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How To Build A Positive Attitude in 7 Easy Steps

Updated on May 25, 2015

A positive Attitude is very much essential for success in business and life.Only people with a positive Attitude can face the odds in life and maintain character. A good personality attracts people. A pleasant person with positive mindset and practical thinking is always nice to be around.

People with negative attitude tend to blame whole society and surroundings for their failures.They are not risk-takers.They don't have the courage to accept their mistakes and setbacks in life. Only a person with a positive attitude can accept his/her responsibilities and fulfill his duties with pride.A positive person is energizing for those surrounding him .He is a source of motivation and courage for himself and others surrounding him.

So, in a short note, for success in life we must develop a positive personality.


Here I give in a step by step manner the things you should follow so as to develop a positive personality...

1.Always Look For the Positive

Whether it is people or objects , always try to see the good in them.Life su*s people change and things don't go as planned.But learn to accept the challenges life throws at you.Just hold on and see the positive aspect of each and every situation you come across in your daily life.
Never complain or criticize. Rather, try to learn from your mistakes and shortcomings. Always understand that nothing is ever going to be perfect - you just need to adapt to people and surroundings.Only when you look for the positive of things, you can deal with them in the right manner.Being with positive people and situations can boost your vigor and help motivate yourself.

2.Never Procastinate

Procrastination is snoozing things for later like snoozing an alarm. Its like you are never going to get up. Develop an attitude of doing things in time. Tr again and again until you conquer your lazy mindset of skipping things for later.People with a positive attitude never procrastinate.There are also so many benefits of doing things in time - it can boost your self esteem and also create a feeling of being in control . On the other hand procrastination increases stress and anxiety. This can indeed influence your mood and personality.

Make a habit of doings things in time. Understand than there is no gain without pain.You can never succeed in life without hard work. And a person with a habit of procrastinating can never do the required hard work. So step out from your comfort zone and make an attitude of doing things now.

3.Build A Positive Self Esteem

Self esteem is a feeling of pride and faith in oneself.Many of us have developed that inner debby downer which prevents us from enjoying and doing things that we love.This is due to lack of self-esteem. Building a positive self esteem can boost your performance and help you enjoy the things that you do-whether it is work, study or something else. Building a posiitrve self esteem is not going to be easy but its going to be worth it.


  • Stop criticizing yourself

Blaming yourself for your mistakes only make you feel sad and unworthy. So rather try to analyse your shortcomings and invest your time on bettering yourself.

  • Appreciate yourself daily

Even if no one else appreciates you, appreciate yourself for your achievements . This is a good self motivating technique.

  • Get rid of the idea of perfectionism

Nothing in this world is ever going to be perfect. No one is perfect. So accept that fact and loose your inborn tendency of looking for perfection in everything and everyone.

  • Always motivate thyself

Keep motivating yourself through self motivation videos and quotes. This helps you to perform better.

  • Spend time with people who support you

Such people can create a positive atmosphere which can low down stress and motivate you.

  • Be empathetic

Be kind with people and help those in need.Be selfless.

4.Always Love What You Do

Learn to love the things you do no matter whatever it is. Someone just said" Doing what you like is freedom, but liking what you do is happiness." How true are these words. In order to be happy , you need to enjoy the little things in life.A positive self esteem is required to do this. One should learn to love his family, spouse, situations, no matter what ,if he intends to succeed in life. "Greatness is not that superhuman god like quality only the best of us can achieve, rather it is something that truly exist in all of us. What is worth in living if you hate everyone and everything? How can you succeed in life with hatred and ego ? Only when you love what you do, you can fully devote yourself to it and perform better. So learn to love what you are and where you are at.

5. Be A Person Of Gratitude

Gratitude is a feeling of thankfulness and appreciation. Never be haughty. One should be thankful and humble in his success and patient in his failures. We should never play with someone else's feelings. Because it is a cruel act of negligence and carelessness. Be humble and learn to love everyone for what they are. Learn to thank people and help them in return when in need.

Never Expect Anything From Anyone

Well this might be a hard thing to do.We usually get angry or upset with people because they didn't live up to our expectations. Expectations causes anxiety, worry and sadness. We should always try to expect the least from people. Never do anything expecting something in return. Expectations destroy people and relationships. Hope is positive, but expectation is negative. Living with expectations is like betting or gambling, you only have a low chance of success. So don't expect unnecessarily. Listen to your gut, it knows what to do.Only when we stop expectations about people we can help them selflessly and like them.

7.Always Associate Yourself With Positive

Be it people or things or situations , a man with a positive personality and attitude is always associated with the positive. Always avoid negative influences in life. Keep yourself away from downers.This doesn't essentially mean that you shouldn't mingle with people.You should always be friendly with all kinds of people in society- this is the core of a positive personality.But keep negative people and influences at a distance. Never associate yourself with negative situations and objects. Be a person full of positive energy and right mindset

"If you are still looking for that one single person to change your life, then go take a look in the mirror." If you are planning to develop a positive attitude then start today, start now. " I'm not telling you it's going to be easy, I'm telling you that it's going to be worth the effort" . So get out of your comfort zone and work towards your dream. In the process of working towards your dream you might endure a lot of failure. But never let go. Just keep on trying.

“Your time is limited, don’t waste it living someone else’s life. Don’t be trapped by dogma, which is living the result of other people’s thinking. Don’t let the noise of other opinions drown your own inner voice. And most important, have the courage to follow your heart and intuition, they somehow already know what you truly want to become. Everything else is secondary.” -STEVE JOBS


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    • lollyj lm profile image

      Laurel Johnson 3 years ago from Washington KS

      Thanks for the sensible, well written reminders of maintaining a positive attitude.

    • Larry Rankin profile image

      Larry Rankin 3 years ago from Oklahoma

      Very helpful list. I have a hard time harboring a positive attitude.

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      Edwin Thomas 3 years ago from Somewhere on earth

      thnks for the feedback ppl

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      Rachel L Alba 3 years ago from Every Day Cooking and Baking

      There are some good tips here. Sometimes it is hard to look on the bright side when all around looks like a failure. But I believe that God can help in any situation, so I try to be positive in my faith. Thanks for sharing your hub.

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      Lisa VanVorst 3 years ago from New Jersey

      A very optimistic perspective on life. Sometimes you cannot avoid the negative, pessimistic people in your life. However, it is as your hub said, it is up to you to look on the bright side of things or you too will be miserable.