      bingskee 8 years ago from Quezon City, Philippines

      and they say, it's all in the mind.. nice hub!

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      DoodleLyn 8 years ago from Upstate New York, USA

      Some really great ideas here. I, for one, can use more confidence. I will try some of these ideas out. Good hub!

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      DoodleLyn 8 years ago from Upstate New York, USA

      Some really great ideas here. I, for one, can use more confidence. I will try some of these ideas out. Good hub!