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How to Feel Better About Yourself by Giving to Others: The Golden Rule

Updated on February 24, 2014

This Rule is Golden

The maxim of the "golden rule" is exemplified in many Christian stories, such as the Parable of the Good Samaritan, which are unadorned replications of the Jewish Torah: "Love your neighbor as yourself: I am the LORD."(Leviticus 19:18 —NJPS)[1]
The maxim of the "golden rule" is exemplified in many Christian stories, such as the Parable of the Good Samaritan, which are unadorned replications of the Jewish Torah: "Love your neighbor as yourself: I am the LORD."(Leviticus 19:18 —NJPS)[1] | Source

Do unto Others

Such an easy concept to understand, as children we hear parents warn us to always treat others as we would like to be treated. Simple enough, so what happens and how does it all become so complicated.

No one always feels great, although as we mature, somehow we are taught (most of us anyway) that a smile and positive attitude are a more acceptable outfit to wear. The old cliche "you can catch more flies with honey" seems to hold true here, at least I have come to realize that I enjoy spending time with people who refrain from whining about their problems all the time. This is not to say that anyone's life is carefree - quite the contrary! I have been surprised on more than one occasion when I have learned about a seemingly perfect individual's very private battles.

That said, I am not advocating that anyone should wear a phony get-up, in fact there is a time to share life's challenges. I welcome this from others and it gives me insight into the human condition; The realization that everyone has their own struggles allows one to appreciate their own existence. However, there is a balance that we all must find for ourselves, but one must pay attention. If one is so self-absorbed that they are oblivious to the happiness of others they have not yet found it. What ever "it" is that gets us up in the morning, through the day and over headaches, heartaches with misery to spare.

We have all had those dark days, unforeseen gloom that just won't go away...Without the negative however, we can not really fully appreciate those positive moments in life so if you indeed can find nothing else to look forward to, remember, everything will eventually take a turn for the better! It will get better, right? When you find yourself with a bad case of the blues, you can wait for time to pass, marking the days off the calendar like you were sentenced to life or you can take a more proactive stance and do a few things to speed up the recovery process a bit. There are more than a few things that you can do right now, that will make you feel better about yourself. Tap into subjects that you are passionate about and get involved.

Get Involved-Its Golden

  • Look around, in your own home, neighborhood, or community, volunteer your time teaching someone a new skill or tutoring students who are struggling to keep up
  • Be a mentor to an at-risk youth who just needs someone to talk to every now and then
  • Like animals? Volunteer with rescue efforts in your community - be a foster parent to a homeless pet or visit your local humane society and see what you can get involved with
  • Are you good at organizing? Head up fundraisers for your favorite cause, get involved with local senior center or homeless outreach efforts, there are never a lack of problems to solve


Chances are, when you able to look outside yourself, you will find a diversion of sorts that make you understand that your life may not be so bad after all. Helping others will put your own life into perspective and the time you donate will be worth it--your karma cup runneth over with goodness and you will some how, some way get it back ten times over - always when you least expect it.

No one ever said that life is easy but the sooner you realize your potential and find joy in sharing with others the sooner you will smile a genuine smile, even when you don't feel like it. Stop fighting and make an attempt to flow with the positive, good that exists in more places than you thought.

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      Kathy 5 years ago from California

      Thanks terrilynn-I know what you mean, the fulfillment of bringing joy to someone's life is like nothing else. You are in the right business, I think that is what's so great about finding a job that not only earns a living but also brings you the satisfaction of enhancing life for someone else! Thank you for visiting and commenting!

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      torrilynn 5 years ago

      I really loved your hub. I love to help others especially working as a C.N.A. it gives me some sort of self-fulfillment. Voted up.

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      Kathy 6 years ago from California

      Thank you Goodpal- I know exactly what you mean, everyone used to tell me "smile" and I would get so mad, but as we mature I think we realize that it could be so much worse, helping others puts it into perspective...

      Thanks so much for your comments and visit!

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      Goodpal 6 years ago

      A really thought provoking and motivating hub. While reading through the lines I remembered an incidence:

      Someone once advised me, looking at my gloomy and highly depressed face "If you can't help yourself, help others". I did not understand the irony, but somehow followed the advice. Soon my dumb mind discovered the profound message hidden in those word.

      Thanks for sharing, Chatkath.

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      Kathy 6 years ago from California

      Thank you Green Lotus, I think this was one of my first hubs, experiencing a bit of optimism no doubt. I appreciate your comment!

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      Hillary 6 years ago from Atlanta, GA

      Nicely put. People can be toxic to others while they make themselves sick in the process. Sometimes it's best not to over-share and as you say, just stay positive. thanks.

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      Kathy 7 years ago from California

      You are incredibley sweet Epigramman, I simply must check out your hubs, you have made quite a name for yourself, no doubt a worthy bit of reading! Thank you for you comment.

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      epigramman 7 years ago

      ...well I already feel better - I found you and your fascinating array of hub choices - and you have a good attitude which is contagious - and as you and I both know -one can only give out respect if you have self-respect for yourself - and people can always pick up on that in our writing .......