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How to Forget a Person (When You Absolutely Must)

Updated on May 21, 2014
Once you are able to forget someone who is having a negative influence on you, you will become much more productive and happy.
Once you are able to forget someone who is having a negative influence on you, you will become much more productive and happy. | Source

First Things First

It is good to remember the people we encounter in our lives. A strong memory is a very desired quality. However at times, in the interest of health and peace of mind, it becomes imperative to forget someone. This could be a former crush or a person who fought with you or humiliated you.

This article will provide you with practical tips to help you forget the person who just doesn't seem to be getting out of your head.

1.Stay Away

This is almost a no-brainer. Stay away from the person who unsettles you so much. If you live in the same block, avoid the routes he/she takes and avoid going out at the time he/she is most active. This will prevent you from accidentally bumping into him/her.

As much as possible, avoid the places which the person you are trying to forget frequents. The last thing you want happening is to bump into this person and have a mean remark hurled your way.
As much as possible, avoid the places which the person you are trying to forget frequents. The last thing you want happening is to bump into this person and have a mean remark hurled your way. | Source

2.Don't React

If in case you inadvertently bump into the person who you are trying to forget, make sure you don't react to anything he/she has to tell you. Don't allow yourself to get sucked into a conversation with him/her. Doing so could make you say something which you might regret later. The last thing you want to do at this time is to create further emotional fodder for your mind.

Heaven forbid, but if you happen to run into the person you are trying to forget, consciously avoid being sucked into a conversation. The last thing you want happening is to get angry and make a fool of yourself.
Heaven forbid, but if you happen to run into the person you are trying to forget, consciously avoid being sucked into a conversation. The last thing you want happening is to get angry and make a fool of yourself. | Source

3.Engage Yourself

Not for nothing do wise people say "an idle mind is the devil's workshop". If you are trying to forget someone, you can't do it by simply sitting around and doing nothing. Engage! Get involved! Do something! There are loads of causes in the world that need your support. Make a positive impact in the world and society you live in. Get you hands and feet dirty by planting trees or by helping your neighbour dig a compost pit.

Sign up for Karate, Yoga or music classes. Get passionate and immerse yourself. In no time you will be able to get past the person who had been haunting you for ages, and the best part is, you won't even realize it!

Why not sign up for Karate classes? Learning a martial art will help shift your focus from worrying about someone who doesn't care for you to improving yourself as a person.
Why not sign up for Karate classes? Learning a martial art will help shift your focus from worrying about someone who doesn't care for you to improving yourself as a person. | Source

4.Be Social

Talk to people. Make new friends. We were made to live as communities, not as islands! The more people you interact with, the less you will think about the person you are trying desperately to forget.

Make it a point to step out and head to parties and other social gatherings whenever possible. Be cheerful and smile often. Ask others how their day has been. Spread the joy and revel in it!

Socializing and making friends will help you see the sunny side of life and provide you with wonderful relationships that could last an entire lifetime.
Socializing and making friends will help you see the sunny side of life and provide you with wonderful relationships that could last an entire lifetime. | Source

5.Eat on Time

Uh!

Yes. Eat on time. Not eating on time, and skipping meals is known to cause emotional turbulence. In case you have any doubt, that's the last thing you want when you are trying to forget someone.

A full stomach creates a feeling of well-being. That's a great way to boost your morale.

Eating on time will keep you happy and prevent you from getting cranky. It is also a must if you are working out at the gym. Your body needs the nutrition.
Eating on time will keep you happy and prevent you from getting cranky. It is also a must if you are working out at the gym. Your body needs the nutrition. | Source

6.Sleep on Time

Sleeping on time helps to energize. Getting 8 hours of rest every night ensures that you wake up without "that tired feeling". It provides you with a perfect and cheerful start to the day. On the other hand, hardly sleeping at all will make every morning a tiresome and torturous affair. It will ruin the rest of the day too, because you'll be yawning at the most inopportune times! And don't forget, the less you sleep, the more time you'll have to think about someone you'd rather forget!

Make it a point to sleep on time and sleep enough if you want to avoid morphing into a lifeless zombie the next day! There's nothing quite as good for health as a full night's uninterrupted rest.
Make it a point to sleep on time and sleep enough if you want to avoid morphing into a lifeless zombie the next day! There's nothing quite as good for health as a full night's uninterrupted rest. | Source

7.Workout

Exercising is known to release endorphins. Having a regular workout schedule, besides improving your health, will also ensure that you feel a sense of self-satisfaction. Focusing on your well-being will help take your thoughts off unnecessary distractions.

Regular exercise, apart from making you fitter, is also proven to make you happier and more focused. Join a gym and find yourself a workout partner. Push each other to work harder, and in only a matter of days, you will see good progress.
Regular exercise, apart from making you fitter, is also proven to make you happier and more focused. Join a gym and find yourself a workout partner. Push each other to work harder, and in only a matter of days, you will see good progress. | Source

8.Meditate

This probably sounds cliche'd, but the fact is, meditating the right way can really help you develop the right focus.

