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How to Cheer Yourself Up on a Bad Day
Paste a Smile on Your Face
I know, I know. The last thing you want to do is smile right now. Before you skip this tip, hear me out: faking a smile stimulates the same muscles that you use when you are genuinely happy, which in turn improves your mood, according to many psychologists (including one of the first to research "facial-feedback", Paul Ekman).
Also, if you want some real talk from someone who is not a psychologist? Whenever I'm in a sour mood, I always smile; I find that after I do this, I instantly feel a lot better, if not completely "cured".
Get to The Source
Maybe you come home and you're angry, but you don't know what your emotions are about. Was it something that you heard or experienced? Are you upset about something from a long time ago?
Whatever the problem is, I've found that writing out your feelings really helps to diffuse your anger and get to the bottom of what is bringing you down. Once you find out what's wrong, it will become easier to fix or reflect on.
Write a Letter
I don't know if this will seem strange, but personally I love writing letters and letting the people who have hurt me know why I'm feeling the way I am. Sometimes I never deliver them, but other times if I am choked up I give my letter to whomever made me want to write it. It may lead to a discussion that you've been wanting to have for a long time!
If the source that is making you angry or sad is a person, writing out your "grievances" will help you move on and feel better/focus on yourself! Once you get it all out of your system, you may feel happier.
Also, if you find that you just needed to rant a little and blow off some steam, done and done!
"Life isn't about finding yourself. Life is about creating yourself."
-George Bernard Shaw
When In Doubt, Quote It Out
Who doesn't love a good quote? I'm constantly amazed by the profound things people have said, and when the right keywords are searched, I'm sure you will find something to uplift and inspire you! Try searching for happiness quotes, or if you are sad/angry for a specific reason, try searching for a related term. (Look up: "Term + quotes")
For instance, once I was very upset about not knowing where my life was headed, so I (naturally) looked up "life quotes" and was very pleased with what I found. I felt ready and excited for the first time in forever to find something I was truly passionate about and pursue it.
I don't know about you guys, but cute animal videos and pictures never fail to cheer me up and make me laugh. Animals can do no wrong, am I right?
There is an impressive collection of dog/cat/panda/etc. videos available online, so enjoy! If you aren't looking for a video, try looking up something in the Images tab like "funny dog" or "cute cat" or "baby animal".
Read, Listen to Music, Etc.
Do what you love! Just losing yourself in whatever activity you are engaging in is a great way to feel better.
Plus, it's great when an artist or writer perfectly captures how you are feeling because it makes you not feel so alone, which also helps with your mood.
Let it All Out
If all else fails, it may just be all of those pent-up emotions killing your mood!
I promise: having a good cry once in a while doesn't make you weak at all- it actually shows your maturity. Letting your emotions through is a healthy way to ensure you aren't upset all the time; keeping every tumultuous feeling inside of you without having a good "faucet" for it will just make it worse. When you are extremely stressed, let yourself CRY! Once you're finished, I guarantee you'll feel better and want to be proactive.
As for anger: try out all of the above methods first, because sometimes punching a pillow doesn't help. If you tried everything else and punching a pillow only makes you want to break something even more, sit in a corner and think about why you're so angry. The corner will give you a sense of security (this is a personal observation), and even though I hate admitting to myself that I am angry for no reason or I'm overreacting, I often find that this is the case when I am unreasonably mad.