- Death & Loss of Life
How To Deal With The Death Of A Loved One
When the times comes in life for us to leave this world and meet our creator we think to ourselves what is it going to be like. Will I suffer with pain? Will I pass away in peace or in my sleep with no pain at all, or will I die by an accident that takes my life or a loved one?
In the line of work I have been doing for some twenty four years now, I have seen it all and have done it all as well. It is my job at the cemetery to try to comfort families that have just lost a loved one. It is hard to explain the feelings I have doing so, but I place myself in their position as if the lost was one of my family members.
You may ask, why I do this, and the answer is, that you must have compassion and not let the families think that you don't care and you just want to sell them graves or mausoleums to benefit the company. NOT true in my case, there are sometimes in my days work that I could just ball my eyes out due to the pain and suffering the family is having. It breaks my heart to see this happen to people, but I must stay strong and hold my emotions back, which sometimes is a very hard thing to do.
An example of "how to deal with the death of a loved one" is how I coped with my father's death.
The Hub before this one, I spoke of living your life to the fullest and my father was a prime example of living to the end.
My father flew the blue skies for sixty four years and loved it better each time the wheels left the ground on that runway. It was his passion in life to be able to fly almost everyday. He was a foreman in a jet engine plant and worked for the Federal Government for thirty some years, so he knew air crafts and engines from a very small plane to our fighter jets today.
He was healthy though out his life and one day we found out he had Multiple Myloma, cancer of the blood. This shocked our family, his friends, and most of all himself, but it didn't hold him back from flying. He flew up to three weeks before his death. He was very well known to all the News Channels and they celebrated is 80th Birthday at the airport he flew out of. Three weeks later he passed away at home.
The way we had to deal with my father's death was by saying that first, he is in peace, and that he is now truly flying with the angels in that blue sky above. That put comfort to our hearts knowing that he truly loved life and lived life to the fullest to the very end.
What we all have to do when we lose a loved one is that we need to think of all the beautiful memories we had growing up with them. They have only left us in body, but the memories we have will live in our hearts forever and ever.
What we all have to remember is that our loved ones will be waiting at the gates of Heaven with open arms to greet each and everyone of us when it's our time to leave this world. They are only gone out of our lives body wise, but their love and fond memories of them live on in our hearts forever.
Stay strong with your lose and remember it's not forever that they will be gone. We will see all of them again and that's something to truly look forward to.
Continue to think of all the fond memories and remember that all of the people that have passed away Still Live In Our Hearts Today.