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How To Be Happy
How to Be Happy & Have What You Want
Everybody is looking for something. Everyone out there has their own list of things they want to possess and achieve. Some people want a better paying job, some people want a better body, some people want a bigger house and a more attractive partner, but why do they want all of these things?
The bottom line is people want to be happy. The only reason they want these physical possessions is because they truly believe they will bring them lasting happiness. Sure, winning the lottery would give you a huge thrill and make life a lot easier, but after the initial thrill wears off and you've purchased everything you could have ever wanted, the happiness starts to die back down and you're left with the gaping hole you began with -- something is still missing.
What could that something that's missing be and how can you attain everlasting happiness?
Step 1 - Understand That Happiness Comes From Within
Happiness is not something with a price tag on it, contrary to popular belief. Instead, it is an emotion that can be triggered by holding onto the sensation of hope and looking forward to the future.
Have you ever noticed how you feel the happiest when you are looking forward to something in your near future and feeling overwhelmingly excited for it? Well, if you aren't already feeling happy on a normal basis, chances are you don't currently have anything really worth looking forward to coming up any time soon. So how do you remedy that? Set a goal!
If you want to know how to be truly happy, the secret lies in goal setting. Nothing else will bring you as much constant happiness and satisfaction as repetitive successful goal setting. The reason why setting goals is the secret to be happy is twofold:
1) It gives you something to constantly be looking forward to -- the accomplishment of the goal.
2) Once you have achieve the goal, you feel an overwhelming rush of happiness from the fact that not only did you accomplish what you originally set out to do, but now you have the natural reward of achieving that goal. For example, if your goal was lose 20 lbs of body fat, now you have a brand new sexy body to show off at the beach. Or if your goal was start up and get a new business running off the ground successfully, now you have an extra load of income at your disposal.
If you want this intense, gratifying happiness to keep lasting, set a brand new goal every time you finish your last one. You'll find an everlasting well of happiness with this method and your life will begin to change in profound, wonderful ways.
Just remember, everlasting happiness can be attained by always having something amazing to look forward to right around the corner. The best way to create this effect is through repetitive goal setting; dramatically transforming your life one step at a time.
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Step 2 - Set Life Changing Goals
Now that we know lasting happiness can be attained through successful goal setting, you must learn how to set realistic and achievable goals.
How to Set Realistic & Achievable Goals
When most people set a goal, they state it in not only an immeasurable way, but also in a way where they can't always control whether they succeed or not. Let me explain these two faulty strategies of goal setting and then describe a more beneficial way to state your goals.
Immeasurable Goals - The first and most common mistake people make when setting goals is by not setting them in a way they can track or measure their success. For example, an immeasurable goal might sound like "I am going to lose weight" or "I am going to make more money." The problem with these goals is there's no way to really define or measure them. A more successful way to phrase a weight loss goal would be to say, "I am going to lose 20 lbs of fat by July 4th." However, even then the goal is not as well as it could be, because you still may not have control over that. Which leads us to our next style faulty goal setting...
Setting Goals That You Do Not Have Complete Control Over Achieving - Let's take another look at that example I mentioned previously of "I am going to lose 20 lbs of fat by July 4th." You don't know for sure that you're going to be able to do that! Even if you work out as hard as you can, every single day of the week and don't have a single gram of sugar, you STILL may not be genetically able to lose as much as 20 lbs of fat. The danger with this style of goal setting is that if you lose only 15 lbs of fat and July 4th rolls around, you'll still feel like you failed. You won't get the full dose of happiness you were originally seeking by setting a goal in the first place.
So what is a more successful way of goal setting? Make your goals ACTION based -- NOT result based. You can control your own actions, but you can't always control the results to the T. Looking back at the weight loss by July 4th example, a more successful way of stating that goal would be "I will do cardio for 30 minutes a day, 5 days a week and will not eat a single gram of processed sugar until July 4th."
Setting goals in this manner will allow you to feel successful no matter what your results are, because you'll be more focused on what you ACHIEVED with self-discipline than with what results you obtained as a consequence of your self-discipline.
Step 3 - Master The Power of Visualization and Manifest Your Goals As Reality
The power of visualization can be a very powerful tool when working to achieve your goals. Experts in the Law of Attraction (also know as ''The Secret''), such as Bob Proctor, strongly emphasize the importance of daily visualization to manifest goals into reality.
Bob Proctor suggests that by closing your eyes and visualizing what it would be like to already have succeeded at your desired goal, you will put out a wave of quantum energy into the Universe that will help attract and draw back to you that which you seek.
From the way Mr. Proctor explains it, it almost sounds like magic, but that's how must subjects in quantum physics are. Regardless, I can testify this technique WORKS! I have attracted my dream job this way as well as my dream girlfriend and my dream physical body with a six pack and all. There is no limit to what you can use this power to attain other than the extent of your own faith and dedication to succeeding at your goals.
Thoughts become things.
By repetitively setting goals and using the power of visualization to manifest them in physical reality around you, you will find an unlimited supply of happiness right at your finger tips and you will finally learn that you already have everything you need to be happy.