Here's an easy and effective way to meditate. Sit erect on a chair, or cross-legged on the floor. Breathe slowly and deeply, with a 4 second gap between each inhalation and exhalation. Focus only on your breathe. If your mind wanders, bring your attention back to your breathing. Practice this on a regular basis and you will get better at it.

Make meditation a daily habit and you will find it to be extremely beneficial. Choose the right spot: one that is quiet and free from disturbances. The more you meditate, the better you will get at it.
Make meditation a daily habit and you will find it to be extremely beneficial. Choose the right spot: one that is quiet and free from disturbances. The more you meditate, the better you will get at it. | Source

9.Read Fiction

Haven't heard this before? Well, that's a shame because reading fiction will get your mind travelling to far-off and very interesting places.

Reading fiction will help divert your attention from negative people and make you more creative. For all you know, you might come up with the next invention to revolutionize the world!
Reading fiction will help divert your attention from negative people and make you more creative. For all you know, you might come up with the next invention to revolutionize the world! | Source

10.Travel Often and Widely

Whenever you get the opportunity, make it a point to travel, if only to the next town. Doing so will help you gain precious experience and make you a collector of interesting and uplifting memories.

Travelling will expose you to friendly people and beautiful sights. It will also broaden your perspective and help you realize that the world is much more than what a narrow-minded and nasty person who doesn't care for you thinks it is.
Travelling will expose you to friendly people and beautiful sights. It will also broaden your perspective and help you realize that the world is much more than what a narrow-minded and nasty person who doesn't care for you thinks it is. | Source

To recap... Do these things to help you forget someone

 
 
 
Stay away
Don't react
Engage yourself
Be social
Eat on time
Sleep on time
Workout
Meditate
Read fiction
Travel often and widely
 
 

It's Time for Action!

Nothing is going to happen as long as you sit on your haunches doing nothing. Do something. Work towards the change that you want to see in yourself. Shake off that all too familiar cozy feeling. Pretty soon, your mind will be as sharp as a pinhead, and you will no longer fret over someone who doesn't value you for who you are!

Nothing meaningful or worthwhile ever happens without dedicated effort. As you implement the points in this article, you will notice your life changing for the better. In only a matter of time, the person who haunted  you will be forgotten!
Nothing meaningful or worthwhile ever happens without dedicated effort. As you implement the points in this article, you will notice your life changing for the better. In only a matter of time, the person who haunted you will be forgotten! | Source

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Reach Out and Help Someone

Do you have any suggestions on how to stop thinking about a mean person? Comment below and let others know. Also, be sure to share this article with someone who might benefit from it. Thanks for taking the time to read!

Reach out and help someone who is not able to let go of a painful memory. A simple way you can be helpful is by sharing this article with him/her through a social networking site like Facebook, Twitter or Google Plus.
Reach out and help someone who is not able to let go of a painful memory. A simple way you can be helpful is by sharing this article with him/her through a social networking site like Facebook, Twitter or Google Plus. | Source

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      Rohan Rinaldo Felix 3 years ago from Chennai, India

      Thank you for taking the time to read through. I do believe getting over someone is difficult, but it is required sometimes, and cannot be avoided at those times.

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      Dianna Mendez 3 years ago

      These area good ideas and should help someone to get over a person. I think it takes dedicated effort to follow through as well. Great post overall.

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      Rohan Rinaldo Felix 3 years ago from Chennai, India

      Thank you for stopping by and providing your valuable thoughts :)

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      Nikki Wicked 3 years ago from Louisiana

      very beneficial post here. Could have used this a few years ago lol but all is well now May still try the meditating, these are all good tips not just for forgetting someone but living a healthier, happier life.

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      Rohan Rinaldo Felix 3 years ago from Chennai, India

      I agree! Time certainly helps. The points given in the article speed up the process though ;)

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      Rohan Rinaldo Felix 3 years ago from Chennai, India

      Thanks for stopping by! I wish you deep sleep!

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      Zendora 3 years ago

      Great advice! The photos were fantastic!. I love the sleeping dog! I wish I could sleep as soundly.

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      Cynthia Sageleaf 3 years ago from Western NC

      Nice ideas here. Sometimes it's hard to get that person out of your head. One other thing that works for me? Good ol' time. I just hate having to wait for "time" haha.

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      Rohan Rinaldo Felix 3 years ago from Chennai, India

      You are right... Forgetting is difficult but sometimes required. Thanks for voting and sharing, and especially for reading and commenting!

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      Madeleine Salin 3 years ago from Finland

      So many great tips and uplifting pictures! It isn't always easy to go on with your life and forget people, but it's something you have to do to feel good about yourself again. Sharing and voting up!