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How Adversity and Emotion Meet

Updated on January 21, 2020
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Dione is an Author, Life Coach, and Blogger focusing on spiritual beliefs and underlying emotional and perceptual issues many people endure.


Adversity and Emotion

What is Adversity


Adversity is a noun and means difficulties and or misfortune. Adverse or unfavorable fortune or fate; a condition marked by misfortune, calamity, or distress: Friends will show their true colors in times of adversity. an adverse or unfortunate event or circumstance: You will meet many adversities in life.

No matter who you are and what you do in life, you will face adversity at some point. Usually, adversity brings about the automatic response of frustration, anger, and blame. Emotions like this don’t feel right and lead to suffering. Sometimes the emotional response happens so fast you don’t know how you got there or how to pull yourself out.

I know first-hand how afflictions can cause hostile emotions, disrupt peace, and distorted my perception of events taking place. These automatic emotional reactions occurred each time an unpleasant circumstance arose. Although I experienced feelings of frustration and, at times, even anger, the gentle tug in my heart told me I was stronger than my mishaps, and so are you.

If you find yourself being reactive to unpleasant circumstances with anger, bitterness, and resistance, notice the emotion for what it is - a feeling that can be changed.

What is Emotion?


The biology of emotion is the limbic, autonomic nervous, and reticular systems interact in processing emotions. All this means is, your feelings send messages to your neurological system, and then your feelings trigger your response — the cycle repeats.

According to Wikipedia emotion is a mental state associated with the nervous system brought on by chemical changes variously related to thoughts, feelings, behavioral responses, and a degree of pleasure or displeasure. Love and hate are emotions that arouse your nervous system, and each emotion has a very different effect on you.

The automatic response can, however, be redirected and changed with open-mindedness and awareness. Recognizing the thoughts and emotions you attach to yourself to when unpleasantness arises is a high starting point. If it feels terrible, allow the feeling to pass and connect no judgments to it.

The same is true for happy thoughts, learn how to handle your emotions without needing to judge yourself for them — doing so positions you to take control of your feelings without allowing your emotions to control you, therefore reprogramming your nervous system.

What is Hate?


Hatred or hate is an emotion. It can invoke feelings of animosity, anger, or resentment, which can be directed against specific individuals, groups, entities, objects, behaviors, concepts, or ideas. Hatred is often associated with feelings of anger, disgust, and a disposition towards the source of hostility. Wikipedia

Ask yourself how you feel when unpleasant circumstances occur. Be honest with yourself, and most importantly - do not blame or judge. Notice your answer first, and then when the next uncomfortable situation comes up, make it your intention to turn away from your automatic response and create a better outcome and feeling for yourself. Each time you do this with focus and purpose, you are reprogramming your nervous system automatically.

Which Side Feels Better


What is Love?

Love encompasses a range of strong and positive emotional and mental states, from the most sublime virtue or good habit, the deepest interpersonal affection, and to the simplest pleasure. Wikipedia

When adversities occur, look to love because in that is your resolve. Greatness can be found, even in difficulty, but only when you look.The bottom line is reactions coincide with emotions; love brings ease and optimism. Hatred, irritation, anger, blame, and resistance, helping you remain stuck in the feeling. To change the way you feel, alter the responses.

Your Choice

Although you may want to respond favorably to adversity, it can become challenging to do. The challenge is due to your nervous system's programming concerning past events. Your emotional memory, theory, and impact of these events are fueling your reactivity to unpleasant circumstances with current affairs. Love rewards your nervous system with patience and self-control, the side of hate, well not so much. This decision gifts you with blame, anger, and resentment, among other things.

At every moment of your life, you have a choice on what side of life you stand on, no matter the person or situation before you. The choice of love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, and endures all things. Through the presence within you, gentle whispers from your heart call out your name. No matter what you've done or what has come before you, love still stands with you.

The side of aversion, your ego/fallen angel - doesn't remember the choice to love. It knows egoic convictions that feel incapable, insufficient, and detested. There’s no hope in that - Therefore, retrain your ego (nervous system) and bring it back to awareness in love.


1. It’s Okay Not to Feel Okay

Understand that you are a human being, and it is reasonable to feel unsatisfied, hurt, frustrated, and so on. Usually, the issue is, at the same time, painful emotions arise; you start to believe stories falsified by the mind, passion, and the resistance to the misfortune.

You can, however, allow yourself to feel all feelings because the depth of the impact is changing you and making you stronger. When you don't get upset at what occurs but allow things to be, all things work out.

The key is not to allow yourself to remain stuck or overly attached to your emotions. Everything happens for your purpose and works together for you. Your part is to work with the events by offering optimism and singlemindedness for your future. Know adversity isn't the destroyer, but the pathway to your lessons necessary for your progression in life.

You Are the Co-Creator

Not the creator. Circumstances will occur throughout life that comes regardless of your effort to thwart the event. Although we are powerful beings, misfortune does and will happen. At your weakest hour, let go of and rest in what you do not understand. It’s easy to get lost in the fact that we, as human beings, are co-creators of our lives. The mishaps arise when our ability to co-create is mistaken for the creator in which we are not. When situations arise beyond your control, relinquish your conclusions, and seek wisdom.

Ride the Waves of Thoughts

Because out of this misfortune, only good can come. When you genuinely believe that, all things are a win, although, at times, that doesn't feel true it is. Look back at past experiences and you'' realize you've gone through many unpleasant situations when you didn't think that you would or could.

Your thoughts are powerless without emotion to fuel them. When mishaps occur, your brain will play different scenarios for you. The scenes aren't real, so it's useless to react as though they were. You are okay, affirm it through the adversity. Stating this fact will help you to be able to take your focus off your problem and toward a solution.

Show up for yourself

Don’t beat yourself up when things go wrong. Be your supporter as you would a best friend. Remind yourself that although situations may be difficult, you are here to progress; You are and will even when things don’t make sense. Be gentle with yourself, no matter what.

Your inheritance in life provides you access to pure love and awareness whenever you wish to know it for yourself. Adversity can’t stand, but will, however, come. Be ready to resist the temptation to believe the difficulty is more significant than you because it isn’t. To see past tragedy, choose the side of love and know yourself as such. Your troubles dissipate by the renewal of your mind through your heart, the pathway of creation.

This content is for informational purposes only and does not substitute for formal and individualized diagnosis, prognosis, treatment, prescription, and/or dietary advice from a licensed medical professional. Do not stop or alter your current course of treatment. If pregnant or nursing, consult with a qualified provider on an individual basis. Seek immediate help if you are experiencing a medical emergency.

© 2020 Dione Howard


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